[QUOTE=Pazz]My second problem isn't too big. But there is a girl I have started to like recently. So my friend was talking to her last Thursday about me and her hooking up. She told him she had a boyfriend, which I knew about, and he said we should atleast go get coffee. She said she would definately go if I asked her. I found out all of this late Thursday night. After my friend talked to her we were at the movies and he came and sat beside me. he immediately got up and told the girl I like to sit there instead. So we talked a bit and after the movie flirted. We then had a 4 day long weekend, so I didn't get to see her or talk to her. My bestfriend and his girlfriend (my ex-girlfriend) both think me and her would work out, but I'm not sure. Today I didn't get to talk to her much, except said bye to her. She still has a boyfriend, but he lives 45 minutes away from here and supposively they only talk every couple of days.

So I guess what I'm asking is, should I still go after her even though she has a boyfriend, and should I ask her for coffee sometime, even though I haven't talked to her a whole lot lately.[/QUOTE]
This may not be the best advice or anything, but if it was me, I would back off the girl. Give the dude some respect, you wouldn't want another guy all over of her if she was your gal, would you? She's in a relationship, and unless she shows that she's more interested in you, don't try to get involved with her.

[QUOTE=zerosk8er1988]I couldn't agree more.

Anyways, I always seem to have trouble getting into relationships. I don't get hints from girls, and they basically need to flat out tell me they like me to get me to ask them out. After that happens it just seems weird, like I never know what to say to them, and I probably come off as a jerk for not talking to them. Any ideas?[/QUOTE]

This is something that only comes with practice. Do you know what the biggest sign that a girl is interested in you is? She's still talking to you.

Learn to be a little less self-conscious. Start trying to make short conversations with everyone you know. Take it in steps, gradually learning to sustain longer conversations. You'll see progress quicker than you think. It's much easier if you ask people, "How you doing?" or some variation thereof.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]This is something that only comes with practice. Do you know what the biggest sign that a girl is interested in you is? She's still talking to you.
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whew. I got a chance.

So i have been broken up from my ex GF for a year today and last night dreamt about her for the 2nd night on the run, this is driving me insane becuase they have been really happy dreams if you get me? Like we get back together and work stuff out and stuff. We were together 6 months i have had 1 or 2 GF's since but i can't get her out my system this really driving me insane. Anyone been throught the same? Any one got any advice of how to get her out my system? I haven't seen her since we have split up but everytime i see a car that looks like her Mum's i am always straining to see if it is her and if i see someone who looks like her around i am always double checking. HELP!

[QUOTE=Grego1985]So i have been broken up from my ex GF for a year today and last night dreamt about her for the 2nd night on the run, this is driving me insane becuase they have been really happy dreams if you get me? Like we get back together and work stuff out and stuff. We were together 6 months i have had 1 or 2 GF's since but i can't get her out my system this really driving me insane. Anyone been throught the same? Any one got any advice of how to get her out my system? I haven't seen her since we have split up but everytime i see a car that looks like her Mum's i am always straining to see if it is her and if i see someone who looks like her around i am always double checking. HELP![/QUOTE]

Yeah I know what you mean and I went through the same sort of thing. As much as you probably dont want to hear it you need to forget about her and just let time handle things. Moving on and finding someone else wouldnt be a good idea because deep down inside you should know that this girl you have moved on to is only a 'rebound'.

[QUOTE=Yppolitia]Yeah I know what you mean and I went through the same sort of thing. As much as you probably dont want to hear it you need to forget about her and just let time handle things. Moving on and finding someone else wouldnt be a good idea because deep down inside you should know that this girl you have moved on to is only a 'rebound'.[/QUOTE]
I admit it she was a rebound no real feelings there tbh just sex. Yes i know i am a arse before anyone tells me. Just i have a few friends who have been thru the same as me and were single for a few months then got with someone and it makes the pain go away becuase you realise how lucky you were to get away from her. But everyone is different i suppose. I could never go back to her becuase her parents would not allow it and mine would go sick at me aswell even thought i am 21 they would just advice me against it. Just a year is along time and i would have thought dreams and these feelings would be well gone by now.

