[QUOTE=Chaindrive]dcr, how old are you?[/QUOTE]
Nearly 18, and my thing for guys isn't something that I'm simply curious about. There was a few years when I was younger where I really thought I was gay.

Sounds like you might be bi, and you're old enough to know how you feel. I mean, kids in grade school and junior high sometimes get crushes on the same sex, but when you're as old as you are, that's something different. The only advice that I have (which actually may have merit) is...if you're unsure how to go about it, then get to know him better so that you feel more comfortable.

I don't care about my orientation. I will like and feel however I feel natural. I just don't want things to be real awkward or anything, because I'm going to be nervous about this guy. He's experienced, I'm not.

I understand. That's been touched on in this thread before by another poster.

As long as he's not a jerk you should be fine.

[QUOTE=dcr]I don't care about my orientation. I will like and feel however I feel natural. I just don't want things to be real awkward or anything, because I'm going to be nervous about this guy. He's experienced, I'm not.[/QUOTE]


Maybe use your head and tell him all of this?

Gee golly, communication seems to work for us straight folks, maybe theres a chance it could work for you guys too!

[QUOTE=Tiger]Maybe use your head and tell him all of this?

Gee golly, communication seems to work for us straight folks, maybe theres a chance it could work for you guys too![/QUOTE]

Sorry, my son, but sometimes not. Communication isn't always the key.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Sorry, my son, but sometimes not. Communication isn't always the key.[/QUOTE]


Whats that you say?

Ugh. Try communicating with an axe murderer.

Bah.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Ugh. Try communicating with an axe murderer.

Bah.[/QUOTE]


Im sorry I couldnt understand you?

Yeah, no one does.

"OMG, I'm misunderstood!!!"

Juuuust making a point.

Okay, I was going to go to the movies with Sara this Saturday, but she seemed so upset because of her ex-boyfriend that I offered to take her last night. So we went to the movies, and on the way over there she seemed really sad, I asked her if everything was alright and you know how girls are, she gave the typical "yes, I'm fine.." but I could tell she was really upset still. We went into the theater, sat down, and for the first 5 or 10 minutes she was trying to hold in her tears, and it was making me real sad. Well she did what most girls do, she put her hand on the armrest, meaning she wanted me to hold her hand, so slowly I moved my hand over, and she locked in her fingers with mine, then I put my arm around her and she leaned up against me, and finally smiled. :) I'd say it went well, I didn't kiss her because I don't do that until I actually start going out with the person, but she told me later on that she still can't get over her ex-boyfriend. :( I don't know what to do, she makes it sound like she's never going to love again, and she seems real obsessed over this guy who royally f[size=2]ucked[/size] her over. Any tips on what I can do to get her mind off of this guy and maybe towards me?

You're playing a dangerous game man..

Truly.

I'd just provide her with what she needs right now, and that's a friend. If you can't do that, ya gotta walk away.

I know it's a dangerous game, that's why I'm not trying to get intimate with her. I'd just like to know how long does it usually take a girl to get over a long relationship?

[QUOTE=Strongbad]I know it's a dangerous game, that's why I'm not trying to get intimate with her. I'd just like to know how long does it usually take a girl to get over a long relationship?[/QUOTE]


That's like asking what the meaning of life is.

Some never do man. That first burn can stick around a long time. I don't know her or the nature of her previous relationship. But to start off with her on the premise that you'll help her through getting over it in hopes she'll find something with you is pretty insane. I've been there though. We've all tried it. It almost never works. Rebound comes to mind mostly. You'll end up reminding her of him simply by default.

It sounds like you're saying I should just not socialize with her then.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]It sounds like you're saying I should just not socialize with her then.[/QUOTE]


That's not what I'm saying at all. If you genuinely care about her, and she is in need of company, there's no reason why you shouldn't be there for her, as a friend. No further expectations.

If something should arise as a result of that, then you win. Push too soon or too hard, and you both lose.

That's all I'm saying. Or, that's what I'm trying to say anyway. It seems as though you really care about her, and thats awesome. I'm sure she needs a friend right now. I'm just saying what you want out of it might not be what might actually come of it.

[QUOTE=DBoon's Ghost]That's not what I'm saying at all. If you genuinely care about her, and she is in need of company, there's no reason why you shouldn't be there for her, as a friend. No further expectations.

If something should arise as a result of that, then you win. Push too soon or too hard, and you both lose.

That's all I'm saying. Or, that's what I'm trying to say anyway. It seems as though you really care about her, and thats awesome. I'm sure she needs a friend right now. I'm just saying what you want out of it might not be what might actually come of it.[/QUOTE]

I completey agree. Her feelings right now are going to be so spontanious and unpredictable. You need to give her space, but continue to be there as a friend. Dont jump the gun on anything too soon. Dont have any expectations for this.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]I know it's a dangerous game, that's why I'm not trying to get intimate with her. I'd just like to know how long does it usually take a girl to get over a long relationship?[/QUOTE]

It depends on the relationship, I guess. I was in one for about 10 months (which for me is a long time) and when it was done I was relieved and happier. I have yet to be in one where I have become completely shattered or anything.

Yea I understand. Thanks for your words guys. :)

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]What would be new and novel that you haven't done before.[/QUOTE]

Ummm I dunno see thats the problem

[QUOTE=DBoon's Ghost]That's like asking what the meaning of life is. [/QUOTE]

Man, it was a long day today, but I finally got my first laugh. Ace reply, hahaha.

I like this girl that has a boyfriend and blah blah and **** like that. And there's this other girl that seems to like me and I kinda like her. We hang out and talk a lot but I don't feel the same about her as I do for the other girl. Should I keep hanging out with her and try to forget about the girl with a boyfriend? The other girl seems so perfect for me.

