[QUOTE=Tillius]:eek:

It's not true. Please tell me it's not true.[/QUOTE]

They don't show up physically, but mentally they do.

Ok, this is more of a life situation but I'll tie in some love etc.

Basically in elementary school my life was grand, had 3 best friends and a couple good friends. 5th grade my elementary school splits up and the graduates go to either one middle school or the other depending where you lived, unlucky me 2 of my best friends went to the other school and my other best friend started homeschooling. 5th grade comes around and I'm in no classes with any of my friends from elementary school and I dont adapt well at all, I become shy and start hanging out with the "loser" kids as they were prolly called. I still saw my friends on the weekends till about middle of 7th grade, still we werent in the same classes etc and they moved on and made new friends. So I join various groups throughout school all the way up till 10th grade (the grade I'm in now) when I finally start to settle down a bit. I'm gaining more and more friends and starting to grow back my confidence.

Now heres my issues:

1) I dont have many "good friends" right now and it's makes me feel kinda lame watching other guys hanging with their "best friends" and I'm not.
2) I have some interests in this girl at school and I'm remotely sure she has some interests in me but its not so clearcut, some days things are cool and the some days they can be very misleading and awkward. More towards the cool side though... I figured since my last interest didnt work out so well because I rushed it I'd play this one cool and slow (she does live down the street so we will see each other often in the summer).

What I ask of you is:

Most recently I'll go like 3 or 4 day spans feeling crumby and depressed and it's really bad for me cause noone likes a negativenancy, I try to be cheery and fun in school but I can often come off negative and kinda gloomed. Also I feel like I get ragged on by some of my friends and I know they're just messin around but it pisses me off how most kids need to be all "macho" and beat down people so they look "cooler" basically I just hate teenagers and stupid hypocritical american society.

P.s.: I have no idea what I want to do after highschool, college doesnt seem to appetizing for me since I have no career path I wish to follow and quite frankly I dont want to be sitting in a cubicle 10 years from now. I'm thinking about traveling the country and even going over seas and hiking around africa/europe/south asia etc but if I do that I dont know what would happen afterwards? Stupid hormones.

This is more of a vent and I like to get things typed out since it helps me think but any imput is appreciated.

[QUOTE=AtomShip]Now heres my issues:

1) I dont have many "good friends" right now and it's makes me feel kinda lame watching other guys hanging with their "best friends" and I'm not.
2) I have some interests in this girl at school and I'm remotely sure she has some interests in me but its not so clearcut, some days things are cool and the some days they can be very misleading and awkward. More towards the cool side though... I figured since my last interest didnt work out so well because I rushed it I'd play this one cool and slow (she does live down the street so we will see each other often in the summer).

What I ask of you is:

Most recently I'll go like 3 or 4 day spans feeling crumby and depressed and it's really bad for me cause noone likes a negativenancy, I try to be cheery and fun in school but I can often come off negative and kinda gloomed. Also I feel like I get ragged on by some of my friends and I know they're just messin around but it pisses me off how most kids need to be all "macho" and beat down people so they look "cooler" basically I just hate teenagers and stupid hypocritical american society.[/quote]

Welcome to adolescence. It makes you gloomy sometimes. The trick is to see it for what it is and try to be upbeat. Because it'll pass.

Your friends: When you get ragged on by them tell them you don't appreciate it. If they don't get it and keep on doing it then don't hang around them as much. By your age (which I'm guessing is 15 or 16) kids should respect others' feelings.

[quote]P.s.: I have no idea what I want to do after highschool, college doesnt seem to appetizing for me since I have no career path I wish to follow and quite frankly I dont want to be sitting in a cubicle 10 years from now. I'm thinking about traveling the country and even going over seas and hiking around africa/europe/south asia etc but if I do that I dont know what would happen afterwards? Stupid hormones.[/quote]

I'm not so sure that you absolutely have to have a career path at your age. You have two more years of high school and that's plenty of time to see what interests you careerwise. Think of what really interests you outside of school and think about making it, or something similar, into your career.

