[QUOTE=Vannaroth]done :)[/QUOTE]

Thank you. :)

I also had another suggestion for him...I have some stuff called Kama Sutra (oil and also lotion) which kind of deadens the nerve endings. It prolongs the moment...

EDIT: Just a reminder...if anyone requires anonymity, my IMs are in my profile.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Bah. Everyone's anonymous on the internetz[.][/QUOTE]

Incorrect.

/creates a Kimmie mySpace account using the picture she sent me for her big avatar when I was on the staff

/invites tons of little children to be her friend

/imagines her door getting kicked down by the popo

Hey guys, been a while since I've given you folks down here in L&R a go, so here it is :p.

Last night I was hanging out with a girl and stuff at a party. And some moron was sittin' beside her and he wouldn't get up (Luckily he wasn't hittin' on her or anything). So once he finally got up and left, I sat down beside her and we talked some. And my intire plan for the day was to make my move at this party. Well, about 2 minutes into the convo she brings up that she's going to camp for the summer, and she only gets back on weekends. It just so happens my scheduele works the opposite. I'm away every single weekend this summer aside from two.

So after hearing about this, my mind just kinda' went blank and I stopped worrying about making my move.

Whata' I do? Should I make a move anyways? Or should I just maybe try and wait 'till the summer ends..or what??

Thanks in advance.

You should tell her before she leaves. And just explain the situation to her. If she's not interested then you have the whole summer to find someone else. If she is then you could write letters and stuff, girls like that. Then when she gets back... :naughty:

[QUOTE=Sun Ray™]You should tell her before she leaves. And just explain the situation to her. If she's not interested then you have the whole summer to find someone else. If she is then you could write letters and stuff, girls like that. Then when she gets back... :naughty:[/QUOTE]
Hahaha :p

Good thinking. Never thought of that.

Soooooo. I have this problem, sort of. So I'm 16, going to be a senior in high school. Now I have only really kissed 2 girls in my life. That's the farthest I've ever gotten with a girl. You see, I used to be fat and I really just did think anyone would really like me. I still kind of feel that way, but anyways, everyone else is starting to have sex and everything and I've never even gotten passed first base. So, I don't know what I should do about it. I really have no experience whatsoever to begin with. How would I be if I even tried to have sex with a girl.

And on another note, I don't even know how to, like, get with a girl, to begin with. I'll kind of flirt with girls, but nothing really happens after that. I don't understand how other people do it.

[QUOTE=allalone]Soooooo. I have this problem, sort of. So I'm 16, going to be a senior in high school. Now I have only really kissed 2 girls in my life. That's the farthest I've ever gotten with a girl. You see, I used to be fat and I really just did think anyone would really like me. I still kind of feel that way, but anyways, everyone else is starting to have sex and everything and I've never even gotten passed first base. So, I don't know what I should do about it. I really have no experience whatsoever to begin with. How would I be if I even tried to have sex with a girl.[/quote]

Well, you're farther along than I was at age sixteen (and a big FU to people who say 'Yeah and he's farther along than you are now lol!," hahaha).

Judging on this paragraph alone, you have some confidence issues to sort through. If you're not proud of the way you look, try to change it. Go jogging everyday for a mile, then work up to two or three. Bring music while you jog - it's not like you can jog with nothing going on. It helps me. Or, get a membership to a gym, if you'd like.

Secondly, like thedarkangel said, stop worrying about what others are doing. There is no curve you need to meet at age sixteen, and people aren't going to look down on you if you're a virgin while in high school. Because, hey, if that's the case, I would have been talked down to a lot, heh.

Third, do not worry about how you would last with a girl, or that you have 'no experience,' or what-have-you. Just don't think it. Experience comes with... well, experience. But you can't have the mentality that you can have a girlfriend who will put out for you on the first encounter. You should focus on keeping a healthy relationship first, and then building up from there. And don't look to por[font=verdana]n[/font] for help - there's a huge difference between that and what you should be striving for.

