Woah, did someone just delete tons of posts in here?

ps: If so, hai Jom.

I think things are going to be good with my girlfriend.. Her friend and me talked for a bit and yeah..

There's bad things with your girlfriend Brandon?

/looks back a few pages.

I got a little trigger happy, but Fire Whispers made a good point. You guys really need to cool off with the one-line story-telling and vague questions. If anything, combine all of your questions into one post, or respond in detail. Asking questions like "so hay guys sup" isn't needed or encouraged here.

And please, don't consecutively post. I don't have any qualms about merging posts, but you guys could really help keep this thread tidy by using the edit button.

Thanks for your understanding.

And by the way, this doesn't mean "apologize," because I'm just going to delete that, too. Just cool it is all.

[QUOTE=Pazz]There's bad things with your girlfriend Brandon?

/looks back a few pages.[/QUOTE]
No, this is why I don't post here often.

It's called me being me.

Edit: I agree with Jim, obviously.

This isn't a community thread, a little fun is fine but :-\

[QUOTE=Fire Whispers]No, this is why I don't post here often.

It's called me being me.

Edit: I agree with Jim, obviously.

This isn't a community thread, a little fun is fine but :-\[/QUOTE]

Oh, I was being me last night, and I was thinking bad thoughts. Like breaking up with Meghan, but those thoughts were stupid and all gone now.

[QUOTE=Pazz]Oh, I was being me last night, and I was thinking bad thoughts. Like breaking up with Meghan, but those thoughts were stupid and all gone now.[/QUOTE]
Your thoughts are so different than mine it's not even funny.

I have trust issues.

ps: the second line doesn't have any relation ot the first.

Well Meghan kept saying that this "feels weird", which must be her because it doesn't for me. And I was going all depressed, and now I'm fine.

[QUOTE=Fire Whispers]No, this is why I don't post here often.

It's called me being me.

Edit: I agree with Jim, obviously.

This isn't a community thread, a little fun is fine but :-\[/QUOTE]

It is actually a community here.

And, it's Jom, not Jim.

Post here as often as you like, but don't spam it, damn it.

You're okay. I like what you post.

Jom will take care of the rest. :)

[QUOTE=Pazz]Oh, I was being me last night, and I was thinking bad thoughts. Like breaking up with Meghan, but those thoughts were stupid and all gone now.[/QUOTE]

Any reason as to why you were getting those kinds of thought? Did she do something that upset you?

I think that person I was talking about that was having a hard time moving on has finally come to his senses with reality. He is kinda depressed at the moment but it'll pass.

EDIT: Ugh i always get beat to the questions... stupid dial up...

[QUOTE=pohl_56]Any reason as to why you were getting those kinds of thought? Did she do something that upset you?

I think that person I was talking about that was having a hard time moving on has finally come to his senses with reality. He is kinda depressed at the moment but it'll pass.[/QUOTE]

If you read the later post, you will see why.:)

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]It is actually a community here.

And, it's Jom, not Jim.

Post here as often as you like, but don't spam it, damn it.

You're okay. I like what you post.

Jom will take care of the rest. :)[/QUOTE]
Jom's name is Jim.

I know it's a community, I lurk here all the time. And I've read everything posted over the past 6 months or so. Just pages of random spamming are dumb and not fun to sift through.

I generally only post when I have some input, which isn't that often.

[QUOTE=Pazz]Well Meghan kept saying that this "feels weird", which must be her because it doesn't for me. And I was going all depressed, and now I'm fine.[/QUOTE]
Does SHE still feel weird though? That's what you need to be asking.

Well, I'm not usually one to double post, but this thread hasn't been up all day, so I will.
Well, I think me and Sarah are about to break up. I'm not exactly sure why, something about our "one month" (since we had broken up once already, we started over). She has a myspace, and she used to have a picture of me playing the guitar on it, and underneath it it said "My baby jamming to his music." Well, that's not on the site anymore. And, she used to have me as number 1 on her top 8 list, but now I'm not on the list at all. Now, I'm not really a myspace person, I just got one because she hassled me into it, but she is, and that picture being gone and me being moved off the list probably means something.

