[QUOTE=Atticus!]Actually yeah. Good idea.

[size="1"]ps: Is it bad doing that or something?[/size][/QUOTE]

[size=1]If it's not too awful long no one will get annoyed at it, but if you have like lines and lines and lines, someone will bitch.[/size]

[quote=Gore Obsessed] I have a problem with my love life, if you may.

Theres a chick I really like, but I am very good friends with. I want to ask her to prom, but I don't want this to effect our friendship.

WHAT SHALL I DO?[/quote]

"Old chain chick?"

"Chaindrive is an old lady."

And now you want advice?

Hah! I say to you hah!

[QUOTE=Gore Obsessed]I have a problem with my love life, if you may.

Theres a chick I really like, but I am very good friends with. I want to ask her to prom, but I don't want this to effect our friendship.

WHAT SHALL I DO?[/QUOTE]

Asking her to the prom might not affect your friendship. A lot of people go as friends. Not a lot of people have boy/girlfriends in high school. I'd say try and ask her casually but don't make it sound as if your going to her as a last resort or anything like that. It's not like asking her to marry you it's just a fun night out. Look at it that way.

All right, so I never would have guessed this would happen in a million years, but it's happening, and I have to admit, I'm really starting to like it. But first, let's go back about 2 or 3 years ago.

So about 3 years ago, my sister was and still is best friends with this girl named Abby. Now Abby has a sister named Briar, that's 2 years older than us. Me, my sister and abby. Sooo back then, 3 years ago, she was a total b*tch. Like seriously. I was fat back then, and I was an easy target. I was always mean to her back, too though. And we sort of had this undying hatred towards eachother. I mean, I always thought she was all right looking, but she was a major slut, she did a lot of drugs (weed, coke, etc.), and she was always mean to me. So that pretty much turned me all off.

So just this year, she went to college and I don't really remember the last time I saw her. It was a while though. Then that was the time I started to lose weight. She went to a college about 40 minutes from where we live.

So just a few weeks ago, she came home and I saw her with Abby. The look on her face was astonished to say the least. Her mouth was wide open and she couldn't even speak. Later, she told me she was surprised by how much I changed. And at the same time, she had changed too. I mean, she looked the same, but she seemed like such a nicer person. Someone I actually would like. And she wasn't on anymore drugs. Then one day she came over to talk with my sister, because they were pretty good friends too and she was talking with me. She kept telling my sister about how she wwanted to hang out with me and stuff.

Then one day she IM's me and we start having a serious conversation and I guess I made her cry when I called her a b*tch and stuff. Which totall caught me off guard because she's the kind of girl, back then, that acted all tough on the outside and acted like no one could get in her. But I guess I was wrong. And then she said how she just wished she could find someone half as cute and as sweet as me. And then quickly left. And after she said that, I just had this unusual strong attraction for her. I don't know why or how, but at that moment. I just felt soooo strongly attracted to her. I don't even know. It's crazy.

So then one day she comes over because I asked her to and we sat on my couch and started flirting and stuff. We both liked it. Then I started spending more time with her and started going over to her house. Then I kissed her and we started making out the third day we hung out. That was pretty much the first time I kissed a girl because the only other time I did was when I was wicked drunk at a party and this girl came up to me and made out with me. I didn't really know what was going on. So anyways. She said I was a good kisser for never doing it before. She said she wouldn't have noticed. Oh yeah and she's got a tongue ring.:naughty:

So anyways. Now I think I'm getting really strong feelings for her. And I'm really starting to like her, but I don't know. She's told me she has done coke A LOT. She said she did it so much the first month, she lost 10lbs. That scares me. I don't want her doing it again, if we ever get together. She says she doesn't want to do it anymore though, but she has a bag of coke with her in her car, just in case. I mean if she doesn't want to do it anymore than she wouldnt need a bag of coke with her. And also, all the times she has had sex. She's done it a lot and she says she has no STD's. But I don't know. And then there's another incident. With my brother. One night, she stayed over with abby and back then, she thought my brother was hott so he snuck in the room she was sleeping in and they did stuff.

Sooo I don't know what to do about this situation.

[QUOTE=Jom]I've been on for awhile, actually. I would have replied to a few of the things in this thread from earlier, but I would have burnt myself out from deja vu.[/QUOTE]
It's always like that here though, the same questions asked repeatedly day after day. The most common being the whole "I like my friend but don't want to ruin our friendship".

