[QUOTE=Blue Haze]Can I use this thread to brag about how well my relationship is going?[/QUOTE]

Yes you can, baby.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Yes you can, baby.[/QUOTE]

Woo!

Alright

*takes deep breath*

I don't even know where to start. I guess I'll start with him making me feel so special, I dunno, it could be because we're still in the honeymoon period, but we get on so well. We haven't even come close to an arguement yet, because we just understand each other.

Sometimes he'll say something, and it'll be just like something I was either thinking of saying at the time, or something that I'd say myself. I don't have to pretend around him. I don't have to put on an act to impress him (and he's said the same about me) and I can just let my hair down and be silly around him. He makes me laugh so much sometimes I have to stop because I'll pee everywhere if I don't.

When I stay over at his house (which is very often), when I wake up in the morning, despite me looking terrible with yesterday's make up on, and my breath smelling awful, he'll still kiss and cuddle me and make me feel like the most beautiful girl in the world. The other day when I came out of the shower in the morning, he'd made me breakfast and a coffee, which was really really nice of him, and I guess it's just those little things he does that really stand out. Like the other week when I had an exam in the morning, he made sure that I had some breakfast so that I didn't feel ill and stuff.

He rings me and stuff, and sends me little text messages when I'm at work just to remind me that he's thinking about me and that he loves me.

The other night, we went out to the pub and it was a busy Friday night, there were plenty of girls out, all looking gorgeous, but everytime he looked at me, it was as if I was the only girl in the room and that it was just us.

When I'm poorly, he wont go anywhere until I feel better. The other day at his house I got really sick and nearly collapsed and started shaking, and he was there, with a cold cloth to keep my head cool and a glass of water, and put my favourite DVD on to watch, and he just sat there and held my hand till I felt better.

Also, he's absolutely gorgeous. He has the most beautiful blue eyes I have ever seen in my life, and a smile that still gives me butterflies and wobbly knees. And the way he kisses me too, you know? He kisses me like he really means it.

There is SO much more I could put here, but I'm going to stop now before you all start puking. Thanks for letting me get all that out.

Baby, he sounds awesome. He sounds like someone that you could be married to and the marriage would last forever. I'm so glad that you found him (after the crap you had to put up with before).

:):):)

I'm treating that crap as a learning curve. I'm not going to put up with that again, and if anything, I'm glad he hurt me so much because it's made me alot stronger. Cheesy, but true.

:)

[SIZE="2"]p.s check your usercp.[/SIZE]

And, that's right. That's how it happens. Your lines are more dilineated.

Oh hell yeah baby. :D

I forgot to ask, do you still talk to that guy who posted on here for a bit? The one who posted like he was writing a mystery 18th century novel?

EDIT: I am going to feel SO crappy if you're still good friends with him and I've just offended you. :upset:

Wow, Becky. That sounds fantastic. 'Twas a good read that gave me a smile and reminded me of my ladyfriend :)

[QUOTE=Blue Haze]Oh hell yeah baby. :D

I forgot to ask, do you still talk to that guy who posted on here for a bit? The one who posted like he was writing a mystery 18th century novel?[/QUOTE]

Yes. I seriously think I need to kill him soon.

Aww I'm glad. :) Thank you, and I wish you and your special ladyfriend all the best.

[QUOTE=AtomShip]To Simon,
*big post editted for convenience*[/QUOTE]
Oh my God.. This sounds so much like my ex it isn't funny. All I wanted my ex to do was realise and live up to her potential, but she couldn't or wouldn't, I'm not sure. She led me on hardcore. And my ex had this problem where she wanted everybody to like her, to a point where she lied to people and told contradictory stories/opinions to different people just so they wouldn't think less of her or whatever. I will say this for her though, for the time when she was committed to me, and I to her, it was some of the happiest times I've had, because when she was committed she really was and it was great. Your girl sounds like the same sort of person, ie., hard to really get on board but once she's on you'll both have a ball. I'll stand by what I and someone else said before; call her when she gets back, keep it friendly, remind her how much fun you undoubtadly are to be around, and keep it cool. If it's meant to happen, it'll happen. I know that's kind of cliche, and I don't really believe in fate to be honest, but from what I've seen these things seem to work out. Overall, I think someone elses advice was spot on when they just said "keep it cool :cool:"

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Yes. I seriously think I need to kill him soon.[/QUOTE]

Oh dear things not going too well?

