[QUOTE=followedformat]She asked me right in front of her boyfriend. Her boyfriend looked at me as if he was going to punch me in the face.[/QUOTE]
Purely innocent then. Just a matey thing.

Take this into consideration: do not get attached to taken girls. Obviously I'm not saying turn your feelings off, but the amount of people that falls for taken girls is stupid. I have little crushes on loads of girls, but most of them are taken so I just move on and look for someone new. There's always the 'Well if she was single...' but that's all it's gonna be. The sooner you get opver that the better.

That wasn't just aimed at you, it's to anyone in this thread with the same problem- and there are quite a few.

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]just assume she wants to be bent over by you[/QUOTE]

yeah, haha, i agree with this post

[QUOTE=SantaDuJuan]Aw man, I forgot to mention I only have 4 days to ask her out.
And I don't like coffee. ;)

I think I'll just invite her to see a movie.[/QUOTE]

...get something non-coffee then. Don't do a movie on a first date. :\

Anways..I'm bored. It's looking like this point in my life is going to be a terribly dry time for romance..and that sucks because I have so many big ideas for things I want to do with someone. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that sounds desperate I suppose. It's sad that I keep thinking up these awesomely romantic things to do and I have no one to ask out to do them, though.

I suppose the girl I asked out didn't feel it, which is also sad, because we had a terrible lot in common. Dunno why she might go out on a date with me, laugh and have a great time, even goof off with me a couple days later and then completely cold shoulder me. It seems like those situations where you are trying to get with someone and then you find out she has a cute, rich, muscular, spiced-with-a-hint-of-arrogance-though-it's-only-because-he's-nice-to-everyone, intellectual, musical, well-read, well-watched, motorcycle-riding boyfriend.

I suppose I should learn to ride a motorcycle. That might mean I had that list covered. I'd still need the girl, though.

/super-dramatic post

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]...get something non-coffee then. Don't do a movie on a first date. :\

Anways..I'm bored. [B]It's looking like this point in my life is going to be a terribly dry time for romance..and that sucks because I have so many big ideas for things I want to do with someone.[/B] Yeah, yeah, yeah, that sounds desperate I suppose. It's sad that I keep thinking up these awesomely romantic things to do and I have no one to ask out to do them, though.
[/QUOTE]
Yeah! I feel like that too, and I think I'm going to invite her to a show.
I don't know if she likes Punk Rock or Hip Hop, but I hope so, I so want to date her.

But then I feel like, maybe she's not for me? Like today, we discussed ceral on the bus, and was just having fun. But then on the Hike today, she was talking about how SMART AND SMART AND SMART she was to her friend (I was behind her), she sounded like a total differnt person.

I'm probably thinking to deeply.

But yeah, riding motorcycles is sweet.

[QUOTE=followedformat]So the girl I like has a boyfriend, the usual crap. I've posted here about this before. But last Saturday, my friends and I went to the movies and she was there. Her boyfriend was also there with us. During the movie, she sat in between me and her boyfriend but she didn't talk to her boyfriend at all. I just made lame jokes during the crappy parts of the movie and she laughed. After the movie, we walked around the mall. I walked next to her and her boyfriend walked next to his best friend (who is a dude by the way). We talked and laughed a lot. She invited me to see Superman Returns this weekend when we were talking. After the mall, we waited for our rides and she sat next to her boyfriend. Just on Monday, I found out that her boyfriend is going out of the country for a month. What the hell dude? Her boyfriend goes out of the country and she asks me to go the movies with her. I think we're going alone too. Is this weird or am I desperately overlooking this?[/QUOTE]

I'm kinda late due to all the other words of wisdom being tossed to you, but it sounds like she just wants to go as friends. She thinks your funny apparently, and a nice guy to talk to. It's hard to believe, but girls can have guy friends to keep them company even while they have a boyfriend. I curently really really like this girl who has been taken for 2 years, but we are still very very good and close friends, and she invited me to come over to her house to watch movies this weekend. Girls just like to have company, so don't think too much into it, and don't try to make any moves, especially while she has a boyfriend. Also if they break up, and this is if, don't hang onto the possibilities or you'll just hurt yourself waiting for it to happen, don't just go for it right there, because they could get back together. That's happened to me. Wait it out for a couple of weeks, and if you guys are still friends, which you both should be, then you can ask her out if you still have the same feelings. I'd be happy just knowing that she wants to be your friend and go to the movies with you, especially while she still has a boyfriend. Have fun at the movies though. :)

