[QUOTE=ArrestThisMan]Man, I hate when gay guys dance with your girlfriend tho because they feel as if they can be all over them and its okay because they are gay.

**** that![/QUOTE]
Umm if they're gay then they're not going to have any ulterior motive are they? So it doesn't actually matter.

[QUOTE=inassociationwithdeanlearner ] I think harold bishop from neighbours is pretty fit... [/QUOTE]
:lol:
[QUOTE=inassociationwithdeanlearner]I love the way harold's face swings from side to side when he says anything.[/QUOTE]
:lol::lol::lol:

[QUOTE=Atman]that's why you guys just gotta chill out

watch office space or read the bhagavad gita

they're both really the same thing[/QUOTE]

I lolled at that

I like a girl and I don't think she has a boyfriend. I have seen two marines make a pass at it tho

if I get with her my ego's probably going to grow a foot or two

What is the best way to say "Will you go out with me" to a girl? That sounds dull, so I want to use something else. And if she says yes, should I kiss her afterwards?

[QUOTE=KurtCobain2902]What is the best way to say "Will you go out with me" to a girl? That sounds dull, so I want to use something else. And if she says yes, should I kiss her afterwards?[/QUOTE]
Well, there isn't really any other way to say it....just say some thing on why you liker her, ask her, then just give her a little kiss.

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]Well, there isn't really any other way to say it....just say some thing on why you liker her, ask her, then just give her a little kiss.[/QUOTE]


Thanks, man

try and get as close to her as you can so its a kinda unspoken thing, its a lot better that way, i find that if you ask, you feel you have to act like you didnt before just to prove it, where if its gradual, it feels more close and real

[QUOTE=tumples]try and get as close to her as you can so its a kinda unspoken thing, its a lot better that way, i find that if you ask, you feel you have to act like you didnt before just to prove it, where if its gradual, it feels more close and real[/QUOTE]
Yeah, thats a good idea too.

I dont know why people ask "will you go out with me". I dont even kno how that even came to be, since it really doesnt make any sense.

Actually, I dont know why people need to ask anyway. I mean, if you are close enough where it is clear you both have interest in each other, why do you have to have a spoken agreement with each other. Why not just continue what you are doing and become an "official" couple over time. I dunno, maybe I just have a silly way of thinking.

All I know is, the whole "will you go out with me" b/s makes you sound like you're about 15.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]I dont know why people ask "will you go out with me". I dont even kno how that even came to be, since it really doesnt make any sense.

Actually, I dont know why people need to ask anyway. I mean, if you are close enough where it is clear you both have interest in each other, why do you have to have a spoken agreement with each other. Why not just continue what you are doing and become an "official" couple over time. I dunno, maybe I just have a silly way of thinking.

All I know is, the whole "will you go out with me" b/s makes you sound like you're about 15.[/QUOTE]
Because it's almost a verbal contract.

Girl: "Soo....why where you with that girl last night?"

Guy: "Why do you care? It's not like we're going out."

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]Because it's almost a verbal contract.

Girl: "Soo....why where you with that girl last night?"

Guy: "Why do you care? It's not like we're going out."[/QUOTE]

But if you are confident about the relationship/progress, why do you need a verbal contract?

Instead of it being just like, you are seeing each other..you are going out? where are you going? You know, sigh, haha I just dont get it.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]But if you are confident about the relationship/progress, why do you need a verbal contract?

Instead of it being just like, you are seeing each other..you are going out? where are you going? You know, sigh, haha I just dont get it.[/QUOTE]
Becuase it gets rid of any grey area and sets up certain boundries that come with a relationship. If you two just like each other and get along, but don't have some sort of verbal agreement or promise, then either one is free to do anything they wish.

most guys want to be in a fully commited relationship with the girl they like immediately


i don't really get it either. just fu[I]c[/I]kin hang out and stuff

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]most guys want to be in a fully commited relationship with the girl they like immediately


i don't really get it either. just fu[I]c[/I]kin hang out and stuff[/QUOTE]
Guys are usually the ones that fall head over heels first. I'd go as far as to say that men are more emotional in relatiopnships than women are(But not all the time). Just some observations I have made through the years.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]I dont know why people ask "will you go out with me". I dont even kno how that even came to be, since it really doesnt make any sense.

