I never say dat Vunce. Maybe you are konfused with me saying, "go and do drugs Vince" or "go and get wasted and touch girls breasts Vince"?

[QUOTE=Jom;13383641]Actual conversation that commenced recently:

[Scene: we get a tornado warning.]

Roommate: 'Oh, shi[font=verdana]t[/font], here comes a tornado! Time to go smash some windows and rape some women!'

Alright, so between those two scenarios, which one would be least likely to happen?

Ooh ooh can I participate in discussion plz[/QUOTE]

"I swear officer, the wind blew my hand down her pants!"

gogojombot

[QUOTE=Excursions;13383656]I never say dat Vunce. Maybe you are konfused with me saying, "go and do drugs Vince" or "go and get wasted and touch girls breasts Vince"?[/QUOTE]

oh ok

well either way.

<_<

you guys need to post faster damnit :mad:

/posts faster

[QUOTE=Permanent Solution;13383252]Because I decided I'm tired of people's bull**** and such. So, for instance, I stopped IMing people, writing in my weblog, etc... So people are mad because they have to contact me instead of vice-a-versa and such. I don't know...people are stupid.[/QUOTE]

Dude if we weren't 2,000 miles away we would have sooooooooo many entertaining stories about how fuc[font=verdana]k[/font]ing incompetent/retarded/twatty girls can be.

And then there are just the idiots.
An idiot genocide would be sweet, I must say.

Anyways, my closest girl friend and I got into a completely stupid argument last night because she all of a sudden got this bizarre knack to misinterpret something I wrote, and then decide to blow it out of context. So, when I called her out on it, she got all defensive even though she didn't have a leg to stand on, and so she in turn got all pissed off because she put herself out there for me to... not ridicule her, but just point out that she was being silly... and she didn't like that too much.

We were playing e-mail tag, and she didn't respond to my last two. So, she finally writes me after I IM her and she says, "I was waiting for us to be online at the same time so we could talk because the stuff I want to talk about isn't good for e-mail."

'Okay. What's been new with you for the past couple weeks?'

"Eh, nothing really."

'Then why the fuc[font=verdana]k[/font] are we having this conversation? Couldn't you just write 'Life is status quo here' in your e-mail reply and just call it a day? Why wait for me to jump online only for you to say that nothing new has happened to you?'

"Well I don't want to elaborate on work and school because it's all the same."

At this point, I was just like, 'This is pointless. I just explained to you that what I wrote had nothing to do with you, and you threw a bitchfit anyway for God knows why.'

Every time I initiate anything with her recently, we wind up fighting over something completely stupid because she looks too far into things I write in my journal. Okay, just because you're a good friend of mine who can read what I have to say doesn't mean that I'm talking about you all the time.

She basically had no argument, and so when I told her that (in an admittedly condescending, matter-of-fact manner), she got all pissed.

I could have done without it, basically.
But I couldn't do without her. Unless, of course, she keeps this up.
She can find some other shmuck who will let her rant about life and not say anything until she's done.

Meh, whatever.
Girls are stupid.
If they weren't so pretty, nobody would talk to them. Nobody.

[quote=JXD]and Bop as well. who apparently has dropped off the face of the internets.[/quote]

Well, she has that boyfriend now or something, heh.
Real life > Internets for her, hahaha.

Jom: Yeah, I like most of my e-buddies more than my real friends tbh :(

That's a fun story, it happens a lot though :-\ Hell, I've done it a few times since I think like a girl :p The best thing to do is just forget about it and pretend like it didn't happen. Chances are she has.

Well, if you specifically said "So we can talk about stuff that isn't e-mail appropriate", then saying "Eh, nothing much" probably wasn't a good answere, and you should have actually adressed whatever concerns you had.

I'd stop trying for a while. Let her realize on her own that she's lost a good friend, and she'll try to get back to you. If she doesn't realize that, then she doesn't return your friendship enough if the first place for you to bother.

And I give that advice from my enormous well of experience. Take it with a grain of salt. And maybe a glass of rootbeer. Mmmmmm.

You misread it Jon.

BTW, girls are too stupid to realize it when they lose a good thing, so fat chance on her coming back if you forget about her.

[QUOTE=Permanent Solution;13383829]Jom: Yeah, I like most of my e-buddies more than my real friends tbh :(

That's a fun story, it happens a lot though :-\ Hell, I've done it a few times since I think like a girl :p The best thing to do is just forget about it and pretend like it didn't happen. Chances are she has.[/QUOTE]

Well, she hasn't, that's the thing.

