how does it work for you

[QUOTE=adb;18179674]It doesnt matter, you don't need personal experience to make claims on something[/QUOTE]

true, but your experiences shape the way you are going to think about things, and your relationship honestly was not a very healthy one from the sound of it.

And you saying all relationships need to work that way, is really not true.

there's no such thing as a healthy relationship lol

[QUOTE=Luc214;18179676]if this is the extent of "power" in your eyes why the fuck does it matter if you don't have it

and read edit plz[/QUOTE]

uhhh this affects pretty much everything. If you're in power you do what you want when you want it. If you want sex but she doesn't then she has power over you. There has to be mutual agreement

[QUOTE]why can't 2 people just be with each other and be happy with that, I realize people try and manipulate and lord over the other but that's unhealthy and shouldn't be what that's about at all.[/QUOTE]

because this shit doesn't happen, people are not robots they want things their way. If you get trampled on all the time youre a pussy

it's impossible to find someone you agree w/ about EVERYTHING

[quote=GaggingOrder;18179691]there's no such thing as a healthy relationship lol[/quote]


well its certainly a spectrum

[QUOTE=Nostalgia;18179688]how does it work for you[/QUOTE]

my anxiety has gone down a lot. I dont always feel the need to do shit anymore, and im pretty relaxed. It really works well for me. Because im an anxious motherfucker.

ugh can we change the thread title to Pick-Up Artist Brent Shannon Enlightens Us On Relationships

[QUOTE=GaggingOrder;18179695]ugh can we change the thread title to Pick-Up Artist Brent Shannon Enlightens Us On Relationships[/QUOTE]

hahahahahahahaha

[QUOTE]true, but your experiences shape the way you are going to think about things, and your relationship honestly was not a very healthy one from the sound of it.

And you saying all relationships need to work that way, is really not true.[/QUOTE]

how is it not ture

[QUOTE=adb;18179692]uhhh this affects pretty much everything. If you're in power you do what you want when you want it. If you want sex but she doesn't then she has power over you. There has to be mutual agreement



because this shit doesn't happen, people are not robots they want things their way. If you get trampled on all the time youre a pussy

it's impossible to find someone you agree w/ about EVERYTHING[/QUOTE]

i see what you're saying

now let me ask you why being soft for a girl means you're going to give in to everything she wants

just cause im fuzzy inside doesn't mean im going to go with her every desire js

Pick-Up Artist Brent Shannon Enlightens Us On Relationships

[QUOTE=GaggingOrder;18179695]ugh can we change the thread title to Pick-Up Artist Brent Shannon Enlightens Us On Relationships[/QUOTE]

or we can just call it adb vs. mx

[QUOTE=Aakon_Keetreh;18179694]my anxiety has gone down a lot. I dont always feel the need to do shit anymore, and im pretty relaxed. It really works well for me. Because im an anxious motherfucker.[/QUOTE]

Nice. The trazodone I was prescribed was for sleep, but I know it's primarily prescribed for anxiety/depression too.

i need some medical weed

[QUOTE=Nostalgia;18179704]Nice. The trazodone I was prescribed was for sleep, but I know it's primarily prescribed for anxiety/depression too.[/QUOTE]

oh nice, i got prescribed doxepin for sleep and its prescribed for depression also.

[QUOTE=Luc214;18179701]i see what you're saying

now let me ask you why being soft for a girl means you're going to give in to everything she wants

just cause im fuzzy inside doesn't mean im going to go with her every desire js[/QUOTE]

i never said you'll do everything she wants, but it is a possibility if you'll do anything to make her happy because it will in return make you happy

my argument is there is 100% of power divided between two people

it can be 90/10 50/50 100/0 etc

still doing it the old school way and just riding out the constant depression and anxiety

i figure it will go away on its own sooner or later

[QUOTE=adb;18179714]i never said you'll do everything she wants, but it is a possibility if you'll do anything to make her happy because it will in return make you happy[/quote]

if the end result is my happiness why does it matter?

[QUOTE]
my argument is there is 100% of power divided between two people

it can be 90/10 50/50 100/0 etc[/QUOTE]

this isn't really an argument this is a fact bro

power can shift too, honestly you're just dissenting to dissent now

yeah ive tried riding it out for over 10 years and it's only gotten worse, so now im just in therapy and trying meds this time.

