I think the word is thrown around way too much by kids these days (except for a few; you know who you are). I can't remember the actual "love" feeling being any different at that age as it is now; the difference is that now if it doesn't work out, I know it won't be the end of the world.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I think the word is thrown around way too much by kids these days (except for a few; you know who you are). I can't remember the actual "love" feeling being any different at that age as it is now; the difference is that now if it doesn't work out, I know it won't be the end of the world.[/QUOTE]
Am I one of those few?

/is back

It would appear so, yes. You don't take it lightly.

Well I dont take it as the end of the world, it feels like it, but thats only human nature? I told a girl I loved her cause I honestly felt it, she told me she loved me too but I dont think it was used in the same sense... and it still escapes me to this day (you know the story).

Um....what?

[QUOTE=AtomShip]Would you consider teenage love the same as adult love? (btw none of this post is my personal opinion, just throwing the question out). Lots of people say "oh its just puppywuuuvv" and that teenagers dont really know what it is and just throw the word around.[/QUOTE]

There's no difference between teenage love and adult love.

What people need to understand is the difference between love and [i]infatuation[/i].

[QUOTE=Jom]There's no difference between teenage love and adult love.

What people need to understand is the difference between love and [i]infatuation[/i].[/QUOTE]
QFT.

I truly believe that I am in love right now. Yes, I know the difference between the two.

Hey everyone, this isn't necessarily a problem, but I'd like your opinions and ideas on what I can do.

Ok so here is the situation. Whenever I take my girl out to get food or I buy her something, she always makes an effort to leave some amount of money in my car because she doesn't like me buying stuff for her (but I like to). Anyway, I want some ideas on how I can give the money back to her because I can't just be like "keep your money" she just wont accept it back and laugh.

I was thinking along the lines of saving up the money she leaves behind and then in a few months just send her a handwritten letter saying something like "I think you left this in my car" with the money in it.

Any clever or witty ideas?:thumb:

Some girls get uneasy when guys pay attention to them in the manner that you are (picking up her tab, buying her something, etc.), so it's possible that she's trying to un-creepify the situation she has in her mind by trying to pay you back.

I know that it's an old-school mentality for a dude, but it is true that girls get kind of loopy when it's done consistently for them. [Long story.]

Anyways, some of the things you could do is have her pay for you for something sometime (like, say you go to the show, you buy her tickets, she pays for refreshments). If you want to do the letter thing, that's your own accord, but I would suggest you hold off on buying her things all the time, and only use it for special instances.

Don't.
Just let it go. If you push it too far you may come off as an asshole. I can't really say for your realtionship, but personally I think that paying for everything can come off as a control thing.

At least she isn't one of those girls that goes out with you just because you like to buy things for her.

Well use that money she leaves you to buy her stuff :thumb:

Oh dont get me wrong, every once and a while I'll let her pay. It's just like 2/3 of the time she'll leave money in my car for me to find. And its just, I was brought up my whole life to be a polite person.

So its pretty much like "So long.:wave:"

*walks back to car. Finds money in cup holder*

0_o :confused:

Awww she loves you dude.

:)

Maybe that's a way of showing it.

I just let my girlfriend pay for one thing and I pay for the other when we go out.

It works out pretty well.

I wish I had a girl to pay for :(

Find one on MX ;)

[QUOTE=AtomShip]I wish I had a girl to pay for :([/QUOTE]

Through all of the years and girls I've dated, the most important thing I learned was dont be afraid to put yourself out there. If you like someone, just go for it, if denied, then you will get over it quickly. Yeah, big deal, you were denied. There are so many chances to meet people its not even funny. You just have to accept it and move on. The only time it REALLY hurts a long time really is if:

-You have been trying to get with a girl for months and even years and you finally go for it and you're denied. The biggest reason it hurts a lot is because you got attached. Whenever I find a girl that I like that is available, I tried to ask her out as soon as I possibly could. I learned from this the hard way, and I was depressed for a good 6 months. Then I woke up one morning and said, "This is bullsh[color=white]it[/color]. I'm moving on."

And if you end up getting broken up with somebody you "loved", it MAY seem like the end of the world, and that he/she was "the only one" but guess what? Its not. It may take months, but you will eventually get over it, just don't dwell on the past, but learn from it.

