Yeah. She is a cool little chick. As far as music goes, we have very little in common, which, at one point, I though would be a deal breaker, but other than the initial "What bands do you like?" music has never come up. Cute, kinda innocent, but with a hint of the devil in her smile.

She is very far from the normal people I would date, let alone talk to, but there is something about her.

But, I work with her. And that kinda worries me.




I'll talk to you tomorrow. I needs eats.

Last time I dated someone at work it turned out bad. I vowed never to do it again.

[QUOTE=The Real El Capitano]This isn't really for advice or anything, but I've been silently(ish) monitoring the L&R thread for quite some time, but never bitched about my own problems, so now, my bitching shall commence for the first time.

2 years ago i fell, straight fell, for this girl named Karon(pronounced like karen.) Anyway, we were going out and all this stuff and I soon came to the conclusion that I loved her. Really, loved. Not like some bull**** OMG I LUVVVV HER SO MUCH !!!111! !! but like a real, love. The same was coming from her and it was really awesome until one day she said to me, "I might be moving." Now I am a very realistic person so I immedietly thought to myself, well, she's gone. So low and behold, she moves away. Gone forever,or so I thought, to Plano, Texas.(Right outside Dallas.) Now I live in Tucson, Arizona, which is a grand total of 972.5 miles away from her house. Yea. So for a while we were doin that whole long distance thing, with her coming back intermittenly,and reassuring me that she would be back soon enough, and all this would be one bad memory, but atleast a thing of the past. Well, time went on, and on, and on and on and on. As I'm starting to come to the realization that she aint never comin back, and me not sure if I can really feel the love that I did anymore, because a persons true personality is hard to fully grasp and feel over the phone,her friend, Amy, accosts me over the internet. She starts talking to me and bla bla bla. I've never met her before, and spoken to her once or twice on the phone,and over the internet, so I'm really not that interested in talking to her.Well eventually she starts getting around to talking to me about my feelings for Karon, the one I love, and I start telling her that I'm not really sure whether or not I still like her, because after 4 or 5 months, a forced submission of your feelings starts to take place. She finally offers to break up with her for me, and after much deliberation I tell her to do it, but to tell her that I was really,really really, sorry. That point I could not stress enough. So, with tears in my eyes, I start thinking of what I've done, and later and later it dawns on me that I've made a huge mistake. So I call her one day, and tell her that I still love her and she says the same, and I do this a few more times over the months. Well I'm talking to her on the phone one night, and she tells me that a week after I broke up with her, she was asked if she wanted to move back here. She said no because we weren't going out anymore, and she saw no point in coming back. I did not sleep a wink that night. The next weeks and till this day I think about how differnt my life would be if I had waited a god damn week,or never let her friend talk me into breaking us up. Anyway, so I've gone to Dallas a few times to see her, and the first time was when we were still together. Well I went the 19th of last month, only for the weekend, and it just didn't feel the same. Not the same, but I know that I still love her, because I can feel it right now as I type this, and probably as you read, for it takes alot to get my mind off her, or atleast the feeling. But one day she told me that she doesn't really love me anymore, and that I seemed like I was over her, so she got over me, when truley, I have never been so UN-over anything in my entire life. But at other times, when she talks to me, she says that she still loves me, and she'll put things on her away message on AIM, or in her profile or myspace, hinting that she still does love me. However, she rarley talks to me anymore. She constantly has her away message up on AIM, even though she's there because she sends messages through it, and I know it for a fact. Also, she never answers her phone for me. Ever. Quite frankly it's a sad state of affairs, but I think she's coming here for a couple weeks this summer, during which time I plan to win her back.However, I know that I missed my oppourtunity for her moving back, and I don't know what's going to happen, as in I don't know if it's even possible for us to have anything again, since I made a stupid mistake a year and a half ago, and didn't listen to my heart.We were always saying that we were gonna get married, and were dead serious, but now I don't know if we can ever have anything again because of what I did. That, and she thinks I cheated on her because her god damn friend that lived here, Gillian, told her that she thought I was messin around with this chick that was all up on me, even though said chick annoyed me to no end. Anyway, if you read this, thank I guess, but I kinda just wanted to bitch and see if anyone thinks anything is possible, or just their view points on this. O and for all you guys that plan on telling me to try to get over her by doing this and that and the other thing, save it, because I've already been out with other chicks and all that crap, and quite frankly im not sure if I want to get over her. So please, I don't want to read a generic response that I've read a million times in regards to other people's problems in this thread.[/QUOTE]

Few days late, but oh well i like reading each page and i haven't been around for a few days :p, here's my input.

Wow, i know how you must feel to have broken it off like that and realised the circumstances later. Okay so, first of all, i think you are right in not wanting to goout and see other people to get over her. It sounds like this is one of those rare occasions where genuine two way love sparks, and in an occasion such as this, i think you should do everything you can to revive your relationship. The long lasting relationships (such as you described talking about with marriage and such coming into it) are kept alive because someone will always try to keep the relationship going, and i can see that you both do that by continuing to see her after she moved so far away, and her wanting to move back to be with you etc. I respect that.

