[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Then you are very, very rare, Jared. Believe me on this one.[/QUOTE]
you're definately wrong about this. most guys are majorly chodish and get insanely jealous and insecure about their girlfriends being with other guys

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Then you are very, very rare, Jared. Believe me on this one.[/QUOTE]

So far my type of guy makes up 75% of the men in the current conversation.

As opposed to like 7.5% in real life.

I can even give you a case in point with my axe murderer that just happened recently. And he's part of the majority.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]As opposed to like 7.5% in real life.

I can even give you a case in point with my axe murderer that just happened recently. And he's part of the majority.[/QUOTE]

If you say so.

/insert typical female logic joke here

Could it not be that the guys actually ARE jealous, but don't want to be seen as such, therefore do what I do and just suck it up and pretend everything's cool? Most guys don't want to be seen as the jealous, possessive type, and therefore will do a hell of a lot to avoid being seen as such.

Exactly.

Maybe, you're right. Maybe guys these days are more sensitive. All I can say is guys my age are not.

And if guys your age are more sensitive, then I really would like to kick the butts of the girls who don't appreciate it. Because those of us my age have not had that, mostly. And that makes a good portion of girls your age pretty damned dumb.

To be honest, that's the female curse. Girls our age (I'll assume Jared's about the same age as I am) tend to be going for the guys that treat them like crap and act all tough and distant and so on, because the majority of guys in this generation are sensitive and treat women with respect, whereas girls your age tend to want the guys that are sensitive and caring because there aren't as many guys around that age that are like that. It's the classic female disease of always wanting what's not there.

(no disrespect intended there, btw. :))

[QUOTE=Jason101]To be honest, that's the female curse. Girls our age (I'll assume Jared's about the same age as I am) tend to be going for the guys that treat them like crap and act all tough and distant and so on, because the majority of guys in this generation are sensitive and treat women with respect, whereas girls your age tend to want the guys that are sensitive and caring because there aren't as many guys around that age that are like that. It's the classic female disease of always wanting what's not there.

(no disrespect intended there, btw. :))[/QUOTE]

I think you're about two years older than me, since I'm 19.

And you're right.

It's gotta be the generation, I guess. Most guys my age can't really get in touch with their feelings, unless they're being insane. So that leaves any kind of sensitivity out the window.

Mind you, there are some that can do it, but they are few and far between.

I know what you guys mean, though, for time out of mind the girls always are attracted to the "bad boys" with attitude. Not a good time for us. I stopped doing that around mid twenties because all it resulted in was a heartache.

[QUOTE=Iscariot]I think you're about two years older than me, since I'm 19.
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Yeah, that's right... I think we had this discussion before, as I remember you being slightly younger than I thought you were.

thanks you guys for everybody's input.

i talked with a friend as well and decided that if it happens again i'll bring up that it's bothering me. if she doesn't call him/he doesn't mention visiting her, i'll let it go out of sight out of mind (especially seeing as she's going to be gone for the summer, then they're going to colleges in different states)

if, however, she does call while i'm there or he mentions hanging out with her, i'll tell him point blank that it bothers me a little and talk with him about it.

That sounds like the most sensible idea. Good luck. :)

Yeah, spot on.

Good luck with it. :)

[QUOTE=Jason101]Could it not be that the guys actually ARE jealous, but don't want to be seen as such, therefore do what I do and just suck it up and pretend everything's cool? Most guys don't want to be seen as the jealous, possessive type, and therefore will do a hell of a lot to avoid being seen as such.[/QUOTE]
It's very hard not to be protective/jealous. I mean, even if your girl has guy friends that are purely just guy friends, you always have this thing in the back of your head about them.

Exactly - you know there's probably nothing going on, but it's a natural reaction to be protective - almost a primal thing.

It's really bad when you convince yourself that you're just being ridiculous and then find out later that your girl really was cheating on you all along.

