[QUOTE=Strongbad]*sigh* Well I just tried calling the girl I love who I'm just friends with for now, and her dad answered:

Dad: hello
Me: hey is elyse there?
Dad: Um...whos calling
Me: uh stephen
Dad: uh...look, it's kinda late dont you think?
Me: Oh sorry, i couldnt tell, im in georgia so the timezones are messed up
Dad: Well isnt it 11:00 your time?
Me: Well im on a computer and it says 10:30, so i figured it was 9:30 down there
Dad: Well the clock is wroooong
Me: Oh, Im sorry...
Dad: Look, I dont know what is going on between you and Elyse, but I think it's best if you dont call here any more.
Me: There's nothing going on between me and her...
Dad: I didn't say there was, Im telling you as an adult to not call here any more.
Me: Did I do something wrong..?
Dad: LOOK Im not a phsychiatrist, I have your phone number on notice, I know what it is, so I dont want you calling here anymore, do you understand me or do I have to get the authorities to deal with you???
Me: no...its cool, sorry for ruining everyone's lives...
Dad: Good bye..dont call back here again.

I give up. I dont know what I did, but noone wants me to be talking with this girl while she is in a relationship it seems like. I havent done anything to make people think that me and elyse are having an afair or something, I just want to stay friends with her, which I can't do because noone will let me, her bf wont let me, my parents dont want me to, and now I cant call her any more. And I have a feeling Elyse doesnt want to talk to me either. WTF do I do? I dont want her whole family to be against me for whatever reason and I just want to be friends with her. Is it unusual for a guy to be friends with a girl who has a boyfriend? I didnt think so but apparently everything has changed.[/QUOTE]

Wait, you're obsessed over a girl in another timezone? Do you live permanently in Georgia or are you just visiting? Did you have nothing more than an internet fling with this girl? I would have done the same thing her dad did. You're a creep.

Thank you sooo much for your great advice.

And no I live in her hometown, I'm visiting in Georgia at my uncle's place until Saturday. I was just really bored and missed her so thought I'd give her a call. Apparently I broke the dress code or something.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]*sigh* Well I just tried calling the [b]girl I love[/b] who I'm just friends with for now, and her dad answered:

[b]I just want to stay friends with her[/b], which I can't do because noone will let me, her bf wont let me, my parents dont want me to, and now I cant call her any more. And I have a feeling Elyse doesnt want to talk to me either. WTF do I do? I dont want her whole family to be against me for whatever reason and I just want to be friends with her. Is it unusual for a guy to be friends with a girl who has a boyfriend? I didnt think so but apparently everything has changed.[/QUOTE]

hmmm...

I think you are conflicting with yourself.

Since you love her you are probably subconsciously showing something that possibly has hinted to her dad that you like her, and he appears to be the overprotective type. So obviously he is going to cut you off from her to make sure that nothing harms Elyse's life.

Thats my guess.

The guy has known me for 2 months why has it taken him so long to kick me in the balls so to speak?

[QUOTE=Strongbad]The guy has known me for 2 months why has it taken him so long to kick me in the balls so to speak?[/QUOTE]

I think that question can only be answered by you and Elyse and the people in your life.

Do you talk to her online often?

[QUOTE=Strongbad]The guy has known me for 2 months why has it taken him so long to kick me in the balls so to speak?[/QUOTE]

To be perfectly honest - she probably did it to you.

When my ex and I hit the end of our road together, we were having a normal conversation, I mentioned that I thought we should break up and thirty seconds later she said, "I think you have a phone call." I did. I picked up the other line and it was her dad telling me the exact same thing, almost word for word, that this girl's father just told you. She's not interested in being friends with you. Leave her alone.

[QUOTE=Tiger]Maaaan, that Dad is cold as ice! I like him.[/QUOTE]
Exactly how you're going to be as a father, right?

you guys all remember that girl I told you about. The one that likes me. Well it has occurred to me, that she is fu[size="2"]ck[/size]ing psycho. She IMs me today like:
"Well I guess you hate me"
and I just go
"ok" because, honestly, I'm tired of this emo crap.
"You seem like you want nothing to do with me"
"So I hate you?".
Then she fires back with a classic
"you just never talk" which obviously means I hate her.
"So I hate you."
"Do you?"
Then she goes away and her message is like "I'm having a GREAT fu[size="2"]ck[/size]ing day can't you TELL <|3"
"ok"
"nevermind"
"yeah"
"great. fine bye."
"ok. bye"
She is driving me nuts. She actually got pissed at me one day because I talked to other people more than her on AIM. I thought she was joking til I saw her emo sh[size="2"]it[/size] away message. You would think we were dating with all this drama. It's so annoying. I just want to tell her to STFU and to GTFO.

[QUOTE=Iscariot]To be perfectly honest - she probably did it to you.

When my ex and I hit the end of our road together, we were having a normal conversation, I mentioned that I thought we should break up and thirty seconds later she said, "I think you have a phone call." I did. I picked up the other line and it was her dad telling me the exact same thing, almost word for word, that this girl's father just told you. She's not interested in being friends with you. Leave her alone.[/QUOTE]

It just...makes no sense...we were talking earlier like always...

