16. I know, typical stupid high school relationships. But I really like this girl and it seems stupid to have it ruined just because of this "rule" between friends.

I've helped friends get together with my exs. that rule is stupid. tell your friend to stop being an idiot.

This is all my opinion, of course.

Anyone got anymore advice for my problem?

How good of friends are you with this girl?

I agree with Fonzy, tell your friend to suck it up.

^^What Aidan said.

[QUOTE=EBS77]Does this make any sense?: My friend says don't date his ex only because it is his ex and he thinks a friend shouldn't date another friend's ex. However, he also says he has no feelings for this girl anymore. Maybe there's just something I'm not getting, but this "rule" of not going out with your friend's ex girlfriend seems pretty stupid to me if he has no feelings for her.[/QUOTE]

The general idea is that you wait six months or more before you attempt to date a friend's ex-girlfriend. Bros before hos. Remember that. It'll save you from quite a few as[size=2]s[/size]-whoopings.

Another good rule to follow is, don't date girls that you talk to more online than in person. Relationships like that don't work. At all. They all end poorly at some point or another.

Serious, good advice there.

If you meet a girl and wanna do the dating thing, get her number, not her msn.

Even if you get her msn, never talk to her on it. Ruins relationships.

[QUOTE=AG]Serious, good advice there.

If you meet a girl and wanna do the dating thing, get her number, not her msn.

Even if you get her msn, never talk to her on it. Ruins relationships.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I have had that problem... But I'm learning from my mistakes...

[QUOTE=Iscariot]The general idea is that you wait six months or more before you attempt to date a friend's ex-girlfriend. Bros before hos. Remember that. It'll save you from quite a few as[size=2]s[/size]-whoopings.

Another good rule to follow is, don't date girls that you talk to more online than in person. Relationships like that don't work. At all. They all end poorly at some point or another.[/QUOTE]
So very very true in every way.

[QUOTE=AG]That there is your problem.

Just pretend to be someone really confident, say what someone who had massive [b][u]cohoneys[/b][/u] would say.[/QUOTE]

:lol:

Wow.

EDIT: imaginary props for trying to phonetically spell it.

[QUOTE=Iscariot]The general idea is that you wait six months or more before you attempt to date a friend's ex-girlfriend. Bros before hos. Remember that. It'll save you from quite a few as[size=2]s[/size]-whoopings.

[B]Another good rule to follow is, don't date girls that you talk to more online than in person. Relationships like that don't work. At all. They all end poorly at some point or another[/B].[/QUOTE]

ay caramba, tell me about it

[QUOTE=Iscariot]The general idea is that you wait six months or more before you attempt to date a friend's ex-girlfriend. Bros before hos. Remember that. It'll save you from quite a few as[size=2]s[/size]-whoopings.

Another good rule to follow is, don't date girls that you talk to more online than in person. Relationships like that don't work. At all. They all end poorly at some point or another.[/QUOTE]
Now what if you talk to the person on the phone more than in person, isn't it the same thing? and if it is what about those long distance relationships?

what does it mean when a girl says to you "it's like we're together, but we're not." ?

[QUOTE=Petrucci]what does it mean when a girl says to you "it's like we're together, but we're not." ?[/QUOTE]
That you're kind of 'seeing each other'. Not together officially (boyfriend/girlfriend) but you'll casually get together when you see each other. But you're not tied to each other. Make any sense?

ya, but does it mean more that she doesn't want to offically be more than friends and that she just wants to "have fun"? that's what i'm thinking.

[QUOTE=Petrucci]ya, but does it mean more that she doesn't want to offically be more than friends and that she just wants to "have fun"? that's what i'm thinking.[/QUOTE]
She wants to have fun.

123 at the don't chat with girls you're interested in.

At worst (if you have her SN) tell her you're coming over or something. Getting to know each other online does bad things.

Both parties learn some things too fast and some things too slow, and it breaks down and leads it awry.

Haha, I asked a girl if she wanted to go see a X-men3 last night because we had a private showing setup up after midnight. Little did I know that her boyfriend was sitting right beside her. I said "What's up man, I know I've met you about eight times but I've forgotten your name," and shook his hand and all that jazz. Gave her my number and told her to call when she got there.

Well, she never called, but showed up with him and about 5 other people (which wasn't cool), and made it easy enough to pretend not to notice them, so I did. I felt like an ***, but I'm going to tell her I didn't see her to let her in the front doors, and that she should have called.:p

Wow, dude. That explains what went wrong here perfectly. Thanks.

This girl is a good friend of my cousin, goes to a different school, (we have 3 high schools in a 5 mile radius) and dating is not acceptable in the culture I gotta put up with. So the only time I saw her was when I occasionally went to that school for something, or every saturday at the youth group thing at the mosque. Talked to her online more, just because she would be the only person on at 3 AM, and then she asked if I wanted to do a show at her school.

