[QUOTE=Junooni]Richmond, VA. About 4 hours away.[/QUOTE]

Ouch. Well, I'll be honest. Unless you've already been going out with the person for a long time, and you have the ability to see them every once in a while, long-distance relationships rarely work.

How soon is she moving?

On the other hand, this should leave you no embarrassment/fear of rejection. If she's moving, you might as well at least try and find out if she likes you. What's the worst that could happen?

She's moving on June 15th.

I think you've got a point there. So how would I go about finding out? Would I have to say something along the lines of "I like you, do you like me?" or would I have to go through other people? Both are lines I really would not like to follow. Except, the first one, I could do that if it was right before she moved. I've decided, with you guys' advice, a relationship wouldn't work out, and I can see why.

The worst that could happen? I dunno.

Eh, I think I will tell her, before she moves, but not too long before. I don't want to have to deal with the whole mutual break up b/c she's moving thing, so I'll just let her know, maybe a week or two before she moves, give her some time. That way, if she still wants something to happen between us, that's great, that's awesome. And if she doesn't, I can push myself to get over it. I've had to do it before, and I can do it again.

Thanks guys, I'm gonna go get some sleep.

Np. Glad we helped.

/Is the love guru. *Pr0n bass groove* :cool:

/panick attack

Ok...soooo, I've always known about this thread but never posted in it, cause ive never had any troubles. But...things change.

Ok, so on the weekend, I found out this chick from my school really likes me. Shes new, and I've had a thing for her since i first met her. When I found out from her that she likes me i was like "Yes awesome, but wait I have a girlfriend". Then I thought about my girlfriend for a while, and thought about how much she means to me...Then I thought about the other girl, and found that there is no way in hell Im gonna be able to chose.

Now the other girl isnt very popular among my current gf's mates, and if i ditched my gf for this other girl, it would literally be a case of social suicide.

But aaaaaaaaargh! I hate this!

[QUOTE=Mitch2oo6]/panick attack

Ok...soooo, I've always known about this thread but never posted in it, cause ive never had any troubles. But...things change.

Ok, so on the weekend, I found out this chick from my school really likes me. Shes new, and I've had a thing for her since i first met her. When I found out from her that she likes me i was like "Yes awesome, but wait I have a girlfriend". Then I thought about my girlfriend for a while, and thought about how much she means to me...Then I thought about the other girl, and found that there is no way in hell Im gonna be able to chose.

Now the other girl isnt very popular among my current gf's mates, and if i ditched my gf for this other girl, it would literally be a case of social suicide.

But aaaaaaaaargh! I hate this![/QUOTE]
Do you love your GF? If you do don't be a moron the grass isn't always greener man, i made that mistake.

Words of wisdom for sure...Meh, I'll have to think about it some more...thanks again though.

[QUOTE=Junooni]Someone blabbed. People can not keep something like this to themselves. I speak from experience. Bad experience.[/QUOTE]

And to Mitch:

If someone did, I don't care. She hasn't acted any differently around me, either way.

This is my view on it :

If you really like her tell her. That's what I did, even though the girl lives in a different country to me and we only see each other during holidays. However I'm going to live in the same country and like an hour and a half away in september so it's not hopeless. Also she is coming here (within 10 min's of my house) in August. She's leaving today after spending 3 weeks with me.

This is the thing, even though it's tough we make it work. It's just patience. The thing is I couldn't live without her so I had no choice. I had to tell her.

Just do it.

[QUOTE=Mitch2oo6]/panick attack

Ok...soooo, I've always known about this thread but never posted in it, cause ive never had any troubles. But...things change.

Ok, so on the weekend, I found out this chick from my school really likes me. Shes new, and I've had a thing for her since i first met her. When I found out from her that she likes me i was like "Yes awesome, but wait I have a girlfriend". Then I thought about my girlfriend for a while, and thought about how much she means to me...Then I thought about the other girl, and found that there is no way in hell Im gonna be able to chose.

Now the other girl isnt very popular among my current gf's mates, and if i ditched my gf for this other girl, it would literally be a case of social suicide.

But aaaaaaaaargh! I hate this![/QUOTE]
if you really loved your girlfriend you wouldn't even think about dumping her for the other girl. and if you really liked the other girl, you wouldn't care about killing your social reputation.

[QUOTE=camelfarmer]This is my view on it :

If you really like her tell her. That's what I did, even though the girl lives in a different country to me and we only see each other during holidays. However I'm going to live in the same country and like an hour and a half away in september so it's not hopeless. Also she is coming here (within 10 min's of my house) in August. She's leaving today after spending 3 weeks with me.

This is the thing, even though it's tough we make it work. It's just patience. The thing is I couldn't live without her so I had no choice. I had to tell her.

Just do it.[/QUOTE]

Well my other friends are telling me not to tell her yet. She's still in a relationship with her boyfriend and even though it's not going that well, I shouldn't.

[QUOTE=moghes69]if you really loved your girlfriend you wouldn't even think about dumping her for the other girl. and if you really liked the other girl, you wouldn't care about killing your social reputation.[/QUOTE]


yeah, he's right. But, to be fair, i know i would put my friends before a girl, but my general social standing, no.

[QUOTE=camelfarmer]This is my view on it :

If you really like her tell her. That's what I did, even though the girl lives in a different country to me and we only see each other during holidays. However I'm going to live in the same country and like an hour and a half away in september so it's not hopeless. Also she is coming here (within 10 min's of my house) in August. She's leaving today after spending 3 weeks with me.

This is the thing, even though it's tough we make it work. It's just patience. The thing is I couldn't live without her so I had no choice. I had to tell her.