Sorry it took me so long to reply, MX went really slow for a couple of minutes.

[QUOTE=Blue Haze]Aww I'm glad. :) Thank you, and I wish you and your special ladyfriend all the best.[/QUOTE]

:D


Thanks indeed.

I'm back with more on crazy bitch! Recently she hasn't been on, and when she has been, we haven't talked, until now:
her: yup.
her: whatsup
me: nothing
her: fun.
her: ...it sounds like theres a rat scratching on the door outside...:-\
me: ok
parisx3 inflames: bye.
me: ok

Auto response from her: oh, i don't know...<3
she returned at 10:57:52 PM.
she is away at 10:58:04 PM.

and her message was "...a[size="2"]ss[/size]hole"

She really is fu[size="2"]ck[/size]in psycho.

Dude, why don't you just block her or put her on ignore?

Because I like being a jackass by making away messages like "Slitting my wrists because I'm such a jerk". She seems to brag about her past cutting history a lot. Plus, I like to keep MX updated on the whole situation because I know you all care.

Indeed we do. Can't wait for the next chapter in this lovely little saga.

I'm glad your 5,000 post pertained to me.

[QUOTE=Simon__Thats_All]Oh my God.. This sounds so much like my ex it isn't funny. All I wanted my ex to do was realise and live up to her potential, but she couldn't or wouldn't, I'm not sure. She led me on hardcore. And my ex had this problem where she wanted everybody to like her, to a point where she lied to people and told contradictory stories/opinions to different people just so they wouldn't think less of her or whatever. I will say this for her though, for the time when she was committed to me, and I to her, it was some of the happiest times I've had, because when she was committed she really was and it was great. Your girl sounds like the same sort of person, ie., hard to really get on board but once she's on you'll both have a ball. I'll stand by what I and someone else said before; call her when she gets back, keep it friendly, remind her how much fun you undoubtadly are to be around, and keep it cool. If it's meant to happen, it'll happen. I know that's kind of cliche, and I don't really believe in fate to be honest, but from what I've seen these things seem to work out. Overall, I think someone elses advice was spot on when they just said "keep it cool :cool:"[/QUOTE]
Yeah thanks man, my friend told me to not be so into her, like dont try to force something and put yourself out there for her to go after.

Ok so,

My best friend had alot of problems with guys in the past, and this kind of put her off dating or getting involved with anyone for practically the whole time i've known her (Year and a half). As of last week she has a boyfriend, and he seems like a really nice guy and completely different from the others who have treated her like s[SIZE="2"]hit[/SIZE].

On one hand im really happy for her and glad shes found someone who treats her like she should be, and on the other im really worried and getting to be quite depressed because during the time i have known her she has been the only person supportive of me, cheered me up without fail when im down, and just generally become more important to me than anybody else, and i'm pretty sure she appreciated me being the same way back to her, and that i was/am one of her best friends.

So now im afraid that now she has this new guy she's going to forget all about me. I guess i'm being kind of negative and deep down i think i really know that she will stick by me no matter what but, i can't stop worrying about losing her and she's the closest i've ever come to loving somebody.
Just to clear things up i am not interested in dating her it is merely the friendship and the kind of relationship we had which i am afraid is going to up and go.

On top of that i have to wear a heart monitor for a week straight which means i can't shower, and it is SO friggen itchy, grrr. And im loaded with work and all kinds of stress problems lately, i don't know what to do. :(

Thanks to anyone who reads this, i'll be back in a while to see how you're all goin.

[QUOTE=Blue Haze]Woo!

Alright

*takes deep breath*

I don't even know where to start. I guess I'll start with him making me feel so special, I dunno, it could be because we're still in the honeymoon period, but we get on so well. We haven't even come close to an arguement yet, because we just understand each other.

Sometimes he'll say something, and it'll be just like something I was either thinking of saying at the time, or something that I'd say myself. I don't have to pretend around him. I don't have to put on an act to impress him (and he's said the same about me) and I can just let my hair down and be silly around him. He makes me laugh so much sometimes I have to stop because I'll pee everywhere if I don't.