[QUOTE=Grego1985]So i have been broken up from my ex GF for a year today and last night dreamt about her for the 2nd night on the run, this is driving me insane becuase they have been really happy dreams if you get me? Like we get back together and work stuff out and stuff. We were together 6 months i have had 1 or 2 GF's since but i can't get her out my system this really driving me insane. Anyone been throught the same? Any one got any advice of how to get her out my system? I haven't seen her since we have split up but everytime i see a car that looks like her Mum's i am always straining to see if it is her and if i see someone who looks like her around i am always double checking. HELP![/QUOTE]
I still dream about the girl I broke up with about a month ago, almost every night. I just suck it up and try not to think about it though. =\

Maybe you can just go out and find some new girls. Surely, you'll get over her eventually, especially if you find someone better for you.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I still dream about the girl I broke up with about a month ago, almost every night. I just suck it up and try not to think about it though. =\

Maybe you can just go out and find some new girls. Surely, you'll get over her eventually, especially if you find someone better for you.[/QUOTE]
Yeah you will man for the 1st couple of months like then my friends seem to get on with it as do i its just hard thats all. I am sure you will get over it man. My Mum confronted me about it today she said "Do you still miss Charlotte" i was like yeah i do more than ever for some reason, "You know she wasn't right for you right?", yeah i guess.

Man my Mum can tell a mile off when something is on my mind lol. I am sure you will aswell man.

I'm not worried about me, I know I'll get over it. I was just lettin' ya know you're not alone. I'm not too sure what you can do to get over it though, if you haen't already forgotten her over the past year. Normally I'd say go out and have fun, but I'm sure you've done that since then.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I'm not worried about me, I know I'll get over it. I was just lettin' ya know you're not alone. I'm not too sure what you can do to get over it though, if you haen't already forgotten her over the past year. Normally I'd say go out and have fun, but I'm sure you've done that since then.[/QUOTE]
I have been out with friends, band, gigs, shagging and mindless drinking lol. As they say i am sure in time i will get over it. Just think about the bad **** rather than the good times.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]This may not be the best advice or anything, but if it was me, I would back off the girl. Give the dude some respect, you wouldn't want another guy all over of her if she was your gal, would you? She's in a relationship, and unless she shows that she's more interested in you, don't try to get involved with her.[/QUOTE]

That is a good advice, and I know I should probably back off, but I won't.

Today I was going to ask her for coffee and I had the perfect opportunity, and I didn't take it. She then went home sick in last period meaning I couldn't ask her after school. I would ask her over MSN, but she never goes online.

Hey L&R, I've never really posted a relationship problem in here, but I guess there's a first time for everything.

This girl and I had been dating for eight months and for the past month and a half things have been kind of akward and weird for a number of reasons. Both our parents know we have sex and we're not allowed in our rooms any more at eachother's house. So this takes away all that privacy we once had and makes it less appealing to spend time at one another's houses as the only thing to really do together is watch a movie in an open room when anyone could come in. So recently we had to hang out with our friends because we don't really have a place to be truely alone.

For some reason she is really weird around me and friends and doesn't think we should be seen as "chancelor and her name" but just as "her name." this brought up issues of me being too controlling a little bit ago which is really just me wanting to spend time with her and not have all those friends around. So we've been "hanging out" like this for the past month and a half and when we're with friends she's really distant and doesn't show the slightest bit of interest towards me.

So yesterday she just got home from over a week in paris and I wanted to talk to her about all this friend stuff, but ironically enough, we hung out with friends the whole time and I didn't get to talk to her.

Today she broke up with me. She said she didn't want to drag things out and said I know why we're breaking up. Which I kind of due, but I don't think we should have broken up.

It is very strange in that while she was doing it, she was kissing my forehead and telling me she loved me. Then when I saw her at the end of the day we both mutually agreed it was weird and she hugged me and kissed my hand when she left. But we're broken up.

I know I need to talk to her about these things and see what's going to happen from there, but I guess it feels good to vent. Any advice or similar stories would be nice.

[QUOTE=sexymuffin]Hey L&R, I've never really posted a relationship problem in here, but I guess there's a first time for everything.

This girl and I had been dating for eight months and for the past month and a half things have been kind of akward and weird for a number of reasons. Both our parents know we have sex and we're not allowed in our rooms any more at eachother's house. So this takes away all that privacy we once had and makes it less appealing to spend time at one another's houses as the only thing to really do together is watch a movie in an open room when anyone could come in. So recently we had to hang out with our friends because we don't really have a place to be truely alone.

For some reason she is really weird around me and friends and doesn't think we should be seen as "chancelor and her name" but just as "her name." this brought up issues of me being too controlling a little bit ago which is really just me wanting to spend time with her and not have all those friends around. So we've been "hanging out" like this for the past month and a half and when we're with friends she's really distant and doesn't show the slightest bit of interest towards me.