Yeah. I trust my girl completely, it's just other guys I worry about making the moves.

People these days have no respect for monogamy.

[QUOTE]Yeah. I trust my girl completely, it's just other guys I worry about making the moves.[/QUOTE]

Nail on head there, my friend.

[QUOTE=Jason101]Nail on head there, my friend.[/QUOTE]
As a guy, I know we do some really sleezy things every so often, and knowing how we think as a gender, I don't trust any one of them. :p

EXACTLY. Know thy enemy and all that. :lol:

I've always tried to live life by my gut feelings. Believe it or not, it works.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I've always tried to live life by my gut feelings. Believe it or not, it works.[/QUOTE]
Yes, it usually does. Most people fool themselves into believing that nothing is wrong. That is why I told my GF at the beginning of our relationship to be upfront, truthful and as blunt as possible with me. It's very helpful.

I was actually going to say something about that earlier - it's scary how often your gut feelings are right sometimes. I know when I was going through the entire divorce thing that almost everything that happened I'd expected to happen in some way, if you get me.

Yeah, I get you. Your gut is there for a reason. Listen to it.

I have been best friends with my gf for years and have always felt for her and loved her greatly, i have been there for good times and bad. and as of jan this yr we have been together 'officially' although its been a lot longer than that, maybe august of last year. I thought it was going all well till about 3 - 4 months ago.... after work i came home 4am to find an email waiting for me, my gf had been keeping something from me.... Her mum, she had been in blazing arguments etc etc since we was 'official' with her mum... who doesn't believe in 'mixed relationships'. me being the black one, i find it funny, im not even that black lol.

She is threatening my gf, saying she is going to chuck her out, comments like 'if you really want to be with him go to him'... its upsetting her as she really loves me and vice versa, and then all of a sudden her dad sides with her mum, i really liked him before that... bringing in another point, the fact they REALLY liked me before i started dating their daughter.

I have never met anyone like this, not in this day and age, times have changed, but to be honest i think shes making life hard for us because she can't get her own way, i mean, she even goes through my gfsyes theres a list)
Internet profiles
Phone (msgs, calls etc)
Bin (checking all her tickets)

Shes also blocked my number from the house and her msn. And that she has to make major excuses/lies when she comes to see me, her mum gets angry because she lies, but she may aswel lie and get risk gettign away with it than go through a blazing argument. I remember one time after on a night out noone knew where my gf was so i instinctivly went to the spot where we always go (not just us but my friends etc) and she was there in tears, she had litrally broken down, and mainly caused by the fact she knew her mum was waiting at home for her, just for an argument... and she always waits up for her. That night she had to stay at mine, and hell broke lose the next day ie. police threatened to come round to mine to get her -.- (it didn't resort to that)

Thing that gets to me is, her mums talking to 'potetial' affairs behind her husbands back and lies to him about it

1. Why should she have to live with me? (where not ready for that sort of commitment)
2. Why should we be going through this?
3. Is her mum the only person that thinks like this?

We are both 19 sensible pre-mature adults (as in we know what we want and the fact that no one should force there opinions on us), i could understand her mums privicy invasion if she was 16 or so, but for-godsake, she has NO privacy and can't even see who she wants to see.

I think my gf's mum is one of the nastiest and evil women i have ever come across!!

I think our comfort comes from the fact that she is moving out soon, Jan latest.

Where not just a couple, but best friends, its not that simple to say jsut forget it, as we love each other so much... so splitting up aint and issue.

Your thoughts?

Mail me: [email]ridethelightning_bd@msn.com[/email]

i'd like to know what you think to it, and i get lost in huge threads like this lol

19 is too old to have to put up with what I consider to be invasion of privacy on her mom's part. And her staying with you that night and the police threatening to come round? She's an adult, there of her own free will. They wouldn't do it.

If she has a job, she needs to find somewhere else to stay. In my opinion, she also needs to have better security on the computer so her mom can't get into her stuff.