[QUOTE=allalone]All right, so I never would have guessed this would happen in a million years, but it's happening, and I have to admit, I'm really starting to like it. But first, let's go back about 2 or 3 years ago.

So about 3 years ago, my sister was and still is best friends with this girl named Abby. Now Abby has a sister named Briar, that's 2 years older than us. Me, my sister and abby. Sooo back then, 3 years ago, she was a total b*tch. Like seriously. I was fat back then, and I was an easy target. I was always mean to her back, too though. And we sort of had this undying hatred towards eachother. I mean, I always thought she was all right looking, but she was a major slut, she did a lot of drugs (weed, coke, etc.), and she was always mean to me. So that pretty much turned me all off.

So just this year, she went to college and I don't really remember the last time I saw her. It was a while though. Then that was the time I started to lose weight. She went to a college about 40 minutes from where we live.

So just a few weeks ago, she came home and I saw her with Abby. The look on her face was astonished to say the least. Her mouth was wide open and she couldn't even speak. Later, she told me she was surprised by how much I changed. And at the same time, she had changed too. I mean, she looked the same, but she seemed like such a nicer person. Someone I actually would like. And she wasn't on anymore drugs. Then one day she came over to talk with my sister, because they were pretty good friends too and she was talking with me. She kept telling my sister about how she wwanted to hang out with me and stuff.

Then one day she IM's me and we start having a serious conversation and I guess I made her cry when I called her a b*tch and stuff. Which totall caught me off guard because she's the kind of girl, back then, that acted all tough on the outside and acted like no one could get in her. But I guess I was wrong. And then she said how she just wished she could find someone half as cute and as sweet as me. And then quickly left. And after she said that, I just had this unusual strong attraction for her. I don't know why or how, but at that moment. I just felt soooo strongly attracted to her. I don't even know. It's crazy.

So then one day she comes over because I asked her to and we sat on my couch and started flirting and stuff. We both liked it. Then I started spending more time with her and started going over to her house. Then I kissed her and we started making out the third day we hung out. That was pretty much the first time I kissed a girl because the only other time I did was when I was wicked drunk at a party and this girl came up to me and made out with me. I didn't really know what was going on. So anyways. She said I was a good kisser for never doing it before. She said she wouldn't have noticed. Oh yeah and she's got a tongue ring.:naughty:

So anyways. Now I think I'm getting really strong feelings for her. And I'm really starting to like her, but I don't know. She's told me she has done coke A LOT. She said she did it so much the first month, she lost 10lbs. That scares me. I don't want her doing it again, if we ever get together. She says she doesn't want to do it anymore though, but she has a bag of coke with her in her car, just in case. I mean if she doesn't want to do it anymore than she wouldnt need a bag of coke with her. And also, all the times she has had sex. She's done it a lot and she says she has no STD's. But I don't know. And then there's another incident. With my brother. One night, she stayed over with abby and back then, she thought my brother was hott so he snuck in the room she was sleeping in and they did stuff.

Sooo I don't know what to do about this situation.[/QUOTE]

You can probably get by the "being with your brother" part, and she can be checked for STDs.

But the coke? No way.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]You can probably get by the "being with your brother" part, and she can be checked for STDs.

But the coke? No way.[/QUOTE]
Then what should I do? I really don't know. She says she doesn't do it anymore.

Make her ditch it.

Coke is lame.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive][size=1]If it's not too awful long no one will get annoyed at it, but if you have like lines and lines and lines, someone will bitch.[/size]



"Old chain chick?"

"Chaindrive is an old lady."

And now you want advice?

Hah! I say to you hah![/QUOTE]

I apologized in the other thread :(

She has a bag of coke with her in her car.

What? Does she plan on dealing it? Or snorting it?

Okay, fine, she's not doing it anymore. But she's HOLDING. And if she gets caught with it she'll probably go to jail. And, if you happen to be with her, well, guess where you're going?

Coke is abitch to get off of, if you start doing it heavily. Just from people I know and have seen doing it at parties. It can really **** up relationships and you need to decide whether or not your feelings for her are strong enough to chance a huge relationship meltdown that could really hurt you just as much or even more than her. Maybe find an activity besides sex you guys can share to kind of move on from the past. I don't even feel qualified enough to give an opinion on a situation dealing with std's or cocaine. Just be careful, just because you have feelings for her doesn't mean that you can't look after yourself too.