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]I'm kinda late due to all the other words of wisdom being tossed to you, but it sounds like she just wants to go as friends. She thinks your funny apparently, and a nice guy to talk to. It's hard to believe, but girls can have guy friends to keep them company even while they have a boyfriend. I curently really really like this girl who has been taken for 2 years, but we are still very very good and close friends, and she invited me to come over to her house to watch movies this weekend. Girls just like to have company, so don't think too much into it, and don't try to make any moves, especially while she has a boyfriend. Also if they break up, and this is if, don't hang onto the possibilities or you'll just hurt yourself waiting for it to happen, don't just go for it right there, because they could get back together. That's happened to me. Wait it out for a couple of weeks, and if you guys are still friends, which you both should be, then you can ask her out if you still have the same feelings. I'd be happy just knowing that she wants to be your friend and go to the movies with you, especially while she still has a boyfriend. Have fun at the movies though. :)[/QUOTE]
This is exactly what I was thinking. I just needed some opinions on it. Thank you. I just think that they won't break up. They've been going out for about half a year and I wish there was something I could do about it but all I can do is wait.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]I have AIM, but I seldom use it. It's so annoying.[/QUOTE]
Well, if you get the chance, could you log on to AIM for a couple minutes? I have some questions about some things that I think you could really help me with. I know it sounds bizarre, but it's true, haha.

AIM: Free Misery

So lately me and my girlfriend have had not much to talk about. Our conversations on the phone get very boring and we have like 2-4 not boring talks among the week (10-15 calls a week) Our relationship is getting boring. I love her and im really confused what to do. I was thinking to wait for a bit to see if it gets better and during that time if it doesnt emotionally prepare myself for the break up and what is to happen next. I really love her but something i think the thing that she isnt right for me.

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]It seems like those situations where you are trying to get with someone and then you find out she has a cute, rich, muscular, spiced-with-a-hint-of-arrogance-though-it's-only-because-he's-nice-to-everyone, intellectual, musical, well-read, well-watched, motorcycle-riding boyfriend.

I suppose I should learn to ride a motorcycle. That might mean I had that list covered. I'd still need the girl, though.

/super-dramatic post[/QUOTE]


from the way you put it, that guy sounds like a douche bag

[QUOTE=Towlie]from the way you put it, that guy sounds like a douche bag[/QUOTE]
actually he sounds pretty cool

hat is one of those posters i purposefully click on a thread to see post

/on topic in the[B][U][I] l[/I][/U][/B]&r thread

i'm so popular and everybody wants me

yeh everyone

its so cool

to
be

a star

happy day

so me and kaylee got into a big argument that just ended about 7 minutes ago.

because we're gay little teenagers it occured over AIM because nobody calls anybody this late and we don't see each other. but over a period of an hour and a half we became ticked off at each other. Some harsh words were thrown in, even though i did most of the talking cause she stopped talking to me for about 20 minutes.

It didn't necessarily turn out horrible, but good isn't an adjective to use either. I eventaully told her how i felt about her in a good amount of detail. To which she said she didnt know what to say. But a couple minutes later she still did say that she was mad at the fact that i was like yelling at her. I don't think she's picked up on the good that came from the whole argument. But meh, i'm working most of the day tomorrow so i won't get to talk to her till like 7. Maybe she'll have thought stuff through by then.

blah

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]i'm so popular and everybody wants me[/QUOTE]

it's cool to be unpopular

[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]so me and kaylee got into a big argument that just ended about 7 minutes ago.

because we're gay little teenagers it occured over AIM because nobody calls anybody this late and we don't see each other. but over a period of an hour and a half we became ticked off at each other. Some harsh words were thrown in, even though i did most of the talking cause she stopped talking to me for about 20 minutes.