This is more of a vent and I like to get things typed out since it helps me think but any imput is appreciated.[/QUOTE]

Hope this helps. :)

Hey everyone, random question:

On average for you guys, how long did it take you to recover from a crush/relationship...gone to hell in a handbasket? It's been a little less than 2 months now since fell on my face and got rejected by this girl, and i still feel as if i still like her.

I mean, i know that it's pretty much done, but there's still some lingering feeling that i have. And i don't know how long it's gonna last.

3 weeks probably.

Random:

Well, I'm in a great mood right now.
I went to the movies, and for the first time, I made out.

Here's the story:

Got there, and me and all my friends went up to the front. And there were 3 girls up there, one I kinda knew, and her two friends. One of her friends(who I did not know at all) and me, just got along from the second I introduced myself to her. And we sat by eachother, joking around throught out the whole movie(It was Poseidon by the way, doooo'nt ever go see that crap). We ended up getting closer and closer. Then we slowly started to hold hands. At first, jsut played with eachother's thumbs, then cups hands, and eventually we interlocked fingers. And after awhile, I put my arm around her, and we squeezed really close together. When the movie was over, and the credits started rolling(also when it was the darkest in the theater), we both kinda realized we were running out of time. So, she turned her head towards mine, and then yah, I jsut went for it. It didn't really last long or anything(friends kept bugging me to leave), but it happened, and I'm in a really good mood now.

It was with a random girl I jsut met tonight, and will probably go on to most liekly never talk to again. But it was definitely fun and worth it.



And yah, I jsut felt like telling you guys.

[quote=Atomship]Basically in elementary school my life was grand[/quote]

Wasn't it for everybody, basically? :)

[quote]I had 3 best friends and a couple good friends. 5th grade my elementary school splits up and the graduates go to either one middle school or the other depending where you lived, unlucky me 2 of my best friends went to the other school and my other best friend started homeschooling.[/quote]

Same thing with me, kind of.

I moved while in elementary school and only went to said school for less than two years. All the people I met at that school went to Middle School A, whereas I (and a handful of others) went to Middle School B.

And then three years later, all my friends at Middle School B that I meet go to High School B, while I (and that same handful of others) go to High School A, but we meet up with our elementary school friends. Weird how that worked out for me, hey?

[quote]5th grade comes around and I'm in no classes with any of my friends from elementary school and I dont adapt well at all, I become shy and start hanging out with the "loser" kids as they were prolly called.[/quote]

Friends are friends - it's not good to look at stereotypes, even from a personal standpoint.

[quote]I still saw my friends on the weekends till about middle of 7th grade, still we werent in the same classes etc and they moved on and made new friends. So I join various groups throughout school all the way up till 10th grade (the grade I'm in now) when I finally start to settle down a bit. I'm gaining more and more friends and starting to grow back my confidence.[/quote]

Excellent - good on you. The more active you are within your school, the more people you will meet, and talking and being comfortable with new people will be easier.

/////

I broke this up because... meh, nevermind.

[quote]1) I dont have many "good friends" right now and it's makes me feel kinda lame watching other guys hanging with their "best friends" and I'm not.[/quote]

Understandable, but remember that you are getting more and more involved - and you're only in tenth grade... you still have this year, junior year, and senior year to meet new people and strengthen friendships.

I never have had a best friend since I moved.

I also never kept a lot of friends. The people I was friends with since my move, my friends since high school, my friends since last year... I don't talk to anymore. At all.

But this is just how I deal with people. I elect not to drink or smoke or do drugs, but every single one of my ex-friends does. They judged me for it, so I told them collectively to fuc[font=verdana]k[/font] off and said a few other choice things (not important to this discussion). If I'm going to be judged, it will be by my character, not whether or not I get down with the happy juice and/or the whacky tobaccy.

As it stands right now, I do not have any friends at this point. However, I'm completely happy about that. I keep myself occupied, and I don't need people to give me happiness when I can create it myself.

Basically, I'm really low-maintenance. But I also don't have very much tolerance for being judged for stupid stuff, either, haha.

