She'd probably freak out.

id say so yeah

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]She'd probably freak out.[/QUOTE]
She more than likely would.

yes, yes she would. But then again I wouldnt want her discussing our relationship with poele on an internet forum, oh what a hypocrite I am.

So there's this girl. And she is mad, actually to quote her specifically, she is "pissed" at me, because she insists that I talk to her friend more than her. And now, its pissing me off, because who gives a fu[size="2"]ck[/size]. I don't like people, I don't talk to anyone, but someone she knows exactly who I talk to and exactly how long our conversations are. She likes me, because she told me, and now, apparently, because of this, I have to talk to her more than her friends. In the words of my pothead friend: "People are so fu[size="2"]ck[/size]in retarded".

That's an already obsessive girl.
If she's this way already, then you multiply that x10 and that's how the relationship will be, if you chose to start one.

My advice, if you were thinking about it, don't.

[QUOTE=Tillius]That's an already obsessive girl.
If she's this way already, then you multiply that x10 and that's how the relationship will be, if you chose to start one.

My advice, if you were thinking about it, don't.[/QUOTE]
I have no desire to date this woman. I think now she has realized that she doesn't have to be my center of attention 24/7 just because she likes me.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]If you don't want to say it back; if she says it first, simply smile and say "thank you."[/QUOTE]

Or, don't say anything at all. A smile + hug works just as well.

[quote]Exactly. To be honest I admire you for being one of the few people left who actually think about saying it beforehand. I mean, its very rare that you are going to be with someone for a few weeks and be in love with them.[/quote]

Agreed with this 100%. I've never told a girl that I loved her at any stretch. But then again, I get a kick out of a couple that says they love each other and then something goes wrong and it turns to "I hate you!"

Hahaha.

EDIT: just saw this:

[quote=AtomShip]I would totally rep ++ you if I could... thanks a lot man. Also I was thinking of backpacking etc, moving from job to job temporarily (like a drifter) and just explore since I'm obsessed with exploring, I'm one of thoughs guys that sees a huge majestic mountain and says "I'm so gonna climb it."[/quote]

Someone I used to talk to had this fling with a guy who was basically how you described: he traveled all over the world, but to do community service (he was an electrician, so he worked for groups like Habitat For Humanity... he doesn't work for a single company, he just kind of drifts from organization to organization... wherever life lands him, really).

He was basically a free spirit and a vagabond. The girl pressed him to be in a relationship but he was very against that because he said it was too 'conventional' and that he is 'anything but conventional.' Too bad for her, too, because she fell hard for the guy.

Anyway I don't think that there was much of a point in my story in response to what you said, but I'm glad that I said something helpful for you earlier. I could never be that adventurous in exploring the unknown... I mean, I love physical activity, but I could never just go to a different continent and climb a mountain just to say I did it, haha.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]My problem from last night in case it got missed:

Could someone please concur with me as to whether I'm wasting my time or not:

I've been going out with my girl for about 4 months. I see her on average one day a week for a couple of hours. This is for a number of reasons. Mostly because shes in about 3 hockey teams and her mum is mental and doesnt want her seeing me. And when I do see her its usually at a hockey match or when we're with alot of other friends, ie we have very little alone time.

We're not having sex, I know its not all about that but lets be honest, its helps a lot more if you are. Theres no chance of having sex, shes a staunch christian and wont do so before marriage. However shes absolutely taken with me, I'm showered with compliments all the time, and I treat her good of course.

Shes a nice girl and all but I'm sure theres alot of nice girls out there. Am I wasting my time waiting for these precious hours once a week?





17.[/QUOTE]
If you really like her, keep with it and you'll find away to make it work. But by the sounds of it... you're having doubts anyway. Maybe the nicest thing to do would be to break it off before either of you get in too deep.

yeah i have one ****ed up situation.

right my gf is moving to cyprus in under 3 weeks. we are both in love and we are basically been ripped apart. im seriously considering moving over there now because ive never been this happy ever and i want to give it a real go. weve been going out 2 months and we get on like a house on fire. I know moving over there is a real bug step but i want your opinions on this?

[QUOTE=darkstarwarrior]yeah i have one ****ed up situation.

right my gf is moving to cyprus in under 3 weeks. we are both in love and we are basically been ripped apart. im seriously considering moving over there now because ive never been this happy ever and i want to give it a real go. weve been going out 2 months and we get on like a house on fire. I know moving over there is a real bug step but i want your opinions on this?[/QUOTE]
How old are you?

18 but she makes me feel complete so to be hinest i think its worth the risk

[QUOTE=darkstarwarrior]18 but she makes me feel complete so to be hinest i think its worth the risk[/QUOTE]
Think realisitically. You're young, you've been going out 2 months. Have you talked to her about it?

How far away from Cyprus are you at the moment?

I think it depends on your previous relationship with your girlfriend.

I think that if you have known her for a long time but only have been dating for a couple months, it might work; if you have history.