When I stay over at his house (which is very often), when I wake up in the morning, despite me looking terrible with yesterday's make up on, and my breath smelling awful, he'll still kiss and cuddle me and make me feel like the most beautiful girl in the world. The other day when I came out of the shower in the morning, he'd made me breakfast and a coffee, which was really really nice of him, and I guess it's just those little things he does that really stand out. Like the other week when I had an exam in the morning, he made sure that I had some breakfast so that I didn't feel ill and stuff.

He rings me and stuff, and sends me little text messages when I'm at work just to remind me that he's thinking about me and that he loves me.

The other night, we went out to the pub and it was a busy Friday night, there were plenty of girls out, all looking gorgeous, but everytime he looked at me, it was as if I was the only girl in the room and that it was just us.

When I'm poorly, he wont go anywhere until I feel better. The other day at his house I got really sick and nearly collapsed and started shaking, and he was there, with a cold cloth to keep my head cool and a glass of water, and put my favourite DVD on to watch, and he just sat there and held my hand till I felt better.

Also, he's absolutely gorgeous. He has the most beautiful blue eyes I have ever seen in my life, and a smile that still gives me butterflies and wobbly knees. And the way he kisses me too, you know? He kisses me like he really means it.

There is SO much more I could put here, but I'm going to stop now before you all start puking. Thanks for letting me get all that out.[/QUOTE]


God, I hope I get a chance to be like this again.

It sounds like some sappy junk out of a romance novel, but I know it happens because I've been there. Eh...live and learn.

:) It makes me feel good when I hear about anyone who's actually in a great relationship, especially when they're best friends.

[QUOTE=Jo Shoe Wah]Ok so,

My best friend had alot of problems with guys in the past, and this kind of put her off dating or getting involved with anyone for practically the whole time i've known her (Year and a half). As of last week she has a boyfriend, and he seems like a really nice guy and completely different from the others who have treated her like s[SIZE="2"]hit[/SIZE].

On one hand im really happy for her and glad shes found someone who treats her like she should be, and on the other im really worried and getting to be quite depressed because during the time i have known her she has been the only person supportive of me, cheered me up without fail when im down, and just generally become more important to me than anybody else, and i'm pretty sure she appreciated me being the same way back to her, and that i was/am one of her best friends.

So now im afraid that now she has this new guy she's going to forget all about me. I guess i'm being kind of negative and deep down i think i really know that she will stick by me no matter what but, i can't stop worrying about losing her and she's the closest i've ever come to loving somebody.
Just to clear things up i am not interested in dating her it is merely the friendship and the kind of relationship we had which i am afraid is going to up and go.

On top of that i have to wear a heart monitor for a week straight which means i can't shower, and it is SO friggen itchy, grrr. And im loaded with work and all kinds of stress problems lately, i don't know what to do. :(

Thanks to anyone who reads this, i'll be back in a while to see how you're all goin.[/QUOTE]
Except for the heart monitor thing I can totally relate. I have this friend, and I love her to bits (as a friend) and she's recently got a new boyfriend.

I've known him for years and he's a totally awesome guy. She's had trouble with guys before in the past and they're really sweet together.

Now I don't do the 'best friend' thing because I've found it always causes arguments and whatever, but as far as mates go she's probably my closest.

When they first started going out I had mega jealousy issues. Now to begin with I thought it was cause I had a bit of a crush on him- then I realised it wasn't that at all.

She doesn't speak to me much anymore out of school, and she's always going on about him, he writes songs for her and takes her out for meals and whatever. And since they started going out we've been having loads of little arguments and it's always getting me down.

Pfft I dunno. I started writing this to try and offer advice but I guess it turned into my own little rant.

Emily, you'd feel better about your situation if you had someone of your own. I know that's not a lot of comfort, but it's the truth, unfortunately.

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]God, I hope I get a chance to be like this again.

It sounds like some sappy junk out of a romance novel, but I know it happens because I've been there. Eh...live and learn.

:) It makes me feel good when I hear about anyone who's actually in a great relationship, especially when they're best friends.[/QUOTE]

Thank you. I hope you find it again, I really do. :)

[QUOTE=Jo Shoe Wah]Ok so,

My best friend had alot of problems with guys in the past, and this kind of put her off dating or getting involved with anyone for practically the whole time i've known her (Year and a half). As of last week she has a boyfriend, and he seems like a really nice guy and completely different from the others who have treated her like s[SIZE="2"]hit[/SIZE].

