[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]Tell her to talk to her friends or try it out alone (tub faucets work wonders). It sounds like you're just spinning your wheels.[/QUOTE]

This sounds like a good idea. If you can talk to her and maybe persuade her to try masturbating then she might feel more comfortable with you.

But like the other dude said.... what a weird problem.

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]But like [B]the other dude[/B] said.... what a weird problem.[/QUOTE]

That hurts. :upset:

[QUOTE=Chrysostom]That hurts. :upset:[/QUOTE]
:-* I can't be maiking our special friendship too obvious.

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]:-* I can't be maiking our special friendship too obvious.[/QUOTE]

Ah.

/taps nose

:-*

Okay, I'm confused about the girl who doesn't want to orgasm.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Okay, I'm confused about the girl who doesn't want to orgasm.[/QUOTE]
Well that's basically hurt. Except I'm confused as to whether she thinks it's going to hurt or she's scared to squirt.

rhyming ITP

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]Well that's basically hurt. Except I'm confused as to whether she thinks it's going to hurt or she's scared to squirt.

rhyming ITP[/QUOTE]

Sounds more like the squirt than the hurt. Which is rather silly. I get the impression they're both young uns, because no-one my age would be naive enough to think an orgasm could hurt, nor indeed ridiculous enough to care about a squirt.

so guys tell me stuff about the pill

[QUOTE=funluvinhobo]so guys tell me stuff about the pill[/QUOTE]
Well it's a contraceptive and a blessing to us girls. The one I know about means that girl can take it for up two months, then has to come off for her period. May cause side effects like tiredness, weight gain etc but I've never seen extreme cases. Obviously it prevents pregnancy, and even if the girl has forgotten to take it for one day, it should not pose a threat. And of course it doesn't protect against STDs.

If an orgasm hurts then there's something very wrong, physically.

What do you want to know about the pill, Flobo?

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]Well it's a contraceptive and a blessing to us girls. The one I know about means that girl can take it for up two months, then has to come off for her period. May cause side effects like tiredness, weight gain etc but I've never seen extreme cases. Obviously it prevents pregnancy, and even if the girl has forgotten to take it for one day, it should not pose a threat. And of course it doesn't protect against STDs.[/QUOTE]

thank you


kimmie i just wana know about how it works, reliability, how often its taken, cost and most importantly the bad side effects it has on a gal.

Usually it's like 21 pills (Emily or anyone else here of the female persuasion - correct me if I'm wrong...it's been awhile). The girl takes 21 pills and then stops (or takes a pill that's NOT b/c) for 7 days so she can have her period.

It's something on the order of 99.9% reliable, if taken properly, but like Emily said, it's not meant to protect against STDs.

The side effects that I had when I took it were: I felt slightly nauseous all the time, but that was normal then because your body thinks it's pregnant. I noticed my hair under my belly button and on my legs got darker (my body hair is blonde). I didn't gain any weight but I was stick-thin, and it was hard to gain weight.

The cost wasn't that expensive.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]If an orgasm hurts then there's something very wrong, physically.[/QUOTE]

There's no such condition.

ew that hair thing isnt nice, but that dosent matter. but like is there any long term effects that are actually damaging to the girl?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Usually it's like 21 pills (Emily or anyone else here of the female persuasion - correct me if I'm wrong...it's been awhile). The girl takes 21 pills and then stops (or takes a pill that's NOT b/c) for 7 days so she can have her period.

It's something on the order of 99.9% reliable, if taken properly, but like Emily said, it's not meant to protect against STDs.

The side effects that I had when I took it were: I felt slightly nauseous all the time, but that was normal then because your body thinks it's pregnant. I noticed my hair under my belly button and on my legs got darker (my body hair is blonde). I didn't gain any weight but I was stick-thin, and it was hard to gain weight.

The cost wasn't that expensive.[/QUOTE]

My ex definitely didn't grow any new hair that she wasn't already shaving. She did gain a little weight, but she didn't go obese or anything. She did always always feel nauseous especially if we had had sex the night before or what not. But... considering we only got about 4 hours of sleep when we stayed together it was probably that combined with the pills.

[QUOTE=Chrysostom]There's no such condition.[/QUOTE]

Yes, there can be. Orgasms can be felt in a girl's ovaries. When a girl has pollups (cysts) on her ovaries it will hurt.