Just do it.[/QUOTE]

was that to me or pazz?

[QUOTE=Junooni]was that to me or pazz?[/QUOTE]
I'm pretty sure it was meant to you. matches your situation better than his.

Quick, someone give me something witty to say to a girl on MSN, haha. I can't get a conversation started, as usual.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I'm pretty sure it was meant to you. matches your situation better than his.

Quick, someone give me something witty to say to a girl on MSN, haha. I can't get a conversation started, as usual.[/QUOTE]
"I've got a rumbly in my tumbly, what shall I have to eat?"

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]"I've got a rumbly in my tumbly, what shall I have to eat?"[/QUOTE]
Haha... that's just creepy.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I'm pretty sure it was meant to you. matches your situation better than his.

Quick, someone give me something witty to say to a girl on MSN, haha. I can't get a conversation started, as usual.[/QUOTE]

How are you?

Not witty whatsoever, but always works for me.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]Haha... that's just creepy.[/QUOTE]
Ok *taps head thoughtfully*

Umm....

"sup"

:D :D :D :D

Hey guys, you might not care because I haven't been as active in this thread as I once was, but my girlfriend told me she loves me and you have no idea how great I feel. But before anyone starts in with the whole "you don't know love" thing I'd like to say that neither of us are the type of people to throw that word around. So when she said I knew she meant it.

Chaindrive I'm sooo happy! Thanks for all your advice when I first got here.

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]:D

Hey guys, you might not care because I haven't been as active in this thread as I once was, but my girlfriend told me she loves me and you have no idea how great I feel. But before anyone starts in with the whole "you don't know love" thing I'd like to say that neither of us are the type of people to throw that word around. So when she said I knew she meant it.

Chaindrive I'm sooo happy! Thanks for all your advice when I first got here.[/QUOTE]


sweet, good for you man, glad to hear it :)

I hate when people throw the word around.

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]:D :D :D

Hey guys, you might not care because I haven't been as active in this thread as I once was, but my girlfriend told me she loves me and you have no idea how great I feel. But before anyone starts in with the whole "you don't know love" thing I'd like to say that neither of us are the type of people to throw that word around. So when she said I knew she meant it.

Chaindrive I'm sooo happy! Thanks for all your advice when I first got here.[/QUOTE]

I'm happy you're happy. And you're welcome. :)

I really dig this one chick at school and we've been friends since 7th grade (we're sophomores in high school now) and she says she likes me too but says she doesn't want a bf right now so: question 1: is she saying that because she doesn't want to make me feel like a loser or does she mean it?and question 2: If she really does like me should I try to convince her to be my gf or just wait until she changes her mind?

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I'm pretty sure it was meant to you. matches your situation better than his.

Quick, someone give me something witty to say to a girl on MSN, haha. I can't get a conversation started, as usual.[/QUOTE]


Yeah, I was just a wee bit confused because Pazz responded.

[QUOTE=timi_hendrix]I really dig this one chick at school and we've been friends since 7th grade (we're sophomores in high school now) and she says she likes me too but says she doesn't want a bf right now so: question 1: is she saying that because she doesn't want to make me feel like a loser or does she mean it?and question 2: If she really does like me should I try to convince her to be my gf or just wait until she changes her mind?[/QUOTE]

1. If she says she likes you but doesn't want a boyfriend, you should respect that. Maybe she feels that she's not ready for a commitment, so she doesn't want to half-as[font=verdana]s[/font] a relationship with you since that wouldn't be fair to you. That's certainly possible.

2. See 1. You should respect her decision and continue to be a great friend. When she feels ready to commit, you'll be there in the wings. But don't force anything, because it could ruin the dynamic of your friendship.

Well, I haven't been on in a long time, and when I was here, I didn't stay long, but I need some help, and I couldn't think of anywhere else to go so....

Basically what is going on is, I was talking to my girlfriend (we have been friends for quite a few years, and a few months ago we decided on the 'couple' thing) and she told me that she didn't know how much longer she can be in this relationship, and that she is looking for a real relationship, and that she isn't getting that while being with me...

I can understand where she is coming from, I don't really treat her much like my girlfriend, I don't know why, but when I'm around her, I can't seem to do anything right...

One of my problems is I'm not good with the 'public affection' thing... and we are around each other all the time, but it is always some kind of function.

Anyway, we both really like each other, and don't want to breakup... and we both agreed to work on it... I just need some advice on what I should be doing as a boyfriend...

I know I probably sound like a 12 year old kid, but I am new to the whole relationship thing and I could use a little help, I don't want to screw this up, I have never cared about anyone as much as I care about her...

So, if you guys have any advice for me it would be much appreciated...

Thanks in advance....

Why are you not good at PDAs? Does it make you uncomfortable?

Yeah, kinda... I know I shouldn't let it make me uncomfortable... but I can't really help it....

And today I asked her to go do something just the two of us, but we are both really busy, so I don't know when that is going to happen... The last time we went out was about two months ago....

So, I guess getting used to the public display of affection is my only choice... And I know it's stupid, but really have a hard time with that....

It's not stupid at all...some people have a hard time with it.

[QUOTE=Junooni]Yeah, I was just a wee bit confused because Pazz responded.[/QUOTE]

I'm good at confusing people...:p

No worries, mate. I like making people feel guilty. We all have that one thing we can do to mess with peoples' heads.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]It's not stupid at all...some people have a hard time with it.[/QUOTE]

Thanks, that makes me feel a little better, but I know that if I keep letting it get to me, that I'm going to lose her... and I really don't want that to happen... especially over something as small as me being uncomfortable with being affectionate to her in public....