[QUOTE=Tillius]Well, I'm not usually one to double post, but this thread hasn't been up all day, so I will.
Well, I think me and Sarah are about to break up. I'm not exactly sure why, something about our "one month" (since we had broken up once already, we started over). She has a myspace, and she used to have a picture of me playing the guitar on it, and underneath it it said "My baby jamming to his music." Well, that's not on the site anymore. And, she used to have me as number 1 on her top 8 list, but now I'm not on the list at all. Now, I'm not really a myspace person, I just got one because she hassled me into it, but she is, and that picture being gone and me being moved off the list probably means something.[/QUOTE]
Well... just a couple of things then.

I'm not too familiar with myspace either but to be honest I think there's less to this swapping of pictures and lists than you think; maybe she just wanted somebody else there. Doesn't necessarily mean she likes you any more or less, but that she just had a bit of a change of heart.

And the other thing is you never actually said how that made you feel; just how you interpreted it. In other words, how does the idea that you might break up make you feel? If it makes you feel really bad then it might be worth speaking to her about it, but I think if you bring up this thing about Myspace with her she'll think you're just being saft.

Then again I don't pretend to know how Sarah might respond to such a question. She might be making as big a deal out of this as you seem to be, in which case it does mean something and it would be worth discussing the future of your relationship, but honestly I don't think this is as big a deal as you think it is.

So if I were you... I wouldn't mention it. Just take things as they come, and see what happens. If you honestly think there's something wrong, then I'd keep this myspace thing in mind and watch her behaviour towards you over the next few days, but don't think that there's anything drastically wrong just yet.

I hope that makes sense. Let us know how it goes, chap.

[QUOTE=mmfan486]Well... just a couple of things then.

I'm not too familiar with myspace either but to be honest I think there's less to this swapping of pictures and lists than you think; maybe she just wanted somebody else there. Doesn't necessarily mean she likes you any more or less, but that she just had a bit of a change of heart.

And the other thing is you never actually said how that made you feel; just how you interpreted it. In other words, how does the idea that you might break up make you feel? If it makes you feel really bad then it might be worth speaking to her about it, but I think if you bring up this thing about Myspace with her she'll think you're just being saft.

Then again I don't pretend to know how Sarah might respond to such a question. She might be making as big a deal out of this as you seem to be, in which case it does mean something and it would be worth discussing the future of your relationship, but honestly I don't think this is as big a deal as you think it is.

So if I were you... I wouldn't mention it. Just take things as they come, and see what happens. If you honestly think there's something wrong, then I'd keep this myspace thing in mind and watch her behaviour towards you over the next few days, but don't think that there's anything drastically wrong just yet.

I hope that makes sense. Let us know how it goes, chap.[/QUOTE]
Yes, it did make sense, and thank you very much.
However, you REALLY don't know how seriously she takes Myspace. Like, she got pissed one day because her bestfriend put her as number 2 on the top 8. She takes it VERY seriously, which gets on my nerves a lot, but, I deal with it because everybody has something annoying about them, and that's the only annoying thing about her.

And, in all honesty, I don't know how the thought of us breaking up makes me feel. There's three different girls that like me right now, and I could see myself with either one of them, so, basically, I'm confused. I really don't know.

[QUOTE=Tillius]Yes, it did make sense, and thank you very much.
However, you REALLY don't know how seriously she takes Myspace. Like, she got pissed one day because her bestfriend put her as number 2 on the top 8. She takes it VERY seriously, which gets on my nerves a lot, but, I deal with it because everybody has something annoying about them, and that's the only annoying thing about her.

And, in all honesty, I don't know how the thought of us breaking up makes me feel. There's three different girls that like me right now, and I could see myself with either one of them, so, basically, I'm confused. I really don't know.[/QUOTE]
Well it's good to see you're capable of dealing with people's little quirks and annoying traits, it's a very mature attitude.