It didn't necessarily turn out horrible, but good isn't an adjective to use either. I eventaully told her how i felt about her in a good amount of detail. To which she said she didnt know what to say. But a couple minutes later she still did say that she was mad at the fact that i was like yelling at her. I don't think she's picked up on the good that came from the whole argument. But meh, i'm working most of the day tomorrow so i won't get to talk to her till like 7. Maybe she'll have thought stuff through by then.

blah[/QUOTE]

She has the guilts about the closet interlude with Guad, it appears.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]She has the guilts about the closet interlude with Guad, it appears.[/QUOTE]

what

what should you get your girlfriend for her sweet sixteen? I know inside joke presents and everything are good, but is there something shes expecting, because she always just says she doesnt want anything, and you know she obviously expects something..

[QUOTE=Fish]what should you get your girlfriend for her sweet sixteen? I know inside joke presents and everything are good, but is there something shes expecting, because she always just says she doesnt want anything, and you know she obviously expects something..[/QUOTE]

well, be sure to get her something

my ex girlfriend persisted on me not getting her anything for her birthday. I really was going to, but decided not to at the last minute.

we broke up a day later

course i think the two events are unrelated, but still

[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]what[/QUOTE]

Didn't Guad run into a closet and she chased him and they ended up making out?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Didn't Guad run into a closet and she chased him and they ended up making out?[/QUOTE]

yeah

but i'm not seeing how you're relating that to my argument with her

that situation, in fact, was never brought up during it

what was the arguement about

Hey Everyone,

I read this thread from time to time, and there really is some great advice in it, but it seems no matter how much of it I apply, the girl thing doesn't work out for me. I am not really self-confident, but I have been working on that, and I think I am making progress. Anyway, to get to the point, there is this girl I really like that I met this summer. She is the nicest, coolest girl that I have ever met. I like everything about her that I know of. We were hanging out tonight with some friends and had a little bit to drink, and everything was going well at the party.

I guess I should go a little into the back story first. Don't worry, it's short :p. There is this guy that has a big crush on her also like I do. She just broke up with her boyfriend who she was living with, so she moved in with the guy with the crush on her and his friends because he had room at his place for her.

Now, I got home not long ago and was chatting with her and she proceeded to tell me how much she loved me and stuff like that (we were all a little tipsy, so I didn't take this to be some sort of sign or anything). Then she told me some messed up stuff about her childhood, which I listened to, and I was glad to help. Then she hit me with the big bomb that has really crushed my spirits:

"You know how they say in University that you make all these new friends, but then lose them, well you are going to be my friend for life."

Now, this made me happy and sad in a way. I really want something more with her, but this guy with the crush on her is much better with girls than I am, and something tells me that I am going to lose this for that reason as well as the fact that I seem to be in the "friend zone." She even told me I was good looking! I guess this is more of a rant than anything, but I am just really depressed right now about that one thing she said and I feel really ****ty. It also drives me crazy knowing he is there with her right now, and while that doesn't mean anything is happening, my mind is wandering to thoughts of what could be happening.

I guess I am just sick of seeing guys that get girls all the time get yet another girl while I, someone who would never wrong a girl if she just gave me a chance, am left in the dust again. I am 19 years old and sick of this. I understand I am not the only one in this situation, but I wish that just once I could get the girl. Now, I am still taking what she says with a grain of salt because she is relatively drunk right now, and still partially attached to her ex-boyfriend. They only broke up a couple of weeks ago. I know that now would not be the time to make a move anyway because it takes time to get over a break up, but dammit it drives me crazy knowing he is there with her right now!

This is more of a rant than anything, and I'm sorry for it being so long. No one has to reply, but I just need to get that stuff off my chest because I just don't understand how I get to be "just friends" with these girls. It has never bothered me so much as now because I have never liked a girl as much as this girl since my last very short relationship a couple of years ago. I am just gonna sleep on it, although I know I will see her around tomorrow, and when I see her I will be thinking of her and the guy. Oh well, I guess I will just have to move on. Thanks to anyone who reads this. No advice is necessary, but it would be appreciated. Like I said, though, this is a rant.

[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]yeah

but i'm not seeing how you're relating that to my argument with her

that situation, in fact, was never brought up during it[/QUOTE]

Of course it wasn't. But it's underlying.