[quote]And on another note, I don't even know how to, like, get with a girl, to begin with. I'll kind of flirt with girls, but nothing really happens after that. I don't understand how other people do it.[/QUOTE]

Believe it or not, I asked friends for advice. Some of them had absolutely terrible suggestions, but some of them were pretty good. And then there are things I came up with on my own. But if you're that stuck, ask friends for tips and tricks. If they're your friends, they'll give you a straight answer.

[QUOTE=allalone]Soooooo. I have this problem, sort of. So I'm 16, going to be a senior in high school. Now I have only really kissed 2 girls in my life. That's the farthest I've ever gotten with a girl. You see, I used to be fat and I really just did think anyone would really like me. I still kind of feel that way, but anyways, everyone else is starting to have sex and everything and I've never even gotten passed first base. So, I don't know what I should do about it. I really have no experience whatsoever to begin with. How would I be if I even tried to have sex with a girl.

And on another note, I don't even know how to, like, get with a girl, to begin with. I'll kind of flirt with girls, but nothing really happens after that. I don't understand how other people do it.[/QUOTE]



It'll all come in time - when you feel confident and comfortable. Try talking to girls for friendship reasons - friendships sometimes develope into something more and it's lot more of an easy flow that way.

Don't worry about 'how far' others have got - most are probs exaggerating anyway! This guy used to tell everyone I'd slept with him when we hadn't even kissed! -_-

Jom's right - experience comes with experience - but there really is no rush. When the times right - it'll be a much nicer event - rather than doing it because you feel like you have to, and it being an awkward feeling.

And you never know whats round the corner, I wasn't expecting to find someone and never really search tbh - but I ended up being with someone a lot closer to home. The bassist in my band ahaha :D We started becoming friends and gradually it became something more.

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]Totally- which is wht I'm going with my friend Lucy :) Simple.

My prom is tonight :D:D[/QUOTE]

Hope you had a good prom! How was the after party? didn't get too trashed eh :p

I went to a party, climbed a climbingi frame, fell off, stomach onto the bottom pole. Ouch. It got recorded too *cringe*

[QUOTE=zealous]Hope you had a good prom! How was the after party? didn't get too trashed eh :p

I went to a party, climbed a climbingi frame, fell off, stomach onto the bottom pole. Ouch. It got recorded too *cringe*[/QUOTE]
Oh man it was AWESOME!!!

Ah goood :p remember much? haha glad you had a great night!

It just seems like it's really hard to find someone, or to get in a relationship with someone, when other people do it no problem.

[QUOTE=The_dark_angel]Most relationships are superficial imo which is why they don't last.[/QUOTE]

I've noticed that a lot of high school relationships don't last. I usually see these preppy kids walking down the hall with a different person about every two weeks, it's really lame. But the guys probably only go out with the preppy chicks to fu'ck them anyway, because all the preppy chicks I've encountered have been shallow, stupid, and obnoxious as fu'ck. I don't see any likable quality about them. No offense to any preppy chicks, I'm sure there's ones that aren't like this. God, I can't wait to get out of high school.

Edit: Actually, now that I think about it, most chicks at my school fall under the "fu'ckable, but not likable" category.

Having a defeatist attitude doesn't help you, either. You're not going to succeed if you don't give yourself a chance at all. And that's something that you and you alone need to fix; others (especially here) can't do it for you.

Actually, I don't even think I want to be in a relationship. I just wanna get experience.

[QUOTE=allalone]Actually, I don't even think I want to be in a relationship. I just wanna get experience.[/QUOTE]

You mean sex, right?

High school is full of whores, you'll have no problem there. And even the ones that don't appear to be whores probably are, you just have to press the right buttons.

i should probably get off the internet before i get in trouble, im gonna go read, later

[QUOTE=The_dark_angel]Seriously, you can't just expect girls to let you use them for experience. Concentrate on a relationship.[/QUOTE]
I really wasn't expecting that. I'm just saying, I'm not going to find a meaningful relationship where I'm at and with all these girls I know. I'm still in high school and I shouldn't really be concentrating on a relationship when I gotta get a job and have schoolwork and everything.

[QUOTE=Towlie]You mean sex, right?

