I think I really love this one person a lot but I've only known them since September 05', but I feel like I've known this person all my life and I can't live without them.. I don't know what to do?

[QUOTE=Cosand]I feel like I've known this person all my life and I can't live without them.. I don't know what to do?[/QUOTE]

You drop that mentality like a rock. Do you have any idea how unhealthy it is to mentally and emotionally fixate your happiness on one person like that?

I want to talk about my situation to someone, but I can't sum it up in neat paragraphs.

Anyone care to IM me on AIM?

I'll bite.

What's your AIM?

Americanweiner

[QUOTE=Steerpike]You drop that mentality like a rock. Do you have any idea how unhealthy it is to mentally and emotionally fixate your happiness on one person like that?[/QUOTE]
Listen to Alex.

That's pretty much the worst thing you could ever do. Believe me, I certainly have my experiences with it..

So I feel like spending another evening on here again.

Ugh I swear my friend is realyl starting to piss me off again. He gets in these spells of depression (nothing too serious, just makes him a horrible person) and then gets better until he gets rejected again. Last night got shot down and is all depressed again and self concious beyond belief.

No real point to this. Just feel like talkin to someone.

[QUOTE=Tillius]However, there's a chance that something could work out, but there's an equal or higher chance that it won't, at least not right now.[/QUOTE]

Yeah. I don't necessarily want her to break up with her boyfriend just to be with me, that would be selfish....I guess what I'm trying to say is I love her and want to be with her, but I want her to be happy first hand.

Alright, goodnight MX. Thanks for the help.

[QUOTE=White]WORLDS LARGEST LET DOWN!!!!!!!!!!!

mind numbing post
[/QUOTE]

You sound pretty stupid, lol.

Lol.

[QUOTE=pohl_56]So I feel like spending another evening on here again.

Ugh I swear my friend is realyl starting to piss me off again. He gets in these spells of depression (nothing too serious, just makes him a horrible person) and then gets better until he gets rejected again. Last night got shot down and is all depressed again and self concious beyond belief.

No real point to this. Just feel like talkin to someone.[/QUOTE]

Tell him to grow a pair. Jesus. Rejection sucks, but it's not worth that kind of emotional bullsh[size=2]i[/size]t. He better do some work on himself, or he doesn't deserve to get a hard-on.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Tell him to grow a pair. Jesus. Rejection sucks, but it's not worth that kind of emotional bullsh[size=2]i[/size]t. He better do some work on himself, or he doesn't deserve to get a hard-on.[/QUOTE]

I've found it isn't the rejection that sucks, it's how much a you build yourself up before the rejection.

People learn with time, though.

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]I've found it isn't the rejection that sucks, it's how much a you build yourself up before the rejection.

People learn with time, though.[/QUOTE]



I learned that to.


I have now vowed not to let a girl get me in that situation.

Just let love find me.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Tell him to grow a pair. Jesus. Rejection sucks, but it's not worth that kind of emotional bullsh[size=2]i[/size]t. He better do some work on himself, or he doesn't deserve to get a hard-on.[/QUOTE]

Amen! thats basically what i said to him in a nutshell. Been there, done that, get over it.

[QUOTE]Steerpike
Quote:
Originally Posted by pohl_56
So I feel like spending another evening on here again.

Ugh I swear my friend is realyl starting to piss me off again. He gets in these spells of depression (nothing too serious, just makes him a horrible person) and then gets better until he gets rejected again. Last night got shot down and is all depressed again and self concious beyond belief.

No real point to this. Just feel like talkin to someone.

Tell him to grow a pair. Jesus. Rejection sucks, but it's not worth that kind of emotional bull****. He better do some work on himself, or he doesn't deserve to get a hard-on.[/QUOTE]

This is true. I mean, I've gotten rejected before, but I learned from it. I now have a girlfriend and it's because I found out what I need to work on and what I do well, etc. You have to look at what's wrong with you, what you'd like to change, and what of you is too important not to change. Then take a look at what kind of girls you're chasing and see if those are the kind you want.


Edit: Yeah, I have no idea how to do quotes

[QUOTE=susto_001]This is true. I mean, I've gotten rejected before, but I learned from it. I now have a girlfriend and it's because I found out what I need to work on and what I do well, etc. You have to look at what's wrong with you, what you'd like to change, and what of you is too important not to change. Then take a look at what kind of girls you're chasing and see if those are the kind you want.


Edit: Yeah, I have no idea how to do quotes[/QUOTE]


If you don't mind me asking what do you mean by change about yourself?

Apprearnce?
Personality?

heres something i wanna ask:


why did she leave? she never took the time to explain anything. we were never together but we always shared a close relationship. it's like ever since we went on this "break" (because we had so much problems) shes been using every "valid" excuse like "i havent been answering any phone calls because i went over my minutes sorry" and "my grades are dropping im trying to talk less on the phone". and when i try to call her or text, she never responds. i dont know whats going on, i seriously dont. she just left and seems fine.

