[QUOTE=RiffMaster]Ok I didnt read all 226 pages of this topic so dont have a go if I dont continue from whetever you guys are talking about, however keeping within the topics name here is my problem.

There is this girl i sit near in most of my classes I really like her and we get on quite well. However I would like to take our friendship up to the next level but I am unsure how. We flirt a lot but I cant be sure that this means she likes me like that as she flirts with many other guys aswell.

Could anybody give advice as to how to get her to like me in the way that I mean or how to know whether or not she likes me.

Thanx

RM[/QUOTE]
Well, you can never get a girl to like you. If she doesnt, she doesnt and theres no much you can do.

Ask her to come out with you and a bunch of friends one night, or by yourself. Get to know her better than just in school. If she says no off the bat, then you'll know she isnt intersted from the get-go. If she says yes, see how it goes.

Dont come on too strong and just take it casual to begin with. If it feels likes something, go with your gut instinct.

Trust yourself to make the right decisions.

[QUOTE=allalone]It just seems like everyone else is doing stuff and I'm being left out. I just think [B]I'm going be like 21 with no experience whatsoever[/B]. I don't know. I guess I'll just wait it out.[/QUOTE]

Ha ha ha...that's me right there. Don't sweat it. I don't. Well OK I do, but it doesn't bother me to the point that it's bothering you.

Besides, Buddhists are supposed to renounce the things of this world, sex included.

[quote=allalone]It just seems like everyone else is doing stuff and I'm being left out. I just think I'm going be like 21 with no experience whatsoever. I don't know. I guess I'll just wait it out.[/quote]

[Broken record]Stop having such a defeatist attitude, man.[/Broken record]

I don't sweat it, either. When the time comes, then so be it. But you can't force these things, or else you're not going to have very good experiences, sexual or otherwise.

@purplefeet thanx that sounds like a good idea I will give it a try.

So the girl I like has a boyfriend, the usual crap. I've posted here about this before. But last Saturday, my friends and I went to the movies and she was there. Her boyfriend was also there with us. During the movie, she sat in between me and her boyfriend but she didn't talk to her boyfriend at all. I just made lame jokes during the crappy parts of the movie and she laughed. After the movie, we walked around the mall. I walked next to her and her boyfriend walked next to his best friend (who is a dude by the way). We talked and laughed a lot. She invited me to see Superman Returns this weekend when we were talking. After the mall, we waited for our rides and she sat next to her boyfriend. Just on Monday, I found out that her boyfriend is going out of the country for a month. What the hell dude? Her boyfriend goes out of the country and she asks me to go the movies with her. I think we're going alone too. Is this weird or am I desperately overlooking this?

[QUOTE=followedformat]So the girl I like has a boyfriend, the usual crap. I've posted here about this before. But last Saturday, my friends and I went to the movies and she was there. Her boyfriend was also there with us. During the movie, she sat in between me and her boyfriend but she didn't talk to her boyfriend at all. I just made lame jokes during the crappy parts of the movie and she laughed. After the movie, we walked around the mall. I walked next to her and her boyfriend walked next to his best friend (who is a dude by the way). We talked and laughed a lot. She invited me to see Superman Returns this weekend when we were talking. After the mall, we waited for our rides and she sat next to her boyfriend. Just on Monday, I found out that her boyfriend is going out of the country for a month. What the hell dude? Her boyfriend goes out of the country and she asks me to go the movies with her. I think we're going alone too. Is this weird or am I desperately overlooking this?[/QUOTE]
Desperately overlooking it.