[QUOTE=Drone]Dilema.[/QUOTE]

Steerpike always says this about the friendship thing: If you act like a best friend to a girl, that's all you'll ever be, because the girl will never date a best friend. This is paraphrased...when he sees this he can say exactly what he usually says correctly, but, my god, it's so true.

If you want to be more to a girl than friends, don't be a best friend. As a matter of fact, don't be a good friend, even. Don't be there to pick up the pieces; don't be there to hold her hand.

Don't listen to what people say when they are drunk. I've proposed before when I was drunk.

Hmmm. Yes I know Steerpike is good at this kind of thing. So how to I avoid helping her without her thinking I am an asshole. By the way, this is to be applied next time. I don't think there's much hope on this one. Thanks for the advice, though, I do feel better. :)

I wish he was here; he can explain it so much better than I can. I have it half formed in my mind in a girl's point of view, but can't articulate it so you know what to do for the next time.

Dammit.

post-argument

so my friend augie decides to mediate (along with my friend marley) the discussions between me and kaylee. (once again on AIM, in a chat room though).

me and kaylee start discussing our issues. We each bring up several points and whatnot. Eventually i think we worked crap out. but she said everything is gonna be really awkward now. But we were trying to think of ways to make it not, but we figure time is the only solution.

AIM isnt really a good place to have serious talks.

This should be a sticky.

It hasn't been a sticky for the past 2 or 3 years this has existed, it probably will remain that way.

[QUOTE=Drone] Then she hit me with the big bomb that has really crushed my spirits:

"You know how they say in University that you make all these new friends, but then lose them, well you are going to be my friend for life."

Now, this made me happy and sad in a way. I really want something more with her, but this guy with the crush on her is much better with girls than I am, and something tells me that I am going to lose this for that reason as well as the fact that I seem to be in the "friend zone." She even told me I was good looking! I guess this is more of a rant than anything, but I am just really depressed right now about that one thing she said and I feel really ****ty. It also drives me crazy knowing he is there with her right now, and while that doesn't mean anything is happening, my mind is wandering to thoughts of what could be happening.[/QUOTE]



Hang in there dude. I was in the "friend zone" for about 4 years with my current girlfriend. being friends is often a good way to start a relationship. if you're friends for a while, things won't be all awkward if and when you do start dating. And even if you don't ever date her, you'll end up having a great friend either way.

:chug:

[QUOTE=Indie Rocker]Hang in there dude. I was in the "friend zone" for about 4 years with my current girlfriend. being friends is often a good way to start a relationship. if you're friends for a while, things won't be all awkward if and when you do start dating. And even if you don't ever date her, you'll end up having a great friend either way.

:chug:[/QUOTE]

I couldn't have said it better. I probably would've said it worse, haha.

Thanks, man! You made me feel better. I guess I was just depressed that I may not have been able to be with her soon, but she just broke up with her boyfriend anyway. It would be rude to make a move for an emotional relationship at this point. This other guy might have me beat in the sex part at the moment, but I have qualities that he does not have such as the ability to make her laugh all the time. All is not lost, I guess I just got frustrated quite quickly, I will see what happens from here.

Edit: Nothing happened between them. She said they just watched Lord of the Rings, and she has never lied to me as far as I know, so this is fine by me. :D

*sigh*

I was gonna go to Sara's house this Sunday to watch a movie with her, but her mom said she was gonna be in the same room supervising. Then Sara asked her why she couldn't trust her, and now her mom's grounded her for the whole weekend.

Now I'm really bummed out. :(

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]*sigh*

I was gonna go to Sara's house this Sunday to watch a movie with her, but her mom said she was gonna be in the same room supervising. Then Sara asked her why she couldn't trust her, and now her mom's grounded her for the whole weekend.

Now I'm really bummed out. :([/QUOTE]

wtf..is she like 12?

No, she's 15. That's the weird part.

Leaving for vacation soon, for a week. This is the first time me and my girl are going to be apart. I'm going to be bummed. I got it bad. :(

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]No, she's 15. That's the weird part.[/QUOTE]

Hm. I dont know. I guess 15 still is a little young. But I dont see why she would supervise you guys watching a movie together. Its not like watching a movie together is a ticket to the love shack. Which I would hope to hell not, since she is only 15.