sorry, i havent been around for a few years, im kinda out of date. i shouldnt go making comments like that. >_>

anyway, read what i said.

[QUOTE=madhatter70]and of course im not 100% sure i could pull her, but i dont think it would be difficult, considering her willingness to get both myself and herself mightily drunk.[/QUOTE]

im hardly taking advantage if im wasted out of my mind too. :chug:

either way, i definately didnt think enough about that post.

[QUOTE=madhatter70]thats the thing, this is the first time ive felt someone actually deserves being hurt. i sure didnt feel great about myself when i saw her being groped by some guy i order my drinks off in my lunchbreaks.[/QUOTE]
Well then, you're just being an a[SIZE="2"]s[/SIZE]s. Don't bother with her.

alright, cheers for the honesty. :thumb:

We had an assembly at school today... and like two periods beforehand Katie told me to wait for her outside of the gym because she wanted to talk about something important... anyhow I waited for her outside the gym, and missed a chance to sit by some good friends, and ended up talking to this kid who's in my history class... anyway she came up to me and expected me to break off the conversation right that second, and when I didn't she got kinda annoyed and didn't talk to me at all, and then proceded to ask an aide if she could go to the library during the assembly and left. I don't understand what the big deal over one damn sentence was, and I really want to know what she wanted to talk to me about, but I don't want to aggravate her anymore than I obvioulsy have...

bleh

[QUOTE=Eleventeen]We had an assembly at school today... and like two periods beforehand Katie told me to wait for her outside of the gym because she wanted to talk about something important... anyhow I waited for her outside the gym, and missed a chance to sit by some good friends, and ended up talking to this kid who's in my history class... anyway she came up to me and expected me to break off the conversation right that second, and when I didn't she got kinda annoyed and didn't talk to me at all, and then proceded to ask an aide if she could go to the library during the assembly and left. I don't understand what the big deal over one damn sentence was, and I really want to know what she wanted to talk to me about, but I don't want to aggravate her anymore than I obvioulsy have...

bleh[/QUOTE]

Dude tahat basically sux. Ive been in the same boat before. Sacrifice my time and some dang good times to wait for someone. At least she showed up and didnt completely blow you off... been there... Give her a day and then talk to her. She cant be too pissed off at you. She'll come around.

Meh, I guess.

She WANTED YOUR UNDIVIDED ATTENTION.

And just think of how you'll be tied to that response should a relationship progress.

Too bad for her; she needs to get a grip on reality.

I wanna see if there's anything I can do to help my friend.

Wynston, who I consider my best friend, is having her best friend Emily move away to California this summer. And I lvoe Emily too, she's one of my closest friends. But once she moves, I'm scared for how Wynston is gonna react. I don't know how she'll be able to handle it. She's already been feeling kinda crappy with her relationships lately, and having her best friend move away is jsut going to make matters extremely worse.

Is there anything special I can do to comfort Wynston, once Emily moves? I'm willing to do all I can to try and help her get through this. Once Emily is gone, I'm basically the next clsoest friend to Wynston, so I figured I should try and take action with this. As I consider her my best friend(who I care about more than anyone in this world), seeing her get depressed is going to make me feel the same as well.

Soooo, anything I can do guys?

Nothing. People move away. It's life.

Sorry to sound harsh here, but Wynston needs to experience what happens in life. It's part of the learning process, unfortunately.

Buy her a box of tissues and give her my number.

[QUOTE=Dude3]I wanna see if there's anything I can do to help my friend.

Wynston, who I consider my best friend, is having her best friend Emily move away to California this summer. And I lvoe Emily too, she's one of my closest friends. But once she moves, I'm scared for how Wynston is gonna react. I don't know how she'll be able to handle it. She's already been feeling kinda crappy with her relationships lately, and having her best friend move away is jsut going to make matters extremely worse.

Is there anything special I can do to comfort Wynston, once Emily moves? I'm willing to do all I can to try and help her get through this. Once Emily is gone, I'm basically the next clsoest friend to Wynston, so I figured I should try and take action with this. As I consider her my best friend(who I care about more than anyone in this world), seeing her get depressed is going to make me feel the same as well.