If you have just jumped into a relationship with her and you barely knew her I think that you are/would be making a big mistake.You don't really know someone if you have only been with them for 2 months.

With 2 months of dating, you are still in that new "excited" phase. Everything is wonderful, you don't disagree and you are having fun. Emotions are there, but no as deep as they would be after..lets say a year or two. I dont know, this is all my opinion but after 2 months, feelings can easily change.

ive spoke to her about it yeah she wants me to do whats right for me. i knows its not a long time but i feel complete with her. ive been in other relationships and i know this time its love and she feels the same aswell. tbh i think its worth the risk. If it doesnt work out then move back

[QUOTE=darkstarwarrior]ive spoke to her about it yeah she wants me to do whats right for me. i knows its not a long time but i feel complete with her. ive been in other relationships and i know this time its love and she feels the same aswell. tbh i think its worth the risk. If it doesnt work out then move back[/QUOTE]
How far from Cyprus are you? I'd personally say it's not worth it...

Your young, and you've only been going out for 2 months. You may 'love' her now, but in a few months it's very possible those feelings might fade.

hey..theres a girl i like, she's a friend to me and all but, because she knows i like her in a different way, as a girl friend, it seems as if she's doing everything she can to get me pissed off and hate her, she doesn't want to lose me as a friend, but i think the way she is behaving she wouldn't mind loseing me, as a friend to get rid of me as a guy who wants her.

i don't have the slightest clue what to do in this situation, she has come up with this new scheme to get me...but im resisting for now

[QUOTE=darkstarwarrior]ive spoke to her about it yeah she wants me to do whats right for me. i knows its not a long time but i feel complete with her. ive been in other relationships and i know this time its love and she feels the same aswell. tbh i think its worth the risk. If it doesnt work out then move back[/QUOTE]


It sounds sweet and easy and great and all, but youre going to feel pretty silly about changing your entire life for this girl when you walk in on her sleeping with someone else like, say, me.

Hey L&R dudes. I don't actually have a question or advice or anything this time. I do have one girl-related issue, but I already know what I'm gonna do about it. I don't like it, but I think it's best. This way I never have to see her again.

But KRASH, you should tell her you want to stay friends with her. Then you can continue with your crush without hurting your friendship.

[QUOTE=KRASH]hey..theres a girl i like, she's a friend to me and all but, because she knows i like her in a different way, as a girl friend, it seems as if she's doing everything she can to get me pissed off and hate her, she doesn't want to lose me as a friend, but i think the way she is behaving she wouldn't mind loseing me, as a friend to get rid of me as a guy who wants her.

i don't have the slightest clue what to do in this situation, she has come up with this new scheme to get me...but im resisting for now[/QUOTE]

Isnt she just very clearly sending you signals to back the **** off?

[QUOTE=darkstarwarrior]ive spoke to her about it yeah she wants me to do whats right for me. i knows its not a long time but i feel complete with her. ive been in other relationships and i know this time its love and she feels the same aswell. tbh i think its worth the risk. If it doesnt work out then move back[/QUOTE]
You really think it's that simple?

OK, theres nothing really I can say that hasn't already been said, except for this: Whatever you're feeling about this girl at the minute, that can affect your judgement, man. So much so that you think that leaving behind absolutely everything else and going to Cyprus for a girl you've known for two months is an absolutely fantastic idea!

Now everybody who's replied to you, they've got a bit more of a clear head, if you see what I mean. We can see the potential recipie for disaster you're getting yourself in to. You may feel it's worth the risk, and the possibility that this could all end very badly indeed seems to be lost on you, but not the people you're asking. Nobody's saying that it's never going to work. But you need to consider this: You're thinking of moving to another country. This isn't something you do on a whim. This is a "forever" thing. And that might not necessarily be the case with your girlfriend. I hate to be all pessimistic, but no one's going to turn around and say "Go for it, dude!" because there are so many ways this could all go horribly horribly wrong, that do not by any stretch of the imagination outwiegh the benefits of moving to another country with a girl who you've been with for two months.

Sorry man, I know this isn't what you wanted to hear. Or read. But that's the way it is.

Its kind of like crack. "I know, Ill sell my house, divorce my wife, leave my children so I can get some more crack!"

It sounds like a good idea. But thats because youre on crack.

[QUOTE=Tiger]Isnt she just very clearly sending you signals to back the **** off?[/QUOTE]

yeah...but thats the thing, she's sending me signals for me to back the **** off, and i havn't actually made any moves...she just knows i like her, because one of our friends found it out from me and told her...:upset:

You could take my advice, you know.

[QUOTE=KRASH]yeah...but thats the thing, she's sending me signals for me to back the **** off, and i havn't actually made any moves...she just knows i like her, because one of our friends found it out from me and told her...:upset:[/QUOTE]


Heh...yeeeea, stay away man. She wants no part of you, and any moves you make as a friend are going to be transparent and turned into moves that some creep she doesnt want to date is using to hook up with her.