This is for the guys(and possibly girls) that are afraid to approach girls.:thumb:

I had to learn all that stuff the hard way too, I'm afraid.

Yeah I'm going through that attachment thing right now. I haven't asked her out but she started seeing this other kid, though they're not officially a couple. I just can't understand why she doesn't like me. We can talk for hours about nothing, and I still feel like I should tell her how I feel. I have no idea what to do I need some help.

[QUOTE=dr._feelgood]Yeah I'm going through that attachment thing right now. I haven't asked her out but she started seeing this other kid, though they're not officially a couple. I just can't understand why she doesn't like me. We can talk for hours about nothing, and I still feel like I should tell her how I feel. I have no idea what to do I need some help.[/QUOTE]

Get it out there or you're going to feel even worse when they ARE official. If she doesn't like you that way then you can start the cycle of moving on.

You may not want to do this, but you will feel better in the long run about it, because the more you become attached to her, the worse you are going to feel when you end up hearing what you dont want to hear.

EDIT: basically what Lionheart said.

The longer you wait, the lesser chance you have to actually tell her how you feel, and she'll wind up hooking up with this dude, and what will you have to show for it?

The hardest thing will be just talking to her, obviously, but once you do that, you just have to put up with awkwardness or non-awkwardness.

But, if you just sit there and don't do anything, you're not helping yourself.

[QUOTE=dr._feelgood]I just can't understand why she doesn't like me.[/QUOTE]

Common male issue.

By the sound of it, the reason is that you always acted like a friend, not like a potential boyfriend. Women take that to mean one of two things. Either you're not interested in her, or more likely you don't possess the self-confidence to be an alpha male.

[QUOTE=Steerpike] Either you're not interested in her, or more likely you don't possess the self-confidence to be an alpha male.[/QUOTE]

that's basically it in a nutshell.


also, :confused: , again.

my boyfriend and his friend come over my house to go swimming. they invite the friend's girlfriend and my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend. i follow up and invite two of my friends. i then find out that a bonfire-party i'd been planning on going to was tonight (not tomorrow as i had originally thought.) So, my boyfriend sees that i want to go to the bonfire and immediately steps in and asks me where i want to go. before i can respond, he knows by my look and was like "here. i'll call them and tell them not to come." he calls his ex-girlfriend and is like "yeah, cathy's leaving at 11oo, but we can hang out afterwards" or something along those lines.

the **** am i supposed to do? i stand there and it slides right by, just like the other times that i've mentioned on here before. (she also called him yesterday while we were hanging out.) obviously he sees nothing wrong with it, but it really tweaks me out to think that oh i'll go to the bonfire... and he'll just head over to hang out with his ex-girlfriend. i'm not being neurotic, it's justified... but i still don't want to approach him about it. honestly, he's going away to philly until august as of this sunday so i shouldn't be upset.

:rolleyes: unnecessary post, but i felt like sharing to make myself feel better or something.

So he was gonna let you go to the bonfire by yourself???

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]So he was gonna let you go to the bonfire by yourself???[/QUOTE]

yes, he's not friends with any of the people that would be there. i wouldn't expect him to go. (we've hung out all week, so it's not as though he hasn't seen me)

it's just the part where he tells her on the phone that they can hang out while i'm at the bonfire that gets me. i guess i feel threatened.

I don't blame you one bit. She needs to go away.

And, so he's not friends with any of the people there...he can't make new friends with them?

People compromise. He should be going just because you want to. Does he hate all the people that would be there?

Hey! I just broke down.

I've been an emotional wreck lately. I guess it's rejection combined with my ex moving in with her boyfriend/bestfriend combined with all of the aforemented insecurity and lack of sense of self worth and what not.

And yeah..I know all of it goes away with time. I don't really think talking about it is going to help anymore than it has in the past six months, though. :\

Man, I'm sorry to hear that. Sometimes you gotta just let loose though.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Man, I'm sorry to hear that. Sometimes you gotta just let loose though.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I feel a little better now.

I mean, I'm sure you (if not most people in here) know exactly how I feel. I feel like I lost such a huge part of my life.

eh first loves can't live with them can't live without them