So yesterday she just got home from over a week in paris and I wanted to talk to her about all this friend stuff, but ironically enough, we hung out with friends the whole time and I didn't get to talk to her.

Today she broke up with me. She said she didn't want to drag things out and said I know why we're breaking up. Which I kind of due, but I don't think we should have broken up.

It is very strange in that while she was doing it, she was kissing my forehead and telling me she loved me. Then when I saw her at the end of the day we both mutually agreed it was weird and she hugged me and kissed my hand when she left. But we're broken up.

I know I need to talk to her about these things and see what's going to happen from there, but I guess it feels good to vent. Any advice or similar stories would be nice.[/QUOTE]I'm thinking she maybe has mixed feelings about breaking up with you. Like she hates to, but she thinks that she has to. I think that she just realized that with things being akward like you said they were that you two couldn't just keep going on like that. She maybe gave it time, hoping it would clear itself up but it didn't, so she decided it would be best for you two to just break up, as much as she hated to do it.

[QUOTE=sexymuffin]Hey L&R, I've never really posted a relationship problem in here, but I guess there's a first time for everything.

This girl and I had been dating for eight months and for the past month and a half things have been kind of akward and weird for a number of reasons. Both our parents know we have sex and we're not allowed in our rooms any more at eachother's house. So this takes away all that privacy we once had and makes it less appealing to spend time at one another's houses as the only thing to really do together is watch a movie in an open room when anyone could come in. So recently we had to hang out with our friends because we don't really have a place to be truely alone.

For some reason she is really weird around me and friends and doesn't think we should be seen as "chancelor and her name" but just as "her name." this brought up issues of me being too controlling a little bit ago which is really just me wanting to spend time with her and not have all those friends around. So we've been "hanging out" like this for the past month and a half and when we're with friends she's really distant and doesn't show the slightest bit of interest towards me.

So yesterday she just got home from over a week in paris and I wanted to talk to her about all this friend stuff, but ironically enough, we hung out with friends the whole time and I didn't get to talk to her.

Today she broke up with me. She said she didn't want to drag things out and said I know why we're breaking up. Which I kind of due, but I don't think we should have broken up.

It is very strange in that while she was doing it, she was kissing my forehead and telling me she loved me. Then when I saw her at the end of the day we both mutually agreed it was weird and she hugged me and kissed my hand when she left. But we're broken up.

I know I need to talk to her about these things and see what's going to happen from there, but I guess it feels good to vent. Any advice or similar stories would be nice.[/QUOTE]



Girls are confusing. I don't really do good with specific advice. but yeah, just talk to her.

[QUOTE=Lightning Strikes Twice]I'm thinking she maybe has mixed feelings about breaking up with you. Like she hates to, but she thinks that she has to. I think that she just realized that with things being akward like you said they were that you two couldn't just keep going on like that. She maybe gave it time, hoping it would clear itself up but it didn't, so she decided it would be best for you two to just break up, as much as she hated to do it.[/QUOTE]

I understand what you're saying, but the only reason we're akward like that is because she said she wants to just be seen as herself when we're around other people.

It's like she wants to be a couple, but not be a couple. And I'm not sure if i understand that.

[QUOTE=sexymuffin]It's like she wants to be a couple, but not be a couple. And I'm not sure if i understand that.[/QUOTE]
I sure the hell don't. What reason could she have to not want to be indentified with you? Just because she's "Chacelor's boyfriend" doesn't make her less of an individual or person. Could she be ashamed of something?

Sorry if my post doesn't make you feel any better, but that doesn't make much sense to me. The only thing you can do is talk to her. =\

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I sure the hell don't. What reason could she have to not want to be indentified with you? Just because she's "Chacelor's boyfriend" doesn't make her less of an individual or person. Could she be ashamed of something?

Sorry if my post doesn't make you feel any better, but that doesn't make much sense to me. The only thing you can do is talk to her. =\[/QUOTE]

Exactly, I don't get it at all. I mean, I can understand her not wanting to be all over eachother around people, but whenever we're in public, it's just distant and I feel like we should at least have talked about it before she made such a big decision.

I've had several serious relationships and break ups, and this one doesn't feel right at all.

I cut the hell out of my nuckle today.


I punched a bag of ice, trying to break it up so I could have some in my drink, and the next thing I know, there is blood everywhere.

It seems that Ice can be sharp.


I need my paycheck, so I can fix my bass, and then Life will be perfect again.

Jeez, Chance. But maybe it's a good thing, even though it feels weird.

