[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]Why do you think we have emotional attachment, then?

:thumb:[/QUOTE]
i have emotional attachments to friends but i don't want to [I]mate[/I] with them



humans are not [I]naturally[/I] life mating animals. life-long monogamy is a social construct, not the way we naturally are

honestly you're the worst scientist i've ever met

Ok I don't know if you'd call this a problem, but I need help.

I don't know if it's because I really like/love this girl or if it's because I'm nervous about tommorow, but I've felt like I have to throw up for the past 3 days ever since she told me how strongly she felt about me. I don't think it's a bad pain, but it's really getting annoying and I want this sick feeling in my stomach to go away. Is there any way to get rid of it without not thinking about her or can someone tell me why this feeling is there?

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]i have emotional attachments to friends but i don't want to [I]mate[/I] with them



humans are not [I]naturally[/I] life mating animals. life-long monogamy is a social construct, not the way we naturally are

honestly you're the worst scientist i've ever met[/QUOTE]

oic


Either way.

Emotional attachment to the sex of a relationship.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]Ok I don't know if you'd call this a problem, but I need help.

I don't know if it's because I really like/love this girl or if it's because I'm nervous about tommorow, but I've felt like I have to throw up for the past 3 days ever since she told me how strongly she felt about me. I don't think it's a bad pain, but it's really getting annoying and I want this sick feeling in my stomach to go away. Is there any way to get rid of it without not thinking about her or can someone tell me why this feeling is there?[/QUOTE]

You are nervous? Excited? Its just a combination of all of your feelings so its making a little butterfly feeling in your tummy. Oh, the feeling of a fresh relationship.

btw, Ive been with my boyfriend for over 8 months and I still get that tummy feeling.

Okay, I've just had girlfriends in the past and I never got the tummy feeling like I do with her.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]If its going to happen, it will. But in case it doesnt, dont get too stressed about something you cant change. Just continue to be who you are, act normally (in general/to her).

Take it for what its worth, no relationship is a life or death situation. Just chill and Im sure things will be fine man.[/QUOTE]

thankyou very much :)

i think im just stressing too much. hopefully

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]Okay, I've just had girlfriends in the past and I never got the tummy feeling like I do with her.[/QUOTE]

It doesnt neccessarily mean you love her or anything. You could just be really fond and happy with her, which is causing you the tummy tickles. Dont make too much of it, enjoy it :)

It's hard to enjoy when I can barely eat. :-/

It's cool, I haven't really slept in two weeks.

I think it may be bad indigestion. That's how it feels.

Haha, it could be but butterflies and indigestion are two different things my friend.

You'll be able to tell the difference.

Either way, I hope it goes well. Theres nothing quite like young love.

I'm going on vacation next week for a week, and my GF is getting bummed about me leaving, so what can I do for her to make her more comfortable with my leaving? I was going to write her a love/letter to leave her with so she knows i'm thinking about her, type thing.

Well how do I know which is which? This feeling I have it's hard to burp, I feel like I just ate a lot of food, even though I haven't eaten anything, and I keep farting.

I doubt my farts are a symbol of fondness for a girl, haha.

At the same time though I have a feeling in my chest, around the heart area, but it's a nice warm feeling.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]Well how do I know which is which? This feeling I have it's hard to burp, I feel like I just ate a lot of food, even though I haven't eaten anything, and I keep farting.

I doubt my farts are a symbol of fondness for a girl, haha.

At the same time though I have a feeling in my chest, around the heart area, but it's a nice warm feeling.[/QUOTE]
okay love doesn't give you gas

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]I'm going on vacation next week for a week, and my GF is getting bummed about me leaving, so what can I do for her to make her more comfortable with my leaving? I was going to write her a love/letter to leave her with so she knows i'm thinking about her, type thing.[/QUOTE]

Thats probably a good thing to do. A love letter or something symbolic for her to read or look at if ever she misses you and whatnot.

Its pretty thoughtful and meaningful. Remind her a week isnt too long.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Thats probably a good thing to do. A love letter or something symbolic for her to read or look at if ever she misses you and whatnot.

Its pretty thoughtful and meaningful. Remind her a week isnt too long.[/QUOTE]
Yes, but me and her are pretty in love, and a week will seem like a year. :-(


I'm a little bummed about it, but i'm very happy to say for the first time in my history of GF's, i'm not worried in the slightest about her doing anything while i'm gone. I'm so glad I trust her 100%.

i don't like the sound of your relationship



theres a vibe to it

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]i don't like the sound of your relationship



theres a vibe to it[/QUOTE]
Hmmmm care to expand on that idea? :p

I know how you feel. I might be going to Montreal for a few days this week, and my boyfriend will be gone when I get back so we wont see each other maybe for a week (or talk) so I know how crappy that seems. But we both will be doing our own things, having fun and will have stories for each other when we both get back.

Ill miss him with oodles too. But its good that you both trust each other I guess..(its a week, not a couple months) so write her a love letter and she'll be fine.

K well me and my girlfriend broke up cuz of the distance thing. We both love and want to be with each other. She said that once we can see each other more we should go out again but i really dont think that will ever happen since we live far away. Do you think i should wait to see fi it does happen or just forget about it and go on with life and find somebody new.