[QUOTE=Suiken]heres something i wanna ask:


why did she leave? she never took the time to explain anything. we were never together but we always shared a close relationship. it's like ever since we went on this "break" (because we had so much problems) shes been using every "valid" excuse like "i havent been answering any phone calls because i went over my minutes sorry" and "my grades are dropping im trying to talk less on the phone". and when i try to call her or text, she never responds. i dont know whats going on, i seriously dont. she just left and seems fine.[/QUOTE]
maybe after the break, shes realised thats what she wants now, and feels that she perhaps doesnt enjoy the relationships and its problems as much as she did

I posted a couple times in this thread a couple weeks ago about my gilrfriend problems. So I have more to talk about now but let me just sum up what happened before.

So for absolutely no reason my girlfriend broke up with me one sunday night. We had been going out for a year and it was going really well. We had maybe a few minor issues but nothing that couldnt have been worked out and nothing out of the ordinary from a normal relationship. So then she acted like she didnt care about it at all for 2 weeks. And in certain ways ignored me. I became really sad and confused about the whole thing because I love her and I didnt understand what was wrong. I'm not oblivious to our relationship problems at all, i'm the one that understands them. She is the kind of person that wants to ignore and pretend they're not there.

ok so this is the follow up......


After a bit of a horrible relationship for those 2 weeks EVERYTHING got better. We started talking a lot again nd we went out once to the movies. It turned out she wasnt really thinking and thought by breaking up it would help our relationship. Weird huh? But it got better and we were happy with each other like we used to be. Then next weekend we went out again and I asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend again. She said "of course".

SO we talked all that week and everything seemed to go back to normal and we dated for 2 weeks and we talked about what had happened. She said she regretted braking up and had made a mistake about it. The only thing that came off as weird was that she didnt want to tell anyone at her school that we were going out and her rationale was that her friends had given her crap about us going out saying that I was probably cheating on her and that she should brake up with me. Why? just because they dont like me (they dont even know me) and i'm pretty sure one of her friends likes her. But whatever. That kind of made me feel odd. I know she isnt cheating on me or something and I decided its because its just she doesnt want any trouble with her friends. We had two great dates where there wasnt any problems


then.....

suddenly she gets kind of weird. I ask her about it and she says that she isnt sure how she loves me at the moment. SHe says that she does love me but she doesnt know in what way. I'm thinking what?. SHe says she has been thinking about it for a month and she doesnt know how she feels. SHe hasnt taken any time to think about it, I know. SO we arent really together right now but its not like we are too broken up. SHe still wants to go out with me regularly (pretty much like when we were together) and she also wants to talk to me like she used to. So its pretty much i'm her boyfriend without the "boyfriend" label and the fact that she doesnt really wanna give me any action (and honestly I dont want it from her if she doesnt love me).

ANd we went out on a "date" yesterday where I wanted to bring up all our problems (i have before but its better when I can confront her physically and not on the phone). So I was bringing this stuff up while we were in a movie in the back and suddendly one of her friends from school sits two seats next to me in the same row. I say "hey isnt that whats his name" and she says "omg it is". She then moves from sitting next to me to sitting between me and her friend. SHe then starts talking to him and pretty much ignores me then has the nerve to ask "whats wrong". SO long story short...she used her friend as a distraction and excuse so that she didnt have to deal with our problems and to make matters worse she wouldnt even let me hug her or hold her hand or kiss her in front of her friend. She seriously doesnt want anyone at her school to know. I still dont think shes cheating on me or anything but it pisses me off that she wants to be so damn secretive.

SO now we arent really together after 2 weeks of returning to being together and i'm getting frustrated. I love her soo much. I could get another girl if I really cared to but I dont because I love her and she doesnt want to progress with her feelings in anyway. She wants to continue this relationship without actually "continuing it" but rather keeping it in an akward state. I think a month and a half or so (whatever it has been) is more than enough time to make up your mind. Its practically 1/12 or 2/12s of a year and thats not enough time to make up your mind about whether you love the boyfriend you've been with for a year? She is really confused about it and I dont think she has a good reason to be. I know a great deal of her life so I know that most things at home and stuff wouldnt affect her to cause her to be so confused. So I think her friends (who are just trying to get her to go out with one of them) are messing with her head and it pisses me off.

Whatever just thought i'd vent and ask your thoughts on the subject

[QUOTE=rocknrollstar]If you don't mind me asking what do you mean by change about yourself?

Apprearnce?
Personality?[/QUOTE]

Dude what did you mean ?

Basically, I don't mean really change yourself. I just mean, evaluate the things you need to really work on. Like, I mean, I'm overweight, and I've always wanted to lose weight, but now I really have a drive to do that, so I've been losing weight and stuff. This helps me get girls, but for now I'm just focused on losing for my girlfriend. Yeah, I don't know. But, do you know what I'm getting at?