She probably just wants to see the movie with someone and that someone happens to be you. Just today I got invited to a gig with this girl who has a boyfriend and I have a girlfriend and her boyfriend cant make it because he's working and my girlfriend doesnt like the band but it doesnt mean that the reason she invited me was because she wants hot hot s[SIZE="2"]e[/SIZE]x with me :P

[QUOTE=followedformat]So the girl I like has a boyfriend, the usual crap. I've posted here about this before. But last Saturday, my friends and I went to the movies and she was there. Her boyfriend was also there with us. During the movie, she sat in between me and her boyfriend but she didn't talk to her boyfriend at all. I just made lame jokes during the crappy parts of the movie and she laughed. After the movie, we walked around the mall. I walked next to her and her boyfriend walked next to his best friend (who is a dude by the way). We talked and laughed a lot. She invited me to see Superman Returns this weekend when we were talking. After the mall, we waited for our rides and she sat next to her boyfriend. Just on Monday, I found out that her boyfriend is going out of the country for a month. What the hell dude? Her boyfriend goes out of the country and she asks me to go the movies with her. I think we're going alone too. Is this weird or am I desperately overlooking this?[/QUOTE]
If you're pretty good friends with her anyway- it's probably completely innocent.

The way you CAN find out if it is though is to ask if her boyfriend knows.

just assume she wants to be bent over by you

[QUOTE=Steerpike]If a woman says she's "still on the market" it means that guy did nothing for her. Perhaps she did initiate things. But he was so bad at it that he struck the hell out.

Just stay casual about it. "Hey, I was going to head out to grab a coffee tomorrow. Join me."

Did you ever watch the movie Office Space? The way Peter approached Joanna after his "liberating" hypno-therapy session is a little goofy, but that's the sort of thing women want to see. They want a guy who's bold enough to go straight for it, but when she says, "Maybe," he shrugs and goes ahead with the plan to eat out anyway with or without her, and when she says, "No," he answers with, "Your loss," and goes ahead with his plans without her.

The whole "Next!" idea is extremely liberating. If you learn to embrace that in the dating scene, you will go very far.[/QUOTE]

Aw man, I forgot to mention I only have 4 days to ask her out.
And I don't like coffee. ;)

I think I'll just invite her to see a movie.

[QUOTE=Baz Turd]If you're pretty good friends with her anyway- it's probably completely innocent.

The way you CAN find out if it is though is to ask if her boyfriend knows.[/QUOTE]
She asked me right in front of her boyfriend. Her boyfriend looked at me as if he was going to punch me in the face.

[QUOTE=followedformat]She asked me right in front of her boyfriend. Her boyfriend looked at me as if he was going to punch me in the face.[/QUOTE]
Purely innocent then. Just a matey thing.

Take this into consideration: do not get attached to taken girls. Obviously I'm not saying turn your feelings off, but the amount of people that falls for taken girls is stupid. I have little crushes on loads of girls, but most of them are taken so I just move on and look for someone new. There's always the 'Well if she was single...' but that's all it's gonna be. The sooner you get opver that the better.

That wasn't just aimed at you, it's to anyone in this thread with the same problem- and there are quite a few.

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]just assume she wants to be bent over by you[/QUOTE]

yeah, haha, i agree with this post

[QUOTE=SantaDuJuan]Aw man, I forgot to mention I only have 4 days to ask her out.
And I don't like coffee. ;)

I think I'll just invite her to see a movie.[/QUOTE]

...get something non-coffee then. Don't do a movie on a first date. :\

Anways..I'm bored. It's looking like this point in my life is going to be a terribly dry time for romance..and that sucks because I have so many big ideas for things I want to do with someone. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that sounds desperate I suppose. It's sad that I keep thinking up these awesomely romantic things to do and I have no one to ask out to do them, though.

I suppose the girl I asked out didn't feel it, which is also sad, because we had a terrible lot in common. Dunno why she might go out on a date with me, laugh and have a great time, even goof off with me a couple days later and then completely cold shoulder me. It seems like those situations where you are trying to get with someone and then you find out she has a cute, rich, muscular, spiced-with-a-hint-of-arrogance-though-it's-only-because-he's-nice-to-everyone, intellectual, musical, well-read, well-watched, motorcycle-riding boyfriend.

