It's actually good that he does that, though. CYA.

[QUOTE=Bee Sharp]She's right. In any situation it is a bad idea.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, but she's up for grabs. Anyone?

my bestfriend had a girlfriend which he really really liked alot but recently they broke up... Apperantly hes over her cuz he likes someone else. Me and my friends gf sorta got under the influence of drugs and things led to another and we started making out. My other friends sorta are angry mad at me they said i messed up pretty bad but then me and her talked about it and we both sorta like each other and now i have no idea what to do...

Any Advice???

[QUOTE=ummm_yeah]my bestfriend had a girlfriend which he really really liked alot but recently they broke up... Apperantly hes over her cuz he likes someone else. Me and my friends gf sorta got under the influence of drugs and things led to another and we started making out. My other friends sorta are angry mad at me they said i messed up pretty bad but then me and her talked about it and we both sorta like each other and now i have no idea what to do...

Any Advice???[/QUOTE]
Make sure he's gonna be cool with it.

So me and that girl i was talking about before( ican find the post if you want), are probably gonna hang out this weekend and "talk about things". I hope this works out well.

Isn't this fun!
[QUOTE]
First of all. Just a few days ago she was saying how she really likes me and she wanted to get more comfortable around me before we went out because she wanted it to be a serious relationship.

Last night, she got extremely drunk, made out with some other guy, and then I spent almost two and a half hours (Literally) making sure she was ok, because I'm not about to let her like stumble around throwing up, no matter what she did.

So then later that night she starts going on about how she just wants to be friends :-\ WTF

And then this morning after we all got up (about 15 of us slept there) she gets up, completely ignores me, even though I made sure she was alright and not freezing the night before because she had like ****ing hypothermia and she was shaking like crazy. She left without saying bye or sorry or thanks or anything.[/QUOTE]

My night was just f[U]u[/U]cking fabulous!

[QUOTE=Tillius]
Why am I posting this again?
Because I want everybody to know it.[/QUOTE]


Shut the hell up.

[QUOTE=Atticus!]Isn't this fun!


My night was just f[U]u[/U]cking fabulous![/QUOTE]


You probably just want to move on man, I dont think that ones going to go anywhere. Dont be the safety net guy.

Thanks Zack.

I pretty much knew that but yeah..

[QUOTE=Tiger]You probably just want to move on man, I dont think that ones going to go anywhere. Dont be the safety net guy.[/QUOTE]

Growllllllllll.

[QUOTE=Atticus!]Isn't this fun!


My night was just f[U]u[/U]cking fabulous![/QUOTE]

There's a term for people like that: damaged goods.

Now, it's true that damage can be fixed... But I'm pretty sure you don't feel like being a repair man.

Hi Kimmie.

Ok, question: Does talking about relationships and feelings and such make girls put you in the "just friends" perspective? Because it seems like every girl who I'm actually open to ends up like that. But the girls whom I'm not like that with I end up going out with.

I don't get that though, because how do you have a healthy relationship if you can't talk about your feelings?

:-\

Steerpike(sorry, I forget your name): Yeah, I really don't feel like being the repair guy. Especially when the effort isn't reciprocated.

Steerpike is Alex.

As you get older guys that talk about their feelings don't sway girls into a category such as "just friends". I like guys that talk about their feelings. You might be more mature than them at this point though.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Steerpike is Alex.

As you get older guys that talk about their feelings don't sway girls into a category such as "just friends". I like guys that talk about their feelings. You might be more mature than them at this point though.[/QUOTE]
Well at least I know I'm set in 20 years then :-\

:(

It's not that it's bad to talk about relationships and your feelings, but...

Like anything else you must observe moderation and a little discretion.

Early on, it's something best avoided. Keep topics pleasant and fun and don't worry about where things are going.

Later, when you two become more official and the relationship has had time to mature, you can gradually ease into that sort of thing.

Beware though of taking it too far no matter how close you are with her. The last thing you want is to become an emo kid. Have you ever noticed that despite how many girls there are who think emo kids are adorable that none of those schmucks can keep a woman to save their lives.

so like i said sierra left on Tuesday.
Well she is coming back this Tuesday for a week - staying with me and a friend in his place as his mom aint there.
she hasnt met most my m8z yet, should be cool. im kinda nervous about it :s

Her mom is always - apparently - talking about me, wondering when im coming to visit. So im thinking of going to America with her at some stage to visit, but it will cost alot.
Good idea yea?
She'd love for me to go lol.
Meeting the parents though. OuuUUu

I'm incapable of having feelings in relationships.