Actually, I dont know why people need to ask anyway. I mean, if you are close enough where it is clear you both have interest in each other, why do you have to have a spoken agreement with each other. Why not just continue what you are doing and become an "official" couple over time. I dunno, maybe I just have a silly way of thinking.

All I know is, the whole "will you go out with me" b/s makes you sound like you're about 15.[/QUOTE]

Well it's more like "would you like to go out sometime" in most cases among late-teens and older folk.

It doesn't really happen so gradually when you get out of highschool because no one has time to waste anymore.

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]Well it's more like "would you like to go out sometime" in most cases among late-teens and older folk.

It doesn't really happen so gradually when you get out of highschool because no one has time to waste anymore.[/QUOTE]
True.

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]Well it's more like "would you like to go out sometime" in most cases among late-teens and older folk.

It doesn't really happen so gradually when you get out of highschool because no one has time to waste anymore.[/QUOTE]

Meh, I guess I just dont see it the same. I like to have something fun and spontanious. Something thats always mapped out and planned on each stage of progression seems pretty uneventful.

And if someone is really interested in you, for who are you, etc. they wouldnt do anything with anyone else regardless if you were dating or not. A verbal contract isnt going to do anything if the person does not want to be there in the first place.

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]True.[/QUOTE]

if only it was any easier :X

I haven't asked a girl out in like three years god I feel like such a nub

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Meh, I guess I just dont see it the same. I like to have something fun and spontanious. Something thats always mapped out and planned on each stage of progression seems pretty uneventful.

And if someone is really interested in you, for who are you, etc. they wouldnt do anything with anyone else regardless if you were dating or not. A verbal contract isnt going to do anything if the person does not want to be there in the first place.[/QUOTE]
It sounds like you want a love novel relationship. :p

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]You want a love novel, it sounds like.[/QUOTE]

Far from.

I like a casual friend/boyfriend like dating and chillin, and whatever rather than..uhh, okay we are going out now lets do this....:p

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Far from.

I like casual friend like dating and chillin, and whatever rather than..uhh, okay we are going out now lets do this....[/QUOTE]
Ohhh so you don't want a "BF", just a person to go to?

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]Ohhh so you don't want a "BF", just a person to go to?[/QUOTE]

No, I want a bf (I have one) but its more like, we are friends AND partners. Like, I duno what Im trying to describe really. But I guess Im just kind of tiresome with the relationships today - how they always have to fit into this category of stage by stage process.

Have some fun with it! Guys dont have to be official about everything all the time

i think most guys just have this whole mindset that tension is a bad thing so when they like a girl they think its a good idea to spill all their feelings. that pretty much ruins everything usually for them

[QUOTE=purplefeet]No, I want a bf (I have one) but its more like, we are friends AND partners. Like, I duno what Im trying to describe really. But I guess Im just kind of tiresome with the relationships today - how they always have to fit into this category of stage by stage process.

Have some fun with it! Guys dont have to be official about everything all the time[/QUOTE]
The only "official" thing I do is celebrate anni's.

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]i think most guys just have this whole mindset that tension is a bad thing so when they like a girl they think its a good idea to spill all their feelings. that pretty much ruins everything usually for them[/QUOTE]

Well, I think thats the thing right there. People just dive into things WAY to quickly and throw it all out the window

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Well, I think thats the thing right there. People just dive into things WAY to quickly and throw it all out the window[/QUOTE]
Well, if it's one of those instances where two people meet, and they "click" rather fast and get along really well, I don't think it's a mistake to say I love you or anyhting. Love is a feeling, not a decision.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Far from.

