[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]Me and my GF talk about starting a family in a few year too. :)

I'm so glad we both feel the same way, I too think my love is the one.[/QUOTE]

Awww that's nice to hear. It's so nice to know someone feels the same way, and knowing you can talk to them about your dreams about the future with them without worrying about them getting scared or anything, which is something ALL my past boyfriends have done. But not this one.

[QUOTE=RedMorningLight]Background:
we are both virgins but (with a risk of sounding arrogant) in solid groups of friends and with good social lives and good confidence.

She has told me she would never cheat so I really want to trust her and do 90% but she has been chatted up by 25yr old guys before and easily looks her age, and although I am mature and look slightly older myself I feel threatened by all the other men that will be on that holiday.[/QUOTE]
I'm in the same boat sort of. I trust my girl 100%, I know she would never cheat on me, but, i'm not worried about her i'm worried about the guys that might force things on her.

Just talk to her and let her know your concerns, be HONEST and hide nothing.

I was quite blunt there, I think another question is, should I expect anything sexual to happen between us before she goes, in a week and a half? I am not a pushy guy at all and pride myself on an abilty to stay cool and focus on relationships with girls rather than sex but I just wondered whether she will be expecting me to push her, or whether she will be looking to show her loyalty?

BTW thanks for your help so far, I guess it's reassurance more.

The best thing to do is to talk to her about it. Be honest, tell her what's on your mind.

About sex? would she be freaked out if I approached the subject in a serious manner so close to her going away? like I expect something...because I'm not really looking to push anything with her, just keep a steady relationship. I just wondered whether it would be likely to solidify us before her holiday?

Don't be too serious about it. Just say to her that you aren't trying to push anything with her, but you just felt like you needed to talk to her about it. If need's be, you could just ask her if she'd feel comfortable talking about it with you.

[QUOTE=Hedgedive]Chaindrive is mother to all.[/QUOTE]

Not to me, man. Respect is there all the same, of course.

[Phil Collins]You're no son, you're no son of mine![/Phil Collins]

[quote=RML]About sex? would she be freaked out if I approached the subject in a serious manner so close to her going away? like I expect something...because [b][u]I'm not really looking to push anything with her, just keep a steady relationship.[/b][/u] I just wondered whether it would be likely to solidify us before her holiday?[/quote]

Well, nobody is going to contest that sex isn't part of the relationship equation, but based on the bolded and underlined, you seem pretty cool with what you have so far. I mean, five weeks is five weeks. If you trust her, then why should you worry? Let it come when it comes. From what you wrote earlier, you both seem stable enough to just have a talk about sex, but maybe it's because I'm more conservative in terms of relationshps, but five weeks seems a bit soon to start going to town, especially if you're that hesitant about her going away.

Baby steps. When she comes back (and presumably is still faithful to you), that's a positive. Just keep taking positive baby steps.

What haze said.....setting up solid communication between you two is soooooooooooo important to a strong relationship.

[QUOTE=Jom]Maybe Chaindrive is secretly her mother and she doesn't approve of your avatar.

Anyway, I had a situation like that with my girlfriend in high school.

Her parents were both military, and even though I was my typical charismatic and polite and respectful self to them, they still insisted that they check up on us watching movies downstairs. I got used to it, and it wasn't a terrible situation at all because I de-emphasized it, and she wouldn't feel so bad about it. She kept apologizing for it, and I was like, 'Don't even worry about it' and it was good times.

Fifteen is still kind of young, but maybe she's just mommy's little girl :)[/QUOTE]

:lol: at the first part.

Yea that's pretty much the situation at hand, but we're going to the movies so it's all good. I just hope that her mom approves of me, I've never gotten on the wrongside with parents, but this could be a different ball park.

[QUOTE=Hedgedive]Chaindrive is mother to all.[/QUOTE]

And I actually giggled at his avatar.

[QUOTE=Blue Haze]Don't be too serious about it. Just say to her that you aren't trying to push anything with her, but you just felt like you needed to talk to her about it. If need's be, you could just ask her if she'd feel comfortable talking about it with you.[/QUOTE]
okay, I could just drop it in when we are having a moment. I guess I should be okay as we dont really avoid the subject, just not directly relating to ourselves. Finally, is 5 weeks a bit early, I always thought I'd be in love (like real love, not 'I love you after a week' love) when I lost my V and I have no idea when she's likely to feel ready? I'm quite a romantic and would easily wait for the time to be right rather than push it but I dont want to leave it too long before we take it to a sexual relationship level.

JOM pretty much answered that so thanks to all :] I think I am happy with my lot and its all going very well, I just needed some positive advice to move on and thats what I've got.

