[QUOTE=Steerpike]DING DING DING!!! We have a winner!

Ever since Dale Carnegie published "How To Win Friends and Influence People" and said how important it was to smile, the fake uber-quick smile became a societal norm.

What Dale neglected to mention is that smiling slowly, to show you've actually considered what the other person says is what's natural and genuine. That's what humans were originally programmed to do. Trouble is, modern culture says if you don't smile, then you're a jerk. So we feel pressure to smile immediately if not sooner. Which only ends up coming across as fake and an ineffectual attempt to be manipulative.[/QUOTE]

I tend to have similar reaction with answering questions sometimes haha, like if someone asks me a question...ill say "sorry what?", probably because subconciously i don't want to come across like im not listening (but my reaction gives that impression anyway :rolleyes:) then it'll register what they said and they'll reexplain the question for no need. Something i gotta work on. :p

doods last night i got the worst phone call


well heres some background i had this girfriend for about 2.5 years but we broke up some time ago cuz i moved away and she didnt like me and stuff like that and recently like 2 weeks ago she got a new boyfriend


so last night i get this phone call and shes crying and upset n ****

so im like being a nice guy and im real worried about her but she wont tell me whats wrong

so after like 40 minutes i finally get her to tell me and shes like "keith went away for the weekend and i miss him" (ketihs her new bf

so naturaly i yell at her and hang up

so i was pretty upset cuz i still have a soft spot for her i cant beleieve she did that to me

has anyone else had anything like this happen i was so bummed out and couldnt get to sleep what the **** is her problem

You aren't over her yet. Do what I did, and cut off [I]all [/I]contact with her, and refuse to answer her calls. Erase her numbers, her emails addresses, and anything else that can potentially give you the chance to contact her. Then go out and have fun and stay as busy as possble, and flirt with new girls. It did wonders for me. =]

She sounds like she's trying to make you jealous. She's playing you, just ignore her and show her that you are better off without her anyways.

what maybe ur right thx man

any more comments that would b good


do u think i could have handled it better i mean i yelled at her pretty bad when she was upset she just gets me so angry sometimes ive came so close to hittting her before i scared myself

[QUOTE=aria333]what maybe ur right thx man

any more comments that would b good


do u think i could have handled it better i mean i yelled at her pretty bad when she was upset she just gets me so angry sometimes ive came so close to hittting her before i scared myself[/QUOTE]

Nah you were justified in your actions there. If someone calls you for 40 minutes crying and using you as a shoulder to do so on, then FINALLY tells you that its because their boyfriend is away for a single weekend....:rolleyes: then yeah thats completely understandable.

I think just a few pages back Jom was talking about useless phonecalls, and this pretty much falls under that category. As well as using you as a shoulder to cry on over a mediocre time away AND her being your ex. I probably would have handled it the same.

Don't hit her though, as Damien said, cut off contact with her, go out with some mates and have some fun.:thumb:

hey thx bro

yeuh ive sorta moved on i like this new chik shes from the central coast actualy hehehhee

haha really? Where bouts on the coast thats where i'm at.

Uh oh, Joe Shoe Wah's goin' to steal Ben's woman. :p

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]Uh oh, Joe Shoe Wah's goin' to steal Ben's woman. :p[/QUOTE]

hahahahah am not! :o

Haha na there are plenty of girls around here they don't need a connection to a guy i've talked to on the net for me to be interested in them.
I never realised you lived in Aus till now actually ben :wave:

btw its jo shoe wah, like josh(ua) my name :p

hehe yueh i know thats where youre from i read ur location thats why i mentioned it

i dont know what part

yeuh im from adelaide

God damnit!

For some reason a friend of mine messaged Brit, and I'm not sure what the hell she said, but it made it sound like I was depressed and s[SIZE="2"]h[/SIZE]it without her. Brit got on MSN yelling at me for it, and trying to make me jealous by flaunting the fact that she has a new boyfriend. Fu[SIZE="2"]c[/SIZE]king bitch.

And every time I said anything like "I'm happier without you, leave me alone and stop trying to start drama" she'd retort with some like "sure you are" or some other sarcastic remark. She likes thinking that she's hurting me, and refuses to believe that I really don't even care.

So, I'm pretty pissed right now.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]God damnit!

For some reason a friend of mine messaged Brit, and I'm not sure what the hell she said, but it made it sound like I was depressed and s[SIZE="2"]h[/SIZE]it without her. Brit got on MSN yelling at me for it, and trying to make me jealous by flaunting the fact that she has a new boyfriend. Fu[SIZE="2"]c[/SIZE]king bitch.

And every time I said anything like "I'm happier without you, leave me alone and stop trying to start drama" she'd retort with some like "sure you are" or some other sarcastic remark. She likes thinking that she's hurting me, and refuses to believe that I really don't even care.

So, I'm pretty pissed right now.[/QUOTE]

I'm guessing she's under 18, otherwise you could threaten her with court action if she tried to continue contacting you.

Just block her from MSN. Don't even dignify her with a response anymore. She gets off on that crap.

Yeah, I blocked her. Before this, I deleted her, and I thought MSN automatically blocked people you delete, but apparently not. She'll give up eventually.

[QUOTE=Tillius]What was with that edit?

Well, anyway, me and Pam(if you've been following the story and know who Pam is) went down to the lake today with a bunch of friends. Well, most of them left pretty early, so it ended up being just me, Pam, my friend Mitchell, and his girlfriend Elisha.