I like a casual friend/boyfriend like dating and chillin, and whatever rather than..uhh, okay we are going out now lets do this....:p[/QUOTE]

Well, let's look at how it would be with me.

I work 6-7 hours a day..that's 9-4 on most days. From there, I drop by my house to change and go to the gym at 5. I get out around 6. I go downtown to a park to jog. I'm usually done there by 7.

By that time I'm usually dead. However, on mondays, I squeeze guitar lessons in, and every day I read for an hour and practice guitar.

Now..I like a girl. I see her two times a week because that's really all that she comes to town. The only time we have to get to know each other is when she's at work (and she gets off at 9 or 11pm; weekdays and weekends respectively) and it's slow enough for us to talk. That knocks off the one weekday I see her. On weekends, it's slow enough, and we actually had plenty of time to play a drinking game with a few other people (without the alchohol) until they closed the shop last saturday.

I will never really get to know her if I don't make a move. And I'm being a serious pussy about it.

So..while slow and gradual is nice, sometimes it's just a case of getting the hooks in before you can be slow and gradual.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]I dont know why people ask "will you go out with me". I dont even kno how that even came to be, since it really doesnt make any sense.

Actually, I dont know why people need to ask anyway. I mean, if you are close enough where it is clear you both have interest in each other, why do you have to have a spoken agreement with each other. Why not just continue what you are doing and become an "official" couple over time. I dunno, maybe I just have a silly way of thinking. [/QUOTE]

woah

that's exactly how i roll

:cool:

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]Well, let's look at how it would be with me.

I work 6-7 hours a day..that's 9-4 on most days. From there, I drop by my house to change and go to the gym at 5. I get out around 6. I go downtown to a park to jog. I'm usually done there by 7.

By that time I'm usually dead. However, on mondays, I squeeze guitar lessons in, and every day I read for an hour and practice guitar.

Now..I like a girl. I see her two times a week because that's really all that she comes to town. The only time we have to get to know each other is when she's at work (and she gets off at 9 or 11pm; weekdays and weekends respectively) and it's slow enough for us to talk. That knocks off the one weekday I see her. On weekends, it's slow enough, and we actually had plenty of time to play a drinking game with a few other people (without the alchohol) until they closed the shop last saturday.

I will never really get to know her if I don't make a move. And I'm being a serious slightly confuzzled sea lion about it.

So..while slow and gradual is nice, sometimes it's just a case of getting the hooks in before you can be slow and gradual.[/QUOTE]

But why bother putting in the hooks if it isnt going to go anywhere. Like what will make the difference in the relationship if you are official or not?

Yeah see, Eggo knows where its at :p

[QUOTE=purplefeet]But why bother putting in the hooks if it isnt going to go anywhere. Like what will make the difference in the relationship if you are official or not?

Yeah see, Eggo knows where its at :p[/QUOTE]

I'm not saying it has to be official. I'm just saying there's reason to make a statement instead of "letting things happen" like you might with a summer romance.

Once again, when/if I "ask someone out" it's on a date, not to be my gf.

Hmmmm me and my GF's one month coming up this saturday. I wrote a little poem for her......is that "too much" for a one month?

Honestly, I think writing poems for girls is really gay. But that's just me.

[QUOTE=Rasta Rocker]Honestly, I think writing poems for girls is really gay. But that's just me.[/QUOTE]
Useless contribution #1.

Depends on the content of your poem sweetie.

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]Useless contribution #1.[/QUOTE]
Or an indirect way of saying, "don't do it."

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Depends on the content of your poem sweetie.[/QUOTE]
Nothing I haven't siad to her before....nothing shocking, I just thought it would be nice. :-(

[QUOTE=Rasta Rocker]Or an indirect way of saying, "don't do it."[/QUOTE]

This.

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]This.[/QUOTE]
Why not?


She already wrote me a letter basically telling me that she loves me, so this isn't really uncalled for.

man even my girlfriend doesn't know when our relationship started haha

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]Why not?[/QUOTE]

I don't know. I tried it when I was younger and it just came off as lame