On one hand im really happy for her and glad shes found someone who treats her like she should be, and on the other im really worried and getting to be quite depressed because during the time i have known her she has been the only person supportive of me, cheered me up without fail when im down, and just generally become more important to me than anybody else, and i'm pretty sure she appreciated me being the same way back to her, and that i was/am one of her best friends.

So now im afraid that now she has this new guy she's going to forget all about me. I guess i'm being kind of negative and deep down i think i really know that she will stick by me no matter what but, i can't stop worrying about losing her and she's the closest i've ever come to loving somebody.
Just to clear things up i am not interested in dating her it is merely the friendship and the kind of relationship we had which i am afraid is going to up and go.

On top of that i have to wear a heart monitor for a week straight which means i can't shower, and it is SO friggen itchy, grrr. And im loaded with work and all kinds of stress problems lately, i don't know what to do. :(

Thanks to anyone who reads this, i'll be back in a while to see how you're all goin.[/QUOTE]


I know what you mean as well. Im in that sorta position your friend is in, I havent had a girlfriend for a while, or at least one that hasnt been a complete bitch and treated me poorly. Recently ive fallen for this amazing girl and I know she really likes me too. I personally know where the boundries are between spending enough time with her and my mates and when im spending most of my time with her and not much with my friends. Whether or not your friend knows this line Im not sure.

You need to just try and see her whenever you can, take things as usual like if you go out shopping with each other or whatever, I mean if you go to college then hang about with each other at lunch and breaks. You going to have to get use to some of your time with her being taken away from you but if you feel too much is being taken away then you need to make it clear to her that you feel you are getting more distant since she has been seeing this guy. If it comes to that you obviously need to make it clear that you just want to spenda little more time with her, try not to make it a 'Me, me, me' type scenario.

I think the best thing to do at the moment it just take things as normal and see how they go, as I said, you may expect to see her a little less, or when you see her that he is with her but if it becomes that either you arent seeing her much at all or that whenever you do see her, he is with her just tell her you want to spend more time with her on her own :)

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Emily, you'd feel better about your situation if you had someone of your own. I know that's not a lot of comfort, but it's the truth, unfortunately.[/QUOTE]
Yeah probably. I just have mega jealousy issues with my friends because they're so much more streetwise than me when it comes to relationships.

I just... I just don't enjoy being in relationships :-/ I don't like being attached to someone.

I need to find a way to deal with it because I become bitter towards my friends and it's not their problem at all- it's mine.

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]Yeah probably. I just have mega jealousy issues with my friends because they're so much more streetwise than me when it comes to relationships.

[B]I just... I just don't enjoy being in relationships :-/ I don't like being attached to someone.

I need to find a way to deal with it because I become bitter towards my friends and it's not their problem at all- it's mine.[/B][/QUOTE]
To me I just think its something you'll have to just get use to I guess.

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]Yeah probably. I just have mega jealousy issues with my friends because they're so much more streetwise than me when it comes to relationships.

I just... I just don't enjoy being in relationships :-/ I don't like being attached to someone.

I need to find a way to deal with it because I become bitter towards my friends and it's not their problem at all- it's mine.[/QUOTE]

Why don't you like being attached to someone? Does it make you uncomfortable?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Why don't you like being attached to someone? Does it make you uncomfortable?[/QUOTE]
Not really, I just can't be around someone for long periods of time. After a while (well not a while, not very long) I get really sick of people and annoyed of people. I'm not a relationship person because I don't like spending 'Emily time' with someone else. I enjoy my own company a lot and I'm selfish like that. Sure I spend time with my friends, but not long periods of time and I know that I don't 'have' to hang around with them. In a relationship, you have to spend time with someone, otherwise it fizzles out. And I don't like it.

That'll maybe change as you get older. When you get older people don't annoy you as much as they used to.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]That'll maybe change as you get older. When you get older people don't annoy you as much as they used to.[/QUOTE]
Yeah I guess. I just get bored of people too easily.

maybe you just havn't met the right guy?