I still say just bring it home for the win regardless of what she says. She might be scared at first, but once all that energy is released she'll feel a lot better.

Unless, like Kimmie is saying, she has cysts or something, in which case she'll cry a lot and cut your pe[size=2]nis[/size] off or whatever it is women are doing nowadays.

We don't bother with the knife Jared.

Teeth ftw.

[QUOTE][her] i think i need a boyfriend
[me] nah, they're useless. =]
[her] and still...
[her] i want one
[me] it shouldn't be very hard for you. i'm sure nearly any guy would snatch you up in a second, given the opportunity. =x
[her] nah
[me] why not?
[her] i dont know
[her] i dont want just any guy....i want a good guy[/QUOTE]
Was this girl hinting at something, just judging off this one IM snippet? She gives me mixed signals all the time.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]Was this girl hinting at something, just judging off this one IM snippet? She gives me mixed signals all the time.[/QUOTE]

ask if she wants to grab dinner and a movie

edit: haha yes I know I wish it was as easy as it sounds, especially after you've known a girl a while

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]WHAT????[/QUOTE]

That's what I said. It's all my fault. It has to be. I have no idea why though, but she was found in her bathroom covered in blood, knife in hand. It's making me sick...she's not the type...

Her funeral is next weekend. I don't know what is the right thing to do. I love her still, but now I know I will never be with her...

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]ask if she wants to grab dinner and a movie

edit: haha yes I know I wish it was as easy as it sounds, especially after you've known a girl a while[/QUOTE]
I have no problem asking her out, I just didn't know if this was her giving me an opening or just a normal convo.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I have no problem asking her out, I just didn't know if this was her giving me an opening or just a normal convo.[/QUOTE]

*shrug* How many girls will turn down an actual date with a decent guy?

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]*shrug* How many girls will turn down an actual date with a decent guy?[/QUOTE]
I normally like to meet girls before I ask them on a date. I haven't met this girl, ever. Every time I've asked to "hang out", she's avoided the question. Then she'll chat away like we're bets of pals. Like I said, mixed signals.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I normally like to meet girls before I ask them on a date. I haven't met this girl, ever. Every time I've asked to "hang out", she's avoided the question. Then she'll chat away like we're bets of pals. Like I said, mixed signals.[/QUOTE]

Oh. Well that's completely different. Play it cool till you meet her. :)

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I normally like to meet girls before I ask them on a date. I haven't met this girl, ever. Every time I've asked to "hang out", she's avoided the question. Then she'll chat away like we're bets of pals. Like I said, mixed signals.[/QUOTE]
you're for her ego and validation


judging by this and the convo you posted anyway

[QUOTE=Strongbad]That's what I said. It's all my fault. It has to be.[/quote]

No, she was just not stable enough to see through a temporary problem. She succumbed to suicide in a moment of weakness instead of sticking it out like a healthy, stable individual.

That's not your fault, and don't even try to project it onto yourself if you have a brain in your skull.

Do you think it'd be wrong to love another person again? I mean, I've basically poured all my feelings for her onto her.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Do you think it'd be wrong to love another person again? I mean, I've basically poured all my feelings for her onto her.[/QUOTE]

Is it wrong? I don't think so, no.

If you're a religious type, one of the Commandments is, 'Thou shalt not commit adultery.' And I'm sure the Bible is anti-necrophilia, hm?

Sorry, sorry. Bad taste.

My answer is nevertheless "I don't think so, no." You can make new memories and love again, while still remembering the impact Elyse had on your life.

I mean, people divorce and re-marry and turn into a 'happily ever after' thing because the first guy/girl wasn't the right one, and it took 'em another try or two to figure it all out.

I'm just saying, yeah, pretty tough situation, but you will recover and love again. And I'm not saying that you should just eliminate all traces of Elyse from your memory, but it would not be very healthy for you to continue to dwell on something that was out of your control. Because it was - and that's not your fault, because you aren't a control freak who dictated how she lived her life or made the choices she did.

Well it definently explains why her parents didn't let me talk to her. I found out that Elyse told them to make sure I didn't contact her. She probably didn't want me to find out, but of course I did...

As bad as I feel, I actualy lol'd at the anti-necrophilia bit. All I'm saying is I feel like it'll be wrong to not love her and move on just because she's dead. That's like saying "Well, she croaked, that didn't work out to well...NEXT", you see what I'm saying? I think I just need to do some things to get it off my mind, I will always love her though.