Just her, or just her friends will just make it hard on you and your friends.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]Meh, I meant she's not the kind of girl who'd have much fun hanging around with most of my friends. She's kind of preppy, and I hang out with a bunch of smelly hooligans. It would be kind of awkward. I'd like to either hang out with just her, or her and her friends, but I'm not sure what we could possibly do. [/QUOTE]

I'd try hanging out with just her.

You could ask her what she wants to do?

I would just have her over, or go out to eat or something. Does it matter if it counts as a date or not? I mean, I would never go out with a girl on the internet. It's easy to lie on the internet.

[QUOTE=telemore]Just her, or just her friends will just make it hard on you and your friends.[/QUOTE]
I don't want her around my friends. There would be way too many rude jokes and, uhh, jealous comments from some of them. She seems like the polar opposite of those kids.

[QUOTE=clairvoyant]I'd try hanging out with just her.

You could ask her what she wants to do?[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I always seem to overlook the obvious answers like that. =\

But asking her to hang out wouldn't seem weird, if it ended up just being me and her?

[QUOTE=Sabian4015]I would just have her over, or go out to eat or something. Does it matter if it counts as a date or not? I mean, I would never go out with a girl on the internet. It's easy to lie on the internet.[/QUOTE]
We have some mutual aquaintances and things. The area I live in is really tight-knit, as in, everyone knows everyone else. I've probably met her before, and don't remember.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I don't want her around my friends. There would be way too many rude jokes and, uhh, jealous comments from some of them. She seems like the polar opposite of those kids.[/QUOTE]
So that when you hit it off with this chick, you've got to constantly decide between your friends and a girl?

Have fun with that bro.

I would just do something in order to talk to eachother and get to know eachother and see if you have chemisty.

ps 500th post!

Yea, ask her if she wants to get something to eat, or get some coffee or something. Take her to a quiet place, that's not too serious and really relaxed and chill, and just talk.

See if you got a connection or not.

Yeah, but that would pretty much just seem like a date, which is what I would like to avoid. If we're around a few other people, it'll be much easier. I'm a little shy when I first meet people, unless there's some other conversation and stuff going on around me.

[QUOTE=telemore]So that when you hit it off with this chick, you've got to constantly decide between your friends and a girl?

Have fun with that bro.[/QUOTE]
Not at all. I don't want to get into all of that, but I won't have to pick between anyone, hopefully. I'll worry about that when and if the time comes. Right now, I've not even met the girl in person, so there's no point in thinking about that.

Yea, true that.

yea so im not one to beleive in what dreams have to say. But i had this one last night that has been eting at me really badly. well it was actully two dreams back to back.

well the first one was i was in school and sitting at a desk. I had a needle in my hand i jammed the needle in to my skin. then i would scoop out the skin and while the finger was bleeding i would start drawing spirals and circles on the desk.

then the secound dream is that im sitting next to this girl that im really in to. and i start hitting on her and she turns me down, and says smething like " ill never go out with you, you pathetic timid..." i woke up when she said that.

Am i just looking to much in to this or is it trying to tell me something.

It's a dream. It doesn't really mean anything.

The girl I like had a dream about her friend waking her up and telling her to marry me.

Don't worry about it. I have goofy dreams all the time. They don't mean anything.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]
Not at all. I don't want to get into all of that, but I won't have to pick between anyone, hopefully. I'll worry about that when and if the time comes. Right now, I've not even met the girl in person, so there's no point in thinking about that.[/QUOTE]

What I suggest is you getting to know her/hanging out and what not. By then if you can't hang around her with your friends, the going could get tough.

I get some weird dreams. There was girl I know, hot, but I wasn't into her, she's too whitewashed, anyhoo, in my dream we were hangin out in my room. I woke up thinking why would I dream about her? Didn't give it a second thought. Dreams are ****ed up.

I also had one where my dad got shot in front of my face. That **** was scary.

[QUOTE=clairvoyant]What I suggest is you getting to know her/hanging out and what not. By then if you can't hang around her with your friends, the going could get tough.[/QUOTE]
Well, I know that. My problem is finding out where to hang out. But, I was talking to her earlier, and she's busy tomorrow, and I'm gong to go on a little trip Saturday. I'll worry about it next weekend.