[quote]2) I have some interests in this girl at school and I'm remotely sure she has some interests in me but its not so clearcut, some days things are cool and the some days they can be very misleading and awkward. More towards the cool side though... I figured since my last interest didnt work out so well because I rushed it I'd play this one cool and slow (she does live down the street so we will see each other often in the summer).[/quote]

Haha, as Kimmie said, welcome to adolescence. This scenario will repeat itself a number of times, so get used to it, hahaha.

Good luck, though, for what it's worth.

[quote]Most recently I'll go like 3 or 4 day spans feeling crumby and depressed and it's really bad for me cause noone likes a negativenancy, I try to be cheery and fun in school but I can often come off negative and kinda gloomed.[/quote]

Again, welcome to adolescence - you're going to have these kind of mood 'swings' every so often. It's normal to feel like crap some days and have no explanation for it.

And let yourself have those bad days - don't try to force a smile when you don't have to. But this is my take, is all.

Only when you're sour 24/7 should you be worried, heh.

[quote]Also I feel like I get ragged on by some of my friends and I know they're just messin around but it pisses me off how most kids need to be all "macho" and beat down people so they look "cooler" basically I just hate teenagers and stupid hypocritical american society.[/quote]

Welcome to America.

Sometimes friends will joke, but sometimes they'll cross the line. All you need to do is say something like this, "I know that you're joking, but I don't appreciate it when you take it that far." The more you start sentences with "I [verb]," the less accusatory you will sound, and the more your friends will listen. It's a subtle thing, really - don't be like "[You] stop being such a jerk" or what-have-you. It works, believe me.

Otherwise, stand up for yourself. I stood up for people who were getting picked on, and people got what was coming to them if they didn't stop.

Needless to say, I've been in too many fights, but I've never lost one I wasn't involved in.

[quote]P.s.: I have no idea what I want to do after highschool[/quote]

Does anyone? I know that I was going off to higher education, but to study what? That will come with age - remember, you're in tenth grade, you don't have to even think about the ACT/SAT yet, haha.

[quote]college doesnt seem to appetizing for me since I have no career path I wish to follow and quite frankly I dont want to be sitting in a cubicle 10 years from now.[/quote]

Well, college isn't for everyone, but you need to rid yourself of the notion that "College = [i]Office Space[/i]," because that's grossly incorrect.

People go to college to do anything, not just work in a cubicle. I mean, you could work in a cubicle, but I'm going to college and I'm not going to be working in a cubicle, heh.

[quote]I'm thinking about traveling the country and even going over seas and hiking around africa/europe/south asia etc but if I do that I dont know what would happen afterwards? Stupid hormones.[/quote]

Remember, you need money and time to do this, and lots of it. Good luck if you do, but be weary of those two necessities.

Jom? whaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

[QUOTE=got tool?]Hey everyone, random question:

On average for you guys, how long did it take you to recover from a crush/relationship...gone to hell in a handbasket? It's been a little less than 2 months now since fell on my face and got rejected by this girl, and i still feel as if i still like her.

I mean, i know that it's pretty much done, but there's still some lingering feeling that i have. And i don't know how long it's gonna last.[/QUOTE]

I've had 3 major crushes in my life. One lasted for about 2 months (he didn't know I existed), the other for about 2 months as well (the guy was practically stalking me after a while so yeah, the cruch died soon after), but the last one... phoar it was like 1 year. Yes, it's a long time, but I'm going out with him now, so eh I guess it wasn't that much of a waste of time.

[QUOTE=got tool?]Hey everyone, random question:

On average for you guys, how long did it take you to recover from a crush/relationship...gone to hell in a handbasket? It's been a little less than 2 months now since fell on my face and got rejected by this girl, and i still feel as if i still like her.

I mean, i know that it's pretty much done, but there's still some lingering feeling that i have. And i don't know how long it's gonna last.[/QUOTE]

I felt like s[SIZE="2"]h[/SIZE]it for a year when my ex dumped me :/
and I think I still have some feeligs for her. damn I hate that b[SIZE="2"]i[/SIZE]tch

[QUOTE=got tool?]Hey everyone, random question:

On average for you guys, how long did it take you to recover from a crush/relationship...gone to hell in a handbasket? It's been a little less than 2 months now since fell on my face and got rejected by this girl, and i still feel as if i still like her.