So I went there after school for about two weeks everyday, and I figured out I liked her after that. Still talked online - bad idea. Stuff comes out way too fast.

[QUOTE=Junooni]Wow, dude. That explains what went wrong here perfectly. Thanks.

So I went there after school for about two weeks everyday, and I figured out I liked her after that. Still talked online - bad idea. Stuff comes out way too fast.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I've really made it a point to be distant on the internet.

But honestly, I'm the last person anyone should be taking dating advice from. :(

Yeah, for some reason all my friends ask me for advice, even though I suck with this stuff. Then they go out and get laid, I'm like wtf that was my idea. I try it, it doesn't work at all.

[QUOTE=Junooni]Yeah, for some reason all my friends ask me for advice, even though I suck with this stuff. Then they go out and get laid, I'm like wtf that was my idea. I try it, it doesn't work at all.[/QUOTE]

hahaha

Eh...I've just got social anxieties and such. I guess I feel like I'm too average to bother with.

Which is wierd, admitadly, because I have no problem talking to women, or anything like that. I just assume they think I'm boring or whatever.

I used to have that. I've gotten better though.

[QUOTE]Originally Posted by [B]EBS77[/B]

[I]How good of friends are you with this girl?[/I][/QUOTE]
Pretty good, Ive been talking to her online almost every night for the past couple of months, since we don't go to the same school, and we've hung out a couple of times lately.

What are some things that a girl constantly looking over at you could mean?

I was doing this Science video project for school today, and a girl in my group always seemed to be looking over at me. Now I'm not saying I think she likes me, because she has a boyfriend and to think that would be just stupid but I mean, is it possible she might at least at some level like me?

Heres how it is: I'm 17, shes nearly 17, we've been together 5 months. We've only ever kissed and fondled. I find out today that 2 years ago she'd done more with her ex in the very first night than we have in 5 months. Yet she maintains shes crazy about me. What in the land of motherfu[color=black]ck[/color] is happening?!?

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Heres how it is: I'm 17, shes nearly 17, we've been together 5 months. We've only ever kissed and fondled. I find out today that 2 years ago she'd done more with her ex in the very first night than we have in 5 months. Yet she maintains shes crazy about me. What in the land of motherfu[color=black]ck[/color] is happening?!?[/QUOTE]
Nothing, you two just move at a slower pace. You don't need to be sexually active and all that to love someone.

I'm not liking this slow pace business.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]I'm not liking this slow pace business.[/QUOTE]
Why not? There's nothing wrong with going slow.

Going slow is probably best for a long-lasting healthy relationship if that is what you are hoping to have with this girl. Obviously going so fast with that other guy didn't keep them together, right?

[QUOTE=cokecanbunny]Going slow is probably best for a long-lasting healthy relationship if that is what you are hoping to have with this girl. Obviously going so fast with that other guy didn't keep them together, right?[/QUOTE]
Mhm, this is true. If you want something real, then slow is the way to go.

I'm not really looking for a long term thing, I'm only 17. I'm not looking for a life partner, I'm looking to have fun. I think thats what we should be doing at this age and worry about all that other stuff later.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]I'm not really looking for a long term thing, I'm only 17. I'm not looking for a life partner, I'm looking to have fun. I think thats what we should be doing at this age and worry about all that other stuff later.[/QUOTE]

You need to make a move. Now.

Well if you really want to, talk to her about going further. But DON'T pressure her. Maybe she realises from the past that going so fast was a mistake and she really isn't ready for it.

Ah ha! Heres the real problem, I've already made various moves. I get showered with compliments bout my looks and everythin from her so I assume shes attracted to me lol.

Being showered with compliments about your looks may mean she's attracted to you, but that doesn't mean she wants to move things fast.

[QUOTE=cokecanbunny]Well if you really want to, talk to her about going further. But DON'T pressure her. Maybe she realises from the past that going so fast was a mistake and she really isn't ready for it.[/QUOTE]

I gotta disagree. If she isn't sexually inclined after 5 months, something is up. He needs to get it out in the open. Sexual activity is part of a healthy relationship. If he's unfulfilled, he shouldn't feel guilty about asking or initiating. If he's not getting what he wants in the relationship, he's probably with the wrong person.

[QUOTE=Lightning Strikes Twice]Being showered with compliments about your looks may mean she's attracted to you, but that doesn't mean she wants to move things fast.[/QUOTE]

One day is fast. Five months isn't. He's has a legitimate concern, I think.

Thank you Mr Danish. When we're makin out she gets real into it but doesnt go any further. Something is definately up.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Thank you Mr Danish. When we're makin out she gets real into it but doesnt go any further. Something is definately up.[/QUOTE]
Argh! NOTHING is up. Man, you've just gotta' learn to trust her..

Trust? When did trust come into the equation? I really like this girl and I think we both should be having some fun at this age. I really dont see the point in getting all serious.