As for your confusion, all I can suggest is that by this time next week things may well be a lot clearer. You may know by then if you want to stay with Sarah or not. You'll know what effect this Myspace business has on your relationship. You'll know if you'd prefer to be with one of these other girls that like you rather than Sarah... you just need some time to think things through. If it helps, write it all out on a bit of paper. It won't make the problems go away but it will make it easier to put them into perspective if you don't have to keep them in your head all the time.

Best of luck with dealing with this; this may not be as drastically huge as some of the problems I've answered on this thread but it's no less important. Little things like this can count for loads in the right context. So good luck man.

Thanks. And I agree, it's not really as huge as some of the problems I've answered on this thread either, but a problem nonetheless.

EDIT:I'm talking to her right now. She IS pissed. I'm not sure about the whole breaking up thing, but she's mad.

Holy ****... OK man you just need to keep calm and not lose your cool. As long as you keep calm, people will keep listening to you. Don't do or say anything you'll regret this time tomorrow.

Like I always say in here, I give out so much advice in this thread, but can't handle my own problems.

Why do girls gotta be so god damn sensitive and bitchy about one months and all that? I didn't call her for our ONE MONTH. BIG DAMN DEAL. And, I see girls act like that all the time.
I mean, a year I can understand, even six months, but one damn month.............

[QUOTE=Tillius]Like I always say in here, I give out so much advice in this thread, but can't handle my own problems.

Why do girls gotta be so god damn sensitive and bitchy about one months and all that? I didn't call her for our ONE MONTH. BIG DAMN DEAL. And, I see girls act like that all the time.
I mean, a year I can understand, even six months, but one damn month.............[/QUOTE]


Its good to see people being sensitive and whiny about their partners being sensitive and bitchy.

If youre aware of the absurdity of the situation, then grow up and pay it no heed.

[QUOTE=mmfan486]Well it's good to see you're capable of dealing with people's little quirks and annoying traits, it's a very mature attitude.
[/QUOTE]

lol

mySpace and one-month anniversaries are over-rated. I once thought that my mySpace account was a joke, but then I saw my younger brother's.

Age: 100 years old
Status: Swinger
Income: $250,000 and Higher

He's thirteen, by the way.

And honestly, your girl takes that stuff way too seriously.

Ninja edit:

[quote=Tiger]
If youre aware of the absurdity of the situation, then grow up and pay it no heed.[/quote]

Uno dos tres, really. Absurd is a great way of describing your girl's behavior at this juncture. I think you're handling it alright, your girl just needs to own up.

[QUOTE=Jom]mySpace and one-month anniversaries are over-rated. I once thought that my mySpace account was a joke, but then I saw my younger brother's.

Age: 100 years old
Status: Swinger
Income: $250,000 and Higher

He's thirteen, by the way.

And honestly, your girl takes that stuff way too seriously.

Ninja edit:



Uno dos tres, really. Absurd is a great way of describing your girl's behavior at this juncture.[/QUOTE]
Trust me, I know.

[QUOTE=Tillius]Like I always say in here, I give out so much advice in this thread, but can't handle my own problems.[/QUOTE]
Hey, don't worry about that man. I think the whole point of this thread is for people to give advice about a situation that they may or may not have been in but are not necessarily in at the moment. That way, as long as whoever they're responding to has given enough detail, you can pretty much see the big picture and give the most objective advice you can. And we do the same for you. So don't worry about not being able to sort your own stuff out; that's what we're here for.

[QUOTE=Tillius]Like I always say in here, I give out so much advice in this thread, but can't handle my own problems.[/QUOTE]

I kind of just saw this now.

You're not the only one in that boat, heh. I join you, at least.

This is getting on my nerves.

[QUOTE=Tillius]This is getting on my nerves.[/QUOTE]


What, her being a immature child that you find attractive?

Have you guys ever heard a phrase along the lines of 'If thats the kind of person they are, then they are not the kind of person I want to be with?'

Its your fault for dating her with this factory defect, get rid of it.

What is she using to base her argument around, anyway?

YOU DIDN'T CALL ME ON OUR 30-DAY ANNIVERSARY SO I'M GOING TO REMOVE YOU FROM MY mySPACE PAGE YOU BAD, BAD BOYFRIEND!