[QUOTE=RedMorningLight]okay, I could just drop it in when we are having a moment. I guess I should be okay as we dont really avoid the subject, just not directly relating to ourselves. Finally, is 5 weeks a bit early, I always thought I'd be in love (like real love, not 'I love you after a week' love) when I lost my V and I have no idea when she's likely to feel ready? I'm quite a romantic and would easily wait for the time to be right rather than push it but I dont want to leave it too long before we take it to a sexual relationship level.[/QUOTE]

Is it a bit early for what? Telling her you love her?

EDIT: Ah ok, just saw your edit. Good luck with everything. :)

[QUOTE=Blue Haze]Is it a bit early for what? Telling her you love her?

EDIT: Ah ok, just saw your edit. Good luck with everything. :)[/QUOTE]
Love isn't a decision, it's a feeling.

Some people just "click" faster than others.

[QUOTE=Blue Haze]Is it a bit early for what? Telling her you love her?

EDIT: Ah ok, just saw your edit. Good luck with everything. :)[/QUOTE]
Early for sex. i'll tell her I love when I feel it. Completely off my topic but am I the only one that feels the word love is being totally overused by many people?

[QUOTE=RedMorningLight]Early for sex. i'll tell her I love when I feel it. Completely off my topic but am I the only one that feels the word love is being totally overused by many people?[/QUOTE]
Yes. Many people just think they have to say it simply because they are with someone, and that is totally misusing it.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]:lol: at the first part.

Yea that's pretty much the situation at hand, but we're going to the movies so it's all good. I just hope that her mom approves of me, I've never gotten on the wrongside with parents, but this could be a different ball park.[/QUOTE]

Ironically, part of the reason (not [i]the[/i] reason) I broke up with my girlfriend in high school was because of her parents. They would let me take her to the movies or have her over at my house, or whatever, but they were very, very strict and by-the-book (they were so hardcore military that they would tell me '[She] needs to be home by twenty-three hundred hours'). And there was no way in Hell I would want to disrespect them by having her show up at 23:00:01 or else I would never hear the end of it. I kept it as least-stressful as possible, but even when I would bring her home, I would seriously be interrogated with no less than ten questions (often asking about my personal self, not just what we did when we hung out and where we went).

After awhile, even though I had earned their trust slowly and surely, it was absolutely ridiculous after awhile. We started to see less and less of each other, and she called me and said, 'This isn't working out very well,' and it's not like I could say 'Sure it is!' I'm all for going through some form of parental initiation, but the military vibe I received with increasingly more emphasis was terrible. I wanted to see her, for sure, but I didn't want to put up with the interrogation. I swear to you, he had an old-school polygraph (a la [i]Meet the Parents[/i], and I was absolutely terrified of being hooked up, even though I had ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO HIDE). It is rather sad because I can practically guarantee that we'd still be together three years later (or at least still talk regularly), so while it ended well, we haven't said two words to each other since. I don't think we're angry at each other (at least I'm not to her - she did a hell of a lot for me the months we were together that I'm never really going to forget), but it is kind of disappointing that it did end the way it did.

I'm certainly not excusing myself for the other reasons we broke up (namely the whole seeing less and less of each other as time went on), but her parents didn't make things any easier for me, even though I was hella sweet with them the whole time in terms of chivalry and all that.

I obviously was extremely vague here, but I'm not real fond of spilling details all the time, as you guys know.

The point of all this is, introduce yourself to her mother if you have to, and be polite. Basically, common sense.

And, tread lightly if she's military :p

it seems to me the "meeting the parents" thing is one of the hardest obstacles to overcome in a relationship, especially for the guy.

i think that parents are fearful of their teenage daughter(s) having sex, more so than they are their son having sex. so that kind of makes it more awkward for the guy to meet the parents of a teenage girl.

[QUOTE=ArrestThisMan]AIM isnt really a good place to have serious talks.[/QUOTE]

at 2 in the morning it was the only option

I have been working 50+ hours each week the last two weeks. This is because 2 people quit and 3 got fired. Sucks alot for me, becuase while they did hire some new people, they cant work fulltime until their probationary period is up.
I have a strained muscle in my shoulder which keeps me from working to my full potential. My left foot has some arch problems, which means I am almost constantly in pain while walking. My right foot is starting to develop pain too. This keeps me from working to my full potential as well. I am on pain medication, which happens to have a side effect that makes me tired almost all day.

Despite me not working my hardest, becuase of all the bull**** that is going on right now, I have been promoted to grocery clerk/ general clerk, and I have been doing that for about 3 weeks now. Means more money for me, right?
well, managers didnt tell me that I had to fill out the maitnance book, saying that I have been working outside my original job class, Utility Clerk. So those three weeks of me working harder, and getting more pay is not in the records, and thus, I wont get paid for it. It probably isnt much, but that extra 50 bucks each week could have helped out.


And I have to go in to work in about 2 hours.


ZOMG!!!!! Since when isnt Jom a mod anymore????

