[QUOTE=rockgod90]Hey, I need a question answered: I had a girlfriend a few weeks ago who was OBSESSED with me, but then she met one of my friends who's better looking than me, and she started talking to him and started avoiding me a bit. I didn't think it was a big deal until she told a bunch of people she'd rather be going out with him than me. So I went over to her house and talked to her about whatever was going on, and she said everything was fine and she was sorry. A while later she left a message on my phone saying she couldn't wait to see me again when I got back from my cabin that weekend. A little while after, on the same day, she sends me a message on MySpace and all it says is "I wanna break up." My other friend talked to her and said she wanted to just be friends and get to know me better (We had only me once when I asked her out.) But now, for some reason, she refuses to talk to me, is always calling my friends asking if they wanna go do stuff, and she keeps telling people that I won't leave her alone and that I am stalking her (which is bull****.) Som anyways, my question is; what is up with her, and what can I do to get her back?[/QUOTE]


I agree with most others' sentiments. If she's pulling all this shady business she's not worth you're time pal. If she can't be honest and straightforward (anyplace except myspace :rolleyes:) you're most likely doomed anyhow. It'll not be fun at first but really, I think you should not work on her so hard.

Relationships are time consuming. They squeeze your hobby time. Go do something you had time for pre-relationship and have maybe lost touch with since. If you find yourself having more fun than you do with her, maybe its time to move on.

[QUOTE=pohl_56]...Me and my ex are about to get back together... :) Any tips people have for a second time around?

...and from previous page... NO RULES NO EXPECTATIONS is the gold plated/pseudo-gold rule.[/QUOTE]

Right on. Try to think like its a girl you've never dated before. I know its hard, but If you continue to know her like the girl you used to, you may be headed down the same path. Take the rediscovery route, you might be surprised at what a different person you'll know.

Remember, you're getting back together, so remember that you've decided that the fun times have either outfuned or outrationalized the bad ones. Remembering this should give you confidence.

I realize this requires a selective memory but, good luck.

A coworker asked me to go to the movies with her and two of her friends, who I knew. I agreed because I needed something to do tonight, and getting better aquainted with people is never bad. I've heard through three seperate people that this girl has a crush on me, but I didn't think anything of it. One of our coworkers came up to me a bit after I agreed to go, and said something like "so, I hear you and Jessica have a hot date tonight". I was confused about it, because I wasn't aware that it was supposed to be a date, or else I would've said no. When I got to the movies, her two friends conveniently couldn't make it, and it ended up just being the two of us.

I just wish she would've been more direct, because I really don't want to date her.

I cant imagine why, does she not know how big of a douchebag you are?

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]A coworker asked me to go to the movies with her and two of her friends, who I knew. I agreed because I needed something to do tonight, and getting better aquainted with people is never bad. I've heard through three seperate people that this girl has a crush on me, but I didn't think anything of it. One of our coworkers came up to me a bit after I agreed to go, and said something like "so, I hear you and Jessica have a hot date tonight". I was confused about it, because I wasn't aware that it was supposed to be a date, or else I would've said no. When I got to the movies, her two friends conveniently couldn't make it, and it ended up just being the two of us.

I just wish she would've been more direct, because I really don't want to date her.[/QUOTE]
If you needed something to do tonight then why didn't you do her :-/

[QUOTE=Tiger]I cant imagine why, does she not know how big of a douchebag you are?[/QUOTE]
I can understand why you would call me a pu[SIZE="2"]ss[/SIZE]y, but what makes me a douchebag? I really am a douche, but I haven't said anything about why on here...

[QUOTE=Tess-Tube Baby]If you needed something to do tonight then why didn't you do her :-/[/QUOTE]
haha, i committ to one person at a time. actually, i just broke it off with the girl i was foolin' around with, but i'm not going to do anything with anyone else unless it's a relationship. :\

Buuut...you need something to do tonight.

you know what i meant.

Go back and read all the times Ive mocked you in the L&R threads for things that youve posted about, you'll find answers.

[QUOTE=Tiger]Go back and read all the times Ive mocked you in the L&R threads for things that youve posted about, you'll find answers.[/QUOTE]
Hell no, I don't have that kind of time. Summarize, because it's not worth my time to figure out why some internet kid doesn't approve of me.