[QUOTE=beeyotch]depends on your situation....
age, school, job, etc?[/QUOTE]


I have a job and i work about 4 times a week pary time, I usually have a lot of free time but she doesnt because she just moved.

[QUOTE=beeyotch]so she moved away because you are a bum?[/QUOTE]


No.

[QUOTE=beeyotch]So get a fulltime job, save some money, then pack up and move to where she lives.[/QUOTE]


I hate where she lives. Im not moving down there. I wouldnt be comfortable.

[QUOTE=Aakon_Keetreh]Do you think i should wait to see fi it does happen or just forget about it and go on with life and find somebody new.[/QUOTE]

Move on. Don't waste your time waiting for something that will probably never happen. Go out and look around. There's 3 billion other women on this planet. At least a few of them are local and will go out with you.

[QUOTE=beeyotch]So get a fulltime job, save some money, then pack up and move to where she lives.[/QUOTE]

Leave advice to the people who know what we're talking about.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Move on. Don't waste your time waiting for something that will probably never happen. Go out and look around. There's 3 billion other women on this planet. At least a few of them are local and will go out with you.



Leave advice to the people who know what we're talking about.[/QUOTE]


Im planning on moving on, but when we have sometime to hang out ill take advantage of it. I think the only problem is meeting the girls and such. Once i meet one that i want and can have a stable relationship with, i willbe with her. So in essence the problem is meeting the girls.

[QUOTE=Aakon_Keetreh]Im planning on moving on, but when we have sometime to hang out ill take advantage of it. I think the only problem is meeting the girls and such. Once i meet one that i want and can have a stable relationship with, i willbe with her. So in essence the problem is meeting the girls.[/QUOTE]

Well, what kind of women do you like? I mean personality-wise. Artistic, funny, energetic?

[QUOTE=beeyotch]Sorry, didn't realize you were the expert around here[/QUOTE]

That's "The Expert, [i]Sir[/i]".

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Well, what kind of women do you like? I mean personality-wise. Artistic, funny, energetic?



That's "The Expert, [i]Sir[/i]".[/QUOTE]


I like to be with fun girls that are energetic but not all the time. I want them layed back and relaxed. I want them to be funny also. Nice of course. Someone will good values. I guess the normal stuff. But i would like her to like good music

I.e. Iron maiden

[QUOTE=beeyotch]Good luck with that...
[I]almost[/I] all women are crazy.[/QUOTE]

yeah, no.

[QUOTE=beeyotch]Good luck with that...
[I]almost[/I] all women are crazy.[/QUOTE]

There are a LOT of crazy ones, but there also also A LOT MORE that are not crazy.

[QUOTE=beeyotch]Good luck with that...
[I]almost[/I] all women are crazy.[/QUOTE]
That's one of the dumbest things I've ever heard.

Everybody is crazy in his or her own right, really.

[QUOTE=Jom]Everybody is crazy in his or her own right, really.[/QUOTE]


Agreed.

[QUOTE=beeyotch]You just have to find one who is less crazy than the rest.[/QUOTE]
Dude, just stop. There are plenty of sane/good girls out there. You probably just have had some bad relationships.

[QUOTE=beeyotch]<------ is not a dude[/QUOTE]
Then your rational is even more screwed up.

[QUOTE=Aakon_Keetreh]I like to be with fun girls that are energetic but not all the time. I want them layed back and relaxed. I want them to be funny also. Nice of course. Someone will good values. I guess the normal stuff. But i would like her to like good music

I.e. Iron maiden[/QUOTE]

Have you considered hanging out in coffee bars, art galleries, and book stores?

[QUOTE=beeyotch]Good luck with that...
[I]almost[/I] all women are crazy.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=beeyotch]<------ is not a dude[/QUOTE]

...... Okay...

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Have you considered hanging out in coffee bars, art galleries, and book stores?
[/QUOTE]

Apparently he's got a couple dates this week already.

I can never think of anything to talk about on dates, and I hate awkward silence. Could anyone suggest some good topics and things to talk about?

[quote=ArC]I can never think of anything to talk about on dates, and I hate awkward silence. Could anyone suggest some good topics and things to talk about?[/quote]This is my problem too. I feel like I have to impress her the whole date, and be funny all the time. I just need some casual topics, and I would hope she'd do most of the talking because I'm a good listener. Well, that just means I care.

[QUOTE=ArC]I can never think of anything to talk about on dates, and I hate awkward silence. Could anyone suggest some good topics and things to talk about?[/QUOTE]
I like telling funny stories... but you've got to be able to deliver it well or you will sound like a jerk.

For example, I don't know how well this translates to a message board, but:

I was walking home one afternoon, and on the other side of the road I saw a couple of good looking girls so I smiled at them, and then I took a drink out of the bottle of coke I was carrying. The bottle popped, and the coke splashed into my eye! pwnd!

That always tides me over when I'm with my friends, anyway.

AAAAAHHHHHH!!!!!!

I'm so friggin' nervous about tommorow. When will tommorow come?? GAH such a slow day. :(