The wonderful thing about being at uni is that I have a ton of friends and acquaintances here and I've removed myself from all the drama from my friends back home (who commute or go to a community college). So, she's the only reason I would want to go home other than to see my family, but since she's been acting so heelish lately (especially after the 'good' talks we had had previously), it's like I have no desire to go home save for seeing my family.

So, it's a natural reaction for me to just drop stuff, but when it keeps getting brought up, an argument ensues, and even though I wind up completely obliterating their argument, they are too stubborn to realize that I just handed them their asses and will continue to spout the same garbage over and over again. It's ridiculous.

The only reason why I don't cut ties with her is because she is a great friend, but whenever she is faced with any kind of adversity, her reactions are either a) bitch about it until she thinks it'll just go away, or b) try to avoid it altogether, thinking it'll just go away. And adversity never just goes away.

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EDIT to Bridge:

Fine advice, but:

[quote=Vince]You misread it Jon.[/quote]

Thanks, though =)

No, vince, he misswrote it.

So I learned today that my school's system of GPA essentially makes it so that you should either be taking no honors classes, or ALL honors/AP classes. It really doesn't encourage kids to take an honors class in something that they're good in, and just do standard every thing else.

Which is great, because I happen to be taking half honors classes and half standard!

Here's to sub par GPA'S!

jom wtf, man? remember i was saying how chicks are a hassle sometimes when you are "just friends". which this sounds like to me. and man can they talk shi.t! and wtf is she doing? reading your private journal? nah, man! say it aint so. you may have to screw this broad a couple of times and toss her by the wayside. it may be your only recourse if she keeps this up :(

[QUOTE=Jom;13383890]Well, she hasn't, that's the thing.

The wonderful thing about being at uni is that I have a ton of friends and acquaintances here and I've removed myself from all the drama from my friends back home (who commute or go to a community college). So, she's the only reason I would want to go home other than to see my family, but since she's been acting so heelish lately (especially after the 'good' talks we had had previously), it's like I have no desire to go home save for seeing my family.

So, it's a natural reaction for me to just drop stuff, but when it keeps getting brought up, an argument ensues, and even though I wind up completely obliterating their argument, they are too stubborn to realize that I just handed them their asses and will continue to spout the same garbage over and over again. It's ridiculous.

The only reason why I don't cut ties with her is because she is a great friend, but whenever she is faced with any kind of adversity, her reactions are either a) bitch about it until she thinks it'll just go away, or b) try to avoid it altogether, thinking it'll just go away. And adversity never just goes away.
[/QUOTE]
I have no desire to go home in particular except to play drums. Everywhere is equally pointless to me nowadays :-\

She's a lot like me, hah :( Talk to he but not on email. IM her and talk about how you feel, like what you just said here and then let her think on it.

Or call her, even.

Chicks love telephones.

Yes, and text her during class.

Justin, I think I have an asian friend in real life.

I've been debating whether or not to call her DJ Ducksauce.

And I signed up for math peer tutoring. Guess what my tutor's name is? Tommy Wu!

HA!

[QUOTE=JXD;13383899]jom wtf, man? remember i was saying how chicks are a hassle sometimes when you are "just friends". which this sounds like to me.[/quote]

If people ever have friendships where there never has been a problem, I would like to meet them and ask them what the big secret is.

Because yeah, we have arguments and fights and things, but normally we look past it because we are both good communicators. She just hasn't communicated in the fashion that she normally does for whatever reason. She says things like "I'm feeling so awesome, I wish people could be me for a day to see what it's like to be me," yet she rants about her family/friends/boyfriend/school/job. So, it's like she is projecting herself as being a happy camper, but really, she's not. And it probably gets to her when I tell her that, because I must be saying something truthful there, or else she wouldn't get all snappy with me about it.

[quote]and man can they talk shi.t![/quote]

Yeah, I've had to endure some slander from a girl that I had a huge falling out with during the summer, and while it bothered me for a bit because I wasn't doing anything to drag her name through the mud, I realized that I'm only perceived as this lunatic by this group of girls back home. So, when I'm at school, I don't have to worry about their shi[font=verdana]t[/font] because they never talk to me, so it doesn't faze me at all anymore.

[quote]and wtf is she doing? reading your private journal? nah, man! say it aint so.[/quote]

I keep a journal, yes, but not all of it is private. I tell stories about my experiences at uni/wherever from that day, but I also utilize it to rant about people, and she has recently acted like just because she can read what I have to say, that I'm talking about her. But I'm not. I'm just using it to purge my thoughts and clear my head, and I'm tired of only being talked to when she decides to have beef with me, even though I'm definitely not talking about her at all.

And I don't need to preface every single thing I write with, "I am not talking about you, so don't get sand in your vag about it."