I suppose I should learn to ride a motorcycle. That might mean I had that list covered. I'd still need the girl, though.

/super-dramatic post

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]...get something non-coffee then. Don't do a movie on a first date. :\

Anways..I'm bored. [B]It's looking like this point in my life is going to be a terribly dry time for romance..and that sucks because I have so many big ideas for things I want to do with someone.[/B] Yeah, yeah, yeah, that sounds desperate I suppose. It's sad that I keep thinking up these awesomely romantic things to do and I have no one to ask out to do them, though.
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Yeah! I feel like that too, and I think I'm going to invite her to a show.
I don't know if she likes Punk Rock or Hip Hop, but I hope so, I so want to date her.

But then I feel like, maybe she's not for me? Like today, we discussed ceral on the bus, and was just having fun. But then on the Hike today, she was talking about how SMART AND SMART AND SMART she was to her friend (I was behind her), she sounded like a total differnt person.

I'm probably thinking to deeply.

But yeah, riding motorcycles is sweet.

[QUOTE=followedformat]So the girl I like has a boyfriend, the usual crap. I've posted here about this before. But last Saturday, my friends and I went to the movies and she was there. Her boyfriend was also there with us. During the movie, she sat in between me and her boyfriend but she didn't talk to her boyfriend at all. I just made lame jokes during the crappy parts of the movie and she laughed. After the movie, we walked around the mall. I walked next to her and her boyfriend walked next to his best friend (who is a dude by the way). We talked and laughed a lot. She invited me to see Superman Returns this weekend when we were talking. After the mall, we waited for our rides and she sat next to her boyfriend. Just on Monday, I found out that her boyfriend is going out of the country for a month. What the hell dude? Her boyfriend goes out of the country and she asks me to go the movies with her. I think we're going alone too. Is this weird or am I desperately overlooking this?[/QUOTE]

I'm kinda late due to all the other words of wisdom being tossed to you, but it sounds like she just wants to go as friends. She thinks your funny apparently, and a nice guy to talk to. It's hard to believe, but girls can have guy friends to keep them company even while they have a boyfriend. I curently really really like this girl who has been taken for 2 years, but we are still very very good and close friends, and she invited me to come over to her house to watch movies this weekend. Girls just like to have company, so don't think too much into it, and don't try to make any moves, especially while she has a boyfriend. Also if they break up, and this is if, don't hang onto the possibilities or you'll just hurt yourself waiting for it to happen, don't just go for it right there, because they could get back together. That's happened to me. Wait it out for a couple of weeks, and if you guys are still friends, which you both should be, then you can ask her out if you still have the same feelings. I'd be happy just knowing that she wants to be your friend and go to the movies with you, especially while she still has a boyfriend. Have fun at the movies though. :)

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]I'm kinda late due to all the other words of wisdom being tossed to you, but it sounds like she just wants to go as friends. She thinks your funny apparently, and a nice guy to talk to. It's hard to believe, but girls can have guy friends to keep them company even while they have a boyfriend. I curently really really like this girl who has been taken for 2 years, but we are still very very good and close friends, and she invited me to come over to her house to watch movies this weekend. Girls just like to have company, so don't think too much into it, and don't try to make any moves, especially while she has a boyfriend. Also if they break up, and this is if, don't hang onto the possibilities or you'll just hurt yourself waiting for it to happen, don't just go for it right there, because they could get back together. That's happened to me. Wait it out for a couple of weeks, and if you guys are still friends, which you both should be, then you can ask her out if you still have the same feelings. I'd be happy just knowing that she wants to be your friend and go to the movies with you, especially while she still has a boyfriend. Have fun at the movies though. :)[/QUOTE]
This is exactly what I was thinking. I just needed some opinions on it. Thank you. I just think that they won't break up. They've been going out for about half a year and I wish there was something I could do about it but all I can do is wait.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]I have AIM, but I seldom use it. It's so annoying.[/QUOTE]
Well, if you get the chance, could you log on to AIM for a couple minutes? I have some questions about some things that I think you could really help me with. I know it sounds bizarre, but it's true, haha.