I mean, i know that it's pretty much done, but there's still some lingering feeling that i have. And i don't know how long it's gonna last.[/QUOTE]
Depends on how long I've been with them. Sometimes a couple of weeks... sometimes months.

Could someone please concur with me as to whether I'm wasting my time or not:

I've been going out with my girl for about 4 months. I see her on average one day a week for a couple of hours. This is for a number of reasons. Mostly because shes in about 3 hockey teams and her mum is mental and doesnt want her seeing me. And when I do see her its usually at a hockey match or when we're with alot of other friends, ie we have very little alone time.

We're not having sex, I know its not all about that but lets be honest, its helps a lot more if you are. Theres no chance of having sex, shes a staunch christian and wont do so before marriage. However shes [i]absolutely[/i] taken with me, I'm showered with compliments all the time, and I treat her good of course.

Shes a nice girl and all but I'm sure theres alot of nice girls out there. Am I wasting my time waiting for these precious hours once a week?

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Could someone please concur with me as to whether I'm wasting my time or not:

I've been going out with my girl for about 4 months. I see her on average one day a week for a couple of hours. This is for a number of reasons. Mostly because shes in about 3 hockey teams and her mum is mental and doesnt want her seeing me. And when I do see her its usually at a hockey match or when we're with alot of other friends, ie we have very little alone time.

We're not having sex, I know its not all about that but lets be honest, its helps a lot more if you are. Theres no chance of having sex, shes a staunch christian and wont do so before marriage. However shes [i]absolutely[/i] taken with me, I'm showered with compliments all the time, and I treat her good of course.

Shes a nice girl and all but I'm sure theres alot of nice girls out there. Am I wasting my time waiting for these precious hours once a week?[/QUOTE]
How old are you?

[QUOTE=Dude3]Random:

.[/QUOTE]

I like this kid already.

The only way you could have been more awesome if you would have had a random hookup like that for your first time in the sack, and THEN say you'll probably never talk to her again.

Haha. I wish I was a virgin just so I could do that.

so, this girl, shes pretty taken with me. like. yeah. alot. Its not that its bad, but that its too good. Like, you get really infatuated(vocab word++), then you see them too much,a nd get sick of them. what should i do?

P.S, i really like her too, but don't want whats happened in the past to happen again.

tell her. if she's cool, then go her. if you like each other, then its all good.

yeah, thats probably what ill do, or just kinda, make sure i don't see her a whole lot, then eventually, she wont be so obbsesive(thats an overstatment, but i couldnt think of any other words.

[QUOTE=The Fonz]yeah, thats probably what ill do, or just kinda, make sure i don't see her a whole lot, then eventually, she wont be so obbsesive(thats an overstatment, but i couldnt think of any other words.[/QUOTE]

Why don't you just let things play out instead of trying to control the emotions of another person?

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]Why don't you just let things play out instead of trying to control the emotions of another person?[/QUOTE]


that one too, it was a toss up, and he replied first. I dunno, im too lazy to work this stuff out anyway, so either way, its working out on its own.

P.S, way to make me sound like a jack[SIZE="2"]a[/SIZE]ss

[QUOTE=The Fonz]that one too, it was a toss up, and he replied first. I dunno, im too lazy to work this stuff out anyway, so either way, its working out on its own.

P.S, way to make me sound like a jack[SIZE="2"]a[/SIZE]ss[/QUOTE]

It's what I majored in :p

Ok, sorry I haven't posted in a while but here's a few things.

So last night my two friends slept over and at around 1 in the morning we decided to just go outside and walk around. Well we were walking by Angela's house (ex gf but we're kinda friends now still) I see her moms truck pull out of the driveway with the brights on and zoom past the street kinda sweervy and jerky. My friends and I were wondering what the hell was going on. Well apparently they went in a circle and went back to their house.