[quote]you may have to screw this broad a couple of times and toss her by the wayside. it may be your only recourse if she keeps this up :([/QUOTE]

Actually, that's not really how I handle things, hahaha. But thanks, heh.

EDIT:

[quote=Vince]She's a lot like me, hah Talk to he but not on email. IM her and talk about how you feel, like what you just said here and then let her think on it.[/quote]

No, dude, I've done this with ALL of those back home girls. And it doesn't do jack.

Her and I are fine communicators usually, so maybe I just got her on a bad day, or she got me on a bad day (even though I was having a perfectly fine day until she decided to try to pick a fight with me), but I am sick and bloody tired of telling them my perspective and getting met with apathy and/or hostility. I would rather let them rot in their drama and problems and not concern myself with them, but when it's just one girl I give a shi[font=verdana]t[/font] about as a friend, it's only a natural happenstance that I'm still involved within that group.

It's just odd how every time I initiate anything with her, a fight happens. But whenever she initiates anything with me, it's because she needs someone she can vent to, so I just sit there and take it until she's done. We haven't had a decent 'How's life been treating you' conversation in weeks. It's either 'Jom, I need to rant about shi[font=verdana]t[/font]' or 'Jom, what the crap are you writing.'

Those are what my e-mails have been about: me talking about [whatever] and what my thought processes are and when she doesn't even respond to them, it's kind of a joke.

be honest. tell her all girls are stupid and if she wasn't pretty you wouldn't give her the time of day. hell, you said it, man.

so just call her and say that and hang up in her silly face.

hah! :smash:


EDIT: wow big post above

/reads

Haha whoa, Asians exist irl?

:amaze:

Hm...girls don't sound good being called DJs. It also makes me think of Full House.

edit: to Jon

Saying "Ha!" at the end of a post is very underrated.

Well, I only started taking advanced classes this year, so all of sudden I started to see asians in my classes this year. And no black people...

And I don't get the full house reference :(

[QUOTE=BridgeToSolace;13383993]

Well, I only started taking advanced classes this year, so all of sudden I start to see asians in my classes. And no black people...

And I don't get the full house reference :([/QUOTE]
:lol:

DJ is the name of Bob Saget's daughter in the show.


edit: I have one black guy that's in 2 of my AP classes.

Jom:
Taken from the response I got to my last email to a certain girl:
"You know that I never write back to your e-mails
because I'm usually too dumbfound to say anything
worthwhile to you."

So I don't know if it's the same with her, but, you never know. Girls always want guys to share their feelings but once they do they feel overwhelmed. This goes back to women never knowing what they want.

[QUOTE=DJ Ducksauce;13384007]
edit: I have one black guy that's in 2 of my AP classes.[/QUOTE]

There's a black guy in my honors english class.

It's pretty cool, because he doesn't turn off the ebonics when he answeres questions.

"Dat Nick Carroway be crazy, son!"

And there's a black chick in my history class who seems to think that everything and everyone has to be fair. She's so annoying. Plus she's fat. Which is redundant.

So I've got nothing to really contribute to this conversation(not like I ever do), so I'm headed to bed and also to do some reading of Washington Square. Also the madre is getting muy puta-mente(not really a word obviously).

Adios chicas.

:wave:

Jon: lmao, this guy is actually a cool guy. He ran for class president, and probably should have won, but all the stupid people in our class voted for some hicky/ok looking/slutty/dumb girl. This is an actually intelligent black guy though. He's also in drumline which is cool.

schya, adjos.

[QUOTE=Permanent Solution;13384017]Jom:
Taken from the response I got to my last email to a certain girl:
"You know that I never write back to your e-mails
because I'm usually too dumbfound to say anything
worthwhile to you."

So I don't know if it's the same with her, but, you never know. Girls always want guys to share their feelings but once they do they feel overwhelmed. This goes back to women never knowing what they want.[/QUOTE]

Well, she's a bright girl. She's not stupid. She can talk.

And she always says that she will come to me if she has beef with me (and she does when it comes to things I write), but she doesn't when she decides to arbitrarily get into a fight with me about something useless.

And I don't really ever explicitly say what I'm thinking because she's not very trustworthy. I tell her the truth on matters, but when it comes to my abstract thoughts and perceptions to things, I don't divulge into detail because I don't trust her enough to just go off spouting on and on about my blahblahblah. She talks to me about most things when she needs someone that will read her rants because I don't ever interrupt her and just let her go off on whatever it is she's pissed about, and also because she has my word that the things she talks about doesn't go to other people. Well, since most of her friends are twats who don't get along with me, it's not like I'm going to tell them about the things she's saying, right? So yeah.