You need to make her absolutley positively certain that you didn't sleep around while she was away, if she is still sceptical there will be problems down the line, so do whatever you can to assure her she is the only one you cared for.

Then, tell her what you have told us in this post, let her know how sad you were to break it off, and how chances are that if Amy hadn't developed the breakup idea, you probably would have continued to wait for her to come back. Let her know, that you still feel the same way about her, you still love her and don't feel that anything has been lost in this "bad memory" other than the committment you both had towards the relationship, which you are now trying to fix :)

You may find that if she knows that you still feel the same way about her, she will be the same way back, because by what you said it sounds like she became "uninterested" in a sense, solely because she thought you didn't feel the same, and her knowing your true feelings will be a big part of winning her back. Good luck with it all, you have plenty of hope with achieving this, keep us posted :)


[QUOTE=Corkofski]make like my mate:

split up, go find other girls, then **** her when shes in town[/QUOTE]

This is why AmericanWeiner, and i too, think you are a douche.

ATTN: Girls of Mx
 

I'm doing a history assigment and i need to know of celebrity guys that teenage girls get crushes on.

Thx, dazmo

[QUOTE=Dot.]Yeah. She is a cool little chick. As far as music goes, we have very little in common, which, at one point, I though would be a deal breaker, but other than the initial "What bands do you like?" music has never come up. Cute, kinda innocent, but with a hint of the devil in her smile.

She is very far from the normal people I would date, let alone talk to, but there is something about her.

But, I work with her. And that kinda worries me.




I'll talk to you tomorrow. I needs eats.[/QUOTE]

Just don't dump her and quit in one text message

:o

/dboon and slsk chatters might get it

[QUOTE=dazmo]I'm doing a history assigment and i need to know of celebrity guys that teenage girls get crushes on.

Thx, dazmo[/QUOTE]

brad pitt
johnny depp
colin farrell

the big three

thx Atman

[QUOTE=dazmo]I'm doing a history assigment and i need to know of celebrity guys that teenage girls get crushes on.

Thx, dazmo[/QUOTE]

Atman gave you 3 good ones. Im going to give you a few of mine. Vince Vaughn and Johnny Knoxville. Both scrumptious.

:p thanks!

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Atman gave you 3 good ones. Im going to give you a few of mine. Vince Vaughn and Johnny Knoxville. Both scrumptious.[/QUOTE]
Vince Vaughn?
Is it me or does Knoxville always play a dirtbag in his movies?

I think harold bishop from neighbours is pretty fit...

[QUOTE=inassociationwithdeanlearner]I think harold bishop from neighbours is pretty fit...[/QUOTE]
Yeah and Lou Carpenter.

Well some interesting reading here as always, I never get in here much at all, my MX time is limited and is pretty much spent in the Sports forums (moreover, the World Cup and Official Football thread exclusively). Well maybe when I get a chance I'll try to have some input into this thread, it's one of the best on mx.

[QUOTE=ihatemybass]Vince Vaughn?
Is it me or does Knoxville always play a dirtbag in his movies?[/QUOTE]

Indeed, Vaughn is mad sexy.

But yah, I dunno I guess you could say that about Johnny Knoxville. I dont care much for his acting, he is just a nice pieve of eye candy to drool over.

[QUOTE=RandyfromPennywise]Yeah and Lou Carpenter.

Well some interesting reading here as always, I never get in here much at all, my MX time is limited and is pretty much spent in the Sports forums (moreover, the World Cup and Official Football thread exclusively). Well maybe when I get a chance I'll try to have some input into this thread, it's one of the best on mx.[/QUOTE]
I love the way harold's face swings from side to side when he says anything.

[QUOTE=inassociationwithdeanlearner]I love the way harold's face swings from side to side when he says anything.[/QUOTE]

:lol:

Arent we going slightly off topic here guys. Like I think we've given that person a few names for the crushes or whatever :P

I have the worst luck ever.

I've liked this girl in my school for like 3 months but she has boyfriend. Just recently, I got over her but it took so long to deal with it. After I got over her, my ASB class had a field trip on Friday to the boardwalk and I started liking this other girl. Me and her have talked a lot but I started to like her. I wasn't sure if she had a boyfriend at the time but it didn't seem like it and she seemed to like me. But then just on Tuesday, my whole school had a field trip to an amusement park and one of my dude friends came with me and her. On the lines to the ride, he kept on hugging her an stuff and afterwards, I found out that they were going out. I don't know when they started going out but it sucks so much. This is the second time something like this has happened to me. My day at the amusement park was ruined because I found out that they were dating. We were going to go on a ride and the line for that ride took 2 hours and I couldn't stand seeing them hug and stuff so I sat it out. I have the worst luck ever. I don't think I can do anything about this.

man is it just me or do a lot of MXers always end up liking some girl who somehow already has a boyfriend

[QUOTE=Atman]man is it just me or do a lot of MXers always end up liking some girl who somehow already has a boyfriend[/QUOTE]
Liking a girl that has a boyfriend sucks.

