I'm trying to, if I thoght she had a thing for modeling, since she's a model, but that didn't take off like I hoped.

I'll just ask her something dumb like "so, what do you do in your spare time". It's worked before, lol.

Then I'' hang out with her this weekend, and if that goes well, ask her out next weekend.

Yeah. Sounds good in my head.

[QUOTE=aria333]doods last night i got the worst phone call


well heres some background i had this girfriend for about 2.5 years but we broke up some time ago cuz i moved away and she didnt like me and stuff like that and recently like 2 weeks ago she got a new boyfriend


so last night i get this phone call and shes crying and upset n ****

so im like being a nice guy and im real worried about her but she wont tell me whats wrong

so after like 40 minutes i finally get her to tell me and shes like "keith went away for the weekend and i miss him" (ketihs her new bf

so naturaly i yell at her and hang up

so i was pretty upset cuz i still have a soft spot for her i cant beleieve she did that to me

has anyone else had anything like this happen i was so bummed out and couldnt get to sleep what the **** is her problem[/QUOTE]


k guys just to follow up form this

i bumped into her new bf in the shopping centre and he has ago at me yelling something about how im tryin to pick up on his gf (whcih im not i did everything u guys said like delete all phn numbers ect.)

so hes gettin all in my face and im tellin him to **** off hes not worth it i got no ideas what hes talkin about he can keep her. and long story short he ends up with a broken nose and bruised ribs an di end up with a black eye and sore fists

so next minute i get the girl ringing up MY HOUSE PHONE would u beleive and screamin at me about it im tryin to calm her down and explain it. he told her that he was walkin home and me and 3 OTHER GUYS (YES HE ACTUALLY TOLD HER THIS ) bashed him up with weapons. and she beleived that **** now i look like a total ****in psycho and shes probably gona tell all her friends and everyone in town will thikn im a psycho soon

ok i know thats a long read and u prolly dont care about me bullshi but please any help will do im seroiusly considerin movin town the life heres just gettin ****ed up

any helps appreciated guys thanks a lot

[QUOTE=aria444]k guys just to follow up form this

i bumped into her new bf in the shopping centre and he has ago at me yelling something about how im tryin to pick up on his gf (whcih im not i did everything u guys said like delete all phn numbers ect.)

so hes gettin all in my face and im tellin him to **** off hes not worth it i got no ideas what hes talkin about he can keep her. and long story short he ends up with a broken nose and bruised ribs an di end up with a black eye and sore fists

so next minute i get the girl ringing up MY HOUSE PHONE would u beleive and screamin at me about it im tryin to calm her down and explain it. he told her that he was walkin home and me and 3 OTHER GUYS (YES HE ACTUALLY TOLD HER THIS ) bashed him up with weapons. and she beleived that **** now i look like a total ****in psycho and shes probably gona tell all her friends and everyone in town will thikn im a psycho soon

ok i know thats a long read and u prolly dont care about me bullshi but please any help will do im seroiusly considerin movin town the life heres just gettin ****ed up

any helps appreciated guys thanks a lot[/QUOTE]

You can confront him in front of her and make him tell the truth. That would be a good start.

what how will i do that and hes a total sh[B]i[/B]t head hell never admit it iv known him for years ppl like that dont change

Yikes! I'm sorry, I really don't know what to do about that situation. :(

yeuh im serosly considering leavin town im so sick of this shi

[QUOTE=aria444]what how will i do that and hes a total sh[B]i[/B]t head hell never admit it iv known him for years ppl like that dont change[/QUOTE]

Then have no contact with either of them anymore.

yes i kno thats what i was trying to do but i leave in a small place where everyon knows everyone so my life heres prety much screwdd
and they are amongst the popualr group of ppl if u catch my drift

I had a similar problem. In my senior year, I went on a class trip abroad. One of my roommates turned out to be psychotic and a compulsive liar. By the time we got back, he was spreading all sorts of lies about me, and people believed him because he was so damn good at lying.

If these two schmucks really do have the potential to ruin your social life, it may be worth considering moving to a new town. Once the smear tactics start, there's little you can do to stop them.

what did u do steerpike

Cave their heads in.

But seriously, either fight fire with fire or try to find witnesses who will contradict him.

yeuh thats the frst thing i would do but it was in the back cark park of a small shpping centre and there was noone around anyway cuz it was late nite shoopping and its easter so there was noone

I would say the confronting him in front of her would be best...even if he is a compulsive liar...it's worth a shot.

yuhe i guess i could try but it would only make me worse and make me look like more of a psycho maybe evern start to look like a stalker

[QUOTE=aria444]wat did u do steerpike[/QUOTE]

At first, I tried explaining to people that the guy was a compulsive liar. He told women that he had cancer but was still keeping on because he thought it would help him get laid. He lied about his relationship with parents to elicit sympathy from others. He lied about the fact that he was on medication for bipolar disorder. And when he was caught in that lie, he lied again and said it was for an "erectile disfunction." And those are just the lies I knew of that he told about himself.

But only a couple of people believed me because I still wasn't a very sociable guy at that point.

Eventually I just gave up and waited for graduation so that I'd never have to see him or those gullible fools ever again.

You can't win by directly confronting people like that. They have no sense of shame and will go to any length, no matter how morally objectionable to win.

yeuh i know exctly what u mean im prolly gonna leave town next week

Sh[U]i[/U]t Ben that's messed up. :(

yeuh i kno man

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Food for thoughts.