[QUOTE=Tiger]Heh...yeeeea, stay away man. She wants no part of you, and any moves you make as a friend are going to be transparent and turned into moves that some creep she doesnt want to date is using to hook up with her.[/QUOTE]


i really hope you were writing that through her eyes and not mine.

i've known her eight years now, since primary school, and she was a really good mate, until recently, about 5 months or so, but now she says im pushing her away, and im not the same, when im exactly the same, and im still her friend, it's more that voice in her head saying no to me than it is her.

[QUOTE=Jonny]You could take my advice, you know.[/QUOTE]


if i say that to her, she's gonna get all pissed off and feel bad, she'll end up thinking its her thats pushing me away, when it is, and getting really depressed, then totally falling out with me for sure.

[QUOTE=KRASH]if i say that to her, she's gonna get all pissed off and feel bad, she'll end up thinking its her thats pushing me away, when it is, and getting really depressed, then totally falling out with me for sure.[/QUOTE]
Be that as it may, this needs sorting out man.

And it's tricky, isn't it? The best thing that I can think of is getting her on her own, talking to her with all your cards on the table... ask her why she's been the way she's been over the past few months. And don't think that "because you like me," settles it; that might be the [I]reason,[/I] but you know that already and it doesn't really explain why it warrants such behaviour. And ask her how you've changed. I know you haven't, but if you put pressure on her to explain how she thinks you've changed... she must have a reason, right? And if she tells you what that reason is, you can sort it out, like.

Obviously this will depend on how (if at all) she responds, but if you need an ultimatum, tell her that you're not coming on to her at all, and that if she can accept that, then you're perfectly happy to remain friends with her.

See, the thing is chap... you think she's pushing you away, and maybe she is, and I don't really know how she'd take being pushed back. But you're not going to do yourself any favours if you let this continue.

Oh, and by the way, my experience with this sort of thing is minimal to say the least, so take this with a pinch of salt. It's just what I think.

my boyfriend didn't get me a ticket for prom.

i just found this out. he forgot apparently. he got his, but forgot he was getting mine and i was paying him back.

= really really bad.

i hope i can go to prom, because if not i'd cry. well maybe not cry, but i'd be devastated

[QUOTE=Tiger]Heh...yeeeea, stay away man. She wants no part of you, and any moves you make as a friend are going to be transparent and turned into moves that some creep she doesnt want to date is using to hook up with her.[/QUOTE]

How is your relationship going, Tiger. You post in here a lot, yet I hardly ever see you discuss your own commitment. Everything well?

You picked a real winner there.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]How is your relationship going, Tiger. You post in here a lot, yet I hardly ever see you discuss your own commitment. Everything well?[/QUOTE]


We had some mild issues a few days ago, its all fine. We're not getting to spend a lot of time together and all.

I usually dont like to talk about my issues, thats all.

[QUOTE=Luster]my boyfriend didn't get me a ticket for prom.

i just found this out. he forgot apparently. he got his, but forgot he was getting mine and i was paying him back.

= really really bad.

i hope i can go to prom, because if not i'd cry. well maybe not cry, but i'd be devastated[/QUOTE]
What a douche.

Why would he make you pay him back in the first place?

[QUOTE=Tillius]What a douche.

Why would he make you pay him back in the first place?[/QUOTE]


yeah he should be paying for you, especially for prom

[QUOTE=Tiger]We had some mild issues a few days ago, its all fine. We're not getting to spend a lot of time together and all.

I usually dont like to talk about my issues, thats all.[/QUOTE]

Not in terms of issues or problems, even progression or happiness is fine. I would just like to see talk more about yourself once in a while :)

[QUOTE=Tillius]What a douche.

Why would he make you pay him back in the first place?[/QUOTE]

i posted a couple pages ago about how we're splitting the cost.

i mean, it makes sense. he doesn't have a ton of money to drop on something i'm dragging him into in the first place. it comes out to almost 200$ each plus his tux, so whatever, i'll pay my own....

.... except that he never got me a ticket.
i pray they'll be able to work something out and call the hotel and get me a ticket or something. and it better not be more expensive because it's late.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Not in terms of issues or problems, even progression or happiness is fine. I would just like to see talk more about yourself once in a while :)[/QUOTE]


Heh, get AIM!

I have a million things going on, I could make a large thread but Ive not been bothered to.

[QUOTE=roots]yeah he should be paying for you, especially for prom[/QUOTE]

Prom tickets are like $90 bucks, who is she dating Hugh Hefner? Its her prom, if she wanted to go, she should have boughten a ticket herself.

Sorry love.

[QUOTE=Tiger]Heh, get AIM!

I have a million things going on, I could make a large thread but Ive not been bothered to.[/QUOTE]

E-mail! I cant be bothered to get a whole 'nother messaging system. I have a hard time keeping up with msn as it is :$