Last but not least, dont do foolish stuff...she wouldnt want you to.

I'm a very shy person. I usually only talk to people who I'm familiar with.

I'd really like to have a girlfriend, but I can't seem to talk to a girl long enough or even muster any interest in a relationship.

I dunno what to do, MX. I don't.

Just force yourself to talk to a girl that seems interesting, and maybe some feelings will develop.

I've tried that, but it just seems that I make a complete *** out of myself and it carries on, so on and so forth.

[QUOTE=Syncratic]I've tried that, but it just seems that I make a complete *** out of myself and it carries on, so on and so forth.[/QUOTE]
You're probably overreacting. It's not rare at all to feel like you're making an *** out of yourself when talking to a member of the opposite sex you have interest in, while you're probably doing just fine.





And you two spammers, kindly leave.

[QUOTE=Tillius]You're probably overreacting. It's not rare at all to feel like you're making an *** out of yourself when talking to a member of the opposite sex you have interest in, while you're probably doing just fine.[/QUOTE]

Thanks man.

I've had a some-what GF before, we went to our school's Christmas Ball. She didn't want to dance with me, but some other kid she was talking to ALL night.

Ever since, I've been a little reluctant as to this sort of stuff.

If it would make you leave, I would gladly suck you off, if only I could find my tweezers.

OK, tomorrow is the last day of school, which means that it's time for me to step up the plate, and hopefully hit a home run... or strike out. Regardless, I'll make sure to report back on how it goes.

ok just wondering. theres this girl that i think likes me, but her boyfriend is a good friend of mine (we also have a band). when ever we are hanging out we seem to flirt a lot. The way we flirt is we end up hurting each other, such as ill punch her and she'll dig her fingers in to my skin. All in good fun, nothing where we're beating each other up.

She only does it to me. Does that mean anything.

Also, should i just wait to see what happens with her boy friend. and if they do break up should i ask her out or wait. Is there any way to do it with out her boyfriend being pissed at me.

umm i'd suggest waiting

chances are, if he's going to get pissed at you for going out with her, it doesn't matter how long you wait

K i need help. The reasons why i am sad:

1. I havent seen my gf in 3 weeks, its the distance factor and its really hard on me(crying and sadness) i love her so much. I know were not gonna bnreak up over this but its really hard on me and it is takings it toll.

2. Lots of my friends are moving. My best friend is moving and 2 of my other really good friends are moving also.

I feel like my friends and my girl are the only thing i have other than music. They mean so much to me, more than anything. Ah what should i do???????

[QUOTE=Atman]umm i'd suggest waiting

chances are, if he's going to get pissed at you for going out with her, it doesn't matter how long you wait[/QUOTE]

Agreed. You're looking for trouble if you start getting involved with friends' girlfriends. As much as you may like this girl and as much as she may like you in return, best bet is to lay low for a bit and see what happens.

[QUOTE=Aakon_Keetreh]K i need help. The reasons why i am sad:

1. I havent seen my gf in 3 weeks, its the distance factor and its really hard on me(crying and sadness) i love her so much. I know were not gonna bnreak up over this but its really hard on me and it is takings it toll.

2. Lots of my friends are moving. My best friend is moving and 2 of my other really good friends are moving also.

I feel like my friends and my girl are the only thing i have other than music. They mean so much to me, more than anything. Ah what should i do???????[/QUOTE]

Make new friends and learn to appreciate the ones you have more than you did before :)

As for the girl thing, it's tough but if you truly feel like it's worth fighting for then keep at it. How long have you been going out/how did you meet/how far away does she live etc etc

[QUOTE=neal_672]Make new friends and learn to appreciate the ones you have more than you did before :)

As for the girl thing, it's tough but if you truly feel like it's worth fighting for then keep at it. How long have you been going out/how did you meet/how far away does she live etc etc[/QUOTE]


Yeah i have other friends but they friends that are leaving, i have been friends with them for over 10 years so its really hard.

Well i meet her last year. She was one of my cousins friends and we have been going out for about 4 and a half months now. She lives like 30 mintues away and we never get anytime but we talk on the phone a lot. Its so hard :(

[QUOTE=Aakon_Keetreh]K i need help. The reasons why i am sad:

1. I havent seen my gf in 3 weeks, its the distance factor and its really hard on me(crying and sadness) i love her so much. I know were not gonna bnreak up over this but its really hard on me and it is takings it toll.