Um, this girl I really really like just got dumped by her boyfriend because he found a girl his age (they are four years apart) and she is really depressed over it. I'm real good friends with her, and I want to be with her badly, but I'm afraid all she'll think of is her boyfriend. When is the best time to ask her out and how will I know when she's over this guy?

Right away.

So I should just ask her out straight out even though she still can't get this guy off her mind?

Oh, no. That'd be bad.

I'm gonna say 1 week.

That's what I was thinking. She wants me to go to the movies this weekend to cheer her up, idk Im just trying to figure out does she want to go to be cheered up or because she wants me to ask her out?

WTF?!? Go with her.

Well DUH I'm gonna go with her. I just hope she wants me to ask her out. She's asked me out before when I was caught off guard, then the next day she couldnt get over her boyfriend so she went back. That's what Im afraid of.

Make her not think of that deuche.

What should I do?

Midnight walk on the beach.

Uh we're going to the movies dude. And I dont live in a state that has a beach.

Aha your state sucks. Hold hands..then make love.

I dont wanna have sex dude.

My lame problem:
I've liked this girl for about 3 or 4 months now. Me and her are good friends, we talk almost every day. I know she has a boyfriend and she seems so happy with him. I don't wanna ruin that but I've been expiriencing so much depression from this and I wanna let her know. I know she probably doesn't even have feelings for me but I wanna let her know. I'm just afraid that our friendship would be gone if I told her. Is this a good idea? If it is, how should I tell her?

[QUOTE=followedformat]My lame problem:
I've liked this girl for about 3 or 4 months now. Me and her are good friends, we talk almost every day. I know she has a boyfriend and she seems so happy with him. I don't wanna ruin that but I've been expiriencing so much depression from this and I wanna let her know. I know she probably doesn't even have feelings for me but I wanna let her know. I'm just afraid that our friendship would be gone if I told her. Is this a good idea? If it is, how should I tell her?[/QUOTE]
I was in the same situation, don't tell her, because when you find out she doesn't have feelings back, you will be ****ED IN THE *** emotionally.

[QUOTE=SlashFortyForty]I was in the same situation, don't tell her, because when you find out she doesn't have feelings back, you will be ****ED IN THE *** emotionally.[/QUOTE]

k there mr.bringdown:angry:

[QUOTE=followedformat]My lame problem:
I've liked this girl for about 3 or 4 months now. Me and her are good friends, we talk almost every day. I know she has a boyfriend and she seems so happy with him. I don't wanna ruin that but I've been expiriencing so much depression from this and I wanna let her know. I know she probably doesn't even have feelings for me but I wanna let her know. I'm just afraid that our friendship would be gone if I told her. Is this a good idea? If it is, how should I tell her?[/QUOTE]

I would say to keep it in for awile though, at least see how things go with her boyfreind... I say from experience though that you CANNOT let your sadness get in the way of being freinds with her though.

Yea, tell her if you want her to immediately take drastic steps to put distance between herself and your stalker self.

[QUOTE=followedformat]My lame problem:
I've liked this girl for about 3 or 4 months now. Me and her are good friends, we talk almost every day. I know she has a boyfriend and she seems so happy with him. I don't wanna ruin that but I've been expiriencing so much depression from this and I wanna let her know. I know she probably doesn't even have feelings for me but I wanna let her know. I'm just afraid that our friendship would be gone if I told her. Is this a good idea? If it is, how should I tell her?[/QUOTE]

Dude right now is the time. Right in the middle of a relationship is when they start to get bored and look for something new. Towards the end she will be to depressed to do anything, that is if its serious.

[QUOTE=i am miik]Dude right now is the time. Right in the middle of a relationship is when they start to get bored and look for something new. Towards the end she will be to depressed to do anything, that is if its serious.[/QUOTE]
So I should go for it? How the **** should I do it?

[QUOTE=followedformat]So I should go for it? How the **** should I do it?[/QUOTE]

I don't know. Do something with her that you wouldn't normally do, so she gets the feeling that something is up. Do something so that if she rejects you it will be a not awkward as possible. What that would be, well, let someone else answer that, because I donno. I can't deal with the females anymore.