[QUOTE=rocknrollstar]Anyone ?[/QUOTE]

I actually think it can mean a lot of different things.

In terms of appearance you might want to chance it depending on who it is you like and you are trying to attract. Now I'm not saying change yourself completely but if you like a hardcore rocker girl I dont think you want to go up to her wearing American Eagle and singing the latest busta rhymes song ya know? ha ha now dont change yourself too much though. ha ha.

But I think the person means personality and the way you act/talk. If your good at talking about certain things or you know certain things try to bring them up in a conversation in a way that interests others to listen about them. Personality wise you dont want to be a bitch or anything so try and act natural. If people dont like the way you act sometimes work on changing that if you feel you need to improve it too. But dont change it if it is truly a part of who you are ya know?

[QUOTE=susto_001]Basically, I don't mean really change yourself. I just mean, evaluate the things you need to really work on. Like, I mean, I'm overweight, and I've always wanted to lose weight, but now I really have a drive to do that, so I've been losing weight and stuff. This helps me get girls, but for now I'm just focused on losing for my girlfriend. Yeah, I don't know. But, do you know what I'm getting at?[/QUOTE]


Yes i understand.


Im also a little overweight.


Although im not saying anything but you seem a little hyporcritical.


Dont change yourself but you went on a diet etc.

Anyway yeah i get you

[QUOTE=TheCrimsonKing]I actually think it can mean a lot of different things.

In terms of appearance you might want to chance it depending on who it is you like and you are trying to attract. Now I'm not saying change yourself completely but if you like a hardcore rocker girl I dont think you want to go up to her wearing American Eagle and singing the latest busta rhymes song ya know? ha ha now dont change yourself too much though. ha ha.

But I think the person means personality and the way you act/talk. If your good at talking about certain things or you know certain things try to bring them up in a conversation in a way that interests others to listen about them. Personality wise you dont want to be a bitch or anything so try and act natural. If people dont like the way you act sometimes work on changing that if you feel you need to improve it too. But dont change it if it is truly a part of who you are ya know?[/QUOTE]


I understand.

You don't have to change yourself as in change who you are as such. Just change little things like wear smarter clothes or talk to people more often or know not to bring up that stupidly nerdy thing you do when you first meet someone.

My friend is lonely at the moment, I've already emailed her back telling her things like she has lots of friends, it's nothing wrong with her because people love to hang out with her and people do think she's hot, plenty of people care, having a boyfriend's not the be all and end all etc. Just wondering if anyone had anything else I could tell her.

[QUOTE=evilmenhavenosongs]

My friend is lonely at the moment, I've already emailed her back telling her things like she has lots of friends, it's nothing wrong with her because people love to hang out with her and people do think she's hot, plenty of people care, having a boyfriend's not the be all and end all etc. Just wondering if anyone had anything else I could tell her.[/QUOTE]


Lonely in general or lonely as in 'Oh I dont have a boyfriend, whats wrong with me'?

i was with a girl for a year and a half and it was great and uni fooked things up and 2 weeks after we split she's found another guy. sucks

[QUOTE=Tiger]Lonely in general or lonely as in 'Oh I dont have a boyfriend, whats wrong with me'?[/QUOTE]

It's a combination of both really. She's got a load of stress with work and everyone's a bit stressed and quiet around each other at the moment. Plus one of her best friends has started to annoy her a bit. She had a boyfriend a while ago but it was quite a bad experience because she didn't like him at all really and he liked her a lot more than she did him. The guy she likes is taken as well and everyone feels lonely every now and then. She said she was feeling better after I talked to her but is there anything else I can do really?

[QUOTE=kenapa]didn't say they would, did i? [size=2]cu[/size]ntface[/QUOTE]


Oh.

Well then. Dont post it in the ****ing L&R Thread maybe, asshat?



[QUOTE=evilmenhavenosongs]It's a combination of both really. She's got a load of stress with work and everyone's a bit stressed and quiet around each other at the moment. Plus one of her best friends has started to annoy her a bit. She had a boyfriend a while ago but it was quite a bad experience because she didn't like him at all really and he liked her a lot more than she did him. The guy she likes is taken as well and everyone feels lonely every now and then. She said she was feeling better after I talked to her but is there anything else I can do really?[/QUOTE]

It just sounds like a little dip...in about a week or two everyone will have relaxed and everything. Its fine to be melodramatic about it for a second but she needs to just get over it.

Yeah, I think that's just what it is. There's always stuff that you can say to cheer people up though. I think she'll be ok. :)

[QUOTE=evilmenhavenosongs]Yeah, I think that's just what it is. There's always stuff that you can say to cheer people up though. I think she'll be ok. :)[/QUOTE]


No care is the best care.