Well, we go down to the lake and start swimming, and it ends up being just me and her in the lake, while Mitchell and Elisha are off doing their own thing. Well, after being in there for awhile...I kiss her(or, actually, and BETTER, SHE kisses ME). Then later, she kisses me again.
But that's it.
Nothing's said afterwards regarding anything.

So, I mean, these thoughts are going through my head.
Is that it?
Are we gonna go back out?
Should I ASK her out again right there?


I don't know what to do.
:([/QUOTE]

Make sure she's not sending mixed messages, because that sounds like what she's doing.

I want a magic pill that will make me always say the right things, always do the right things, and make me stop being nervous.

Someone make one, I'll buy it, lol.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I want a magic pill that will make me always say the right things, always do the right things, and make me stop being nervous.

Someone make one, I'll buy it, lol.[/QUOTE]


I think they have Testosterome in pill form, most likely injections though.

Haha, that won't help with knowing what to say.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Make sure she's not sending mixed messages, because that sounds like what she's doing.[/QUOTE]
Like.......what do you mean.




I HATE dealing with my own problems.

Wanna help me with my problem?

I like my girl.. shes great although we only hang out like 2 times in a weekend.. i see her at school all the time and were always together there. Everyone thinks i really really like her or something... and get the impression that I'm "Whipped" so anyways we've been going out for a couple of months now.. about 4 and a half. she likes me alot and shes always so kinky and horny and so am I so we kinda tease each other.. so things are okay or whatever.. but i'm getting a little bored and i'm looking a different direction.. anyone wanna help??

[QUOTE=SRVS Greatest Fan]Wanna help me with my problem?

I like my girl.. shes great although we only hang out like 2 times in a weekend.. i see her at school all the time and were always together there. Everyone thinks i really really like her or something... and get the impression that I'm "Whipped" so anyways we've been going out for a couple of months now.. about 4 and a half. she likes me alot and shes always so kinky and horny and so am I so we kinda tease each other.. so things are okay or whatever.. but i'm getting a little bored and i'm looking a different direction.. anyone wanna help??[/QUOTE]

Are you getting bored of the kinky sh!t?

Just calm down with all that and see how she takes it.
Are you looking for a more 'mature' relationship?

[QUOTE=SRVS Greatest Fan]Wanna help me with my problem?

I like my girl.. shes great although we only hang out like 2 times in a weekend.. i see her at school all the time and were always together there. Everyone thinks i really really like her or something... and get the impression that I'm "Whipped" so anyways we've been going out for a couple of months now.. about 4 and a half. she likes me alot and shes always so kinky and horny and so am I so we kinda tease each other.. so things are okay or whatever.. but i'm getting a little bored and i'm looking a different direction.. anyone wanna help??[/QUOTE]

We'll probably need a bit more info to help. What exactly are you getting bored with? If it's just of the same routine switch it up a bit. Plan something fun to do with her some day. I don't know exactly what to tell you though as I don't know what you're getting bored with.

Sorry for the lack of information.

I'm only 17, no job. shes 16. no job. we both sit at home and stare at a wall on boring nights.. i'm not getting so bored with the kinky kinky stuff i like it, she turns me on. its just we barley do anything sexual. not like it matters right? well it has been a while and everytime i see her my friends are around and im a sociable guy? so i'm not bored with her completley... just the way we see each other? im not sure if it has something to do with each of out backgrounds.. thats why im asking you

Her: A goody-goody, thats religious in some sort of way. i'm not sure which religious background but most of them are the same. from a rich family and a daddys girl that does good and school and would never be acused of smoking a joint or drinking a beer. (everyone knows these kinda girls)

Me: a "Bad Kid" does bad in school and partys every chance he (I) get. from a poor family thats mostly filled with psycological faliures and alcoholics.

and we live in Roseneath. (we have to walk like 5 miles before we see each other)

You just need to start going out more, and stop sitting at home. Get a license, and a job, and try to get a cheap car. I'm sure you can get rides and stuff to hang out with some friends and her. You don't have to smoke or drink to go out and have fun, especially if she's with you.

Actually yea, the sexual part of it is extremely important. Neglecting that part is going to be bad news.

Well, I tried making some small talk with that girl I like on MSN today. It was alright, but our conversations were short and the subjects were quickly resolved. She's a little distant still, but it seemed like she was busy with something today. Making small queries and comments about things isn't working very well with her.

What else can I do to get her a little closer, without seeing her in person? I'll see her next weekend most likely, but I'd like to get to know her a little better before then, so I won't be as nervous.

Maybe she just doesn't do MSN well. Did you call her on the phone?

Nah, I barely know her, so I haven't asked her for her number yet. She says she lives on MSN though. I think her MSN was being screwy yesteday anyways, because she kept logging off and signing back every 10 minutes, lol.

But I need something I can say to her to get her talking. I've brought up music, her modeling, "how are you", and other lame subjects, but nothing seemed to click yet, if you know what I meant.

Books? Movies?

lol, yeah. Not books though. I guess I'll just have to wait and see if she wants to hang out next weekend. I'd like to get closer to her before I meet her, somehow. She's not as talkative as other girls I talk to. :p

There must be something that she has a passion for. For instance, my girlfriend loves photography and music so when I first started talking to her those were the topics of choice usually. Try and find out what she has a passion for.