[QUOTE=EizingerIsGod]Ok so I'd like some opinions on whether I did the right thing...

My girlfriend is in Italy on spring break right now with her best friend for a week and a half. So I get a text message from her today saying "I messed up. I was holding hands with this guy and I didn't pull my hand away, etc etc., I'll understand if you want to break up"...that sort of thing.

So I sent one back saying it wasn't a big deal, after all, all she did was hold hands with a guy.

She called me a few mins later and was saying how she wanted to explain things more. So I told her to go ahead and she explains that they met these guys who worked at a resturant in Rome and they were flirting with them and whatever last night, but tonight when whatever happened happened, these guys basically took them by the hand and forcibly walked them down a few blocks. By the sounds of it she was sincerely sorry for whatever she thought happened happened. But I kept telling her that it was no big deal, because I really don't think it was.

I trust her 110% and I know she would never do anything behind my back to hurt me. That's why I'm seeing this as harmless. Should I be pissed or concerned?[/QUOTE]

It isn't cheating if it's in a different area code. :p

In all seriousness though, just let her punish herself. If she really was just holding hands with the guy, I wouldn't be too worried about it. The fact that she told you right away about it is a good thing.

[QUOTE=_ThisSecretNinja_]Geez what do you do when the girl you love is already in a relationship? And dont say 'forget about it', because I just cant give up on something I love.

Man it just eats me alive knowing some other chump is out having a good time with the girl I love, when I know it should be me.

Do you guys think its inappropriate to still ask out a girl as friends whose already in a relationship, with the sercet hope that she'll end up falling for you?

Or should I just keep on playing the good friend, waiting and hoping her relationship will fall apart like a Japanese motorcycle?

I feel like such a loser for even thinking these things...all I know is that I cant do nothing :upset:[/QUOTE]

Why should it be you with her? surely this other guy feels pretty much the same...
You need to think reasonably, with her in mind... how is she gonna be happiest? cos it'll be hard for her to break up with someone for you... (by the way, not saying you don't deserve her, just trying to explain both sides of the arguement...) You could maybe tell her how you feel? although i know 9 times out of 10 thats near impossible... but if she knew, maybe she could work things out for herself? But then, obviously its killing you to know she's with someone else... thats understandable. But sometimes, lifes a bitch... ya know? And don't think i don't know... i've got kind of a similar thing going, but i just can't bring myself to talk to her about how i feel... so you know.

[QUOTE=Iscariot]In all seriousness though, just let her punish herself. If she really was just holding hands with the guy, I wouldn't be too worried about it. The fact that she told you right away about it is a good thing.[/QUOTE]

That's what I was thinking. It was good that she told me right away, and she seemed really upset about the whole thing, so I see no reason to really be angry with her.

[QUOTE=EizingerIsGod]That's what I was thinking. It was good that she told me right away, and she seemed really upset about the whole thing, so I see no reason to really be angry with her.[/QUOTE]
I wouldn't be worried about it.

Women are flirtatious by nature.

Personally, I would feel betrayed, but I would get over it.

Hey guys, I've been dating my g/f for a year and a half now. As is expected, I've started to wonder what other alternative lie just outside the walls (me being only a high school junior and all), I love my girlfriend dearly, but she and I do fight more often. Also things have gotten a little boring. On the plus side, aside from our deep love, she gives awesome massages nd is an amazing cook. It's just, she's been more critical and slightly annoying lately, but there are still good times.
However, my parent's arent too fond of her and my friends think she's too weird. She's making her own prom dress and once told me she couldn't do it and that I should take her ticket and take someone else. She has no self-esteem which turns me off completely. But shes sweet and caring and amzing when shes not in a bad mood. The sides are weighed pretty evenly. MXer's help me see sides of this I can't see so I can decide because dammit i'm confused

At your age relationships are just stepping stones to the next relationship. Maybe it would be a good idea to talk to her about how you feel.

Try and keep with it, you don't wana regret your decision later.
You could try talking to her about how you feel but I would give it a bit loger and see if you still feel the same.

(Im english and don't understand how old you are, so if your like 9 just give her a doll or something and call it a day)

So yesterday, Im at a Denny's.

There is this semi attractive blonde waitress that is very forthcoming, she's hitting on me and flirting pretty openly.

I go to pay my bill, and she starts talking to me, and really starts laying it on this. She says my name like she wants to **** me right then and there, she asks me if I 'party' and complains about how much of a jerk her boyfriend is, all this stupid obvious stuff. Im dying inside because Im with someone right now, and this kind of thing never happens. So I humor her.

I go to leave after quite a long time, and she says she is going on break and to wait for her. So she's walking me to the car and I ask her where shes going, apparently to the Starbucks right across the street. Now Ive been courting danger this whole time, but my sense of humor asks if she wants me to drive her over. Of course she hops in the car immediately (Im a stranger and she just jumps in : / )

So I take the whore through the drive through, she's doing her best act, flirting too much, laughing at whatever I say, all the stupid stuff. I drop her back off at the Denny's, she takes a business card of mine (the box was right there open in my car, no I did not give one to her) and gets out. I dont ask for her number.

Anyway, at first I died laughing for several minutes, and then I call my girl to tell her about what had happened. Im not like, halfway through telling her before it stops being funny and I start feeling really guilty and bad about it...she swears its not a big deal and that shes not mad but I still feel pretty miserable over it, mainly because I asked myself if I'd be okay with her doing the same thing and the answer is NO! So I dont want to be a hypocrite, that bothers me, I try to be a man of principle.