Sorry about the length.

I keep feeling like I want to be single. Not for the purpose of going out and finding someone new, but just to not have something to worry about for a bit. Have my own time for my band and everything.

I pretty much haven't been single for the past 2 and a half years. All of that time was spent with three different girls, in three long-term relationships. First I go out with a girl for 11 months, break up with her after taking a liking to a new girl. 3 days later, I start a new relationship. This lasts about 14 months, much better than the last, but still lots of problems. July last year she breaks up with me, and for another 3 months or so, we're pretty much still together. As if she wanted to be with me, but didn't want a name for it. So I finally get tired of it, and put it to an end. After I end things with her (technically I didn't break up with her)I immediately start talking to a friend of mine, who I start liking. After about 3 weeks of talking and getting closer, she tells me she's had the biggest crush on me since the beginning of freshman year (a little more than a year before this time). On Halloween I finally ask her out and we've been together since then.

There was a phase during our relationship when we thought we loved each other. I realized we didn't, or at least I didn't. I had learned a few things from the last 2 years. I actually almost broke up with her, because our relationship didn't seem to revolve around much. I didn't though. So we continued our relationship, only without the love part. It went steady for a long time, with its ups and downs, of course. Then I guess she just started getting on my nerves a little. Maybe it wasn't her exactly, but my entire relationship status over the 2 years before. Either way, I started feeling different. I really felt like I wanted to break up with her, but the next moment it went away. Then it comes back and goes away. All I can keep track of in this situation is the fact that I do not have the same devotion for this relationship as my others before.

It's just gotten above my head being in a relationship. Lately I've been thinking about everything I really want to do. I don't know why. Thoughts like that always come up out of nowhere after watching some stupid thing or just seeing something I like. I've come across the point where, at the moment, I want the perfect person for me, or just no one at all for quite some time.

It's too up and down to do anything.

And I tend to think about what side effects would occur if I did break up with her. My best friend's girlfriend is my girlfriend's best friend. My best friend's girlfriend is also one of my best friends. I know I would still be best friends with my best friend, but I can't say anything for the others.

My frustration tends to seep through the way I act sometimes, though. I can't tell her about any of this yet. So that's no good.

I've been bummed about something lately. Not necessarily this, but I don't know what. It's pretty ridiculous.

Sorry about the length and if there's no real question in here. I guess it's more of a vent, because all of my friends are linked together so I wouldn't be able to tell any of them.

And I didn't read over it, so I'm sorry if there's mistakes anywhere.

[QUOTE=minusthebear]Sorry about the length.

I keep feeling like I want to be single. Not for the purpose of going out and finding someone new, but just to not have something to worry about for a bit. Have my own time for my band and everything.

I pretty much haven't been single for the past 2 and a half years. All of that time was spent with three different girls, in three long-term relationships. First I go out with a girl for 11 months, break up with her after taking a liking to a new girl. 3 days later, I start a new relationship. This lasts about 14 months, much better than the last, but still lots of problems. July last year she breaks up with me, and for another 3 months or so, we're pretty much still together. As if she wanted to be with me, but didn't want a name for it. So I finally get tired of it, and put it to an end. After I end things with her (technically I didn't break up with her)I immediately start talking to a friend of mine, who I start liking. After about 3 weeks of talking and getting closer, she tells me she's had the biggest crush on me since the beginning of freshman year (a little more than a year before this time). On Halloween I finally ask her out and we've been together since then.

There was a phase during our relationship when we thought we loved each other. I realized we didn't, or at least I didn't. I had learned a few things from the last 2 years. I actually almost broke up with her, because our relationship didn't seem to revolve around much. I didn't though. So we continued our relationship, only without the love part. It went steady for a long time, with its ups and downs, of course. Then I guess she just started getting on my nerves a little. Maybe it wasn't her exactly, but my entire relationship status over the 2 years before. Either way, I started feeling different. I really felt like I wanted to break up with her, but the next moment it went away. Then it comes back and goes away. All I can keep track of in this situation is the fact that I do not have the same devotion for this relationship as my others before.