[QUOTE=Gore Obsessed]I apologized in the other thread :([/QUOTE]

I just now saw that. Thank you. :p

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]She has a bag of coke with her in her car.

What? Does she plan on dealing it? Or snorting it?

Okay, fine, she's not doing it anymore. But she's HOLDING. And if she gets caught with it she'll probably go to jail. And, if you happen to be with her, well, guess where you're going?[/QUOTE]
Well here's the messed up part about it. She says she has it "just in case she wants to use it" If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't need it. I don't get her. And she doesn't have it in her car anymore, I don't think, because her mom found it. In fact that's how I found it. She was talking to her friends and I was there and said her mom found the bag of coke.

I have no right to tell her what she can and can't do, but I know I don't want her to do something that's harmful to herself like that. And I don't want my feelings to get stronger and stronger to the point where I look past it. I know that if we ever get together I'm going to make her get rid of that bag and make sure she never does it or I'm done. I'm just looking out for the best interests for her.

[QUOTE=oogaboogabooga]blag the dancing... seriously, just pretend you can dance and do it...
i don't think i can dance for sh[size=2]it[/size]... but then this girl dragged me onto a podium with her, where we could be seen by like everyone... and i blagged the dancing, and let me tell you, so long as ur not scared, you are the best dancer there...[/QUOTE]

What's funny is that all these emo guys that go to this place are skinny as hell man. They look underfed and like they are all in grade 10. I'm gonna look pretty out of place cause i have a pretty large stature. I think I'll go and get plastered and try this emo dance stuff and then beat the snot out of the guys that laugh at me. Cause they act like a bunch of pricks. I saw them outside, after our show and they ****in abusing the chicks that were out there. ****in got me pissed off. This girl seems really cool though. She doesn't do the eyeshadow goth/punk type getup. I'd like to see where this can go.

[QUOTE=allalone]Well here's the messed up part about it. She says she has it "just in case she wants to use it" If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't need it. I don't get her. And she doesn't have it in her car anymore, I don't think, because her mom found it. In fact that's how I found it. She was talking to her friends and I was there and said her mom found the bag of coke.

I have no right to tell her what she can and can't do, but I know I don't want her to do something that's harmful to herself like that. And I don't want my feelings to get stronger and stronger to the point where I look past it. I know that if we ever get together I'm going to make her get rid of that bag and make sure she never does it or I'm done. I'm just looking out for the best interests for her.[/QUOTE]

If you feel for her then you have every right to tell her what she can and can't do and she has every right to do whatever she wants until the cops find out(if it is illegal). If she had a bag of coke in her trunk, and she used to be hooked on coke. Chances are she's still on coke. And I don't know anything past this point as far as dealing with relationship's. i dunno if anyone here has the experience to tell you what is best for you and her. So I'm not going to cause I'm out of my league, and i don't want to you know bite off more than I can chew here. Cause I don't want to give advice that's gonna screw peoples lives up. Prom night, not so much of a big deal. Cocaine, ok, it starts getting really serious. This is a huge decision for you. Just take your time.

[QUOTE=allalone]Well here's the messed up part about it. She says she has it "just in case she wants to use it" If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't need it. I don't get her. And she doesn't have it in her car anymore, I don't think, because her mom found it. In fact that's how I found it. She was talking to her friends and I was there and said her mom found the bag of coke.

I have no right to tell her what she can and can't do, but I know I don't want her to do something that's harmful to herself like that. And I don't want my feelings to get stronger and stronger to the point where I look past it. I know that if we ever get together I'm going to make her get rid of that bag and make sure she never does it or I'm done. I'm just looking out for the best interests for her.[/QUOTE]

Don't ever look past it.

And, believe it or not, you don't have to be around drugs if you don't want to. I've spent all the years of my life not being around drugs like that because I DON'T WANT TO. Doesn't mean you're not "with it" or "cool". It just means you chose not to.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Don't ever look past it.

And, believe it or not, you don't have to be around drugs if you don't want to. I've spent all the years of my life not being around drugs like that because I DON'T WANT TO. Doesn't mean you're not "with it" or "cool". It just means you chose not to.[/QUOTE]
I know I don't have to do drugs. I have no desire to do drugs. I just don't know what to do. I mean, I believed her when she said she didn't want to do it anymore, but then after finding out she still had a bag of it "just in case" has this feeling in the back of my mind that one day she might do it again. And if we do ever get together. I don't wanna have that feeling in the back of my mind.