[QUOTE=Atman]man is it just me or do a lot of MXers always end up liking some girl who somehow already has a boyfriend[/QUOTE]

That's because all the ugly girls with a bad personality don't have boyfriends.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]That's because all the ugly girls with a bad personality don't have boyfriends.[/QUOTE]
amen

[QUOTE=Atman]man is it just me or do a lot of MXers always end up liking some girl who somehow already has a boyfriend[/QUOTE]

Its true.

I think a lot of male Mxers (or just Mxers in general) find themselves "liking" people way too easily. Like, if you develop strong feelings for someone, would you know enough about them in the first place to know whether or not they have a boyfriend? I dunno...I guess thats just how I see it.

Get to know people before you get your hopes up.

yeah seriously

very good advice purpz

[quote=Eggo]man is it just me or do a lot of MXers always end up liking some girl who somehow already has a boyfriend[/quote]

Nah, it's not just you.

But I can't deny that this is very likely true as well:

[quote=Strongbad]That's because all the ugly girls with a bad personality don't have boyfriends.[/quote]

Although I also concur with purplefeet's explanation as well.

lol

yeah

hmm i guess i've always been lucky

It seems like my situation is the girl starts off as single, then when I get to know her and all that, she goes back to her exbf.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]It seems like my situation is the girl starts off as single, then when I get to know her and all that, she goes back to her exbf.[/QUOTE]
That sucks.

that's why you guys just gotta chill out

watch office space or read the bhagavad gita

they're both really the same thing

Quick question for you guys. If you and your lady went to a dance, and she danced with her guy friends, but it's purely "kidding around", how would you feel?

haha i'd tell myself to not be such a possessive and insecure little bitch

if she has no problems with you dancing with your girl friends, why should you?

[QUOTE=Atman]haha i'd tell myself to not be such a possessive and insecure little bitch

if she has no problems with you dancing with your girl friends, why should you?[/QUOTE]
I don't see it as being possessive. Every guy has a little protective voice in the back of his head. But believe me, i'm VERY trusting maybe a little more than I should be, actually.

If/When I get married, and my wife starts dancing with her father, I'm not going to drop-kick him.

Girls have to have guy friends, and guys need girl friends. So long as they're not sucking face and just having fun, you shouldn't try to put yourself in a position to ruin that fun.

I wish some guys would realize that. I've lost a lot of good girl friends over the years cuz of their overprotective boyfriends.

man i'm so emotionally unavailable right now

while she dances with another guy, dance with his girl.

[QUOTE=Jom]If/When I get married, and my wife starts dancing with her father, I'm not going to drop-kick him.

Girls have to have guy friends, and guys need girl friends. So long as they're not sucking face and just having fun, you shouldn't try to put yourself in a position to ruin that fun.[/QUOTE]

Man, I hate when gay guys dance with your girlfriend tho because they feel as if they can be all over them and its okay because they are gay.

**** that!

[QUOTE=ArrestThisMan]Man, I hate when gay guys dance with your girlfriend tho because they feel as if they can be all over them and its okay because they are gay.

**** that![/QUOTE]

However, your girl likes it because her thuperfriends let her know where all the big sales are!

[size=-2](I agree, that is pretty gay. RIMSHOT.)[/size]

[QUOTE=WindowLedge]while she dances with another guy, dance with his girl.[/QUOTE]

This is actually good advice.

My problem:

A girl (well about my age, I'm guessing) just joined our local music message board. She types in all caps and doesn't seem to have any brain cells to speak of. She's a giant attention whore.

I've had enough of her one night and make a comment (directed to her by name) about whether she actually PLAYS an instrument or just...(plays skin flute). The last part is just alluded to, not said. This was a week ago.

She PMs me last night and apologizes and says she just wants to be friends. I haven't answered her yet because I don't know what to say.

Any ideas? This girl is annoying as hell.

But she's local. And, her husband (although you'd never know she's married) I guess sits in every now and then with one of the local cover bands.

Also, she's been really hitting on my axe murderer HARD. Gee, don't let THAT influence you, Kimmie.

[QUOTE=Jom]If/When I get married, and my wife starts dancing with her father, I'm not going to drop-kick him.

Girls have to have guy friends, and guys need girl friends. So long as they're not sucking face and just having fun, you shouldn't try to put yourself in a position to ruin that fun.[/QUOTE]

exactly

okay so i'm thinking the l&r thread is mostly a very drawn out version of jamie blunt's you are beautiful song