Bye Justin.

It's ok, the adults are talking :p (but fo sirius)

[QUOTE=Jom;13384054]Well, she's a bright girl. She's not stupid. She can talk.

And she always says that she will come to me if she has beef with me (and she does when it comes to things I write), but she doesn't when she decides to arbitrarily get into a fight with me about something useless.

And I don't really ever explicitly say what I'm thinking because she's not very trustworthy. I tell her the truth on matters, but when it comes to my abstract thoughts and perceptions to things, I don't divulge into detail because I don't trust her enough to just go off spouting on and on about my blahblahblah. She talks to me about most things when she needs someone that will read her rants because I don't ever interrupt her and just let her go off on whatever it is she's pissed about, and also because she has my word that the things she talks about doesn't go to other people. Well, since most of her friends are twats who don't get along with me, it's not like I'm going to tell them about the things she's saying, right? So yeah.[/QUOTE]

The girl I'm talking about is far from stupid, and actually quite a writer. She just feels like she has nothing to contribute.

That's how all girls are. Really. Never met one not like that.

Girls love listeners. If you will let them spout on for hours, you have a friend. Unless of course, god forbid, they have to IM you first to bitch to you. *grr* A lack of trust isn't exactly the most solid foundation for a tight friendship though, neh?

I came back home for the first time in like a month a while ago and my Ex girlfriend saw me and tried to talk to me, I just walked away and didn't even look at her. Was that harsh?

I could probably comment, but I learned a long time ago that people have already made up their minds about how they're going to handle this kind of situation, and are either looking for justification for that decision, or are open to hearing new ideas, despite having no real intentions to follow them.

Plus, people don't really give you the full story so whatever you say you just get back "No, because she reall said blah blah blah" or "No, they're not like that"

It's hard to add to something that you have a very limited perspective on.

But, oh well. Jom, you're an awesome dude who shouldn't have to deal with **** from no woman. Drama is very rarely worth the emotional ache. Do what's best for Jom, because what's best for Jom is what's best for everyone else.

[quote]If people ever have friendships where there never has been a problem, I would like to meet them and ask them what the big secret is.[/quote]
yeah, i hear you. i try to keep my friendships casual so i don't bump heads. people i do bump heads with i just don't deal with. makes things simple for me.

[quote] She says things like "I'm feeling so awesome, I wish people could be me for a day to see what it's like to be me," yet she rants about her family/friends/boyfriend/school/job. So, it's like she is projecting herself as being a happy camper, but really, she's not. And it probably gets to her when I tell her that, because I must be saying something truthful there, or else she wouldn't get all snappy with me about it.[/quote]
yeah. you are disrupting her denial. and so she probably just wants you to be the kind of friend that listens to and supports her and validates her denial. i've known plenty of people like that. they are hard to be honest with and many times can't take real honesty. and they also like to tell you what is what. your journal, for instance. shes trying to tell you what you are saying about her, even if what you say has nothing to do with her. very insecure and a litte disrespectful toward you, i would say.


[quote]I keep a journal, yes, but not all of it is private.[/quote]
i keep one, too. its a good outlet. i'm very gaurded with it, though. i don;t think i would ever let anyone touch it. not until i'm dead. oh the shock and dismay it would cause. "if my bad dreams could be seen..." hell no...

[quote]And I don't need to preface every single thing I write with, "I am not talking about you, so don't get sand in your vag about it[/quote]
yeah. and if she is making you feel like that then she is definitely out of order and over stepping a boundary. that has to stop, IMO. its her projecting. that can ruin a persons whole day.

[quote]Actually, that's not really how I handle things, hahaha. But thanks, heh.[/quote]
same. internet machismo ftw....:p

[QUOTE=Permanent Solution;13384076]The girl I'm talking about is far from stupid, and actually quite a writer. She just feels like she has nothing to contribute.

That's how all girls are. Really. Never met one not like that.

Girls love listeners. If you will let them spout on for hours, you have a friend. Unless of course, god forbid, they have to IM you first to bitch to you. *grr* A lack of trust isn't exactly the most solid foundation for a tight friendship though, neh?[/QUOTE]

Well, she trusts in me enough to:

a) not go to others about her subjects of her rants
b) talk to me about her deepest, darkest stories and not judge her for it

But, I don't really do the same, because there have been more than a couple instances where things I said that were SUPPOSED to remain in confidence wound up not being kept in confidence, so I like how it's a one-way street where I don't go spouting off about the things she tells me, but she's done that for me on more than one instance. So, she entrusts a lot in me, but I sincerely doubt her allegiance is with me after those mishaps.