[QUOTE=allalone]Well here's the messed up part about it. She says she has it "just in case she wants to use it" If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't need it. I don't get her. And she doesn't have it in her car anymore, I don't think, because her mom found it. In fact that's how I found it. She was talking to her friends and I was there and said her mom found the bag of coke.

I have no right to tell her what she can and can't do, but I know I don't want her to do something that's harmful to herself like that. And I don't want my feelings to get stronger and stronger to the point where I look past it. I know that if we ever get together I'm going to make her get rid of that bag and make sure she never does it or I'm done. I'm just looking out for the best interests for her.[/QUOTE]

You need to be ready to say "Next!" She's an adult now. Meaning she has to make the decision to grow up and accept responsibility for her actions. She needs to learn there is a difference between instant and delayed gratification. Blow is instant. A healthy relationship is delayed and long-term. She has reached a point in her life in which she needs to make the decision which is more important to her.

Shaking off a chemical addiction is nightmarish. But if she can't find support from friends, then she needs some new friends. Keeping a bag of coke around "just in case" is nothing but temptation, and it's the chemicals talking. If she's not prepared to accept all this, move on with your life. You can't change other people. Only yourself.

That said, I have a mini-rant to get off my chest.

I'm so sick to death of the situation I'm in. I've put my foot down on my standards, and refuse to compromise them, but chance seems to have placed me smack in the middle of the worst locations for it.

I've said time and again that I refuse to date any girl who smokes because it's so vile. Well up here at the college, and in my hometown, 9 out of 10 people smoke. Of those 9, about 3-4 go through nearly a pack a day, if not more.

On top of that, I have no transportation outside of my friends, which ties into my financial problems which are combined leading to a lot of stress.

I signed up for the LavaLife dating site, figuring there's nothing to lose. They charge you for credits instead of insane monthly fees, so you only pay for as much mileage as you get out of the site. Trouble is, most of the women I'd be interested in live in other states, if not other countries. It's also very creepy that I've gotten several "smilies" from women whom I'm not attracted to in the least. I've been tempted to yell at my monitor a couple of times "What part of 'No smoking, this is not negotiable,' are these people not understanding?"

A textbook case of my theory that there are those we attract, and those we are attracted to. I'm sure it's not helping matters that the administrators of the site refuse to put up the picture I sent in for my profile.

Anyway, I just needed to get that out of my system. I feel better now.

Ahh... this is making my head hurt. I'm going to go to bed... Night guys.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]That said, I have a mini-rant to get off my chest.

I'm so sick to death of the situation I'm in. I've put my foot down on my standards, and refuse to compromise them, but chance seems to have placed me smack in the middle of the worst locations for it.

I've said time and again that I refuse to date any girl who smokes because it's so vile. Well up here at the college, and in my hometown, 9 out of 10 people smoke. Of those 9, about 3-4 go through nearly a pack a day, if not more.

On top of that, I have no transportation outside of my friends, which ties into my financial problems which are combined leading to a lot of stress.

I signed up for the LavaLife dating site, figuring there's nothing to lose. They charge you for credits instead of insane monthly fees, so you only pay for as much mileage as you get out of the site. Trouble is, most of the women I'd be interested in live in other states, if not other countries. It's also very creepy that I've gotten several "smilies" from women whom I'm not attracted to in the least. I've been tempted to yell at my monitor a couple of times "What part of 'No smoking, this is not negotiable,' are these people not understanding?"

A textbook case of my theory that there are those we attract, and those we are attracted to. I'm sure it's not helping matters that the administrators of the site refuse to put up the picture I sent in for my profile.

Anyway, I just needed to get that out of my system. I feel better now.[/QUOTE]

Well, read this response if you want. Or not, if you don't think you need it.

I get hits all the time on Yahoo from OLD MEN. Which really isn't a problem because I'm older too, but the problem is if my profile says 30-45 age range, don't contact me if you're 57. And don't contact me if you HATE SMOKING. Because I'm a smoker.

What is it about these people that can't read?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Well, read this response if you want. Or not, if you don't think you need it.

I get hits all the time on Yahoo from OLD MEN. Which really isn't a problem because I'm older too, but the problem is if my profile says 30-45 age range, don't contact me if you're 57. And don't contact me if you HATE SMOKING. Because I'm a smoker.