/spanks

Okay, I mean, seriously... you can try to be as straightforward or as patient as possible, but she's obviously not going to give up the argument. She sounds like she's bitching for the sake of bitching.

If she has any other explanation as to why she's acting this way, I'm sure you'd like to see it. But since she has no reason other than "u didnt call me on our a-day u selfish boy," you shouldn't let it unnerve you.

[QUOTE=Jom]What is she using to base her argument around, anyway?

YOU DIDN'T CALL ME ON OUR 30-DAY ANNIVERSARY SO I'M GOING TO REMOVE YOU FROM MY mySPACE PAGE YOU BAD, BAD BOYFRIEND!

/spanks

Okay, I mean, seriously... you can try to be as straightforward or as patient as possible, but she's obviously not going to give up the argument. She sounds like she's bitching for the sake of bitching.

If she has any other explanation as to why she's acting this way, I'm sure you'd like to see it. But since she has no reason other than "u didnt call me on our a-day u selfish boy," you shouldn't let it unnerve you.[/QUOTE]
It's not THAT that's unnerving me, it's her pointless bitching.
I'm about to take Tiger's advice for once and "get rid of it".

[QUOTE=Tillius]It's not THAT that's unnerving me, it's her pointless bitching.[/quote]

Heh, I guess you missed my pseudo-bitching IN ALL CAPS.

[quote]I'm about to take Tiger's advice for once and "get rid of it".[/QUOTE]

Good luck. Celebrating every month will take away from the six-month, one-year, etc., I'd think.

Hey lads,

So i was out drinking whiskey (Vat 69 - Like in band of brothers) cannot get Sierra out of my head i swear.
There was this class band and all im thinking is that Sierra would love to see these guys play or whatever.

Im going to see her Monday.

i really cant wait.


Whats going on in ye'r love lives then?
Anything hopeful gonna happen?

[QUOTE=Tillius]...[/QUOTE]
next'd


seriously break up with her.

experiment something for me.

call her say something along the lines of:

"i have incredible feelings for you and love the time we spend with eachother. but things just won't work out, we can't be together anymore. goodbye"


then hang up immediatley and don't pick up when she calls back.


you have to actually mean "its over" when you say it. and act like you mean it.

than slowly you can let her "win you back" i guess if you want

but yeah i want to know what that wil result in before i use it thanks

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]next'd


seriously break up with her.

experiment something for me.

call her say something along the lines of:

"i have incredible feelings for you and love the time we spend with eachother. but things just won't work out, we can't be together anymore. goodbye"


then hang up immediatley and don't pick up when she calls back.


you have to actually mean "its over" when you say it. and act like you mean it.

than slowly you can let her "win you back" i guess if you want

but yeah i want to know what that wil result in before i use it thanks[/QUOTE]
But the fact is, I really don't want it to be over.

Kinda...pathetic really.

Nah, not pathetic. It's not a fun situation, and nobody wants to work hard to make things... well, work. I hate being at crossroads with friends and acquaintances - it's a terrible feeling and can really ruin your mood for however long conflict lasts.

It's really hard to accept things when it comes to dying friendships/acquaintanceships/relationships. You don't want to accept it, but you know it'll be better for you as soon as you move on.

However, it's not worth worrying about if she's going to freak out about you not calling her for your one-month anniversary or something. That's just stupid on her part, really.

So, you can decide to leave and know that she's just acting like a tard, or you can wait it out and see what she does, but you certainly don't need to apologize for it, as you've done nothing wrong.

[QUOTE=Jom]Nah, not pathetic. It's not a fun situation, and nobody wants to work hard to make things... well, work. I hate being at crossroads with friends and acquaintances - it's a terrible feeling and can really ruin your mood for however long conflict lasts.

It's really hard to accept things when it comes to dying friendships/acquaintanceships/relationships. You don't want to accept it, but you know it'll be better for you as soon as you move on.

However, it's not worth worrying about if she's going to freak out about you not calling her for your one-month anniversary or something. That's just stupid on her part, really.

So, you can decide to leave and know that she's just acting like a tard, or you can wait it out and see what she does, but you certainly don't need to apologize for it, as you've done nothing wrong.[/QUOTE]
I love you man.

