That's the right attitude.

[QUOTE=TheCrimsonKing]Whatever just thought i'd vent and ask your thoughts on the subject[/QUOTE]

She's not ready for a relationship. At all. She's still letting other people's opinions determine her self-image. She has no idea what she wants because she's so dependent on everyone else.

Dump her. She has a lot of growing up to do before she can be in a relationship.

[QUOTE=rocknrollstar]Yes i understand.


Im also a little overweight.


[b]Although im not saying anything but you seem a little hyporcritical.


Dont change yourself but you went on a diet etc.[/b]

Anyway yeah i get you[/QUOTE]


Bolded part shows that, no, you in fact don't understand.

Is there a way to stop being so clingy to your girlfriend?

[QUOTE=Aakon_Keetreh]Is there a way to stop being so clingy to your girlfriend?[/QUOTE]


Stop needing her as primary source of happiness.

[QUOTE=Tiger]Stop needing her as primary source of happiness.[/QUOTE]

Well, that's a good point, but sometimes people can't just "stop" needing someone. Maybe this person is a little needy, which isn't always necessarily (sp?) a bad thing.

[QUOTE=EightMilesHigh]Well, that's a good point, but sometimes people can't just "stop" needing someone. Maybe this person is a little needy, which isn't always necessarily (sp?) a bad thing.[/QUOTE]


Riiiiight...Im not saying it is, but he asked what to do. Thats the source of being needy. If he finds something of an equal value to his stupid little life he'll be less clingy.

[QUOTE=EightMilesHigh]Maybe this person is a little needy, which isn't always necessarily (sp?) a bad thing.[/QUOTE]

Who are you trying to convince? Us or yourself?

[QUOTE=Tiger]Nope.

(besides your fathers dick)[/QUOTE]

That... doesn't really work.

[QUOTE=TheCrimsonKing]i just realized my post about my girlfriend problems is bitch *** long. I hope someone reads it[/QUOTE]

I read it. Makes for good reading. If i was you, I would pull her out of her group of friends at school sometime, and tell her that you need to know right now if she is gonna keep acting like a prissy little **tch about the whole thing or is she wants to get serious.

Its not worth the emotional toll its taking on you. People need to realize that guys arent just around to be toyed with. You'll probably end up breaking up.

OOkayyy I pretty much just made a pretty big step for myself..
All my life I've been so uptight about making sure my girlfriends don't think "things" about other guys.. that is, oh they're cute/hot/good looking even, and my inability to trust has often caused problems... so I just told my girlfriend as calmly (and maybe pretty randomly) as I could.. that from now, it would be okay for her to think that other guys were cute or good looking.. because I can't and shouldn't be trying to change the way she thinks or feels, and I "don't want to be one of those boyfriends" who is always complaining about other guys.. but now I don't know if I've made a mistake or not.. I wonder if I expressed myself wrong? I really wanted this to happen, because I'm sick of always being jealous for no reason and always making problems because of my own worries.. So what do you guys think about my decision?

[QUOTE=Whatsisface]OOkayyy I pretty much just made a pretty big step for myself..
All my life I've been so uptight about making sure my girlfriends don't think "things" about other guys.. that is, oh they're cute/hot/good looking even, and my inability to trust has often caused problems... so I just told my girlfriend as calmly (and maybe pretty randomly) as I could.. that from now, it would be okay for her to think that other guys were cute or good looking.. because I can't and shouldn't be trying to change the way she thinks or feels, and I "don't want to be one of those boyfriends" who is always complaining about other guys.. but now I don't know if I've made a mistake or not.. I wonder if I expressed myself wrong? I really wanted this to happen, because I'm sick of always being jealous for no reason and always making problems because of my own worries.. So what do you guys think about my decision?[/QUOTE]

I tend to do the same thing, but you know what? I'm not changing it. You shouldn't have to change yourself in any way just to feel comfortable around your girlfriend. If she's making it a point to talk up other guys when she's around you then she's a bitch anyway.

[QUOTE=Whatsisface]so I just told my girlfriend as calmly (and maybe pretty randomly) as I could.. that from now, it would be okay for her to think that other guys were cute or good looking.. [/QUOTE]


These lines made me smile.

[QUOTE=Iscariot]I tend to do the same thing, but you know what? I'm not changing it. You shouldn't have to change yourself in any way just to feel comfortable around your girlfriend. If she's making it a point to talk up other guys when she's around you then she's a bitch anyway.[/QUOTE]
Well it's not her fault at all, it's just how I feel.
She could be the most innocent girl in the world, but if I'm dating her, chances are I'll bring these things up myself and make her think I don't trust her, even though I have every reason in the world to. It's just a problem I have within myself, and no one makes it worse and worse but myself and my own thinking :(

It's probably better for your relationship that you did that. Jealousy can cause issues, especially if the girl in question has a few male friends. It's never good to not trust her. May I ask how she took it when you said that?