It's just gotten above my head being in a relationship. Lately I've been thinking about everything I really want to do. I don't know why. Thoughts like that always come up out of nowhere after watching some stupid thing or just seeing something I like. I've come across the point where, at the moment, I want the perfect person for me, or just no one at all for quite some time.

It's too up and down to do anything.

And I tend to think about what side effects would occur if I did break up with her. My best friend's girlfriend is my girlfriend's best friend. My best friend's girlfriend is also one of my best friends. I know I would still be best friends with my best friend, but I can't say anything for the others.

My frustration tends to seep through the way I act sometimes, though. I can't tell her about any of this yet. So that's no good.

I've been bummed about something lately. Not necessarily this, but I don't know what. It's pretty ridiculous.

Sorry about the length and if there's no real question in here. I guess it's more of a vent, because all of my friends are linked together so I wouldn't be able to tell any of them.

And I didn't read over it, so I'm sorry if there's mistakes anywhere.[/QUOTE]
You shouldn't really worry about what your bestfriend or his girlfriend thinks.

People break up, and both of them undoubtedly realize that, so do what you please. This is your decision to make, and yours only.

If nothing else, just tell her you don't necessarily wanna break up, but you need some time to think things through.

And, since you say that you kinda wanna find the right person for you or nobody at all, maybe you SHOULD just end this relationship and just try dating. No commitments or anything like that, just go on a date with one girl one night, another girl the next, see how you feel about different girls before making one decision.

Just some advice I felt I'd give ya.


And BTW, welcome to MX.

[URL="http://www.sputnikmusic.com/forums/showthread.php?t=467461"]Read my thread.[/URL]

What the hell doe the note mean, and is this odd behavior? I don't know her, and I haven't passed notes since 5th grade. I didn't know peolpe still did that. I don't know how to respond, or if I even should. She seems a little nutso to me.

To tell a girl: You looked nice today. What should you say? That by itself or in that form is ****tily tacky.

[QUOTE=SixnStones]To tell a girl: You looked nice today. What should you say? That by itself or in that form is ****tily tacky.[/QUOTE]


overthinking overthinking overthinking

I just usually say you look nice/pretty/lovely.

But don't follow my advice cos I don't have a gf

:sad:

[QUOTE=Tiger]overthinking overthinking overthinking[/QUOTE]

boy hav i heard that before. i jst told her she looked nice. Thanks

My girlfriend told me she was grounded and wasn't aloud to leave, or talk on the phone. Later, I found out she got high by herself because her mom was at work, and then went to Fry's. When she was there, these 3 kids we know came up and I dont know how it went down but she ended up hanging out with them the rest of the afternoon. When she got home, she called her best friend Ariel to tell her the story. I was really hurt, because she's not supposed to be talking to anyone, but she goes and hangs out with these other guys(even though she didnt plan it out, she just ran into them) and then when she gets home she calls Ariel but not me. I calle dher, and I was like "I thought you were grounded?" And she explained that her mom wasn't home and she ran into those guys, she didnt plan it out. But then I was like, "How come you called Ariel and not me?" And she goes, "I was going to but I didnt want it to show up on the caller ID or anything" and I go "But you called ariel." Then she says "yeah maybe I had a problem." So I asked what the problem was, and she told me it was because she hasn't talked to Ariel in a while. But thats a whole other story. What should I do? I'm really hurt that she would rather get stoned and **** than talk to me. Advice please?

I don't want to keep bitching in here... but I'm just so upset, and it's the same situation all over again.

Katie starts hanging around me again, she tells me she likes me, we talk for a while, then she basically tells me that if I ask her out she'll reject me because like 25% of the time I'm not serious enough around her, which I had told her was basically because when I'm around her I always felt uncomfortable because I felt I had no possible chance with her. She then tells me, 'that's not true,' meaning I don have a chance with her, but once more says, 'I can't see myself with you...'

Seriously. I don't get what the hell is wrong with her.

She also told me the **** she said about Kevin was an attempt to get my attention. How the hell was telling me she's interested in a friend of mine make me notice her more? I mean I've only talked to her on a daily basis for like a year now...