High school is full of whores, you'll have no problem there. And even the ones that don't appear to be whores probably are, you just have to press the right buttons.

i should probably get off the internet before i get in trouble, im gonna go read, later[/QUOTE]
Not really sex. I haven't gotten past first base.

THe truth is, you're not really gonna find some magical formula or anything that will suddenly grant you the wisdom to get some experience.

You have to learn to accept humility. Accept rejection. It's gonna happen. It will happen a lot as you go through the rest of your life. Suck it up, and just go about trying to talk to girls first. Build up some conversation skills first. Make a few chicks laugh, and in turn, build up your confidence levels. Stuff like this is best in baby steps. You can't conquer Rome in one day.

Once you gain confidence with simply talking, all the rest will follow. Even the most naive shy introvert can read those signals. You aren't gonna find those skills in any piece of advice. You either learn for yourself, or go find a prostitute so you can at least blow that first load.

If you come back again with more whines, you should go bury your head in the sand and forget it.

[QUOTE=Towlie]I've noticed that a lot of high school relationships don't last. I usually see these preppy kids walking down the hall with a different person about every two weeks, it's really lame. But the guys probably only go out with the preppy chicks to fu'ck them anyway, because all the preppy chicks I've encountered have been shallow, stupid, and obnoxious as fu'ck. I don't see any likable quality about them. No offense to any preppy chicks, I'm sure there's ones that aren't like this. God, I can't wait to get out of high school.

Edit: Actually, now that I think about it, most chicks at my school fall under the "fu'ckable, but not likable" category.[/QUOTE]

Yeah tis true, the 'popular' girls at my school basically swapped boyfriends. It's so lame, and they all just do it to show off and boast about what they did - then use it to bitch when they break up. They just come across as whores.

Then you get the wannabes, who sleep with anyone anywhere - they're megawhores. :]

Some advice to anyone who thinks that what happens in high school is meaningful...


99% of it isn't

[QUOTE=EinzingerIsGod]Some advice to anyone who thinks that what happens in high school is meaningful...


99% of it isn't[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I don't expect to find true love in high school. I don't think anyone does, but some might.

The way I see it is, high school "love" is just a trip of fu'cking that just happens to last for 4 years.

[QUOTE=Towlie]Yeah, I don't expect to find true love in high school. I don't think anyone does, but some might.

The way I see it is, high school "love" is just a trip of fu'cking that just happens to last for 4 years.[/QUOTE]

High school love generally isn't (generally speaking)

[QUOTE=EinzingerIsGod]High school love generally isn't (generally speaking)[/QUOTE]

Yeah, it's pretty much (w)hor(e)mones.

[QUOTE=Towlie]Yeah, it's pretty much (w)hor(e)mones.[/QUOTE]

Haha, aye, I agree on that one.

[QUOTE=allalone]Soooooo. I have this problem, sort of. So I'm 16, going to be a senior in high school. Now I have only really kissed 2 girls in my life. That's the farthest I've ever gotten with a girl. You see, I used to be fat and I really just did think anyone would really like me. I still kind of feel that way, but anyways, everyone else is starting to have sex and everything and I've never even gotten passed first base. So, I don't know what I should do about it. I really have no experience whatsoever to begin with. How would I be if I even tried to have sex with a girl.

And on another note, I don't even know how to, like, get with a girl, to begin with. I'll kind of flirt with girls, but nothing really happens after that. I don't understand how other people do it.[/QUOTE]

You sound like me when I was in high school.:p I thought no girl in existence would ever want to be with me, even the ugly and fat ones(no offense to ugly and fat girls). Eventually after high school I pretty much woke up one day and looked in my mirror. "Fu[color=white]ck[/color] this. I hate the way I look." I decided it was time to set some personal goals.

So then I went into dieting and excercising hardcore for about 3 months straight. I went from 227 to 172 in about 4 months and I've kept it off since then. Once this happened, I gained a lot more confidence in myself.

The next thing I had to conquer was shyness. The way I did this was I went out of my way in my college classes and ESPECIALLY at work to force myself to talk to co-workers, even if it was just pointless garbage. This helped me develop my social skills and humor. Nowadays, I'm much more confident with my physical appearance and my confidence in general. I have a girl now that I really care about and things couldn't be better. I can assure you, once you get out of high school, the girls just aren't the same in college and in the real world, which is a good thing.