Gregg, life really is perfect with a fixed bass. What went wrong with yours?

I'm talking to this girl I've been interested in on MSN, and I was hoping to meet her this weekend, but she's going to be gone on a trip with her band. And by band, I mean the school band. [B]I got a crush on a band geek.[/B] :(

lol

Could be worse, D.

I mean really. Band geek = dedicated to music.

[QUOTE]I'm talking to this girl I've been interested in on MSN, and I was hoping to meet her this weekend, but she's going to be gone on a trip with her band. And by band, I mean the school band. I got a crush on a band geek.

lol[/QUOTE]



what does she play? if she plays something cool maybe we can forgive you.

[QUOTE=The Real El Capitano]what does she play? if she plays something cool maybe we can forgive you.[/QUOTE]

Doesn't matter what she plays...it's all good. :)

[QUOTE=The Real El Capitano]what does she play? if she plays something cool maybe we can forgive you.[/QUOTE]
Flute. She could play the tuba, and I wouldn't care.

I'm uberly happy for no reason, lol.

Ok so I'd like some opinions on whether I did the right thing...

My girlfriend is in Italy on spring break right now with her best friend for a week and a half. So I get a text message from her today saying "I messed up. I was holding hands with this guy and I didn't pull my hand away, etc etc., I'll understand if you want to break up"...that sort of thing.

So I sent one back saying it wasn't a big deal, after all, all she did was hold hands with a guy.

She called me a few mins later and was saying how she wanted to explain things more. So I told her to go ahead and she explains that they met these guys who worked at a resturant in Rome and they were flirting with them and whatever last night, but tonight when whatever happened happened, these guys basically took them by the hand and forcibly walked them down a few blocks. By the sounds of it she was sincerely sorry for whatever she thought happened happened. But I kept telling her that it was no big deal, because I really don't think it was.

I trust her 110% and I know she would never do anything behind my back to hurt me. That's why I'm seeing this as harmless. Should I be pissed or concerned?

She got with somebody else.
Somebody else.
Somebody who was supposedly my [B]FRIEND!!![/B]

Why?

Well, her friends say that she still wants to be with me more than I know, but she thinks that by getting with somebody else, it'll make me not want to be with her anymore, and things will be [I]easier[/I].

[QUOTE=Tillius]She got with somebody else.
Somebody else.
Somebody who was supposedly my [B]FRIEND!!![/B]

Why?

Well, her friends say that she still wants to be with me more than I know, but she thinks that by getting with somebody else, it'll make me not want to be with her anymore, and things will be [I]easier[/I].[/QUOTE]are you ****ing kidding?

Mitch that's pretty odd.

Explain to her that you want to be with her still. And that doing what she did isn't helping anyhting at all, and is making things worse.

That is, if those things are true.

So basically just tell her how you feel.

Geez what do you do when the girl you love is already in a relationship? And dont say 'forget about it', because I just cant give up on something I love.

Man it just eats me alive knowing some other chump is out having a good time with the girl I love, when I know it should be me.

Do you guys think its inappropriate to still ask out a girl as friends whose already in a relationship, with the sercet hope that she'll end up falling for you?

Or should I just keep on playing the good friend, waiting and hoping her relationship will fall apart like a Japanese motorcycle?

I feel like such a loser for even thinking these things...all I know is that I cant do nothing :upset:

[QUOTE=EizingerIsGod]Ok so I'd like some opinions on whether I did the right thing...

My girlfriend is in Italy on spring break right now with her best friend for a week and a half. So I get a text message from her today saying "I messed up. I was holding hands with this guy and I didn't pull my hand away, etc etc., I'll understand if you want to break up"...that sort of thing.

So I sent one back saying it wasn't a big deal, after all, all she did was hold hands with a guy.

She called me a few mins later and was saying how she wanted to explain things more. So I told her to go ahead and she explains that they met these guys who worked at a resturant in Rome and they were flirting with them and whatever last night, but tonight when whatever happened happened, these guys basically took them by the hand and forcibly walked them down a few blocks. By the sounds of it she was sincerely sorry for whatever she thought happened happened. But I kept telling her that it was no big deal, because I really don't think it was.

I trust her 110% and I know she would never do anything behind my back to hurt me. That's why I'm seeing this as harmless. Should I be pissed or concerned?[/QUOTE]
Definately concerned bro. On my end, I dont think any of you remember me talking about Tessa seeing as how I post here once every year it seems, but Im finally over her and with a new girl name named Christie, Its 4am and I have no one to talk to either..