AIM: Free Misery

So lately me and my girlfriend have had not much to talk about. Our conversations on the phone get very boring and we have like 2-4 not boring talks among the week (10-15 calls a week) Our relationship is getting boring. I love her and im really confused what to do. I was thinking to wait for a bit to see if it gets better and during that time if it doesnt emotionally prepare myself for the break up and what is to happen next. I really love her but something i think the thing that she isnt right for me.

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]It seems like those situations where you are trying to get with someone and then you find out she has a cute, rich, muscular, spiced-with-a-hint-of-arrogance-though-it's-only-because-he's-nice-to-everyone, intellectual, musical, well-read, well-watched, motorcycle-riding boyfriend.

I suppose I should learn to ride a motorcycle. That might mean I had that list covered. I'd still need the girl, though.

/super-dramatic post[/QUOTE]


from the way you put it, that guy sounds like a douche bag

[QUOTE=Towlie]from the way you put it, that guy sounds like a douche bag[/QUOTE]
actually he sounds pretty cool

hat is one of those posters i purposefully click on a thread to see post

/on topic in the[B][U][I] l[/I][/U][/B]&r thread

i'm so popular and everybody wants me

yeh everyone

its so cool

to
be

a star

happy day

so me and kaylee got into a big argument that just ended about 7 minutes ago.

because we're gay little teenagers it occured over AIM because nobody calls anybody this late and we don't see each other. but over a period of an hour and a half we became ticked off at each other. Some harsh words were thrown in, even though i did most of the talking cause she stopped talking to me for about 20 minutes.

It didn't necessarily turn out horrible, but good isn't an adjective to use either. I eventaully told her how i felt about her in a good amount of detail. To which she said she didnt know what to say. But a couple minutes later she still did say that she was mad at the fact that i was like yelling at her. I don't think she's picked up on the good that came from the whole argument. But meh, i'm working most of the day tomorrow so i won't get to talk to her till like 7. Maybe she'll have thought stuff through by then.

blah

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]i'm so popular and everybody wants me[/QUOTE]

it's cool to be unpopular

[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]so me and kaylee got into a big argument that just ended about 7 minutes ago.

because we're gay little teenagers it occured over AIM because nobody calls anybody this late and we don't see each other. but over a period of an hour and a half we became ticked off at each other. Some harsh words were thrown in, even though i did most of the talking cause she stopped talking to me for about 20 minutes.

It didn't necessarily turn out horrible, but good isn't an adjective to use either. I eventaully told her how i felt about her in a good amount of detail. To which she said she didnt know what to say. But a couple minutes later she still did say that she was mad at the fact that i was like yelling at her. I don't think she's picked up on the good that came from the whole argument. But meh, i'm working most of the day tomorrow so i won't get to talk to her till like 7. Maybe she'll have thought stuff through by then.

blah[/QUOTE]

She has the guilts about the closet interlude with Guad, it appears.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]She has the guilts about the closet interlude with Guad, it appears.[/QUOTE]

what

what should you get your girlfriend for her sweet sixteen? I know inside joke presents and everything are good, but is there something shes expecting, because she always just says she doesnt want anything, and you know she obviously expects something..

[QUOTE=Fish]what should you get your girlfriend for her sweet sixteen? I know inside joke presents and everything are good, but is there something shes expecting, because she always just says she doesnt want anything, and you know she obviously expects something..[/QUOTE]

well, be sure to get her something

my ex girlfriend persisted on me not getting her anything for her birthday. I really was going to, but decided not to at the last minute.

we broke up a day later

course i think the two events are unrelated, but still

[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]what[/QUOTE]

Didn't Guad run into a closet and she chased him and they ended up making out?