Angela, her friend JEnny (she hates me for STUID reasons now), Ali, and some random black kid in the drivers seat all got out. I walk up to angela and ask what's going on. She acts like I'm going to turn her into the cops or something and in general is like a bitch to me or something.

She said they all snuck out and that they were all really tipsy. So then I just walk away and they get into her moms car (none of them are old enough to drive) and have the brights on shining onto her house being REALLY loud. Well as I'm going around thje corner I see her mom walk outside and catch them. The black guy just starts jogging away but I couldn't see what else went on. About 10 min later Angela texts me saying "Mom just caught us, cant talk right now anyways :/ night"

Her mom is really strict so I bet it's gonna be quite the punishment. Except I think they might get away witht he drinking though, not sure.

But one thing that I have been thinking about is that they were drving under the influence. That bothers me that they would do such a stupid thing. I almost wish a cop puilled them over and make them take a breathlaizer test because what they were doing was extremely stupid and I do think they should get full punishment for it. Another thing is there is a pretty big road thats busy all night about a block from her house. So I wouldn't have been suprised if they would have gone on that in a little bit. They were just leaving to go get high though. :/

wow, i cant believe that all happened and i saw it ALL, what are the chances.

[QUOTE=Jom]


Remember, you need money and time to do this, and lots of it. Good luck if you do, but be weary of those two necessities.[/QUOTE]
I would totally rep ++ you if I could... thanks a lot man. Also I was thinking of backpacking etc, moving from job to job temporarily (like a drifter) and just explore since I'm obsessed with exploring, I'm one of thoughs guys that sees a huge majestic mountain and says "I'm so gonna climb it."

[QUOTE=thunderzstruck]Ok, sorry I haven't posted in a while but here's a few things.

So last night my two friends slept over and at around 1 in the morning we decided to just go outside and walk around. Well we were walking by Angela's house (ex gf but we're kinda friends now still) I see her moms truck pull out of the driveway with the brights on and zoom past the street kinda sweervy and jerky. My friends and I were wondering what the hell was going on. Well apparently they went in a circle and went back to their house.

Angela, her friend JEnny (she hates me for STUID reasons now), Ali, and some random black kid in the drivers seat all got out. I walk up to angela and ask what's going on. She acts like I'm going to turn her into the cops or something and in general is like a bitch to me or something.

She said they all snuck out and that they were all really tipsy. So then I just walk away and they get into her moms car (none of them are old enough to drive) and have the brights on shining onto her house being REALLY loud. Well as I'm going around thje corner I see her mom walk outside and catch them. The black guy just starts jogging away but I couldn't see what else went on. About 10 min later Angela texts me saying "Mom just caught us, cant talk right now anyways :/ night"

Her mom is really strict so I bet it's gonna be quite the punishment. Except I think they might get away witht he drinking though, not sure.

But one thing that I have been thinking about is that they were drving under the influence. That bothers me that they would do such a stupid thing. I almost wish a cop puilled them over and make them take a breathlaizer test because what they were doing was extremely stupid and I do think they should get full punishment for it. Another thing is there is a pretty big road thats busy all night about a block from her house. So I wouldn't have been suprised if they would have gone on that in a little bit. They were just leaving to go get high though. :/

wow, i cant believe that all happened and i saw it ALL, what are the chances.[/QUOTE]

SHe sounds irresponsible and immature. If you arent old enough to realise you shouldnt drink and get behind the wheel of a car than you shouldnt be drinking. Its as[size=1]s[/size]holes like your girlfriend that makes everyone so godda[size=1]mn[/size] unbearable sometimes. She needs to smarten the fu[size=1]ck[/size] up.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]SHe sounds irresponsible and immature. If you arent old enough to realise you shouldnt drink and get behind the wheel of a car than you shouldnt be drinking. Its as[size=1]s[/size]holes like your girlfriend that makes everyone so godda[size=1]mn[/size] unbearable sometimes. She needs to smarten the fu[size=1]ck[/size] up.[/QUOTE]

and you know what the worst part is?

all she got was a small slap on the wrist. Her mother is such a devout christian that all she did was force her to read 2 verses out of the bible about grace and she assumed they learned their lesson

*rollzeyes*

My problem from last night in case it got missed:

Could someone please concur with me as to whether I'm wasting my time or not:

I've been going out with my girl for about 4 months. I see her on average one day a week for a couple of hours. This is for a number of reasons. Mostly because shes in about 3 hockey teams and her mum is mental and doesnt want her seeing me. And when I do see her its usually at a hockey match or when we're with alot of other friends, ie we have very little alone time.