That was a big lie.

I am an incredibly low-maintenance boyfriend, I've found. I cannot stand/tolerate girls that call me just to talk about ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.

I don't care that you're watching [i]That '70's Show[/i] and what Kelso just did to Hyde. I don't care that you made a batch of cookies. I don't care about empty conversation. Don't call me if you have nothing to say. If you have nothing to say, I don't want to talk to you. If I saw you today, I don't HAVE to hear from you for the rest of the day, maybe even longer.

Call me if you had a great day. Call me if you had a shi[font=verdana]t[/font]ty day.

But don't call me just so you can talk about absolutely nothing. If you want to hear my voice, record it for yourself and play it back for yourself. I don't HAVE to hear from you as soon as you get home from seeing me. It's not that I don't want to, but if it took you five minutes to leave my apartment to get back to yours, NOTHING could have happened in the span of FIVE MINUTES to warrant you calling me. Jebus.

And that's my little blurb about me and my low-maintenance.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]It's not that it's bad to talk about relationships and your feelings, but...

Like anything else you must observe moderation and a little discretion.

Early on, it's something best avoided. Keep topics pleasant and fun and don't worry about where things are going.

Later, when you two become more official and the relationship has had time to mature, you can gradually ease into that sort of thing.

Beware though of taking it too far no matter how close you are with her. The last thing you want is to become an emo kid. Have you ever noticed that despite how many girls there are who think emo kids are adorable that none of those schmucks can keep a woman to save their lives.[/QUOTE]
Yeah. I guess I kind of have to work on that..

PS: Your last paragraph = :(:(:(:(

[QUOTE=Jom]I'm incapable of having feelings in relationships.

That was a big lie.

I am an incredibly low-maintenance boyfriend, I've found. I cannot stand/tolerate girls that call me just to talk about ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.

I don't care that you're watching [i]That '70's Show[/i] and what Kelso just did to Hyde. I don't care that you made a batch of cookies. I don't care about empty conversation. Don't call me if you have nothing to say. If you have nothing to say, I don't want to talk to you. If I saw you today, I don't HAVE to hear from you for the rest of the day, maybe even longer.

Call me if you had a great day. Call me if you had a shi[font=verdana]t[/font]ty day.


But don't call me just so you can talk about absolutely nothing. If you want to hear my voice, record it for yourself and play it back for yourself. I don't HAVE to hear from you as soon as you get home from seeing me. It's not that I don't want to, but if it took you five minutes to leave my apartment to get back to yours, NOTHING could have happened in the span of FIVE MINUTES to warrant you calling me. Jebus.

And that's my little blurb about me and my low-maintenance.[/QUOTE]

not very nice :(
but i soppose maybe if its one of those annoying girlfriends you have.
ugh

[QUOTE=~grif~]not very nice :([/quote]

Why do you say that? I just don't care for wasting my time listening to some girl open her mouth and absolutely nothing worthwhile is coming out of it. If I wanted to watch the TV show, I would turn on the TV.

[quote]but i soppose maybe if its one of those annoying girlfriends you have.
ugh[/QUOte]

Actually, I'm fairly certain that I would still be with my ex-girlfriend today, but alas, all good things have to come to an end. Or something.

Reason why I don't talk about her/it is that it's a long story. We were doing so well for so long and then all of a sudden we hit a brick wall. Haha, that's how it goes, I suppose.

[QUOTE=Jom]Why do you say that? I just don't care for wasting my time listening to some girl open her mouth and absolutely nothing worthwhile is coming out of it. If I wanted to watch the TV show, I would turn on the TV.



Actually, I'm fairly certain that I would still be with my ex-girlfriend today, but alas, I wasn't a very good boyfriend.

Reason why I don't talk about her is that it's a long story.[/QUOTE]
well im not too sure who you are directing it all at then.

but im just saying, anyone for that case - who talks about **** you dont want to hear about, still just nice to sit and listen. Some people i soppose dont enjoy it.

like my girlfriend goes on about **** and i honestly really enjoy it, i dont care what she is talking about im just listening and listening and just hearing her speak is great.
then ya get some of the lads that are talking about something so stupid that you are just totally tuned out.

maybe then again its those certain people you'd prefer to hear then others.