[QUOTE=Fire Whispers]It's probably better for your relationship that you did that. Jealousy can cause issues, especially if the girl in question has a few male friends. It's never good to not trust her. May I ask how she took it when you said that?[/QUOTE]
Well it was sort of those "ummmm... okayyy..." kind of responses..
In fact, it was exactly that.
She does have a lot of really good guy friends, too

[QUOTE=Whatsisface]Well it was sort of those "ummmm... okayyy..." kind of responses..
In fact, it was exactly that.
She does have a lot of really good guy friends, too[/QUOTE]


I mean, dont you realise that what you said was such a just...blatantly overbearing thing to say? Like, 'Honey, Im going to allow you to like men now. Me Tarzan.'

Im surprised she didnt slap you or at least get mad.

[QUOTE=Whatsisface]Well it was sort of those "ummmm... okayyy..." kind of responses..
In fact, it was exactly that.
She does have a lot of really good guy friends, too[/QUOTE]
Well, maybe it would have been better if you just kind of changed like that by yourself, instead of telling her, especially if you hadn't made it obvious that you don't like when she talks to other guys and such. I assume things will be fine though. Just make sure you aren't very possesive, because that can turn things sour quickly. It's good you're attempting to change in that respect.

You can't, and never could control the way she thinks about other guys. Acting like you ever did seems to be a mistake. You shouldn't have to give her permission to think about something, that's just stupid.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]You can't, and never could control the way she thinks about other guys. Acting like you ever did seems to be a mistake. You shouldn't have to give her permission to think about something, that's just stupid.[/QUOTE]
Quoted for Truth

[QUOTE=Tiger]I mean, dont you realise that what you said was such a just...blatantly overbearing thing to say? Like, 'Honey, Im going to allow you to like men now. Me Tarzan.'

Im surprised she didnt slap you or at least get mad.[/QUOTE]
Well I actually WAS thinking that too, but our whole damn relationship I've screwed things over more than one night because I'm so insecure! I'm sick of it, and I've told myself time and time again that I will change the way I'm thinking, and it seemed like admitting the fact that I want to turn myself around not only to myself but to her too would help, but maybe I was wrong.
I never meant for it to come out in a way that I'll "allow her to like men."
I'm not retarded, I mean, who am I to tell her, "Sweetie, you have to think every other guy besides me is ugly as an ***, otherwise, I have a problem with it." :rolleyes:

[QUOTE=Iscariot]If she's making it a point to talk up other guys when she's around you then she's a bitch anyway.[/QUOTE]

Or maybe she's just really outgoing and likes meeting people.

[QUOTE=Whatsisface]Well it was sort of those "ummmm... okayyy..." kind of responses..
In fact, it was exactly that.
She does have a lot of really good guy friends, too[/QUOTE]

Tiger's got a point. The way you put it, it's as if you're doing her this huge favor by allowing her to have free will, as if you ever actually had that sort of control over the situation to begin with.

I think you may have just creeped her out.

Talk is cheap. Actions are what counts.

Don't f[size=2]u[/size]cking tell her you're not going to act jealous. Because she's going to interpret that as "I'M REALLY REALLY JEALOUS!!! AND DESPERATE!!! PLEASE LIKE ME!!!"

[QUOTE=Toxicity]Quoted for Truth[/QUOTE]

Besides, it would be completely unhealthy for her not to think other men are attractive.

[QUOTE=CRONITOR]Besides, it would be completely unhealthy for her not to think other men are attractive.[/QUOTE]


Hell, she probably thinks TONS of guys are more attractive than him. Some of his friends, relatives, workbuddies, all kinds of other guys she probably has a thing for.

And lets not forget actors, athletes, and famous musicians!

She'd probably even find me attractive, plus a ton of other member on this forum. Get her to sign up, we'll treat her [I]reeeeal[/I] nice!

Lol...

I'm asking this in here mainly because I don't wanna get mullered posting a seperate thread in the PIT, but what does it mean when someone says you have ''striking'' features (looks wise)?

It means you stand out, you caught his or her eye. Generally it's used as a compliment. :) Actually, I can't really think of a situation where it wouldn't be a compliment.

I like to use the phrase, "You look.. breath taking" as it always guarantees naked love at the end of the night.

*breathtaking

You know it.

This is a very serious post that I want people to take seriously.

This is also a very delicate situation.

Today a friend of mine confessed to me that her ex raped her during christmas break. She broke up with him while he had moved off to college and he came back to visit. She hadn't told anyone about it until just recently, only telling me today. He is now back in town and is having a mental breakdown over it. The people who don't know about the rape want to hang out with him and have him over and "can't understand why she can't just deal with being around her ex."

Hearing about this has pissed me off beyond all belief. He claims he's completely gay, then goes and rapes her. What the **** his that ****?! I am very very angry about this, but I don't really know what to do. My friend has been really messed up since this has happend (distant from friends, eating disorder...).

I don't know what to do in this situation. How do you deal with a friend's violent ex? I really don't know what to do, but I want to do something.

[QUOTE=Iscariot]I like to use the phrase, "You look.. breath taking" as it always guarantees naked love at the end of the night.[/QUOTE]

haha I'm adding that to my list of lines to use this weekend