Ok, I'm a guy, and I've always had a thing for other guys. I like girls more, but there's always been some attraction towards certain guys, but it's completely physical.

Some guy I've been talking to recently is gay, and I'm thinking he wants to mess around with me or something. Normally, I would just go for it and do what I want, but the fact that he's a guy makes me real nervous, especially since I've never done anything like that. I want to, but I don't know how to just let go and have fun like I would with a girl.

What do I do? :(

[QUOTE=dcr]Ok, I'm a guy, and I've always had a thing for other guys. I like girls more, but there's always been some attraction towards certain guys, but it's completely physical.

Some guy I've been talking to recently is gay, and I'm thinking he wants to mess around with me or something. Normally, I would just go for it and do what I want, but the fact that he's a guy makes me real nervous, especially since I've never done anything like that. I want to, but I don't know how to just let go and have fun like I would with a girl.

What do I do? :([/QUOTE]

Um, don't be gay. It's cool to like repsect another guys physique or something. But thats as far as it goes. If you aren't sure, then you definitely don't want that memory tatooed in your head for the rest of your life.

[QUOTE=i am miik]I don't know. Do something with her that you wouldn't normally do, so she gets the feeling that something is up. Do something so that if she rejects you it will be a not awkward as possible. What that would be, well, let someone else answer that, because I donno. I can't deal with the females anymore.[/QUOTE]
That's really hard.

[QUOTE=followedformat]That's really hard.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, but if it was easy, you wouldn't be here.

[QUOTE=i am miik]Yeah, but if it was easy, you wouldn't be here.[/QUOTE]
Good point. I think I should ask her to come to the movies with me and I could tell her afterwards. I'm having a lot of doubts about this. Maybe I shouldn't tell her at all.

[QUOTE=followedformat]Good point. I think I should ask her to come to the movies with me and I could tell her afterwards. I'm having a lot of doubts about this. Maybe I shouldn't tell her at all.[/QUOTE]

The what ifs will kill you man.

[QUOTE=i am miik]Um, don't be gay. It's cool to like repsect another guys physique or something. But thats as far as it goes. If you aren't sure, then you definitely don't want that memory tatooed in your head for the rest of your life.[/QUOTE]

Hey, Mike, don't say "don't be gay". I mean really.

Just because you're not attracted to the same sex doesn't mean that other people aren't either, or shouldn't be.

If he's comfortable with the idea, then he's comfortable with it.

dcr, how old are you?

Aight guys....Ive never posted anything like this before but here goes...I really want to do something special for my g/f. She's been so great to me and been putting up with alot of **** (even though she says she doesnt mind) and yeah, I want to do something really special but I cant think of anything. Money isnt really a problem cause I just got paid so ive got a decent ammount(200-300). So yeah, any ideas? I want it to be pretty romantic and such so yeah...shoot.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Hey, Mike, don't say "don't be gay". I mean really.

Just because you're not attracted to the same sex doesn't mean that other people aren't either, or shouldn't be.

If he's comfortable with the idea, then he's comfortable with it.

dcr, how old are you?[/QUOTE]

sry. I type how I talk sometimes.

[QUOTE=i_am_zombie_jesus]Aight guys....Ive never posted anything like this before but here goes...I really want to do something special for my g/f. She's been so great to me and been putting up with alot of **** (even though she says she doesnt mind) and yeah, I want to do something really special but I cant think of anything. Money isnt really a problem cause I just got paid so ive got a decent ammount(200-300). So yeah, any ideas? I want it to be pretty romantic and such so yeah...shoot.[/QUOTE]

What would be new and novel that you haven't done before.

[quote=Mike]sry. I type how I talk sometimes.[/quote]

'Sokay. :)

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]dcr, how old are you?[/QUOTE]
Nearly 18, and my thing for guys isn't something that I'm simply curious about. There was a few years when I was younger where I really thought I was gay.

Sounds like you might be bi, and you're old enough to know how you feel. I mean, kids in grade school and junior high sometimes get crushes on the same sex, but when you're as old as you are, that's something different. The only advice that I have (which actually may have merit) is...if you're unsure how to go about it, then get to know him better so that you feel more comfortable.

I don't care about my orientation. I will like and feel however I feel natural. I just don't want things to be real awkward or anything, because I'm going to be nervous about this guy. He's experienced, I'm not.

I understand. That's been touched on in this thread before by another poster.

As long as he's not a jerk you should be fine.

