I haven't posted in ages! Hardly used to post anyway. So, my 6 or 7 month relationship ended saturday night. Really weird, all of a sudden she didn't seem to be interested in me anymore. We talked and agreed to split up and ****, and the weird thing is she's flirting with me more than ever now!
I think confidence really does help, I got my hair cut and I feel like a new man. I'm actually standing straighter and holding my head higher. The irony is that I think that's what is attracting her to me again and it was her encouraging me to grow my hair in the first place even though I really hated it.
It's confusing me alot. She was my first girlfriend and most of my first times for everything occured with her. I really love her and can't get her out of my head but i'm not sure if she still feels that way or if i'm reading too much into her flirtyness. It sucks to be alone again, at least i'm not depressed yet. :)

[QUOTE=Fire Whispers]QUESTION:

Is confidence really such a turn on for girls? I know a lot of girls say it, and it seems to be true, but how can you display this confidence while still being nice to them? Because from what I've observed it's generally one or the other :-\

I know there's a difference between being an arrogant prick and confidence though, so I don't need to hear that, it just seems like being confident can sometimes overshadows the kindness. Or maybe the guys in my town are just a[U]s[/U]sholes?[/QUOTE]

Being nice to women without being a p[SIZE="2"]u[/SIZE]ssy (sorry for the language...) shows a lot more confidence than being mean to them.

Most girls in the 16-25yr old demographic won't expect you to hold doors (or really, pay their way) anymore, but they will expect that you respect them.

Confidence isn't what actions you take or things you say, it's the tone of your voice and eye contact, and even being a little ballsy when it comes to interaction. It's really the lack of fear of failure.

One huge thing that I've noticed is that teenage guys don't have the balls to ask a girl out on a date, and most girls in my age group have never been on a date. Asking a girl out on a date opens doors. It shows the confidence to lay your intentions on the table, plus it's respectful.

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[QUOTE=Face Baner]I haven't posted in ages! Hardly used to post anyway. So, my 6 or 7 month relationship ended saturday night. Really weird, all of a sudden she didn't seem to be interested in me anymore. We talked and agreed to split up and ****, and the weird thing is she's flirting with me more than ever now!
I think confidence really does help, I got my hair cut and I feel like a new man. I'm actually standing straighter and holding my head higher. The irony is that I think that's what is attracting her to me again and it was her encouraging me to grow my hair in the first place even though I really hated it.
It's confusing me alot. She was my first girlfriend and most of my first times for everything occured with her. I really love her and can't get her out of my head but i'm not sure if she still feels that way or if i'm reading too much into her flirtyness. It sucks to be alone again, at least i'm not depressed yet. :)[/QUOTE]

I wouldn't put much stock in her being flirty. Now, on the other hand, if she actually says something concrete, you can go from there.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I wouldn't put much stock in her being flirty. Now, on the other hand, if she actually says something concrete, you can go from there.[/QUOTE]

This is for the guy but kimmies post was closer and yea.

Im kinda in the same boat. It almost seems as if my ex of now 3 weeks is crushing on me again... We speant like, 2 hours together Monday and talk all the time and other flirty little actions, yet it could always be a guilt feeling thing or she just wants to be good friends. Bottom line, just go with it and see what happens.

*Wishes we were back together but then doesnt*

*still wants to strangle friend that has uber big problems... who wants to join?**

I'll help you with the strangling. I'll pretend it's my axe murderer guy.

God that guy creeped me out.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I'll help you with the strangling. I'll pretend it's my axe murderer guy.[/QUOTE]

We can all for a mob! Yay!

So whatever happened to ur guy?

He's still around, driving me crazy(ier).

No more interesting stories? *is sad*

I've been trying to stay away from him lately. Ever since he decided that too much of my attention was focused on mx.

Ha! Well tis good he's not a stalker.

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]Being nice to women without being a p[SIZE="2"]u[/SIZE]ssy (sorry for the language...) shows a lot more confidence than being mean to them.

Most girls in the 16-25yr old demographic won't expect you to hold doors (or really, pay their way) anymore, but they will expect that you respect them.

Confidence isn't what actions you take or things you say, it's the tone of your voice and eye contact, and even being a little ballsy when it comes to interaction. It's really the lack of fear of failure.

One huge thing that I've noticed is that teenage guys don't have the balls to ask a girl out on a date, and most girls in my age group have never been on a date. Asking a girl out on a date opens doors. It shows the confidence to lay your intentions on the table, plus it's respectful.

teehhee I got 5000th[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I kind of get it I suppose. But, like I'm nice to girls, yet I don't know maybe I'm just nice in the wrong way? (I pay for stuff and hold doors and such like you said :-\)

I have the balls to ask a girl out on a date. I've done it tons of times. I've still been told I come across as having no confidence, and I don't know why.

[QUOTE=pohl_56]Ha! Well tis good he's not a stalker.[/QUOTE]

I'd venture to guess that he might have come here a few times after that to see if I'm here.

Would it be weird to ask a girl out I've never met in person? I talk to her occasionally on MSN, but not often.

Normally, I would try to hang out with her a bit first, but she isn't the kind that normally asssociates with my "clique" or whatever, so it's difficult. I don't to seem creepy, since she's never met me, lol.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]Would it be weird to ask a girl out I've never met in person? I talk to her occasionally on MSN, but not often.

