ive never had a gf for show and im almost 18

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]ive never had a gf for show and im almost 18[/QUOTE]
But have you had a girlfriend? If not it kind of doesnt count.

[QUOTE=Leprechauns1021]haha man thats horrible.....elementary kids? Thats kind of ridiculous[/QUOTE]

Yeah, it was pretty lame, but the thing that bothers me is the fact that I have to be on the same bus as these kids. It would be nice if my town could just use separate busses for the high schoolers and elementary kids.

yes i have

There's a bunch of wigger kids at my school and they talk about who was cheating on who and stuff like that, it's really pathetic.

There's also the girls who go out with scumbags and complain when they get cheated on.

I really have no sympathy when a chick goes out with some scumbag and gets cheated on. If they don't want to get cheated on they should raise there f[I]u[/I]cking standards a bit. Not that they have the brains to do so. Well, this isn't always the case, but there's some people at my school you can just look at and tell that they're a cheater.

Those who cheat usually get women because they know how to push a woman's buttons and get her attracted to him.

However, when women don't exercise some form of collective memory and pay more attention to warning signs, it's their own fault at that point. You can't predict the philandering wankers with 100% accuracy all the time, but when you end up with three in a row in less than a year, it's time to re-evaluate your standards and priorities.

Everyone feels like they need to impress someone, with their relationship status.

I don't know, I guess that's part of being in school. I just never really felt like I needed to be with someone to gain street cred or popularity.

Like I know this one girl, who was telling everyone about her old boyfriend, when they were 11. I was like wtf?

[QUOTE=Silent Death]Everyone feels like they need to impress someone, with their relationship status.

I don't know, I guess that's part of being in school. I just never really felt like I needed to be with someone to gain street cred or popularity.

Like I know this one girl, who was telling everyone about her old boyfriend, when they were 11. I was like wtf?[/QUOTE]

11 year old daters, haha, that's pretty f[I]u[/I]cked up.

I've been bothered before about how I haven't had a girlfriend, but I don't really see any chicks at my school that I can respect. And most don't like me anyway. :thumb:

Some people feel like they need to be in a relationship. Some people are just crazy needy.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Some people feel like they need to be in a relationship. Some people are just crazy needy.[/QUOTE]

Well, the complex answer is that people are conditioned by an unhealthy pop culture mentality that negatively reinforces the stereotype that worthwhile people have relationships. This is pounded into us from a very early age.

People think they need a relationship to validate themselves and prove to others their worth, which actually decreases their self-worth. When a relationship ends, this leads to negative overcompensation such as incessant bitching about their ex to make themselves look good (which in reality, totally backfires).

The thing is, very few of these people ever figure out that true leaders don't need the opinions of others or a relationship to validate themselves as they are already secure in their identities.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Well, the complex answer is that people are conditioned by an unhealthy pop culture mentality that negatively reinforces the stereotype that worthwhile people have relationships. This is pounded into us from a very early age.

People think they need a relationship to validate themselves and prove to others their worth, which actually decreases their self-worth. When a relationship ends, this leads to negative overcompensation such as incessant bitching about their ex to make themselves look good (which in reality, totally backfires).

The thing is, very few of these people ever figure out that true leaders don't need the opinions of others or a relationship to validate themselves as they are already secure in their identities.[/QUOTE]

Oh, of course.

Its pretty unfortunate actually that people feel that way. I know a lot of people who will bounce from relationship to relationship (crappy ones at best) just for the sake of doing so.

More people need to appreciate being single and happy, rather than depending on others to do that for him.

I think every relationship that have 2 independent people, comfortbale with themselves and happy, will be more successful in a relationship together, developing with each other, in comparison to 2 completely dependent people.

Some people dont agree with me.

To hell with those who don't agree with you.

Interesting story I picked up. A guy tells the story of a woman he was set up for a date with. The first thing she says to him is "It's too cold to go out." Warning bell number one. Of many. She proceeds to complain incessantly about everything. The weather, the restaurant, the service, the table, his job, her job...

She claimed her job was "beneath her." Of course, he very swiftly made the decision that most of the men on Earth were [i]above[/i] her.

That woman is a reflection of this unbelievable desire of people in general to be someone important and taking it to an unhealthy extreme.

So ... here's a question for you guys. A [i]What Would You Do?[/i] kinda thing....



So I met this girl the other night. She was with her step-sister (who's 22) and her step-sister's friend (21). This girl is 17 (18 in 4 months).