Soooo, anything I can do guys?[/QUOTE]

My best friend moved away. We still talk all the time.

I dont know, call me a heartless bastard but I dont feel for your friend. She needs to learn how to cope with change and the fact that her friends arent always going to be around. Like ****, I bet in a year or two, you and her wont even talk. Thats just how the cookie crumbles.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]She WANTED YOUR UNDIVIDED ATTENTION.

And just think of how you'll be tied to that response should a relationship progress.

Too bad for her; [B]she needs to get a grip on reality[/B].[/QUOTE]

sadly, that's true :-/.

[QUOTE=Eleventeen]sadly, that's true :-/.[/QUOTE]

So can you explain to her that her behavior is unacceptable?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]So can you explain to her that her behavior is unacceptable?[/QUOTE]

Do you or Tiggy use MSN babe?

[QUOTE=purplefeet]My best friend moved away. We still talk all the time.

I dont know, call me a heartless bastard but I dont feel for your friend. She needs to learn how to cope with change and the fact that her friends arent always going to be around. Like ****, I bet in a year or two, you and her wont even talk. Thats just how the cookie crumbles.[/QUOTE]
Yah, I guess I agree with yah halfway. She's gonna have to learn to cope with it. And I guess I'll jsut be the best of a friend I can be. But I'm sure her and Emily will still talk all the time. I will say this. I know they will always stay close. And if there's one person I'll always stay close to in my life, it's Wynston. I'm sure a lot of you will disagree, but this is the only person I know I'll be friends with for life.

And yahh, that's it.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]So can you explain to her that her behavior is unacceptable?[/QUOTE]

I probably should, but I don't want her to think I'm attacking her... she's... how do you say, 'overly sensitive.'

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Do you or Tiggy use MSN babe?[/QUOTE]

Tiggy doesn't, hun, but I do. MSN=mooo@ctaz.com for me.

Eleventeen: If she's not gonna get it on her own (which she might actually already realize how she acting) someone needs to inform her. Attacking notwithstanding.

That's true... that's how the Aderall thing stopped.

Are you sure you got it stopped? Or is it now just hidden?

Yeah, whilest she was on it she turned into a completely different person, which was quite distressing, now she's back to her normal self (if a bit depressed and tired).

[QUOTE=purplefeet]My best friend moved away. We still talk all the time.

I dont know, call me a heartless bastard but I dont feel for your friend. She needs to learn how to cope with change and the fact that her friends arent always going to be around. Like ****, I bet in a year or two, you and her wont even talk. Thats just how the cookie crumbles.[/QUOTE]

something i know im gonna have to deal with in the next year... :/

this is pieced together from another message board and myspace messages, so if it seems to jump around or something, well... sorry, I guess. yeah it's kinda long.

some background... I used to be this big old wussy, not-very-cool kind of guy, and had a huge crush on this girl that I worked with(and still do), and you can extrapolate how that turned out. That was probably a year ago. I've never done anything with a girl more than holding hands (say what you want, I'm fine with myself and sure that that will change eventually), and she knows this.

Recently I've been working on becoming more confident, cooler, wittier/funnier, through the use of audiobooks and ebooks and stuff, and I've been reading a lot of "pick-up artist" style seduction stuff, ala Ross Jeffries and David DeAngelo.

When I work with this girl, I make her laugh several times a day, and stuff like that... other little things, and I've been kind of getting a sense that she's feeling some attraction towards me.

Today we were in the (lifeguard) office, down from the chair, and I had a book out for the purpose of trying to study, which I never get done there anyway. So I say something that was apparently really funny, and she proceeds to spray the water she's drinking all over me and my book, and I go (paraphrased) woah come on, I don't need that all over me! And you screwed up my book, you darned person.

She says something like, "But I'm clean! Don't you trust that I'm a clean person... something something... would you kiss me?" which caught me completely off guard, and I said "would you?" (here's where I do a mental double take..... what..?)

I say "eh, would you?" (hilariously dumb thing to say, funny how I can never be clever at the times I'd most like to... dodging the question, and she repeats it and I dodge again)

And then I had to go up in the chair and her shift was over so she left. That's basically it... any perspectives?