[QUOTE=JausmetalJ]maybe you just havn't met the right guy?[/QUOTE]
I don't know, maybe the guy is the problem. I've recently come out as bi to most of my friends, so I'd quite like to be in a relationship with a girl, because I think I'd be more comfortable. Any relationship I've had with a guy has just... not felt right at all. Problem is the town I live in is really homophobic (it's largely BNP, I'm not sure if that means anything to you if you're not in the UK, they are an extremist political party) so the gay scene is crap. I'm hoping maybe I'll meet some new people when I start college in september :)

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]I don't know, maybe the guy is the problem. I've recently come out as bi to most of my friends, so I'd quite like to be in a relationship with a girl, because I think I'd be more comfortable. Any relationship I've had with a guy has just... not felt right at all. Problem is the town I live in is really homophobic (it's largely BNP, I'm not sure if that means anything to you if you're not in the UK, they are an extremist political party) so the gay scene is crap. I'm hoping maybe I'll meet some new people when I start college in september :)[/QUOTE]

:p If you don't, something is very wrong with you.

I find myself in a dillemma- I'm too shy to really open up around people because I've always been looked down on (in my mind) because I'm unattractive/too tall/kinda fat/bad sense of style/akward/too smart to use words normal people understand/arrogant.

I feel like my personality is great. I love who I am, but I feel like people don't care to get to know me because I really can't open up around them for long periods of time (we're talking months before I'm decently comfortable with someone. In fact..I think I've only been really comfortable with one person and that was my ex. Oddly enough, it started as a long distance thing and we got to know each other before shyness was a factor. I've never been comfortable with anyone here outside of my family).

I'm usually fine with talking...but being playful (and goofing off like I am with my brother/how normal people do every now and then) I simply can't bring myself to do. I want to be like that so badly..but I feel like I just come off as akward or creepy.

just...eugh..I don't know what I'm really looking for here.

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]:p If you don't, something is very wrong with you.[/QUOTE]
If I don't what?

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]:p If you don't, something is very wrong with you.

I find myself in a dillemma- I'm too shy to really open up around people because I've always been looked down on (in my mind) because I'm unattractive/too tall/kinda fat/bad sense of style/akward/too smart to use words normal people understand/arrogant.

I feel like my personality is great. I love who I am, but I feel like people don't care to get to know me because I really can't open up around them for long periods of time (we're talking months before I'm decently comfortable with someone. In fact..I think I've only been really comfortable with one person and that was my ex. Oddly enough, it started as a long distance thing and we got to know each other before shyness was a factor. I've never been comfortable with anyone here outside of my family).

I'm usually fine with talking...but being playful (and goofing off like I am with my brother/how normal people do every now and then) I simply can't bring myself to do. I want to be like that so badly..but I feel like I just come off as akward or creepy.

just...eugh..I don't know what I'm really looking for here.[/QUOTE]

A couple of pages back Burt was talking about having Social Anxiety Disorder. Maybe you have it?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]A couple of pages back Burt was talking about having Social Anxiety Disorder. Maybe you have it?[/QUOTE]

Well, I thought it meant mostly around groups..I can goof off and [I]act[/I] outgoing around groups..but I think it's superficial. I'm really a reserved person.

One on one...I clam up and don't play around too much. :( I want to go to a shrink but I don't think much is wrong with me. Or...I think something is but it's ridiculous. Or..something.

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]If I don't what?[/QUOTE]

Meet new people.

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]Well, I thought it meant mostly around groups..I can goof off and [I]act[/I] outgoing around groups..but I think it's superficial. I'm really a reserved person.

One on one...I clam up and don't play around too much. :( I want to go to a shrink but I don't think much is wrong with me. Or...I think something is but it's ridiculous. Or..something.[/QUOTE]

What you could do is call a counselor and explain your problem. They can tell you if they think it needs treatment.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]What you could do is call a counselor and explain your problem. They can tell you if they think it needs treatment.[/QUOTE]

ew

I'm probably just trying to be difficult...but I really do not like calling people I don't know (including businesses etc).

Especially to discuss something that I believe is completely in my head.

...But it would be, wouldn't it.

Yes, it would be.

Have you researched it on the internet?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Yes, it would be.

Have you researched it on the internet?[/QUOTE]

A little. My aunt's been diagnosed with it, though. I could ask her.