[QUOTE=dcr]I don't care about my orientation. I will like and feel however I feel natural. I just don't want things to be real awkward or anything, because I'm going to be nervous about this guy. He's experienced, I'm not.[/QUOTE]


Maybe use your head and tell him all of this?

Gee golly, communication seems to work for us straight folks, maybe theres a chance it could work for you guys too!

[QUOTE=Tiger]Maybe use your head and tell him all of this?

Gee golly, communication seems to work for us straight folks, maybe theres a chance it could work for you guys too![/QUOTE]

Sorry, my son, but sometimes not. Communication isn't always the key.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Sorry, my son, but sometimes not. Communication isn't always the key.[/QUOTE]


Whats that you say?

Ugh. Try communicating with an axe murderer.

Bah.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Ugh. Try communicating with an axe murderer.

Bah.[/QUOTE]


Im sorry I couldnt understand you?

Yeah, no one does.

"OMG, I'm misunderstood!!!"

Juuuust making a point.

Okay, I was going to go to the movies with Sara this Saturday, but she seemed so upset because of her ex-boyfriend that I offered to take her last night. So we went to the movies, and on the way over there she seemed really sad, I asked her if everything was alright and you know how girls are, she gave the typical "yes, I'm fine.." but I could tell she was really upset still. We went into the theater, sat down, and for the first 5 or 10 minutes she was trying to hold in her tears, and it was making me real sad. Well she did what most girls do, she put her hand on the armrest, meaning she wanted me to hold her hand, so slowly I moved my hand over, and she locked in her fingers with mine, then I put my arm around her and she leaned up against me, and finally smiled. :) I'd say it went well, I didn't kiss her because I don't do that until I actually start going out with the person, but she told me later on that she still can't get over her ex-boyfriend. :( I don't know what to do, she makes it sound like she's never going to love again, and she seems real obsessed over this guy who royally f[size=2]ucked[/size] her over. Any tips on what I can do to get her mind off of this guy and maybe towards me?

You're playing a dangerous game man..

Truly.

I'd just provide her with what she needs right now, and that's a friend. If you can't do that, ya gotta walk away.

I know it's a dangerous game, that's why I'm not trying to get intimate with her. I'd just like to know how long does it usually take a girl to get over a long relationship?

[QUOTE=Strongbad]I know it's a dangerous game, that's why I'm not trying to get intimate with her. I'd just like to know how long does it usually take a girl to get over a long relationship?[/QUOTE]


That's like asking what the meaning of life is.

Some never do man. That first burn can stick around a long time. I don't know her or the nature of her previous relationship. But to start off with her on the premise that you'll help her through getting over it in hopes she'll find something with you is pretty insane. I've been there though. We've all tried it. It almost never works. Rebound comes to mind mostly. You'll end up reminding her of him simply by default.

It sounds like you're saying I should just not socialize with her then.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]It sounds like you're saying I should just not socialize with her then.[/QUOTE]


That's not what I'm saying at all. If you genuinely care about her, and she is in need of company, there's no reason why you shouldn't be there for her, as a friend. No further expectations.

If something should arise as a result of that, then you win. Push too soon or too hard, and you both lose.

That's all I'm saying. Or, that's what I'm trying to say anyway. It seems as though you really care about her, and thats awesome. I'm sure she needs a friend right now. I'm just saying what you want out of it might not be what might actually come of it.

[QUOTE=DBoon's Ghost]That's not what I'm saying at all. If you genuinely care about her, and she is in need of company, there's no reason why you shouldn't be there for her, as a friend. No further expectations.

If something should arise as a result of that, then you win. Push too soon or too hard, and you both lose.

That's all I'm saying. Or, that's what I'm trying to say anyway. It seems as though you really care about her, and thats awesome. I'm sure she needs a friend right now. I'm just saying what you want out of it might not be what might actually come of it.[/QUOTE]

I completey agree. Her feelings right now are going to be so spontanious and unpredictable. You need to give her space, but continue to be there as a friend. Dont jump the gun on anything too soon. Dont have any expectations for this.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]I know it's a dangerous game, that's why I'm not trying to get intimate with her. I'd just like to know how long does it usually take a girl to get over a long relationship?[/QUOTE]

It depends on the relationship, I guess. I was in one for about 10 months (which for me is a long time) and when it was done I was relieved and happier. I have yet to be in one where I have become completely shattered or anything.

Yea I understand. Thanks for your words guys. :)