Is that a normal thing for a girl to do? Keep in mind there were a couple other people in the guard office...

some previous things...

I'm a pretty well in shape dude. Let's put it this way, some people at work call me The Hulk. And she's commented that yes, I do indeed have an attractive body.

A few weeks ago my dad went to swim when she was working and they talked, and for a while she was joking about how my dad wanted us to marry and such, and one day she wrote "ben is my future husband" on my notebook... she eventually said that my dad didn't actually say that.

Same thing happened again a week or two ago and for a while she's been saying that my dad's hot and joking about her being my future mother.

a little while ago she asked me to rub her neck, because it was sore, but she said something like, don't take this the wrong way.

And, often she asks me if I think she's cute.

It seems really obvious when I write it down, but I can never tell if she's just joking or there actually is a level of meaning to it. And it feels like you'd have to actually know her to get the full picture. And then there's always the possibility that she just wants the attention, which is a very realistic thing; she's admitted many times that sometimes she only flirts with guys for the attention. So, it could be that I'm not giving her the level/kind of attention that she's used to, and she's trying to get it.

And yeah, I was a nerd... not really, actually more of a socially handicapped person. Homeschool and then all guys high school did wonders (lack thereof) for my skillz with the chix.

So basically, I'm pretty confused.

I just talked to my ex on the phone for the first time in two months. I miss her so badly.

Be yourself maybe?

Seriously, don't waste any money on stuff like that... if you were homeschooled, go out into the world and learn from experiences, no book/tape will teach you how to socialize, it just doesn't work. (not to say some of the advice might be good)

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Do you or Tiggy use MSN babe?[/QUOTE]


Get AIM, we'd have amazing conversations.

Ok, if an ex tells you she misses you, but is now with another guy, does that mean she wants you back or what? I'm not sure how I should be taking this.

Just found out that my ex gf has got cancer. I don't know a lot of details, because I'm going by the idea that she'll tell me when she wants to do.

But, damn, I'm worried. Can't sleep, it's now 4:50am and I don't know what to do tbh. I've said if she wants anything, I'll do it .etc I don't really know what else to do.

[QUOTE=Eleventeen]Be yourself maybe?

Seriously, don't waste any money on stuff like that... if you were homeschooled, go out into the world and learn from experiences, no book/tape will teach you how to socialize, it just doesn't work. (not to say some of the advice might be good)[/QUOTE]

I don't waste money on it, I find it for free. :thumb:

I have and have had enough experience that I'm pretty decent at socializing, I just need to work on maintaining a conversation. And I am "being myself"; the way I look at it, what these materials do is help me truly be myself, by bringing out my full potential. Basically. And they definitely have helped me.

[QUOTE=ashman]Just found out that my ex gf has got cancer. I don't know a lot of details, because I'm going by the idea that she'll tell me when she wants to do.

But, damn, I'm worried. Can't sleep, it's now 4:50am and I don't know what to do tbh. I've said if she wants anything, I'll do it .etc I don't really know what else to do.[/QUOTE]

My friend's gf just got raped in Delaware.

Mine got hit by a bus!

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]Ok, if an ex tells you she misses you, but is now with another guy, does that mean she wants you back or what? I'm not sure how I should be taking this.[/QUOTE]
It could mean that she misses being with you, or it could simply mean she misses talking to you.

Don't think too much of it.

[QUOTE=liebherk]I don't waste money on it, I find it for free. :thumb:

I have and have had enough experience that I'm pretty decent at socializing, I just need to work on maintaining a conversation. And I am "being myself"; the way I look at it, what these materials do is help me truly be myself, by bringing out my full potential. Basically. And they definitely have helped me.[/QUOTE]

It sounds like she really likes you, though as you said..and i'm well aware, these things sound alot better when written out and can be hard to figure out. I think, if you are still interested in her, that next time she acts like this, flirty and like you've explained. You should go along with it, flirt back a little, see where it goes, and if/when you feel that it's worth a shot and a good time, ask her out or to hang out sometime after work or something. Good luck :thumb:

[QUOTE=ashman]Just found out that my ex gf has got cancer. I don't know a lot of details, because I'm going by the idea that she'll tell me when she wants to do.