Normally, I would try to hang out with her a bit first, but she isn't the kind that normally asssociates with my "clique" or whatever, so it's difficult. I don't to seem creepy, since she's never met me, lol.[/QUOTE]

Just say ya'll should hang out sometime, thats usually the most casual thing to do. I wouldn't go for a date just yet, you have to get to know each other's true personalities first, as online=/=real life.



So, tomorrow I have a first date/hang out/whatever with this one girl. I have some ideas of what to possibly do, just none of them seem...all that great. Anyone have any suggestions on good stuff to do/not to do (i.e activies)? I don't care on how to act around her, I'll just be myself.

I know movies is a bad idea and blah blah

Coffee shop? Cafe? Picnic?

[QUOTE=clairvoyant]Just say ya'll should hang out sometime, thats usually the most casual thing to do. I wouldn't go for a date just yet, you have to get to know each other's true personalities first, as online=/=real life.[/QUOTE]
It's not that simple though. =|

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]It's not that simple though. =|[/QUOTE]

Hmm...

Well whats the whole deal with the different cliques thing?

im so relieved.

she said she'd stop with aderall.

also, I basically told her how I feel tonight... her response was basically:

I really like you too, I've liked you for a long time, I can't see myself with you though because sometimes you just act so weird... you aren't serious at all sometimes and I like you when you're serious, etc.

Ironically I get that way around her because I'm so nervous around her :upset:.

I'm gonna try being more 'serious' around her though.

[QUOTE=clairvoyant]Hmm...

Well whats the whole deal with the different cliques thing?[/QUOTE]
Meh, I meant she's not the kind of girl who'd have much fun hanging around with most of my friends. She's kind of preppy, and I hang out with a bunch of smelly hooligans. It would be kind of awkward. I'd like to either hang out with just her, or her and her friends, but I'm not sure what we could possibly do. The only thing we have around here is a movie theater, which is lame. If it's just me and her, wouldn't it basically seem like a date anyway? I'd like to meet her somewhere where we're both comfortable, I just don't have any ideas.

Of course, I'm a worrier, so I'll worry about something stupid, even if it's nothing worth worrying about.

In other news, I'm creeped out by some girl my friend knows. She wrote me a friendly note and told my friend to give it to me, and I have no clue who this girl is. I think I attract the crazies. =[

Just her, or just her friends will just make it hard on you and your friends.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]Meh, I meant she's not the kind of girl who'd have much fun hanging around with most of my friends. She's kind of preppy, and I hang out with a bunch of smelly hooligans. It would be kind of awkward. I'd like to either hang out with just her, or her and her friends, but I'm not sure what we could possibly do. [/QUOTE]

I'd try hanging out with just her.

You could ask her what she wants to do?

I would just have her over, or go out to eat or something. Does it matter if it counts as a date or not? I mean, I would never go out with a girl on the internet. It's easy to lie on the internet.

[QUOTE=telemore]Just her, or just her friends will just make it hard on you and your friends.[/QUOTE]
I don't want her around my friends. There would be way too many rude jokes and, uhh, jealous comments from some of them. She seems like the polar opposite of those kids.

[QUOTE=clairvoyant]I'd try hanging out with just her.

You could ask her what she wants to do?[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I always seem to overlook the obvious answers like that. =\

But asking her to hang out wouldn't seem weird, if it ended up just being me and her?

[QUOTE=Sabian4015]I would just have her over, or go out to eat or something. Does it matter if it counts as a date or not? I mean, I would never go out with a girl on the internet. It's easy to lie on the internet.[/QUOTE]
We have some mutual aquaintances and things. The area I live in is really tight-knit, as in, everyone knows everyone else. I've probably met her before, and don't remember.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I don't want her around my friends. There would be way too many rude jokes and, uhh, jealous comments from some of them. She seems like the polar opposite of those kids.[/QUOTE]
So that when you hit it off with this chick, you've got to constantly decide between your friends and a girl?

Have fun with that bro.

I would just do something in order to talk to eachother and get to know eachother and see if you have chemisty.

ps 500th post!

Yea, ask her if she wants to get something to eat, or get some coffee or something. Take her to a quiet place, that's not too serious and really relaxed and chill, and just talk.

See if you got a connection or not.

Yeah, but that would pretty much just seem like a date, which is what I would like to avoid. If we're around a few other people, it'll be much easier. I'm a little shy when I first meet people, unless there's some other conversation and stuff going on around me.

[QUOTE=telemore]So that when you hit it off with this chick, you've got to constantly decide between your friends and a girl?

Have fun with that bro.[/QUOTE]
Not at all. I don't want to get into all of that, but I won't have to pick between anyone, hopefully. I'll worry about that when and if the time comes. Right now, I've not even met the girl in person, so there's no point in thinking about that.

Yea, true that.

yea so im not one to beleive in what dreams have to say. But i had this one last night that has been eting at me really badly. well it was actully two dreams back to back.

well the first one was i was in school and sitting at a desk. I had a needle in my hand i jammed the needle in to my skin. then i would scoop out the skin and while the finger was bleeding i would start drawing spirals and circles on the desk.

then the secound dream is that im sitting next to this girl that im really in to. and i start hitting on her and she turns me down, and says smething like " ill never go out with you, you pathetic timid..." i woke up when she said that.

Am i just looking to much in to this or is it trying to tell me something.