What is it about these people that can't read?[/QUOTE]

Maybe they are smoking something else?

[QUOTE=erock]Maybe they are smoking something else?[/QUOTE]

I have no idea. They CLAIM to hate smoking/drinking, then contact someone who does both.

???

I missed all the good convos earlier. Poo...

So i kinda feel like crap right now... I miss my gf and we need to see eachother but cant and yea. I can kinda feel it falling apart and we need to talk. Just thought i'd say that.

Other than that, life goes well. Evening pals.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive][size=1].[/size]



"Old chain chick?"

"Chaindrive is an old lady."

And now you want advice?

Hah! I say to you hah![/QUOTE]
:lol: @ this.

This is why I love MX so much (especially Kimmie:p), because no matter what mood I'm in, it can always manage to put a smile on my face.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Good for you for thinking that she could be trying to use you. There's always that possibility. Let her make the next contact with you.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=EizingerIsGOD]She knows where you stand. So it's up to her at this point to make the effort. Keep an eye out if you think she's still trying to use you, and good luck. [/QUOTE]

Cheers guys but is there anyway to get rid of this gut churning feeling atm? I mean she said some really nice stuff like i mean alot to her and she really likes me and stuff (which is quite odd tbh). Just is she was trying to use men i think its probably the most evil thing anyone has done to me. I Still havent heard jack either. :confused:

Would it be a bad idea or anything to take my best friend's virginity, when she already has a crush on me? :/

I think I asked this before, but she talked to me on the phone about it last night. I normally don't believe that sort of thing, but we both want to, despite my lack of romantic feelings for her.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Would it be a bad idea or anything to take my best friend's virginity, when she already has a crush on me? :/

I think I asked this before, but she talked to me on the phone about it last night. I normally don't believe that sort of thing, but we both want to, despite my lack of romantic feelings for her.[/QUOTE]

I wouldn't. Sex is incredibly intimate and can have a very profound impact on those involved. It's not something to be taken lightly.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Would it be a bad idea or anything to take my best friend's virginity, when she already has a crush on me? :/

I think I asked this before, but she talked to me on the phone about it last night. I normally don't believe that sort of thing, but we both want to, despite my lack of romantic feelings for her.[/QUOTE]

Maybe if she didnt have feelings for you it may be different, but she does so I think that about nips it in the bud. I think that because she likes you and all, having sex would just increase that. As well, because you dont have feelings for her in return, I dont think it would be a good idea.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Don't ever look past it.

And, believe it or not, you don't have to be around drugs if you don't want to. I've spent all the years of my life not being around drugs like that because I DON'T WANT TO. Doesn't mean you're not "with it" or "cool". It just means you chose not to.[/QUOTE]
On the topic of drugs.... my mate has been on my back lately saying that I have screwed up morals because I got drunk the other day but refused to delve in drugs at all. Conversation:
Her: So if you were at a party and eveyone was doing weed and someone offered you a spliff, you wouldn't take it?
Me: No, I wouldn't.
Her: Not even one smoke?
Me: No.
Her: So you go and get drunk but don't touch weed? Man your morals are screwed.

So in her eyes, her morals are right because she gets drunk and will do weed, but my morals are screwed cause I get drunk everyone now and again but refuse to touch drugs? Pfft... she gets on my tits sometimes.

Another situation where I've been seen to be 'uncool' because I won't touch weed was when we were talking about an after show party we're gonna be going to soon.
Her: Well you know, if you're at an after show party, obviously you're gonna smoke some weed.
Me: Well I wouldn't.
Her: C'mon, it's just the 'thing' to do, you know. Everyone does it.

I don't think they get it somehow... I don't do drugs. I'm fine with them doing it when they want blah blah blah but it really annoys me when they try and make me out to be weird just because I won't touch it.

So you've never wondered once what it might feel like to be high?
Cmon!!!1! Take a freaking hit gurl.

Btw, how old are your friends?

I applaud you for dismissing the idiocy of your friend. There were times I considered trying marijuana, but at this point in my life I really have better things to do with my time.

The whole "Everyone does it" routine is bullsh[size=2]i[/size]t. My usual response is, "I don't do what everyone does. I do what I do."

Yeah, usually if your friends are kids, they go by the "it's the cool thing to do" crap. Tell them to grow up, and that they are weak and succumb to easily too peer pressure, and that you're strong minded and live your life based on individual decisions.