2. Lots of my friends are moving. My best friend is moving and 2 of my other really good friends are moving also.

I feel like my friends and my girl are the only thing i have other than music. They mean so much to me, more than anything. Ah what should i do???????[/QUOTE]

Sounds like you need to relieve some stress. There's lots of things you can do (that work for me anyways) to relieve stress. You can try meditation, that one always seems to work. If the area around you is cluttered clean it. This will give you some time to sort things out in your head while you clean up your environment as well. Try sitting down with a good book or your favorite cd and just relaxing. These things that are stressing you out seem to be mainly out of your control, so your best bet is to just try and relax.

my gf dumped me, for no apparent reason.

am i wrong to keep posting myspace bulletins about how upset and down i feel just to make her feel bad, since i know she does already bt also wont take me back?

all that does is make you look like a chode.



i can tell what the reason was

[QUOTE=Corkofski]my gf dumped me, for no apparent reason.

am i wrong to keep posting myspace bulletins about how upset and down i feel just to make her feel bad, since i know she does already bt also wont take me back?[/QUOTE]

Yeah, that's pretty lame. You're not going to get her back by attempted public humiliation or what have you. You're also not helping your own cause by not giving her her space. Just let it be and see what happens.

[QUOTE=EinzingerIsGod]Sounds like you need to relieve some stress. There's lots of things you can do (that work for me anyways) to relieve stress. You can try meditation, that one always seems to work. If the area around you is cluttered clean it. This will give you some time to sort things out in your head while you clean up your environment as well. Try sitting down with a good book or your favorite cd and just relaxing. These things that are stressing you out seem to be mainly out of your control, so your best bet is to just try and relax.[/QUOTE]


Thats what i hate the most, that Its all out of my control. Its been so hard for me. Ive been crying for like 20 mintues straight. Ugh. And i dont know what will calm me down. Im listening to some pink floyd but its making me more sad. Its so hard. I love her with all my heart. Were perfect for each other. It makes me sad that i cant save this relationship. I want control of it but i cant.

[QUOTE=Corkofski]my gf dumped me, for no apparent reason.

am i wrong to keep posting myspace bulletins about how upset and down i feel just to make her feel bad, since i know she does already bt also wont take me back?[/QUOTE]

it's mad lame and it will never work

[size=2]MOVE ON[/size] because she already has

[QUOTE=Aakon_Keetreh]Thats what i hate the most, that Its all out of my control. Its been so hard for me. Ive been crying for like 20 mintues straight. Ugh. And i dont know what will calm me down. Im listening to some pink floyd but its making me more sad. Its so hard. I love her with all my heart. Were perfect for each other. It makes me sad that i cant save this relationship. I want control of it but i cant.[/QUOTE]

Give this a shot:

[url]www.umm.edu/sleep/relax_tech.html[/url]

Progressive relaxation can help relieve alot of the physical pressure stress can cause on the body.

[QUOTE=EinzingerIsGod]Give this a shot:

[url]www.umm.edu/sleep/relax_tech.html[/url]

Progressive relaxation can help relieve alot of the physical pressure stress can cause on the body.[/QUOTE]


I cant stop crying. This so hard for me. Thanks for the relaxing stuff though.

ok quick question
my gf is acting really clingy all of a sudden
how do i tell her to back off without starting a fight?:confused:

punch her in the face

[QUOTE=I feel Like a Hat]punch her in the face[/QUOTE]


I wish i could ban you. Actually try to help people.

[QUOTE=I feel Like a Hat]punch her in the face[/QUOTE]
your mean you know that :angry:
i still need help

fine don't punch her, see if i care

[QUOTE=Aakon_Keetreh]I cant stop crying. This so hard for me. Thanks for the relaxing stuff though.[/QUOTE]

No problem. Give it a shot, it might help the crying and whatnot. There are guided meditation cds that are very useful as well if you're just getting into meditation and stuff. I could send you one that I find useful if you're interested.




To bumblebee just explain it to her in the nicest way possible. The longer you let it wait the worse it could get so best off to preempt it before it gets any worse.