The only other advice I can give you is don't be afraid to put yourself out there. If you're denied, so what? Move on to your next goal.:thumb:

[QUOTE=zealous]Ah goood :p remember much? haha glad you had a great night![/QUOTE]
I remember everything unfortunately :p

Oh it was awesome. I have a huge crush on this teacher (:( + :embarrassed:) and she was there all dressed up nice so that was a pretty sight.

I got a huge hug from my history teacher who's about to retire, bless him. What a dude.

The party afterwards was interesting... ended up making out with this one guy a lot. Probably regret that the most, he's a bit of a psycho so I just hope he doesn't think anything else is going to happen.

God I love being single and 16.

[QUOTE]Soooooo. I have this problem, sort of. So I'm 16, going to be a senior in high school. Now I have only really kissed 2 girls in my life. That's the farthest I've ever gotten with a girl. You see, I used to be fat and I really just did think anyone would really like me. I still kind of feel that way, but anyways, everyone else is starting to have sex and everything and I've never even gotten passed first base. So, I don't know what I should do about it. I really have no experience whatsoever to begin with. How would I be if I even tried to have sex with a girl.

And on another note, I don't even know how to, like, get with a girl, to begin with. I'll kind of flirt with girls, but nothing really happens after that. I don't understand how other people do it.[/QUOTE]
This is gonna sound really generic and crap but whatever.

It doesn't matter.

I've spoken to so many people that regret their first time. Basically all my friends have had sex, and are in relationships with very active sex lives and I'm still a virgin.

You'll feel happier with yourself if you just wait it out rather than trying to find girls to experiment with, trust me. Sex and all that jazz is only part of a relationship and only a part of your life. At our age, everything is starting to change, new responsibilites and everything. It all happens so fast that sometimes you feel left behind and like you have to catch up. Take things at your own pace, everyone is different.

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]You'll feel happier with yourself if you just wait it out rather than trying to find girls to experiment with, trust me. Sex and all that jazz is only part of a relationship and only a part of your life. At our age, everything is starting to change, new responsibilites and everything. It all happens so fast that sometimes you feel left behind and like you have to catch up. Take things at your own pace, everyone is different.[/QUOTE]

This is exactly what I would say.

Wow things have changed since ive been gone....

MXtabs is closed again, the pit is renamed. i bet ppl were crying about that. lol.

but yea hey lads - hows thigns goin for everyone? Aint been on much, had my exams all month and what nots, been going up and down to see Sierra alot. We are getting on great =)

Weird thing, her grandma rang me today and was like "hi kevin this is grandma" and im like "lol wtf?" it was pretty funny on my part.
But yea i also had an interview today with Volunteer work, i hope i did ok, hopefully il be moving up with Sierra soon if it all goes well!

I spent the last week with her in her place, she is coming down here tomorrow.

There is a big music festival happening here at the weekend in Tramore, "Trafest" - its all these bands take over the streets, drinking all over, was hoping she could get to see it but no luck there.

Anyway im finished school for life, everything is going well.

yay!

x

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]This is gonna sound really generic and crap but whatever.

It doesn't matter.

I've spoken to so many people that regret their first time. Basically all my friends have had sex, and are in relationships with very active sex lives and I'm still a virgin.

You'll feel happier with yourself if you just wait it out rather than trying to find girls to experiment with, trust me. Sex and all that jazz is only part of a relationship and only a part of your life. At our age, everything is starting to change, new responsibilites and everything. It all happens so fast that sometimes you feel left behind and like you have to catch up. Take things at your own pace, everyone is different.[/QUOTE]

Couldn't put it better myself! Lots of my friends say regret losing their virginity. Most even hate the guys they lost it to.

I'm still a virgin, there's no rush. Once it's happened, there's no going back - but there is plenty of time for it.

[QUOTE=~grif~]Wow things have changed since ive been gone....