I mean, honestly, racial issues should NOT be issues these days.

Had her mom called the cops, they wouldn't have went looking for her. Once you turn 16, you are legally allowed to run away.

And for her parents to be racist like that is uncalled for. We should be way past the whole black and white phase by now.

tell her mom off straight up.

but not while your gf is there. make it clear to her that you are black, she is some other color, and you two are in love, and she cant mess with love

Okay, lame question. But...

Once the school year starts back up, and homecoming comes around, I plan on most likely taking my friend. She's like my best friend, and we made a deal that if we couldn't both get dates(by people we 'like' or girlfriends/boyfriends), then we would go together.

She likes this one guy...but things are going kinda bad right now. And knowing me, I'll be out of luck as well. But regardless, I would love to take my friend anyways. So, chances are, we're gonna end up going together.

Simple enough.

Question?

She never, ever, lets my buy anything for her. I'm the same way, as in I don't like accepting things from others. But if I'm gonna take her as a date to homecoming, I'm gonna use that as an excuse to buy her sh[I]i[/I]t!(you have no clue, but this is a big deal to me. haha).

So, even though she said she would kill me if I do this, what do you all think are good gifts? I'm thinking like a decent assortment of chocolate truffles, and like roses or something. I'm not sure what else would be good. So any suggestions...go right ahead.

And I've already got it planned out. I'll just give all the stuff to her little sister(pay the sister 5 bucks to do this), and have her put it on my friends bed while we're at homecoming. Then she'll come home, and won't be able to kill me until the next morning. =).

[QUOTE=Dude3]Okay, lame question. But...

Once the school year starts back up, and homecoming comes around, I plan on most likely taking my friend. She's like my best friend, and we made a deal that if we couldn't both get dates(by people we 'like' or girlfriends/boyfriends), then we would go together.

She likes this one guy...but things are going kinda bad right now. And knowing me, I'll be out of luck as well. But regardless, I would love to take my friend anyways. So, chances are, we're gonna end up going together.

Simple enough.

Question?

She never, ever, lets my buy anything for her. I'm the same way, as in I don't like accepting things from others. But if I'm gonna take her as a date to homecoming, I'm gonna use that as an excuse to buy her sh[I]i[/I]t!(you have no clue, but this is a big deal to me. haha).

So, even though she said she would kill me if I do this, what do you all think are good gifts? I'm thinking like a decent assortment of chocolate truffles, and like roses or something. I'm not sure what else would be good. So any suggestions...go right ahead.

And I've already got it planned out. I'll just give all the stuff to her little sister(pay the sister 5 bucks to do this), and have her put it on my friends bed while we're at homecoming. Then she'll come home, and won't be able to kill me until the next morning. =).[/QUOTE]

It's best not to plan things until you know what the situation is.

That's a long ways off, too.

I dunno, she might be serious about the buying her things part. Why not go with her wishes?

True true. (idk, i got bored, so i felt like typing something out.)

yah, i'm lame.

[QUOTE=Dude3]True true. (idk, i got bored, so i felt like typing something out.)

yah, i'm lame.[/QUOTE]

It's pretty obvious that you want to get with her..but by the looks of it, you need to lay off and see what happens when you find something a little more...I dunno..wanting-to-jump-your-bones?

Kimmie.


I got promoted, moved into a new house, got a girlfriend, and my back has been killing me.

all this has happened since the last time I posted here.


I'm hungry and need to get some food, I will most likely be on tomorrow, and I will have more time to talk then.

God, Gregg, it's been like forever!

Hmm, I am kinda lazy. I can get food later. How have you been?

Same ole schit.

Girlfriend huh?

Dude3: If you just buy her things like chocolates/nice flowers I don't think she'd be mad because they aren't that serious, but it's still a nice gesture. I know I don't really care if people get me things or not, but I would still feel flattered if someone got me something.