We're not having sex, I know its not all about that but lets be honest, its helps a lot more if you are. Theres no chance of having sex, shes a staunch christian and wont do so before marriage. However shes absolutely taken with me, I'm showered with compliments all the time, and I treat her good of course.

Shes a nice girl and all but I'm sure theres alot of nice girls out there. Am I wasting my time waiting for these precious hours once a week?



[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]How old are you?[/QUOTE]

17.

[QUOTE=thunderzstruck]and you know what the worst part is?

all she got was a small slap on the wrist. Her mother is such a devout christian that all she did was force her to read 2 verses out of the bible about grace and she assumed they learned their lesson

*rollzeyes*[/QUOTE]

Well thats why no one learns a thing these days. Like sh[size=1]it[/size] you can get away with ANYTHING these days.

Like, i realise people make mistakes but your ex doesnt seem mature enough to learn from it. Just wait until she flattens out her moms truck against a cement wall, then she'll learn.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Well thats why no one learns a thing these days. Like sh[size=1]it[/size] you can get away with ANYTHING these days.

Like, i realise people make mistakes but your ex doesnt seem mature enough to learn from it. Just wait until she flattens out her moms truck against a cement wall, then she'll learn.[/QUOTE]

i totally agree, i mean i'm not against her in anyway or anything but she needs to learn to consequences from what she does

i was really hoping for a cop to pull them over

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]My problem from last night in case it got missed:

Could someone please concur with me as to whether I'm wasting my time or not:

I've been going out with my girl for about 4 months. I see her on average one day a week for a couple of hours. This is for a number of reasons. Mostly because shes in about 3 hockey teams and her mum is mental and doesnt want her seeing me. And when I do see her its usually at a hockey match or when we're with alot of other friends, ie we have very little alone time.

We're not having sex, I know its not all about that but lets be honest, its helps a lot more if you are. Theres no chance of having sex, shes a staunch christian and wont do so before marriage. However shes absolutely taken with me, I'm showered with compliments all the time, and I treat her good of course.

Shes a nice girl and all but I'm sure theres alot of nice girls out there. Am I wasting my time waiting for these precious hours once a week?





17.[/QUOTE]

Im not sure it depends on what you are looking for within the relationship. It sounds more to me like a friendship than anything. Im not saying you haev to haev sex in order for it to be a boyfriend/girlfriend thing, but it doesnt seem like the two of you are necessarily progressing as "unified bond" I guess you could say.

Within your relationship, if you want something casual and not serious, then I think this is the place for you. If you want something more intimate and structured then I think you need to jump ship man.

[QUOTE=thunderzstruck]i totally agree, i mean i'm not against her in anyway or anything but she needs to learn to consequences from what she does

i was really hoping for a cop to pull them over[/QUOTE]

If people dont get consequences they arent going to learn. Few can learn from mere past experiences without action, most cant.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Im not sure it depends on what you are looking for within the relationship. It sounds more to me like a friendship than anything. Im not saying you haev to haev sex in order for it to be a boyfriend/girlfriend thing, but it doesnt seem like the two of you are necessarily progressing as "unified bond" I guess you could say.

Within your relationship, if you want something casual and not serious, then I think this is the place for you. If you want something more intimate and structured then I think you need to jump ship man.[/QUOTE]

Thanks to Nicole for handling the problems here today. You rock baby; I've been busy cleaning house.

"unified bond" is the best phrase I've heard all year. :)

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Thanks to Nicole for handling the problems here today. You rock baby; I've been busy cleaning house.

"unified bond" is the best phrase I've heard all year. :)[/QUOTE]

Well I thought it was about time I headed in here to see if I could help some of my e-buds out.