That actually makes me feel quite a bit better.

oh you didn't call on an anniversary?


i didn't know that was the problem


have you caused her to have certain expectations like that? it might not be total unreasonable for her to be upset over that, but yeah anything else most likely isn't genuine. like all the myspace stuff is probably more about testing you and manipulation stuff. i'm gonna go with break up.
[QUOTE=Tillius]But the fact is, I really don't want it to be over.

Kinda...pathetic really.[/QUOTE]
i don't think it will actually be over. as long as you're on good terms when you do it. like i basically did the same thing a year ago before i was conscious of what i was doing and it resulted in her crying and becoming obsessed. so she wouldn't be doing all that lame stuff for a while if i decided she was worth it again. but she wasn't. so yeah

It's one of those things that makes life not-so-much-fun as you get older. I dare not to claim that I am old enough to say that it's something you experience as you get older, but I'm sure Kimmie could vouch for this if you don't believe me, heh.

Anyways, it's something I've battled/struggled/fought/lost sleep over. I really wasn't good at handling dying friendships and the like, but I've gotten better at dealing with it as I've gotten older. However, I'll admit that I still struggle with it today, regrettably, but I've also felt like I've done everything I could to make things right: first to make reconciliation, listen to the other side, try to compromise, and all that - but some people are just unreceptive, or selfish, or unwilling because they're so self-centered or don't want to admit that they're wrong. When it comes to that, you can't worry about that any longer, especially when you know you've done the best you can to make things right.

But again, this is assuming you guys split. I have a feeling you guys will work something out - not calling is a really, really, really bonehead means of breaking up with someone on their one month anniversary. One year anniversary? Understood. But one month? [Butt-head]Watch out for those Cling-ons near Uranus.[/Butt-head]

[QUOTE=Jom]It's one of those things that makes life not-so-much-fun as you get older. I dare not to claim that I am old enough to say that it's something you experience as you get older, but I'm sure Kimmie could vouch for this if you don't believe me, heh.

Anyways, it's something I've battled/struggled/fought/lost sleep over. I really wasn't good at handling dying friendships and the like, but I've gotten better at dealing with it as I've gotten older. However, I'll admit that I still struggle with it today, regrettably, but I've also felt like I've done everything I could to make things right: first to make reconciliation, listen to the other side, try to compromise, and all that - but some people are just unreceptive, or selfish, or unwilling because they're so self-centered or don't want to admit that they're wrong. When it comes to that, you can't worry about that any longer, especially when you know you've done the best you can to make things right.

But again, this is assuming you guys split. I have a feeling you guys will work something out - not calling is a really, really, really bonehead means of breaking up with someone on their one month anniversary. One year anniversary? Understood. But one month? [Butt-head]Watch out for those Cling-ons near Uranus.[/Butt-head][/QUOTE]
That's what I said. I could understand getting mad over a year, or even six months, but it's ONE GOD DAMN MONTH. It's almost as bad as some girls I've seen who get pissed at their boyfriends for not remembering the "anniversary" of their first kiss, or some shi[size=2]t[/size] like that.

In all seriousness though, you need to cut this **** out right now. Put your foot down now, because if you let her keep being a drama queen over miniscule little ****, she will never stop and it will escalate. If it takes ending it, do it now before you get any more wrapped around her spoiled little finger.


Is this the girl I thought looked like a man? Or was that Wizard's girl? I get you and him confused a lot, how can two dicks be pussies and all.

Heh, it reminds me of Kevin James's [i]Don't Sweat the Small Stuff[/i] stand-up sketch.

[pretending to be his girlfriend]: "Do you know what today is?"

[normal, with blank stare]: "Uhhh. I'm gonna guess Tuesday, but I have a feeling I'm wrong, right?"

[pretending to be his girlfriend, scoffing]: "Ugh! Two weeks ago today was the first time you kissed me at a Jiffy-Lube."

I have a relationship problem. It has to do with my Ramen.

I was making it and took the seasoning packet out of the package, shook it to get it to the bottom, and promptly threw it behind the stove.