Would you feel really bad about it or is it not a big deal like she is saying?

Your girls prob just saying that to avoid an argument, she knows you know what you did was wrong but she prob is not too happy about it.
Just reasure your girlfriend you feel abit crap and your sorry, forget about it and dont do it again.

Oops on Tiger.

It's probably not that big of a deal, but if you wouldn't want her doing it then it's just a double standard. You'll be fine.

Hey so if anyone cares for an update on my relationship we broke up and I've never been this upset before :(

Why does love and relationships have to always hurt so much when they decide to stop working for me?

[QUOTE=EizingerIsGod]It's probably not that big of a deal, but if you wouldn't want her doing it then it's just a double standard. You'll be fine.[/QUOTE]


Its not that I want a double standard, I dont, I just didnt stop to think about that part until I was on the phone with her and I suddenly felt really small and stupid.

[QUOTE=sexymuffin]Hey so if anyone cares for an update on my relationship we broke up and I've never been this upset before :(

Why does love and relationships have to always hurt so much when they decide to stop working for me?[/QUOTE]

What happened?

EDIT: I just went back and read your post.

Have you talked to her since she broke up with you?

[QUOTE]Why does love and relationships have to always hurt so much when they decide to stop working for me?[/QUOTE]

its because your young and you proberbly feel like its the end of the world and it definatly isnt

id be pretty devastated if me and my girlfriend split so its no different for everyone else we all get hurt

Hey, there's this I talk to on MSN almost ever day, out of boredom, and I've hung out with her occasionally at shows and stuff, but I'm not interested in her at all. I think she's starting to have a crush on me, but I have no real proof, other than the way she talks to me and stuff. Is there some way I can get her to back off, without making it obvious that I think she has more-than-friendly intentions with me?

[QUOTE]Hey, there's this I talk to on MSN almost ever day, out of boredom, and I've hung out with her occasionally at shows and stuff, but I'm not interested in her at all. I think she's starting to have a crush on me, but I have no real proof, other than the way she talks to me and stuff. Is there some way I can get her to back off, without making it obvious that I think she has more-than-friendly intentions with me?[/QUOTE]

.. dont talk to her every day?

distance your self from her dont respond to her signals

Don't say anything until she becomes blatant about it. Just ignore her until then.

By the way, your "Meet the Mxicans" thread needs an update.

Yeah, I'm doing like 20 things right now. I started updating it last week, and stopped. I'll get on it tonight, because I'll have nothing better to do.

And the girl messages me constantly, and I don't want to just ignore her or something. She'sa good friend, I just don't want her to think there's hope for anything more. I'm supposedly a really flirty person, so this sort of situation happens often, and always ends in an uncomfortable conversation.

Whoooooo got a hot date tonight. :cool:

[QUOTE]alicia: i put a pretyt banner on my myspace
alicia: almost as pretty as you
alicia: pfft[/QUOTE]
Yeah, the girl likes me or somethin'. She says things like this every now and then, but she's a shy girl so she isn't going to directly let me know if she lieks me anything. I didn't respond, and she signed off. :amaze:

Good luck, Route 1. :thumb:

EDIT: Haha, the girl I like is going on her band trip [I]next[/I] Thursday. That means I could see if she wants to hang out this weekend, but I'm probably going to puss out and not.

Do it Damien!

I need to ask someone to hang out this weekend as well. Hopefully all works well.

Carnival in town this weekend too lmao.

[QUOTE=Atticus!]Do it Damien!

I need to ask someone to hang out this weekend as well. Hopefully all works well.

Carnival in town this weekend too lmao.[/QUOTE]

Whatchoo get ban'd for?

Um...do you guys/ladies believe in the friend zone? (reference to [I]Just Friends[/I])

For those who don't know: It's where you're too good of friends with a girl to ever go out with her.

I think it's a crock of [size=2]s[/size]hit, Evan.

You either like 'em "like that" or you don't.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I think it's a crock of [size=2]s[/size]hit, Evan.

You either like 'em "like that" or you don't.[/QUOTE]

No i mean I like this chick, but we're really good friends. So it's not a thing on my part, but my friend was talking to her (behind my back, bastard...) about me and what she would do if i asked her out. She said something to the point of "it'd be weird cause i know a probably too much about him and he knows probably too much about me. Kinda like...do you have any good friends who you know what they're thinking even if they don't say it?" to him.

So the girl I've been crushin' on is on MSN, and we're not talking, because I don't know a single thing I could say to her. I want to see if she'd like to hang out tomorrow, because Saturday I'd be busy with a band practice. I'm nervous about it though. Should I just come out and be like "would you like to hang out tomorrow?" and see how she responds, or should I try to start up a little conversation first, and then ask. Or maybe do something else altogether?

I know, I'm lame. I suck with girls.

Just say, "you wanna hang out tommorrow?" It's really that simple, and if you have a chance now, go for it, because it freaking sucks when you know you waited too long to ask.

[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]No i mean I like this chick, but we're really good friends. So it's not a thing on my part, but my friend was talking to her (behind my back, bastard...) about me and what she would do if i asked her out. She said something to the point of "it'd be weird cause i know a probably too much about him and he knows probably too much about me. Kinda like...do you have any good friends who you know what they're thinking even if they don't say it?" to him.[/QUOTE]

A word of advice. Doesn't matter how "good friends" you are, you're not that good of friends unless you're in a relationship. That's how you get to be "best friends forever".

Until that time, you're "just friends" not "really good friends".

So, just ask without trying to start up any conversation first?

I hate being so ****ing insecure about everything. Grr...