Yeah, for some reason all my friends ask me for advice, even though I suck with this stuff. Then they go out and get laid, I'm like wtf that was my idea. I try it, it doesn't work at all.

[QUOTE=Junooni]Yeah, for some reason all my friends ask me for advice, even though I suck with this stuff. Then they go out and get laid, I'm like wtf that was my idea. I try it, it doesn't work at all.[/QUOTE]

hahaha

Eh...I've just got social anxieties and such. I guess I feel like I'm too average to bother with.

Which is wierd, admitadly, because I have no problem talking to women, or anything like that. I just assume they think I'm boring or whatever.

I used to have that. I've gotten better though.

[QUOTE]Originally Posted by [B]EBS77[/B]

[I]How good of friends are you with this girl?[/I][/QUOTE]
Pretty good, Ive been talking to her online almost every night for the past couple of months, since we don't go to the same school, and we've hung out a couple of times lately.

What are some things that a girl constantly looking over at you could mean?

I was doing this Science video project for school today, and a girl in my group always seemed to be looking over at me. Now I'm not saying I think she likes me, because she has a boyfriend and to think that would be just stupid but I mean, is it possible she might at least at some level like me?

Heres how it is: I'm 17, shes nearly 17, we've been together 5 months. We've only ever kissed and fondled. I find out today that 2 years ago she'd done more with her ex in the very first night than we have in 5 months. Yet she maintains shes crazy about me. What in the land of motherfu[color=black]ck[/color] is happening?!?

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Heres how it is: I'm 17, shes nearly 17, we've been together 5 months. We've only ever kissed and fondled. I find out today that 2 years ago she'd done more with her ex in the very first night than we have in 5 months. Yet she maintains shes crazy about me. What in the land of motherfu[color=black]ck[/color] is happening?!?[/QUOTE]
Nothing, you two just move at a slower pace. You don't need to be sexually active and all that to love someone.

I'm not liking this slow pace business.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]I'm not liking this slow pace business.[/QUOTE]
Why not? There's nothing wrong with going slow.

Going slow is probably best for a long-lasting healthy relationship if that is what you are hoping to have with this girl. Obviously going so fast with that other guy didn't keep them together, right?

[QUOTE=cokecanbunny]Going slow is probably best for a long-lasting healthy relationship if that is what you are hoping to have with this girl. Obviously going so fast with that other guy didn't keep them together, right?[/QUOTE]
Mhm, this is true. If you want something real, then slow is the way to go.

I'm not really looking for a long term thing, I'm only 17. I'm not looking for a life partner, I'm looking to have fun. I think thats what we should be doing at this age and worry about all that other stuff later.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]I'm not really looking for a long term thing, I'm only 17. I'm not looking for a life partner, I'm looking to have fun. I think thats what we should be doing at this age and worry about all that other stuff later.[/QUOTE]

You need to make a move. Now.

Well if you really want to, talk to her about going further. But DON'T pressure her. Maybe she realises from the past that going so fast was a mistake and she really isn't ready for it.

Ah ha! Heres the real problem, I've already made various moves. I get showered with compliments bout my looks and everythin from her so I assume shes attracted to me lol.

Being showered with compliments about your looks may mean she's attracted to you, but that doesn't mean she wants to move things fast.

[QUOTE=cokecanbunny]Well if you really want to, talk to her about going further. But DON'T pressure her. Maybe she realises from the past that going so fast was a mistake and she really isn't ready for it.[/QUOTE]

I gotta disagree. If she isn't sexually inclined after 5 months, something is up. He needs to get it out in the open. Sexual activity is part of a healthy relationship. If he's unfulfilled, he shouldn't feel guilty about asking or initiating. If he's not getting what he wants in the relationship, he's probably with the wrong person.

[QUOTE=Lightning Strikes Twice]Being showered with compliments about your looks may mean she's attracted to you, but that doesn't mean she wants to move things fast.[/QUOTE]

One day is fast. Five months isn't. He's has a legitimate concern, I think.

Thank you Mr Danish. When we're makin out she gets real into it but doesnt go any further. Something is definately up.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Thank you Mr Danish. When we're makin out she gets real into it but doesnt go any further. Something is definately up.[/QUOTE]
Argh! NOTHING is up. Man, you've just gotta' learn to trust her..

Trust? When did trust come into the equation? I really like this girl and I think we both should be having some fun at this age. I really dont see the point in getting all serious.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Thank you Mr Danish. When we're makin out she gets real into it but doesnt go any further. Something is definately up.[/QUOTE]

[i]How[/i] into it? Like, dry-humping into it?

Also, you're welcome. If you give me more details, I'll give you a detailed plan of action.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Trust? When did trust come into the equation? I really like this girl and I think we both should be having some fun at this age. I really dont see the point in getting all serious.[/QUOTE]
You can still have fun while being serious. I'm saying just you've gotta' realize that just because your not moving as fast as her and her ex did, that doesn't mean something is up. Jumping to conclusions like that is what brings you down more than anything.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Trust? When did trust come into the equation? I really like this girl and I think we both should be having some fun at this age. I really dont see the point in getting all serious.[/QUOTE]

Well, introducing sex into the relationship equation epitomizes 'getting serious,' no matter how casual the sex is.

It just adds an ultimately awkward dimension to the relationship.

[QUOTE=Jom]Well, introducing sex into the relationship equation epitomizes 'getting serious,' no matter how casual the sex is.

It just adds an ultimately awkward dimension to the relationship.[/QUOTE]

It doesn't have to be awkward.

[QUOTE=Danish]It doesn't have to be awkward.[/QUOTE]


The douchebag has a point. Sex is something that if anything brings balance to a relationship.

[QUOTE=Danish][i]How[/i] into it? Like, dry-humping into it?

Also, you're welcome. If you give me more details, I'll give you a detailed plan of action.[/QUOTE]

Yes, like seriously hard dry humping lol. Quite painful sometimes actually. This will go on for a couple of hours easily, she will suck my neck and kiss up and down it and all, and *sometimes* give me a handy, but they're few and far between. I asked to go down on her during one of these heated moments and got a "what? no". Those the kinda details?

[QUOTE=BrownSugar] I asked to go down on her during one of these heated moments and got a "what? no". Those the kinda details?[/QUOTE]


Haaaaaaaaaaaaaah!

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Yes, like seriously hard dry humping lol. Quite painful sometimes actually. This will go on for a couple of hours easily, she will suck my neck and kiss up and down it and all, and *sometimes* give me a handy, but they're few and far between. I asked to go down on her during one of these heated moments and got a "what? no". Those the kinda details?[/QUOTE]
She's got AIDS.

[QUOTE=Tiger]Haaaaaaaaaaaaaah![/QUOTE]

I KNOW! Who turns down pleasure? You wouldnt find a guy anywhere in the world turning down a blow job.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Yes, like seriously hard dry humping lol. Quite painful sometimes actually. This will go on for a couple of hours easily, she will suck my neck and kiss up and down it and all, and *sometimes* give me a handy, but they're few and far between. I asked to go down on her during one of these heated moments and got a "what? no". Those the kinda details?[/QUOTE]

Yes, exactly. Also, what does [i]she[/i] want out of this relationship?