[QUOTE=Chaindrive]A word of advice. Doesn't matter how "good friends" you are, you're not that good of friends unless you're in a relationship. That's how you get to be "best friends forever".

Until that time, you're "just friends" not "really good friends".[/QUOTE]

for some reason, i half-cringe when i hear Best Friends Forever. Because that is thrown around so much nowadays its sickening.

But you're right. I may try to pursue this one out.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]So the girl I've been crushin' on is on MSN, and we're not talking, because I don't know a single thing I could say to her. I want to see if she'd like to hang out tomorrow, because Saturday I'd be busy with a band practice. I'm nervous about it though. Should I just come out and be like "would you like to hang out tomorrow?" and see how she responds, or should I try to start up a little conversation first, and then ask. Or maybe do something else altogether?

I know, I'm lame. I suck with girls.[/QUOTE]

hokay.

First off. How much do you know about her? Does she know who you are more importantly? If so, start a conversation with her. Talk to her. Then you have 3 choices, at least thing is what i do:
1. Ask during the convo during a silent period
2. Right before you have to go. Be like "crap i gots to go, oh speaking of which, you wanna hang out at (insert place) at (insert time) tomorrow"
3. same as second, but when she has to go.

Make sure you get/have her number.

[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]for some reason, i half-cringe when i hear Best Friends Forever. Because that is thrown around so much nowadays its sickening.

But you're right. I may try to pursue this one out.[/QUOTE]

The interesting thing is when you hit high school you will most likely have a totally different set of friends.

[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]hokay.

First off. How much do you know about her? Does she know who you are more importantly? If so, start a conversation with her. Talk to her. Then you have 3 choices, at least thing is what i do:
1. Ask during the convo during a silent period
2. Right before you have to go. Be like "crap i gots to go, oh speaking of which, you wanna hang out at (insert place) at (insert time) tomorrow"
3. same as second, but when she has to go.

Make sure you get/have her number.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I was thinking like that, but I can't even think of how to start a conversation. I go blank when I try to talk to this girl, but I'm fine talking to others for some reason. I don't know why or nothin'.

Anyways, I've lost my chance, she signed off. Perhaps she'll get on tomorrow though, and I can see if she wants to make some last minute plans, or plans for Sunday. If not this weekend, I have to wait two weeks for my next chance to physically hang out.

I don't know her very well, yet. She says she's shy, which is why she isn't talkative. We've never met, but she asked me to hang out with her and her friends awhile back, and I pussied out.

I'll just talk to her tomorrow. What are some ways I can get her to open up to me? I'm not shy at all online, but she seems to be, so I need to get her to come out of her shell somehow. Makeing small talk abuot movies and music and such hasn't worked very well.

[EDIT: Damn, I wrote alot.]

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]The interesting thing is when you hit high school you will most likely have a totally different set of friends.[/QUOTE]

yeah, now that i'm in high school i see a bunch of my friends becoming friends with other people, and me getting new friends. but i try to stay in touch with my old friends who i don't see very often. Like we hang out every so often.

But one of the more classic stories to that change in friends is my friends lauren and jessica. They used to be best friends, basically living at each others houses. Now i'm pretty sure they hate each other. I haven't seen them speak once to each other in months.

[QUOTE=oogaboogabooga]Why should it be you with her? surely this other guy feels pretty much the same...
You need to think reasonably, with her in mind... how is she gonna be happiest? cos it'll be hard for her to break up with someone for you... (by the way, not saying you don't deserve her, just trying to explain both sides of the arguement...) You could maybe tell her how you feel? although i know 9 times out of 10 thats near impossible... but if she knew, maybe she could work things out for herself? But then, obviously its killing you to know she's with someone else... thats understandable. But sometimes, lifes a bitch... ya know? And don't think i don't know... i've got kind of a similar thing going, but i just can't bring myself to talk to her about how i feel... so you know.[/QUOTE]

The thing is that me and this girl were heaps close before this other guy came into things. We were practically boyfriend and girlfriend. He knew that I liked her and she liked me, he shouldve kept his nose out of things. He only wants her for one thing.

What I'd really like to do is give him a taste of his own medicine back, but I just cant step down to that level. Plus I couldnt ever do anything to hurt her feelings like that.

Cant really talk to her about it, as she would probabaly take that as me trying to destroy their relationship. So I guess all I can do is wait... :upset:

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]
I don't know her very well, yet. She says she's shy, which is why she isn't talkative. We've never met, but she asked me to hang out with her and her friends awhile back, and I pussied out.

I'll just talk to her tomorrow. What are some ways I can get her to open up to me? I'm not shy at all online, but she seems to be, so I need to get her to come out of her shell somehow. Makeing small talk abuot movies and music and such hasn't worked very well.
[/QUOTE]


Well don't worry about the fear that she's shy. Just talk to her. usually people can talk more online for some reason then in person or on the phone at first. So just go for it.

Just talk about life in general

I'm trying to hook up with this girl right now and hell, I talked to her for about 2 hours straight on the phone last night and we always had somthing to talk about.

Everything from me eating a dead spider for money, to one of her best friends commiting suicide.

I usually can tell if a relationship will work out if you can talk to them about anything and just open up. Sure at first you'll be shy, but if you guys truly connect, you'll know just by being around her.

Just open up and be like "so how was your day today" and branch out from there. Always works

And ask her to hang out during a silence to break it, like last night, we where both quiet and I was just like "you want to go to prom with me" and she said yea etc..., it works out good. Just be relaxed

[QUOTE=_ThisSecretNinja_]The thing is that me and this girl were heaps close before this other guy came into things. We were practically boyfriend and girlfriend. He knew that I liked her and she liked me, he shouldve kept his nose out of things. He only wants her for one thing.