I find this one peculiarly intriguing:

Question the second:

A young man who secretly loved a girl was looking for a way to tell her of his love without her family learning of it. Seeing an old woman come to her house every day to ask for alms, he one day asked her to escort him through her families gates and to the young woman's room so that he might declare his love to her. The two are caught in the process by her brothers, who, by some arcane Italian point of honour are able to punish the young man for his disgraceful act.

They give the young man two options: 1) he can live with the old woman for a year and then live the rest of his life with their sister, but for the next year he will be able to show their sister no more affection than he showed the old woman, or 2) he can live with their sister for a year but then must live with the woman for the next year and however much affection he showed their sister he must duplicate with the old woman.

lol wtf are u joking?

how did u kill him



thx rashka i loook into it man apreciated

[QUOTE=Jack Bauer]Hi,

I fancy this girl call Audrey and i don't know what to do. She was going out with this guy called Paul but he died and it was basically my fault - i did nothing to help him. So although me and Audrey were secretly seeing each other behind Paul's back, i don't think she likes me anymore because of what i have done.

What should i do? :([/QUOTE]

What do you mean it was basically your fault?

He basically didn't not push the other guy off the cliff.

yeuh bro beleiv me i gave him a decent assswoopin and if i see him again ill give him another especialy if i leavin town man

that aint outa line glad to kno other ppl thinkin like me

thx bro i apreciate it

ARGH.

I need help, guys.. please.
I don't feel secure with my girlfriend. I've been with her for 2 months and I still can't trust her. I'm always afraid she'll like one of her guy friends or whatever even though their only her good friends.
I do believe her but I get scared, and I go crazy! I don't know what to do..
I know her well enough to know she wouldn't cheat on me but I'm just scared she'll fall for someone else! Please help.. this is driving me nuts.

What does she say about your insecurity? Or have you told her?

[QUOTE=Whatsisface]ARGH.

I need help, guys.. please.
I don't feel secure with my girlfriend. I've been with her for 2 months and I still can't trust her. I'm always afraid she'll like one of her guy friends or whatever even though their only her good friends.
I do believe her but I get scared, and I go crazy! I don't know what to do..
I know her well enough to know she wouldn't cheat on me but I'm just scared she'll fall for someone else! Please help.. this is driving me nuts.[/QUOTE]

This is something you and her will need to work on. You need to learn to be comfortable enough to trust her, it's key to a lasting relationship. Maybe talk to her about how it makes you feel uneasy. Communication is key. I have found with my girlfriend that the more open you are with them in terms of communication, the easier it is to trust her. The ball is in your court here. You need to be the one to work on becoming more comfortable with trusting her.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]What does she say about your insecurity? Or have you told her?[/QUOTE]


Yeah.. I just do what every stupid/insecure person does and pour my dumb questions about her possibly liking someone else on her, just because it makes me feel slightly better, while making everything a little worse because I just can't help it ="(

And she gets MAD when I can't trust her.. she says things like "We've talked about this tons of times, why can't you trust me with it?" and she usually hangs up but ARGH that makes me feel even more insecure, and I can't help bothering her about it but what hurts most is I know I'm only making things worse.. I just want to stop

[QUOTE=EizingerIsGod]This is something you and her will need to work on. You need to learn to be comfortable enough to trust her, it's key to a lasting relationship. Maybe talk to her about how it makes you feel uneasy. Communication is key. I have found with my girlfriend that the more open you are with them in terms of communication, the easier it is to trust her. The ball is in your court here. You need to be the one to work on becoming more comfortable with trusting her.[/QUOTE]

I have told her it makes me uneasy.. and she gets mad at it because she knows I can't trust her..

[QUOTE=Whatsisface]Yeah.. I just do what every stupid/insecure person does and pour my dumb questions about her possibly liking someone else on her, just because it makes me feel slightly better, while making everything a little worse because I just can't help it ="(

And she gets MAD when I can't trust her.. she says things like "We've talked about this tons of times, why can't you trust me with it?" and she usually hangs up but ARGH that makes me feel even more insecure, and I can't help bothering her about it but what hurts most is I know I'm only making things worse.. I just want to stop[/QUOTE]


Don't talk to her by asking "Do you like _____?". This will annoy her like you said. Instead, be more open with her and explain that it's not that you don't trust her and that you think she's going to cheat on you, but instead explain to her that you're insecure about losing her to someone else. If you make it clear that you care alot about her and don't want to lose her to someone else without making it seem like you think she will, it might help things. Just explain it to her like you did here. She might be able to put you more at ease if she understands why you feel insecure about the whole situation.

[QUOTE=Whatsisface]ARGH.

I need help, guys.. please.
I don't feel secure with my girlfriend. I've been with her for 2 months and I still can't trust her. I'm always afraid she'll like one of her guy friends or whatever even though their only her good friends.
I do believe her but I get scared, and I go crazy! I don't know what to do..
I know her well enough to know she wouldn't cheat on me but I'm just scared she'll fall for someone else! Please help.. this is driving me nuts.[/QUOTE]
There's no real advice that's going to help you. Just stop thinking like that. That's the exact way me and my ex were towards each other, and it got to the point where we both stopped hanging out with our friends or even talking to the opposite sex. Guess what? We broke up! So don't let that happen to you. Just lighten up, and whenever you start feeling like that, just think about it logically. Anyways, she's not the last girl you'll have in your life, so even if she did fall for someone else, she's replaceable.

Just don't let your emotions control how you think and act.

I really don't think there's much SHE can do about it.. I think it's all ME.
I think I'm too insecure and I make it that way myself.. I mean.. she's just good friends with other guys, and I'm just a really jealous person.. is there anything at all I can do?