But, damn, I'm worried. Can't sleep, it's now 4:50am and I don't know what to do tbh. I've said if she wants anything, I'll do it .etc I don't really know what else to do.[/QUOTE]

Damn man, that's really sad to hear. Sadly there's not much more you can do but be there for her when she needs you, it's good that you're not letting the "ex" title hold you back from being anything but a caring friend. It sounds like you're doing the right thing and even though it may not feel like enough, it's all you can really do. I hope she pulls through and that you cope alright, good luck man. :)

So... (im a freshman). This girl IMs, me, and shes a friend of a friend. I never met her, but myspace unites the world, amirite?(:lol:), so yeah, we talk for like 20 min. one day. then a week later we talk again, and all the sudden. everything i say is funny, even things i say, then cringe, becuase they're so unfunny. Then she starts the typical girl- "blah blah, im ugly, say im pretty" thing, and them im on her myspace top 8? diagnosis?

disclamer- I am not a typical myspacer, i use it socially, and in no way take it seriously, but its not like i just put random people in my top 8 for the hell of it. you get the point, right?

[QUOTE=The Fonz]So... (im a freshman). This girl IMs, me, and shes a friend of a friend. I never met her, but myspace unites the world, amirite?(:lol:), so yeah, we talk for like 20 min. one day. then a week later we talk again, and all the sudden. everything i say is funny, even things i say, then cringe, becuase they're so unfunny. Then she starts the typical girl- "blah blah, im ugly, say im pretty" thing, and them im on her myspace top 8? diagnosis?

disclamer- I am not a typical myspacer, i use it socially, and in no way take it seriously, [B]but its not like i just put random people in my top 8 for the hell of it.[/B] you get the point, right?[/QUOTE]

LOL. Just assume she likes talking to you and being friends with you man.

Sounds like she's crushing on you.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Sounds like she's crushing on you.[/QUOTE]
:(

[QUOTE=purplefeet]LOL. Just assume she likes talking to you and being friends with you man.[/QUOTE]

I hope so. i mean. she seems cool. but other than my friend knowing her and stupid [I]myspace[/I]. I don't even know her. eh, shes a good conversation, and thats all that matters. I'll eventually hang out with her one day. yeah....rable rable rable rable....

/remisnesces of south park.

okay, im done now.

I cringe when people take mySpace seriously, haha.

On a serious note, however: look at this at an opportunity to secure a new friendship, and leave it at that. I don't think a person can limit him or herself to however many friends he/she can have in his/her life. Just because someone talked to you on mySpace doesn't mean that it's going to be more than a platonic thing, heh.

Hi, Jommy.

[QUOTE=Jom][B]I cringe when people take mySpace seriously, haha.[/B]

On a serious note, however: look at this at an opportunity to secure a new friendship, and leave it at that. I don't think a person can limit him or herself to however many friends he/she can have in his/her life. Just because someone talked to you on mySpace doesn't mean that it's going to be more than a platonic thing, heh.[/QUOTE]


haha, yeahhh.


But i know, i was just checking in here, see what you guys thought, she seems cool to be friends with and what ever happens, happens.


On a psuedo-serious note- ... are you back.. or is there another jom im not aware of. Oh god im confused.

I really didn't leave! I always say that nobody leaves MX for good, and people should know by now that I'm always right :p

I can't really explain it in a lot of detail because if I told the complete story it would be bad press, but I did a pretty safe summary in the Sputnikmusic community thread.

Kimmie would know all about being duped by me, haha. This was just on a much larger scale because only a couple staff members and a couple regular users were 'in' on this dupe and my reasons for doing it.

This was probably a mistake because a lot of them are in denial about it (which means that I did a pretty solid job on this, bwahaha), but when more good things have happened than bad (the only 'bad' thing is that some people resent me for this dupe now, but that's okay with me because people will forget about it), I am extremely proud of me being able to pull it off.

And that's pretty much the only horn-tooting you'll get from me about anything, unless I get accepted into law school or some other prestigious accolade-ridden thing.

Quite silly on the surface since this was an Internet-related thing, but a lot of good came from it, and I give a ton of credit to the people who assisted me with the dupe.

At any rate, I trust you're all doing well.