What I'd really like to do is give him a taste of his own medicine back, but I just cant step down to that level. Plus I couldnt ever do anything to hurt her feelings like that.

Cant really talk to her about it, as she would probabaly take that as me trying to destroy their relationship. So I guess all I can do is wait... :upset:[/QUOTE]

If she really liked you she would have just ignored him. So think about that.

To Damien:

Just make conversation with her. Something will come up eventually that you guys can talk about. Just talk to her like you would anyone else, and be sure to make plans to hang out if you can.

Nah she defiently like me. We used to hang around each other every chance we got and we would always keep in touch on the phone and stuff ya know. Hell she even asked me for the sexorz which I turned down, because I wanted to show her that I actually cared about her, and wasnt just after some sexing. Im still convinced this was my biggest mistake, as she either got the impression I thought she was ugly, or she now thinks I'm gay.

Well that was before school started again. Im a first year uni student, she started year 12, so it kinda got hard to spend time with each other, making it easy for this other guy who goes to her school to yeah, sorta take my place ya know.

I just wish I could turn back the clock :(

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Whatchoo get ban'd for?[/QUOTE]
Posting in a pron thread remember. Three weeks.

I've got about 8 days left.


:(

[QUOTE=iliketoplaydrums#s]Just open up and be like "so how was your day today" and branch out from there. Always works[/QUOTE]
No, it doesn't.

[QUOTE=EizingerIsGod]To Damien:

Just make conversation with her. Something will come up eventually that you guys can talk about. Just talk to her like you would anyone else, and be sure to make plans to hang out if you can.[/QUOTE]
It's not that I'm having the problem talking, it's her, I think. I talk to tons of friends and girls all the time, and I can carry a conversation just fine. But this girl is difficult for some reason. When I talk to her, she always seems busy, but at the same time, eager to talk to me. But whatever conversation we have, it dies very quickly, without branching into anything more than small talk about how our day went or whatever. I just can't seem to find a subject that makes her open up. I'll just try again tomorrow, since I pussied out badly today, and didn't message her at all.

Oh, [size=2]s[/size]hit, I'm old and hence, I forgot.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Oh, [size=2]s[/size]hit, I'm old and hence, I forgot.[/QUOTE]
:p. S'okay. At least you remembered who I am lmao.

Remember the drunk girl? And how everyone said to stay away from her? Well, I didn't :(

But we're kind of just friends at the moment. But I have this odd feeling that maybe she still likes me. Because I was talking to her about this other girl. And she seems interested, yet at the same time kind of angry.

Plus she posts weird bulletins on myspace like "you already forgot about me" and such.

It's really messing with my head :-\

[quote]Im still convinced this was my biggest mistake, as she either got the impression I thought she was ugly, or she now thinks I'm gay.[/quote]

No, she probably came to the conclusion you just plain weren't interested in her that way.

Move on, dude. It's over.

Steerpike, I posted this elsewhere, but I might as well post it here since it seems like you're pretty active here as per usual:

You should be all set. Check your e-mail.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]So, just ask without trying to start up any conversation first?

I hate being so ****ing insecure about everything. Grr...[/QUOTE]



Just start out with her with 'So, you menstruate [I]too[/I] eh?



Kimmie, get my girlfriend to tell me what she got me for my birthday, you know her SN.

[QUOTE=Jom]Steerpike, I posted this elsewhere, but I might as well post it here since it seems like you're pretty active here as per usual:

You should be all set. Check your e-mail.[/QUOTE]

I got it. I'll be listening to it tomorrow. I'm watching a little internet TV before I turn in for the night.

:D :D :D

The girl signed on MSN about thirty minutes ago, and I talked to her a little, and asked if she wanted to hang out this weekend. She said she was busy Friday and Saturday, with her family, but she's free Sunday. So, she said to tell her what we're doing and where we're going, and she'lll be up for it.

Growing testicles roxxorz. :cool:

[QUOTE=Tiger]Just start out with her with 'So, you menstruate [I]too[/I] eh?



Kimmie, get my girlfriend to tell me what she got me for my birthday, you know her SN.[/QUOTE]

I'm online and No.

haha good job :)

I've got to call mine after school tomorrow to see what's up this weekend.

Hopefully our schedules don't clash.

Edit: To Damien

Damnit, now I got to think of something to do Sunday. I have to make it look like I have some kind of social life, and I'm not a loser. Oh shi, lol.

What are good ideas for things we can do on Sunday? Hopefully, something with people, because I'd be way nervous if it was just me and her. I don't really have friends that we could hang out with. Hmm...

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I'm online and No.[/QUOTE]

Pfffffft.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]Damnit, now I got to think of something to do Sunday. I have to make it look like I have some kind of social life, and I'm not a loser. Oh shi, lol.

What are good ideas for things we can do on Sunday? Hopefully, something with people, because I'd be way nervous if it was just me and her. I don't really have friends that we could hang out with. Hmm...[/QUOTE]
The worst part is always finding something both of you will enjoy :(

Maybe movies or something? But that won't allow you to talk much, whether that's a good thing or not I don't know..

Brunch.

Well, we're "hanging out" so it's not like a date or nothing, so I'd prefer to go somewhere we'd be with a group or something. I'll talk to her tomorrow and see if she has any ideas or if he friends want to come along or something. I don't really have any friends to hang out with. The ones I do have are the nerdy Halo 2 kids, haha.

D, the point of "hanging out" is not with a bunch of friends.

Hah, I'll figure out something. I don't drive though, so getting my mom to cart me off to see some girl is going to be hilarious. :lol:

*chuckle*

I remember that...being 14, going to see my 'girlfriend' in my parents car...

It's worse in my case. I'm 17. :p