[QUOTE=EinzingerIsGod]


To bumblebee just explain it to her in the nicest way possible. The longer you let it wait the worse it could get so best off to preempt it before it gets any worse.[/QUOTE]
thanks
:)

to i feel like a hat: buttface:angry:

[QUOTE=EinzingerIsGod]No problem. Give it a shot, it might help the crying and whatnot. There are guided meditation cds that are very useful as well if you're just getting into meditation and stuff. I could send you one that I find useful if you're interested.




To bumblebee just explain it to her in the nicest way possible. The longer you let it wait the worse it could get so best off to preempt it before it gets any worse.[/QUOTE]


I would love one.

I have a big problem :s

Right, so i've been with my girlfriend for 8months now and everything great. We were really in-love. We had like two arguments that were real bade and we had are 3rd on friday. I hurt her and said she didn't seem like she cared about me.

Through the argument she said it felt like we were fading and falling apart. Anyway i give it two days and decide to talk to her about everything. It took 5hours but i did it and she siad some hurtful things to me. But we argeed if we argue again then while split up. We said to put the arguments and everything behind us.

But now it seems we started again, she wont say anything nice and everything is a joke. She'll only say she loves me after shes gone and thats a 'love ya' kind of thing. Do i have to win her over again? i need abit of help

Thanks.

[QUOTE=bumblebeebass]to i feel like a hat: buttface:angry:[/QUOTE]

:lol:

[QUOTE=Gackt]I have a big problem :s
Through the argument she said it felt like we were fading and falling apart. Anyway i give it two days and decide to talk to her about everything. It took 5hours but i did it and she siad some hurtful things to me.[B] But we argeed if we argue again then while split up.[/B] We said to put the arguments and everything behind us.

But now it seems we started again, she wont say anything nice and everything is a joke. She'll only say she loves me after shes gone and thats a 'love ya' kind of thing. Do i have to win her over again? i need abit of help

Thanks.[/QUOTE]

to the boldface sentance: im not sure that would have been my plan of attack. who [I]doesnt[/I] have a fight in a relationship? and your only on your 3rd one? it seems you just kind of spelled out the relationships doom.

what i would do in your situation: dont beat around the bush. ask her straight up whats up with her.

my $.02

hmmm, I've got a bit of an odd one here - as some of you may or may not know, I'm in the process of getting divorced (relatively amiably) - I also have a 2 year old daughter, who I'd quite happily do anything for.

Now, the problem I have isn't with my ex-wife or my daughter as such, but more the fact I'm now thinking about entering a new relationship.

The girl I'm seeing is a couple of years younger than I am (she's 19), and we've got a stupid amount in common - we get on like a house on fire, and basically everything's looking good that this is going to end up as a relationship, which I'd be happy about, and am pretty sure she'd feel the same.
The problem is, she's not yet aware of my past. I'm not planning on hiding it from her, as I'm not ashamed of it, but I am worried about scaring her off when I tell her - it's understandable that a 19-year-old girl is going to be slightly freaked by a 21-year-old with a kid and a failed marriage, and I'm half-expecting her to run a mile when I tell her.
My plan of action is going to be to see where things go - if things start to get serious, I'm going to tell her, as she deserves to know if it's going to be a relationship. On the flipside, I can't see the need to tell her if this is only going to be a summer thing.

Is what I'm doing right? Any suggestions on a better way I could handle it? I'm pretty sure I've done what's right and makes the most sense, but a sensible outside opinion would be appreciated. :)

It's not something I would hold back until an important moment. I would just let it slip in casually, but put it in a reasonably positive light. "Yeah, it didn't work out, but it ended on amicable terms and all so I can't complain."

[QUOTE=Jason101]hmmm, I've got a bit of an odd one here - as some of you may or may not know, I'm in the process of getting divorced (relatively amiably) - I also have a 2 year old daughter, who I'd quite happily do anything for.

Now, the problem I have isn't with my ex-wife or my daughter as such, but more the fact I'm now thinking about entering a new relationship.

The girl I'm seeing is a couple of years younger than I am (she's 19), and we've got a stupid amount in common - we get on like a house on fire, and basically everything's looking good that this is going to end up as a relationship, which I'd be happy about, and am pretty sure she'd feel the same.
The problem is, she's not yet aware of my past. I'm not planning on hiding it from her, as I'm not ashamed of it, but I am worried about scaring her off when I tell her - it's understandable that a 19-year-old girl is going to be slightly freaked by a 21-year-old with a kid and a failed marriage, and I'm half-expecting her to run a mile when I tell her.
My plan of action is going to be to see where things go - if things start to get serious, I'm going to tell her, as she deserves to know if it's going to be a relationship. On the flipside, I can't see the need to tell her if this is only going to be a summer thing.