Now the thing is, I'm not trying to sound like a pedo here (I'm only 22) but I kinda like this girl. She flirted nonstop with me and was all over me. I held off with the physical side of it but flirted back (I was being reserved because she IS still a minor). She gave me her number and I'm thinking about calling her but for obvious reasons, I'm very hesitant to do so.


What do you peeps recommend?

[QUOTE=Steerpike]To hell with those who don't agree with you.

Interesting story I picked up. A guy tells the story of a woman he was set up for a date with. The first thing she says to him is "It's too cold to go out." Warning bell number one. Of many. She proceeds to complain incessantly about everything. The weather, the restaurant, the service, the table, his job, her job...

She claimed her job was "beneath her." Of course, he very swiftly made the decision that most of the men on Earth were [i]above[/i] her.

That woman is a reflection of this unbelievable desire of people in general to be someone important and taking it to an unhealthy extreme.[/QUOTE]

Most people are also very materialistic or high maintenance which also adds on top of everything. Any girl/guy who thinks the other one should pay for their things is kidding themselves. I could understand as a nice gesture to offer to pay for something once in a while, but I know many people who think its wrong if the guy doesnt pay for everything.

Its like...uh? Why? Most of the time their isnt a response of anything considered valuable.

[QUOTE=g°®†]So ... here's a question for you guys. A [i]What Would You Do?[/i] kinda thing....



So I met this girl the other night. She was with her step-sister (who's 22) and her step-sister's friend (21). This girl is 17 (18 in 4 months).


Now the thing is, I'm not trying to sound like a pedo here (I'm only 22) but I kinda like this girl. She flirted nonstop with me and was all over me. I held off with the physical side of it but flirted back (I was being reserved because she IS still a minor). She gave me her number and I'm thinking about calling her but for obvious reasons, I'm very hesitant to do so.


What do you peeps recommend?[/QUOTE]

Eh, I dunno. I know people that are 18 who were dating people 25, 26. Theyve been together for sometime now. If shes mature, and you think you guys would work well together, I say go for it man.
Just go with it man, who cares what people think.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Eh, I dunno. I know people that are 18 who were dating people 25, 26. Theyve been together for sometime now. If shes mature, and you think you guys would work well together, I say go for it man.
Just go with it man, who cares what people think.[/QUOTE]



I don't care what people think ... I do care about running myself into an [i]illegal[/i] situation here. heh


She's nice though .... She's intelligent, doesn't smoke, and loves to drink (exactly what I've been looking for) and here's the typical guy virtue --- she's hawt. :p

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Well, I wouldnt be worried about it. I know that you are dead set on being with her and everything and now thats shes going away, things dont seem as certain and everything.

I mean, you may change within that year and be satisfied dating other people while she is away, cause yeah..a year is a pretty significant amount of time. The truth is, time heals all. You will miss her a lot the first month or two, but then you'll get used to her not being there and may find some good may come of it.

I know its devastating (trust me, I would be a wreck if J left for that long) but its just something that happens. You'll be fine.[/QUOTE]
I have talked to her about it, and we both agree to stay true. I know for sure I would never do anything while she is gone and I'm pretty certain she wouldn't betray me either.This is the only time in our relationship where I felt that it might be greatly effected by a situation. It's just the part of being away from each other for so long, it's very depressing. :(

Dude, she's gonna be 18 in 4 months, I don't really see anything illegal about that. It doesn't make you a pedophile either. If you liked a 13 year old or something then you would.

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]I have talked to her about it, and we both agree to stay true. I know for sure I would never do anything while she is gone and I'm pretty certain she wouldn't betray me either.This is the only time in our relationship where I felt that it might be greatly effected by a situation. It's just the part of being away from each other for so long, it's very depressing. :([/QUOTE]

I know its depressing but always remember, whatever happens..time heals all. Its sad, but very true. You'll be fine, and if its meant to be, your relationship will be fine too.

And Gort, I wouldnt worry too much. Most of the people I know, their relationships are legal, or borderline. So, enjoy yourself :) No worries.

I think Im going to hang out with one of my guys friends whom I have only seen once seen I started dating my boyfriend. A little while into my relationship, my guy friend basically confessed his love for me and I told him I cared for my boyfriend a lot and that was the end of that.

With good reason I avoided him for about 7 months, and have only seen him once since then which was recent. So, I think we are chilling tonight. Which is good cause I missed being his friend, we had some fun times. Now that I think he is over me, I think its safe to hang out with him without being worried he is going to say or do anything.

so go for it then?



yeah ... I will. I like her. :)

yes go for it and good luck man :)

now enjoy staring at the bouncing tits on my avatar

[QUOTE=purplefeet]I know its depressing but always remember, whatever happens..time heals all. Its sad, but very true. You'll be fine, and if its meant to be, your relationship will be fine too.