[QUOTE=Jom]Ironically, part of the reason (not [i]the[/i] reason) I broke up with my girlfriend in high school was because of her parents. They would let me take her to the movies or have her over at my house, or whatever, but they were very, very strict and by-the-book (they were so hardcore military that they would tell me '[She] needs to be home by twenty-three hundred hours'). And there was no way in Hell I would want to disrespect them by having her show up at 23:00:01 or else I would never hear the end of it. I kept it as least-stressful as possible, but even when I would bring her home, I would seriously be interrogated with no less than ten questions (often asking about my personal self, not just what we did when we hung out and where we went).

After awhile, even though I had earned their trust slowly and surely, it was absolutely ridiculous after awhile. We started to see less and less of each other, and she called me and said, 'This isn't working out very well,' and it's not like I could say 'Sure it is!' I'm all for going through some form of parental initiation, but the military vibe I received with increasingly more emphasis was terrible. I wanted to see her, for sure, but I didn't want to put up with the interrogation. I swear to you, he had an old-school polygraph (a la [i]Meet the Parents[/i], and I was absolutely terrified of being hooked up, even though I had ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO HIDE). It is rather sad because I can practically guarantee that we'd still be together three years later (or at least still talk regularly), so while it ended well, we haven't said two words to each other since. I don't think we're angry at each other (at least I'm not to her - she did a hell of a lot for me the months we were together that I'm never really going to forget), but it is kind of disappointing that it did end the way it did.

I'm certainly not excusing myself for the other reasons we broke up (namely the whole seeing less and less of each other as time went on), but her parents didn't make things any easier for me, even though I was hella sweet with them the whole time in terms of chivalry and all that.

I obviously was extremely vague here, but I'm not real fond of spilling details all the time, as you guys know.

The point of all this is, introduce yourself to her mother if you have to, and be polite. Basically, common sense.

And, tread lightly if she's military :p[/QUOTE]

Thank the lord her family isn't a military family, haha. I've talked to her mom on the phone, she's a goofy mom, the kind that makes jokes all the time, so she seems cool, she's just been iffy because her last boyfriend had her skip school with him and they both got caught and suspended. Ever since that incident she's been very iffy.

Sup guys,
So I went mountain biking today, and I seriously wanted to crash so I could stop. I hurt that bad.

But onto my relationship problems; the fact I don't have one, the girl Casey right. She went out on another ANOTHER date with that guy, but they're not "in a relationship" so I have no idea. Me and her talked alot more today though, so that's great. Seems that I have 3 days to ask her out when schools starts before summer school is over.
But uh yeah, moutain biking killed my chances of asking her out today. I can't even walk.

But else than that, hearing that kid say he went out again with her sounds fishhy, and I don't think he knows I like. I kind of don't want to tell him. He's weird.

So guess who was completely wrong about the situation and has a second date to to go see potc2

Who?

Are there any decently good movies out in theaters? I am yet to ponder across one.

The Lake House sounds really good, but I'm not sure what it's rated. Winning combo imo with Sandra Bullock and Keanu Reeves (see: Speed).

EDIT: Rated PG.

I heard Superman Returns was good.

And the new Pirates comes out tomorrow.

*EDIT* Ohh, you wanted cheesy make-out movies? Yeah, Lakehouse. Oh, and The Break-Up.

[i]The Lake House[/i] is so, so, soooooooo stupid, not even Keanu and Sandra could save it. If you see it, you'll know why. I mean, tickets are expensive - why pay to make out when you should be able to do it for free? Heh.

They should stick to doing laps greater than 45MPH on a runway in a bus with a bomb in it.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Who?[/QUOTE]
That's gonna be me. :)

(With that cute little barrista that I've had a thing for since march)

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]The Lake House sounds really good, but I'm not sure what it's rated. Winning combo imo with Sandra Bullock and Keanu Reeves (see: Speed).

EDIT: Rated PG.[/QUOTE]

Yeah that was our first date. She liked it, but I thought it was really, really slow. Don't get me wrong..I like slow, but if you want good and slow, go rent Everything is Illuminated instead.

Hell, I like a good chick flick and I adore a good romance but it was just lacked any...hook.

Hey, um, I'm kind of embarassed to ask this, but me and Sara are going to the movies this Sunday, and I know that she wants me to kiss her. The problem is, um...what is the right way to kiss a girl without shocking her or whatever? Like when we're sitting in the theater, what is it I should do to know when it's right to kiss her?

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]Hey, um, I'm kind of embarassed to ask this, but me and Sara are going to the movies this Sunday, and I know that she wants me to kiss her. [B]The problem is, um...what is the right way to kiss a girl without shocking her or whatever?[/B] Like when we're sitting in the theater, what is it I should do to know when it's right to kiss her?[/QUOTE]
Kiss her lips, not like her...kneecap :p

Just messin' with ya man lol.