I was trying to think of a phrase that wouldnt sound too cliche or teeny-bopper like. Im glad I was successful, thanks love :)

My gf keeps trying to get me to say that I love her and I dont wana say it unless i rally mean it, so Im getting scared that shes gonna say it and i wont know what to say back. Any advice anyone?

[QUOTE=funluvinhobo]My gf keeps trying to get me to say that I love her and I dont wana say it unless i rally mean it, so Im getting scared that shes gonna say it and i wont know what to say back. Any advice anyone?[/QUOTE]

I think you know what the answer is going to be, my friend. Explain that you dont want to say it yet until you feel more comfortable, certain, whatever.

If you are too shy or hesitant to explain your own feelings to someone, you shouldnt be saying it anyway.

If you explain it to her and she understands it could mean growth within your relationship. If she doesnt, it could be the starting signs of a sinking boat.

Its good that you dont say it just because you feel you have to. Congrats.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]I think you know what the answer is going to be, my friend. Explain that you dont want to say it yet until you feel more comfortable, certain, whatever.

If you are too shy or hesitant to explain your own feelings to someone, you shouldnt be saying it anyway.

If you explain it to her and she understands it could mean growth within your relationship. If she doesnt, it could be the starting signs of a sinking boat.

Its good that you dont say it just because you feel you have to. Congrats.[/QUOTE]


Well she hasnt actually said tell me you love me, just kinda hinting at it and yeah if she does I will explain it to her, she prolly wont like it but like yaknow if she likes me enough or whtever shell understand.

[QUOTE=funluvinhobo]Well she hasnt actually said tell me you love me, just kinda hinting at it and yeah if she does I will explain it to her, she prolly wont like it but like yaknow if she likes me enough or whtever shell understand.[/QUOTE]

Exactly. To be honest I admire you for being one of the few people left who actually think about saying it beforehand. I mean, its very rare that you are going to be with someone for a few weeks and be in love with them.

People say it without thinking and it means nothing, which is a shame to be honest.

I really, truely feel with all my heart that I love my boyfriend more than anything. If everyone in the world could feel how I feel, I dont think there would be one sad person around ever. /sap

[QUOTE=funluvinhobo]My gf keeps trying to get me to say that I love her and I dont wana say it unless i rally mean it, so Im getting scared that shes gonna say it and i wont know what to say back. Any advice anyone?[/QUOTE]

If you don't want to say it back; if she says it first, simply smile and say "thank you."

Exactly. To be honest I admire you for being one of the few people left who actually think about saying it beforehand. I mean, its very rare that you are going to be with someone for a few weeks and be in love with them.
[quote=purplefeet]
People say it without thinking and it means nothing, which is a shame to be honest.

I really, truely feel with all my heart that I love my boyfriend more than anything. If everyone in the world could feel how I feel, I dont think there would be one sad person around ever. /sap[/quote]

Yeah I think its too big a feeling to just be thrown around. Im 17 and Ive been with her for 3 months its goin good and all but I just dont think the word love should come into it just yet.

[quote=Chaindrive]If you don't want to say it back; if she says it first, simply smile and say "thank you."[/quote]

But I can just picture a really dissapointed look on her face or something and I dont want that :/

[QUOTE=funluvinhobo]Exactly. To be honest I admire you for being one of the few people left who actually think about saying it beforehand. I mean, its very rare that you are going to be with someone for a few weeks and be in love with them.


Yeah I think its too big a feeling to just be thrown around. Im 17 and Ive been with her for 3 months its goin good and all but I just dont think the word love should come into it just yet.



But I can just picture a really dissapointed look on her face or something and I dont want that :/[/QUOTE]

You cant lie to her though.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]You cant lie to her though.[/QUOTE]

123.

And, saying thank you is a perfectly gracious gesture. It shows you appreciate her feelings.

Also, it's a good way to make her stop and think.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]You cant lie to her though.[/QUOTE]

yeah so ill prolly just say what i really feel. shes on the phone to me now. i wonder what shed think if she knew i was discussing our relationship on an internet forum?