[QUOTE=Strongbad]It just...makes no sense...we were talking earlier like always...[/QUOTE]

Same here, brother. Girls will pull stunts like this all the time when they don't have the backbone to confront you themselves. In my case, Lela told her father that I was a violent psychopathic and that if I didn't do everything he told me to, that he should put a restraining order on me. Pretty ballsy coming from the girl that I had just spent over $100 on for easter.

Eventually your pain will become anger, your anger will become hate and you'll go around your ex-girlfriend's high school telling everyone that she has a crusty vag and you found out the hard way that she's packing a serious case of stinky coochitis. Then you'll feel better. Trust me, I know.

[QUOTE=Return of Buttloaves]I just want to tell her to STFU and to GTFO.[/QUOTE]
So, uh...do?

[QUOTE=Tess-Tube Baby]So, uh...do?[/QUOTE]
Then her and half of the girls in Maryland would think I'm the biggest jackass ever. So yeah, I think I will.

[QUOTE=Return of Buttloaves]Then her and half of the girls in Maryland would think I'm the biggest jackass ever. So yeah, I think I will.[/QUOTE]

Seriously though, who cares what other people think? I live my life by that philosophy and I couldn't be happier.

[right][size=1]my life is hell[/size][/right]

[quote=buttface]Then her and half of the girls in Maryland would think I'm the biggest jackass ever. So yeah, I think I will.[/quote]
Good choice, man. :)

I just got an email from Elyse's father. He said that he doesn't hate me, Elyse didn't put him up to this, he thinks I'm a nice and upstanding guy, but he just thinks it's not a good idea for me to be talking to Elyse while she is in the middle of a relationship.

So great. Now I can't even be friends with her. This sucks. She'll completely forget about me, and she is the greatest girl I've ever met. Great. Just perfect.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]I just got an email from Elyse's father. He said that he doesn't hate me, Elyse didn't put him up to this, he thinks I'm a nice and upstanding guy, but he just thinks it's not a good idea for me to be talking to Elyse while she is in the middle of a relationship.

So great. Now I can't even be friends with her. This sucks. She'll completely forget about me, and she is the greatest girl I've ever met. Great. Just perfect.[/QUOTE]

How old is this girl?

She's 15.

IM 15 TOO!!!

man, my girl already planning a baby for next may :-/

[QUOTE=Strongbad]She's 15.

IM 15 TOO!!![/QUOTE]

At that age she's probably still under her father's control when it comes down to it. If you are going to continue you're going to have to be either crafty or get the father to approve of you.

However, if she's in a relationship it might be best to just play it cool for a while. You don't want to come off as some creepy/annoying stalker type. And at 15 there will be plenty of other girls for you down the road.

[QUOTE=Strongbad][S]he is the greatest girl I've ever met. Great. Just perfect.[/QUOTE]

[quote]She's 15.

IM 15 TOO!!![/quote]

um, lol?

You have a lot of years left in you, homie.

Seriously, theres a 99% chance you don't even know what love is.

Ok I just got an email from Elyse's dad again and he said there's nothing wrong with me and it's not because she has a boyfriend, but it's because Elyse has lead me on, and he doesn't want it to go any further. If in the future she breaks up with him or vice versa, and she still wants to be with me, then so be it. IDK maybe this is all for the best. Maybe us not being able to talk for a while will drive her into wanting to be with me. Hey a guy can wish.

And EIG stfu.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Ok I just got an email from Elyse's dad again and he said there's nothing wrong with me and it's not because she has a boyfriend, but it's because Elyse has lead me on, and he doesn't want it to go any further. If in the future she breaks up with him or vice versa, and she still wants to be with me, then so be it. IDK maybe this is all for the best. Maybe us not being able to talk for a while will drive her into wanting to be with me. Hey a guy can wish.

And EIG stfu.[/QUOTE]

Well good luck with that. And I only said what I said because when I was 15 I thought I knew too, only to later realize that I had no idea whatsoever (this tends to be the case with most people). It's not bad that you "love" her or whatever at your age, even if you don't understand it. All I'm saying is that there will be other girls, so don't stress yourself over this one if it's not working.

I've been trying to get over her for the past 2 months. You'd think she'd be out of my head by now.

Just get out there and try to find other girls. I think once you have some other girls on your mind things will be easier.

I have tried. And other girls have been on my mind. But Elyse always pops back up and seems to overrule all those girls. I think im going insane or something.

Well your best bet is probably to find another girl who's available to preoccupy your time with. Save yourself the headache.

I didn't understand relationships until probably junior year of high school.

When I was a freshman I was so totally in love with this girl, and I was wayyyy too emotional. I really thought she was the one, at the time.

[QUOTE=ArrestThisMan]When I was a freshman I was so totally in love with this girl, and I was wayyyy too emotional. I really thought she was the one, at the time.[/QUOTE]

Exactly.

[QUOTE=EinzingerIsGod]Exactly.[/QUOTE]

The funny thing is, we broke up, didn't talk for a year, and then ended up getting back together on more normal terms.

I just learned to be more chill about things.