[QUOTE=Luc214;18179654]that's not a power struggle though as they accept their assigned roles[/QUOTE]

true, I suppose

I think there is a little bit of give and take in relationships though

[QUOTE=Murdererer;18179658]i dunno what these r but i took em about 20 mins ago

[IMG]http://i1237.photobucket.com/albums/ff472/burningasshole/Picture446.jpg[/IMG]

[IMG]http://i1237.photobucket.com/albums/ff472/burningasshole/Picture447.jpg[/IMG][/QUOTE]

no way we have the same keyboard

drinking on ur anxiety med sucks too. i feel so depressed the next day. all i listen to the next day is lifelover lol

aw fuck new of montreal album too ??

[QUOTE=Luc214;18179722]if the end result is my happiness why does it matter?



this isn't really an argument this is a fact bro

power can shift too, honestly you're just dissenting to dissent now[/QUOTE]

i don't understand how anyone can be content being a servant for their own happiness but there are people like that. Being a complete doormat.

of course it can shift, but it should be established at one point or the other. Don't be a pussy basically

[QUOTE=Meatplow;18179730]true, I suppose

I think there is a little bit of give and take in relationships though
[/QUOTE]

it was just my understanding of master/slave relationships that they naturally fit into those roles because of their personalities and consenting to such a relationship was because that was the way they preferred to function

then again my entire understanding of those kinds of relationships pretty much comes from the movie Secretary so who knows

[QUOTE=adb;18179735]i don't understand how anyone can be content being a servant for their own happiness but there are people like that. Being a complete doormat.

of course it can shift, but it should be established at one point or the other. Don't be a pussy basically[/QUOTE]

you see things way too black and white

giving in every now and then to make your girl happy =/= being a doormat

dudes the fall line for Yankee candles is out HOW FUCKING EXCITED IS THAT




you must understand that I love candles

brent i just realized you're not confident at all

[QUOTE]you see things way too black and white

giving in every now and then to make your girl happy =/= being a doormat[/QUOTE]

no i don't im just responding to your post that "why does it matter if it makes you happy" which implied "why does it matter if someone is a doormat as long as they're happy?

no shit, but I personally find it better having things my way. Why give in when I don't have to?

[QUOTE=Luc214;18179737]it was just my understanding of master/slave relationships that they naturally fit into those roles because of their personalities and consenting to such a relationship was because that was the way they preferred to function

then again my entire understanding of those kinds of relationships pretty much comes from the movie Secretary so who knows[/QUOTE]

well, it was an offhand remark which doesn't bear close examination

it's all about power but there is a remarkable amount of less fighting in those kind of relationships I suppose when people know their place

[QUOTE=Highschool Soccer Girls;18179748]i fucking [B][I][U][COLOR="DarkRed"]HATE[/COLOR][/U][/I][/B] candles[/QUOTE]

WHY

[QUOTE=adb;18179751]Why give in when I don't have to?[/QUOTE]

you'll have to if you date anything other than a sheltered attached at the hip azn

but that's what you like i guess so go you

satan gives me hope for future relationships with giddys

I prefer to make others happy.

[quote=Highschool Soccer Girls;18179748]i fucking [B][I][U][COLOR=DarkRed]HATE[/COLOR][/U][/I][/B] candles[/quote]
I must reconsider our bro status I am sorry

[QUOTE=Luc214;18179754]you'll have to if you date anything other than a sheltered attached at the hip azn

but that's what you like i guess so go you[/QUOTE]

thank you cpt obvious, I was not aware of this.

for the time being I don't need someone who will tell me what to do because I don't have the resources or the patience

candles are pretty cool for conducting rituals

candles are strictly for robotripping and listening to Klaus Schulze

[QUOTE=adb;18179763]thank you cpt obvious, I was not aware of this.

for the time being I don't need someone who will tell me what to do because I don't have the resources or the patience[/QUOTE]

naw you're just scared to give up any power cause you're not confident enough to get it back

its okay

i dont care about who has the power i just like holding hands

I find that most chicks are more than willing to let the guy make decisions so I don't see what all the ruckus is about

real talk jaundice

[QUOTE=Luc214;18179768]naw you're just scared to give up any power cause you're not confident enough to get it back

its okay[/QUOTE]

i'll give you a little credit for a little quality discussion but as I predicted personal attacks come into play

my confidence is adequate, but it would be better if I had more independence

which i implied from my previous post

resources = more money, my own place

[QUOTE]i dont care about who has the power i just like holding hands[/QUOTE]

wow u perv