If you like the girl with the boyfriend, I would wait a little while to see what happens. Are her and her boyfriend doing well? DO NOT try to break them up, though, whatever you do. In the meantime, though, find out more about this other girl and see what happens there. Good luck! :D

[QUOTE=followedformat]I like this girl that has a boyfriend and blah blah and **** like that. And there's this other girl that seems to like me and I kinda like her. We hang out and talk a lot but I don't feel the same about her as I do for the other girl. Should I keep hanging out with her and try to forget about the girl with a boyfriend? The other girl seems so perfect for me.[/QUOTE]
You can try- but remember, you can't just make feelings. I made that mistake once and went out with a guy I didn't really have feelings for. Actually I've done it a fair few times.
You seem smart enough to know not to break the other two up. Just see what happens.

Is there any easy way to break up with a girl? A girl who likes you so much and thinks the relationship wont be ending for a very long time? I'm breaking up with her because, although shes a great girl, I hardly see her. She's allowed out about 2 nights a week and her parents dont approve of me so they dont let her out to see me. I only see her if she convinces her folks shes out with mates. Its gonna be tough...

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Is there any easy way to break up with a girl? A girl who likes you so much and thinks the relationship wont be ending for a very long time? I'm breaking up with her because, although shes a great girl, I hardly see her. She's allowed out about 2 nights a week and her parents dont approve of me so they dont let her out to see me. I only see her if she convinces her folks shes out with mates. Its gonna be tough...[/QUOTE]
Nope no easy way. But as soon as you say something along the lines of 'we need to talk' she'll ge the idea. And anything you say after that won't really matter.

Man this'll suck. I KNOW shes gonna cry too. lol I dont just wanna walk away froma crying girl..

:-/ gutted. I really feel for you, I hate those type of situations.

I might do it over the phone. Atleast then I can use the excuse of "I woulda done it in person but we're never in person." I've been with her six months too.

Six months probably deserves a face to face.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Is there any easy way to break up with a girl? A girl who likes you so much and thinks the relationship wont be ending for a very long time? I'm breaking up with her because, although shes a great girl, I hardly see her. She's allowed out about 2 nights a week and her parents dont approve of me so they dont let her out to see me. I only see her if she convinces her folks shes out with mates. Its gonna be tough...[/QUOTE]
To be honest dude, Id try and get round her house more and convince her parents that you're a nice guy.
You could tell her that you dont feel happy in the relationship with the small amount that you see each other and that you want to see her more or you think its for the best if you split up. If she then says something like 'Ohh my parents wont let me see her' then tell her that she needs to tell her parents that she wants to see you more and that its her decision. How old are you two by the way just out of interest?

[QUOTE=Yppolitia]To be honest dude, Id try and get round her house more and convince her parents that you're a nice guy.
You could tell her that you dont feel happy in the relationship with the small amount that you see each other and that you want to see her more or you think its for the best if you split up. If she then says something like 'Ohh my parents wont let me see her' then tell her that she needs to tell her parents that she wants to see you more and that its her decision. How old are you two by the way just out of interest?[/QUOTE]

Theres no arguing with her parents. Shes had shouting matches with them when it comes to me. Believe me we've tried. I'm 17 and shes 16, 17 in about a month. Her folks are really religous so they think that cos I've left school and am working "my priorities change." Bet you can guess what that is. I think it is for the best we split up, I cant see anything else we can do. Not to mention shes in about three hockey teams so that her weekdays gone. Hockey season doesnt end til September, so then I may be able to go round during the week for tea. But its really not worth the wait when theres plenty more books on the shelf...

be a ****ing man

and think about it as well. i was in a situation almost exactly the same, and i dumped her and tbh i still wish i hadnt...

how old are you guys?

my gfs mum says she cant go see me, she lives a 45 min walk and 20 min train ride away, but i still see her whenever i can. doesnt her mum work or something so you can go and see her?

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Theres no arguing with her parents. Shes had shouting matches with them when it comes to me. Believe me we've tried. I'm 17 and shes 16, 17 in about a month. Her folks are really religous so they think that cos I've left school and am working "my priorities change." Bet you can guess what that is. I think it is for the best we split up, I cant see anything else we can do.[/QUOTE]

Ahh, damn religeous parents. then yes I think splitting up is for the best, I'd highly recommend splitting up face to face because it will show her that you have respect to for her to do it that way otherwise just do it over the phone.

ok, read the above. religion is a bitch.


in other news, i got "the talk" for the first time yesterday!

basically:
"jonny, you are behaving with her, arent you?"
"yea..."
"cos the last thing you want is a baby at your age"
"yea, i kno"
"be careful"
"im not ****ing her, and if i was, i'd use a condom..."
"ok"

or, turn to god, and her parents may like you!

or, not...

/has tried this once

[QUOTE=Corkofski]be a ****ing man

and think about it as well. i was in a situation almost exactly the same, and i dumped her and tbh i still wish i hadnt...

how old are you guys?

my gfs mum says she cant go see me, she lives a 45 min walk and 20 min train ride away, but i still see her whenever i can. doesnt her mum work or something so you can go and see her?[/QUOTE]


What the hell? Be a man? How am I not being a man? All I'm saying is a want to a girlfriend I ca actually spend time with you as[color=black]s[/color]hole. Thats the whole point isnt it?

what im saying is, dump her face to face

after 6 months its just cowardly to dump her over the phone

[QUOTE=BrownSugar][B]Man this'll suck. I KNOW shes gonna cry too. [SIZE="5"]lol[/SIZE] [/B]I dont just wanna walk away froma crying girl..[/QUOTE]
If this is gonna suck so bad then why the hell do you find it funny?