MXtabs is closed again, the pit is renamed. i bet ppl were crying about that. lol.

but yea hey lads - hows thigns goin for everyone? Aint been on much, had my exams all month and what nots, been going up and down to see Sierra alot. We are getting on great =)
[/QUOTE]

Things have been going pretty well for me. Went camping with some friends and my girlfriend last weekend. I've just been busy working to make money for bills to pay rent and such.

[QUOTE=zealous]Couldn't put it better myself! Lots of my friends say regret losing their virginity. Most even hate the guys they lost it to.

I'm still a virgin, there's no rush. Once it's happened, there's no going back - but there is plenty of time for it.[/QUOTE]
:h5: :)

ok, i need help here...

basically, i know my character. i'm a virgin, and i know that if i get in a relationship and have sex, im eventually gonna break up with the girl.

i feel ready for sex, and theres this camp coming up, and this girl i met last year has expressed interest in meeting up

so question: do i lose my virginity to someone who i will only see for one week a year, and possibly remain in contact and friendly with forever, or do i wait until im in a relationship, have sex, break up, hate each other and never speak?

I wish I could say I was still a virgin.

[QUOTE=Corkofski]ok, i need help here...

basically, i know my character. i'm a virgin, and i know that if i get in a relationship and have sex, im eventually gonna break up with the girl.

i feel ready for sex, and theres this camp coming up, and this girl i met last year has expressed interest in meeting up

so question: do i lose my virginity to someone who i will only see for one week a year, and possibly remain in contact and friendly with forever, or do i wait until im in a relationship, have sex, break up, hate each other and never speak?[/QUOTE]

Thats really your choice and nobody elses. How do you even know you're gonna have sex anyway during this camp?

[QUOTE=Corkofski]ok, i need help here...

basically, i know my character. i'm a virgin, and i know that if i get in a relationship and have sex, im eventually gonna break up with the girl.

i feel ready for sex, and theres this camp coming up, and this girl i met last year has expressed interest in meeting up

so question: do i lose my virginity to someone who i will only see for one week a year, and possibly remain in contact and friendly with forever, or do i wait until im in a relationship, have sex, break up, hate each other and never speak?[/QUOTE]

Personally I'd go for the relationship, but that's just me. Do what you feel is best. And if you decide to not have sex with this girl at camp it doesn't mean there aren't other options...

[QUOTE=Corkofski]ok, i need help here...

basically, i know my character. i'm a virgin, and i know that if i get in a relationship and have sex, im eventually gonna break up with the girl.

i feel ready for sex, and theres this camp coming up, and this girl i met last year has expressed interest in meeting up

so question: do i lose my virginity to someone who i will only see for one week a year, and possibly remain in contact and friendly with forever, or do i wait until im in a relationship, have sex, break up, hate each other and never speak?[/QUOTE]

Your situation doesn't seem realistic.

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]This is gonna sound really generic and crap but whatever.

It doesn't matter.

I've spoken to so many people that regret their first time. Basically all my friends have had sex, and are in relationships with very active sex lives and I'm still a virgin.

You'll feel happier with yourself if you just wait it out rather than trying to find girls to experiment with, trust me. Sex and all that jazz is only part of a relationship and only a part of your life. At our age, everything is starting to change, new responsibilites and everything. It all happens so fast that sometimes you feel left behind and like you have to catch up. Take things at your own pace, everyone is different.[/QUOTE]
It just seems like everyone else is doing stuff and I'm being left out. I just think I'm going be like 21 with no experience whatsoever. I don't know. I guess I'll just wait it out.

[QUOTE=Corkofski]ok, i need help here...

basically, i know my character. i'm a virgin, and i know that if i get in a relationship and have sex, im eventually gonna break up with the girl.

i feel ready for sex, and theres this camp coming up, and this girl i met last year has expressed interest in meeting up

so question: do i lose my virginity to someone who i will only see for one week a year, and possibly remain in contact and friendly with forever, or do i wait until im in a relationship, have sex, break up, hate each other and never speak?[/QUOTE]

Hmm, things may have changed since that last year, I'd wait to see how the relationship developes. It may not even be an option?
Of course, it is your choice. However, I'd rethink the consequences from all angles.