Is what I'm doing right? Any suggestions on a better way I could handle it? I'm pretty sure I've done what's right and makes the most sense, but a sensible outside opinion would be appreciated. :)[/QUOTE]


i think you should tell her. the more you get the know each other without mentioning it, the more deceitful you're being. whether it ends up being a summer fling or a long term relationship is irrelevant, she deserves to know the truth about the guy she's getting involved with.

i'm a 19 yr old girl & i know for sure i'd be more put off finding out that someone i liked had lied to me for however long than i would being told he has a child & a failed marriage.

[QUOTE=Jason101]hmmm, I've got a bit of an odd one here - as some of you may or may not know, I'm in the process of getting divorced (relatively amiably) - I also have a 2 year old daughter, who I'd quite happily do anything for.

Now, the problem I have isn't with my ex-wife or my daughter as such, but more the fact I'm now thinking about entering a new relationship.

The girl I'm seeing is a couple of years younger than I am (she's 19), and we've got a stupid amount in common - we get on like a house on fire, and basically everything's looking good that this is going to end up as a relationship, which I'd be happy about, and am pretty sure she'd feel the same.
The problem is, she's not yet aware of my past. I'm not planning on hiding it from her, as I'm not ashamed of it, but I am worried about scaring her off when I tell her - it's understandable that a 19-year-old girl is going to be slightly freaked by a 21-year-old with a kid and a failed marriage, and I'm half-expecting her to run a mile when I tell her.
My plan of action is going to be to see where things go - if things start to get serious, I'm going to tell her, as she deserves to know if it's going to be a relationship. On the flipside, I can't see the need to tell her if this is only going to be a summer thing.

Is what I'm doing right? Any suggestions on a better way I could handle it? I'm pretty sure I've done what's right and makes the most sense, but a sensible outside opinion would be appreciated. :)[/QUOTE]

if she's not going to stick with you, it doesn't matter when or where or how you tell her: the end result will always be the same

the same goes for the other side of the scenario

that being said, tell her as soon as is reasonably possible so you can see for sure if she'll stay or not

Ok I really liked this girl mid school year, yet she didnt really have that much of a thing for me, we grew real close over the year but I think that there is where the problem lies... She wanted to be really good friends who could talk about anything, but I wanted more. Back then I really felt that I loved this girl since shes the only girl to this day that I really cared about, I told her that I loved her a while back (it was in the midst of this stupid fight) well anyways she lead me on and it was evident, so I thought, that we should go out, so I kept pushing and she had second thoughts cause she didnt want to ruin our friendship but I was stubborn and realized a friendship would not work cause I wanted more, and to this day wanted more, well anyways she pulled a 180 decided we shouldnt go out. Of course I was pissed but I tried to keep a friendship going... that didnt work too well since once she pretty much tore me in two I stopped idolizing her being and saw her for what she really was. Over the next few months it just got worst and we had a fall out, reason being she just lied too often and was too capricious. Well she just recently went on vacation and we havent talked in say 3 months, yet I know for fact she missed out conversations etc. So recently I started regaining feelings for her, shes miles away, and I want to talk to her but I cant so I feel helpless :(. My plan is to call her up when she gets back and ask her to chill with me so we can talk things out. Any suggestions, I'm more venting and putting things in text to help sort out but any sugg. helps.

K so AW had a date and wants a second.

She plays 15yrs worth of piano ^____________^ and god she's cute.

edit: /me hope she doesn't post on here

[QUOTE=AtomShip]My plan is to call her up when she gets back and ask her to chill with me so we can talk things out. Any suggestions, I'm more venting and putting things in text to help sort out but any sugg. helps.[/QUOTE]
I can totally sympathise with you here. Been there, and it sucks. I have to say I think calling her asking her just to hang out would be a good idea. Just quickly, when you say you see her for what she really is, what do you mean? Also, do you think the time apart has made you forget about her lies etc.? If you're sure you want to make it up with her and see if anything good can come, then yeah, call her. I'm all for rebuilding old bridges (even if it's not that old) so my advice would be, if it's what you really want, call her and just hang out with her and see what happens.