And Gort, I wouldnt worry too much. Most of the people I know, their relationships are legal, or borderline. So, enjoy yourself :) No worries.

I think Im going to hang out with one of my guys friends whom I have only seen once seen I started dating my boyfriend. A little while into my relationship, my guy friend basically confessed his love for me and I told him I cared for my boyfriend a lot and that was the end of that.

With good reason I avoided him for about 7 months, and have only seen him once since then which was recent. So, I think we are chilling tonight. Which is good cause I missed being his friend, we had some fun times. Now that I think he is over me, I think its safe to hang out with him without being worried he is going to say or do anything.[/QUOTE]
I know. I should just let the dice roll and be supportive of what she wants to do. I love her too much to have her not do something she wants on account of me not likeing it.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]yes go for it and good luck man :)

now enjoy staring at the bouncing tits on my avatar[/QUOTE]



Remember my boobies avatar? I want it back! :(



anyway ... I'll give her a call tonight. I met her on Friday.

Gort, I believe it's ok to date a minor by law. It's only illegal if there's sexual relations.

Any other guys in relationships flirt with other girls?

I mean, at parties and stuff I'll flirt with girls, but part of the reason is because I feel comfortable and let loose because I know it won't go anywhere (for obvious reasons...) and it never does go anywhere, but sometimes I wonder if it's kind of scumbag-ish

yeah ... I'll call her up tonight and see if she wants to hang out with her friends and me (and my friend who is the one who introduced her to me). Go for a group outing and keep it lax.


now, I gotta get a car.

[QUOTE=Illmatic]Any other guys in relationships flirt with other girls?

I mean, at parties and stuff I'll flirt with girls, but part of the reason is because I feel comfortable and let loose because I know it won't go anywhere (for obvious reasons...) and it never does go anywhere, but sometimes I wonder if it's kind of scumbag-ish[/QUOTE]

I do it sometimes.

EDIT: No, I kind of dont. I used to though.

[QUOTE=Illmatic]Any other guys in relationships flirt with other girls?

I mean, at parties and stuff I'll flirt with girls, but part of the reason is because I feel comfortable and let loose because I know it won't go anywhere (for obvious reasons...) and it never does go anywhere, but sometimes I wonder if it's kind of scumbag-ish[/QUOTE]

I see nothing wrong with it.

If my girlfriend was flirting with other guys it would make me feel kind of low. I'd get the impression that she isn't satisfied with me.

hey would any of you date someone who lived in a tent

Even if sometimes it gets physical?

[QUOTE=DreamWorld]If my girlfriend was flirting with other guys it would make me feel kind of low. I'd get the impression that she isn't satisfied with me.[/QUOTE]

Chances are, that would have less to do with her and more with your preception of yourself, eventually turning itself into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

[QUOTE=Illmatic]Even if sometimes it gets physical?[/QUOTE]

Depends on how you define physical.

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]hey would any of you date someone who lived in a tent[/QUOTE]

I doubt it.

How would they keep decent hygiene if they only had a tent?

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]hey would any of you date someone who lived in a tent[/QUOTE]

Probably, as long as she was nice, clean (DreamWorld's point), and wasn't a slut.

Edit: And she would have to be pretty damn hawt

[QUOTE=DreamWorld]I doubt it.

How would they keep decent hygiene if they only had a tent?[/QUOTE]
what if it was a really cool tent with alot of zippers and stuff

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]what if it was a really cool tent with alot of zippers and stuff[/QUOTE]

And indoor plumbing with a shower and stuff?

[QUOTE]Depends on how you define physical.[/QUOTE]

kissing (no tongue), light groping (maybe the wrong word to use, but there's still touching involved), stuff like that.

[QUOTE=Illmatic]kissing (no tongue), light groping (maybe the wrong word to use, but there's still touching involved), stuff like that.[/QUOTE]

To put things into perspective, think about how many people end up doing much worse from alcohol, desperation, bets/dares, money, or any combination thereof, and continue to do it over and over again without showing any sign of accumulated memory or the ability to learn from mistakes. Now think about what you just said.

Doesn't sound so bad all of a sudden, does it?

[QUOTE=DreamWorld]And indoor plumbing with a shower and stuff?[/QUOTE]
you're so shallow

I wouldn't mess around with anyone if I had a girlfriend that I loved. But I would only have a girlfriend if I thought that I would be in love with her.