[QUOTE=~grif~]well im not too sure who you are directing it all at then.[/quote]

Nobody at all in particular. Anyone that asked for advice received it, so I didn't have anything to add except my own personal commentary.

[quote]but im just saying, anyone for that case - who talks about **** you dont want to hear about, still just nice to sit and listen. Some people i soppose dont enjoy it.[/quote]

You got that right, brotha.

[quote]like my girlfriend goes on about **** and i honestly really enjoy it, i dont care what she is talking about im just listening and listening and just hearing her speak is great.
then ya get some of the lads that are talking about something so stupid that you are just totally tuned out.[/quote]

Yeah, that's fine and everything. I'm just saying I can't handle people who are positively braindead in terms of a conversation. Talking to me about absolutely nothing is flat-out irritating.

[quote]maybe then again its those certain people you'd prefer to hear then others.[/QUOTE]

Not really. If someone is going on and on about his fantasy baseball team, I don't care about it. If some girl is talking about how she wishes her life was like [i]Ever After[/i], I don't care. I don't discriminate on age/sex/race when it comes to talking about nothing.

But, if you smell bad, then your case isn't helped, either :)

[QUOTE=Jom]Not really. If someone is going on and on about his fantasy baseball team, I don't care about it. If some girl is talking about how she wishes her life was like [i]Ever After[/i], I don't care. I don't discriminate on age/sex/race when it comes to talking about nothing.

But, if you smell bad, then your case isn't helped, either :)[/QUOTE]

Thank you! I've actually been called a dick for voicing the same opinion. Conversation should have a worthwhile topic. There's a time to speak, and a time to shut up regardless of who you are.

So I have a weird liking for a girl I barely know, and have barely talked to online. I may see her tomorrow at a local show. I'm uber nervous about it, because I don't want to be shy or bore her, 'cause I'm even quite around my friends.

I don't know what to say or anything, and I'm not sure what I can do force myself to be more open, because I've been hanging out with a couple of friends all day, and I couldn't even get myself to be more outgoing and open with them.

Bah, *whine, whine, whine*.

Name change again? yeesh.

This was my old name, Wizard was an alternate, and now I got them merged.

:D

[EDIT: Woot, 13k!]

Ohh, I thought you had gotten DR changed to Wizard. My bad.

[EDIT: Woot, 6 to 5k!]

I'm out though, it's not happening tonight.

Oh man I feel like ****...I was supposed to go to the movies with one of my female friends tonight, but to put it simply, I stood her up. I mean I really wanted to go with her shes a nice person and all, but the reason i stood her up is because I think she wanted to be more than friends, and I just dont see her in that way...so I attempted to avoid the whole situation by cancelling our little outing at the last minute. Now I dont know what to do...I feel like the biggest asshole and I know shes gonna be pissed...help? :(

[QUOTE=_ThisSecretNinja_]Oh man I feel like ****...I was supposed to go to the movies with one of my female friends tonight, but to put it simply, I stood her up. I mean I really wanted to go with her shes a nice person and all, but the reason i stood her up is because I think she wanted to be more than friends, and I just dont see her in that way...so I attempted to avoid the whole situation by cancelling our little outing at the last minute. Now I dont know what to do...I feel like the biggest spatula and I know shes gonna be pissed...help? :([/QUOTE]
Although you did it too late and she is gonna be peeved, you did the right thing. This happened to me, but I didn't bail out and ended up in a relationship I really didn't want to be in.

i kinda feel like scum. I kept bugging me best friend (female friend) telling her that i fancied her, just to piss her off. but, i have been done it soo long, that i like that i am starting to fancy her. but even worse, her boyfriend is one of my best friends as well. I have been pissing him off because he's not into much metal. But the thing is, i really don't know if i fancy my friend or not, what should i do?

[QUOTE=marc man side-kick]i kinda feel like scum. I kept bugging me best friend (female friend) telling her that i fancied her, just to piss her off. but, i have been done it soo long, that i like that i am starting to fancy her. but even worse, her boyfriend is one of my best friends as well. I have been pissing him off because he's not into much metal. But the thing is, i really don't know if i fancy my friend or not, what should i do?[/QUOTE]

Well if you don't know for sure, leave well enough alone. Why mess up three people's lives just because you [i]think[/i] you might like somebody? Either you do, or you don't. If you have to think about it, chances are you don't.