[QUOTE=KurtCobain2902]My girlfriend told me she was grounded and wasn't aloud to leave, or talk on the phone. Later, I found out she got high by herself because her mom was at work, and then went to Fry's. When she was there, these 3 kids we know came up and I dont know how it went down but she ended up hanging out with them the rest of the afternoon. When she got home, she called her best friend Ariel to tell her the story. I was really hurt, because she's not supposed to be talking to anyone, but she goes and hangs out with these other guys(even though she didnt plan it out, she just ran into them) and then when she gets home she calls Ariel but not me. I calle dher, and I was like "I thought you were grounded?" And she explained that her mom wasn't home and she ran into those guys, she didnt plan it out. But then I was like, "How come you called Ariel and not me?" And she goes, "I was going to but I didnt want it to show up on the caller ID or anything" and I go "But you called ariel." Then she says "yeah maybe I had a problem." So I asked what the problem was, and she told me it was because she hasn't talked to Ariel in a while. But thats a whole other story. What should I do? I'm really hurt that she would rather get stoned and **** than talk to me. Advice please?[/QUOTE]

If drugs (getting stoned) is her priority you don't need that. Believe me.

[quote=eleventeen]I don't want to keep bitching in here... but I'm just so upset, and it's the same situation all over again.

Katie starts hanging around me again, she tells me she likes me, we talk for a while, then she basically tells me that if I ask her out she'll reject me because like 25% of the time I'm not serious enough around her, which I had told her was basically because when I'm around her I always felt uncomfortable because I felt I had no possible chance with her. She then tells me, 'that's not true,' meaning I don have a chance with her, but once more says, 'I can't see myself with you...'

Seriously. I don't get what the hell is wrong with her.

She also told me the **** she said about Kevin was an attempt to get my attention. How the hell was telling me she's interested in a friend of mine make me notice her more? I mean I've only talked to her on a daily basis for like a year now...[/quote]

Listen to her. Sometimes girls feel like that. Like you're not paying enough attention. Be serious, no matter if you're uncomfortable or not.

I do pay attention to her. She freaking basically has me wrapped around her finger.

What exactly should I do... I know, 'be more serious,' but how do i get over feeling like my knees are gonna buckle and sweating like a pig and not being able to formulate a ****ing sentence?

I've always found that singing song lyrics works well.

What?

Quote lyrics. Sing 'em if you have any kind of voice.

It breaks the ice. Look at her when you're singing/quoting.

She will look at you and go, "wow".

It's a way to get the message across. And you don't need to search for something to say.

This will require confidence, however.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I've always found that singing song lyrics works well.[/QUOTE]

Your advice has really sunken to an all time low lately.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Quote lyrics. Sing 'em if you have any kind of voice.

It breaks the ice. Look at her when you're singing/quoting.

She will look at you and go, "wow".

It's a way to get the message across. And you don't need to search for something to say.

This will require confidence, however.[/QUOTE]

The only style of singing I do well is death metal vocals. I doubt growling in her face would break the ice...

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Your advice has really sunken to an all time low lately.[/QUOTE]
stfu and listen.

Although it's a tad unorthodox(sp) it sounds like something that would show "seriousness" and/or "confidence".

[QUOTE=Theo B]stfu and listen.

Although it's a tad unorthodox(sp) it sounds like something that would show "seriousness" and/or "confidence".[/QUOTE]
Knowing the girl, she'd probably think that's completely lame.

[QUOTE=Theo B]stfu and listen.

Although it's a tad unorthodox(sp) it sounds like something that would show "seriousness" and/or "confidence".[/QUOTE]

Or a way to not feel uncomfortable. I mean really, most all of us on here relate to music, and we're all comfortable about it. Or pretty comfortable, at least.

As old as I am, I sometimes find that singing/quoting lyrics is the best way to get my message across to a guy. So I do that.

I don't have an awesome voice, just an average one, but slinging something like that for the other party to relate to works.

Strongbad: Hush up.

Eleventeen: If she thinks that's lame, replace her with someone who doesn't.

Meh. I guess it's worth a shot.

Maybe I could write her lyrics?

[QUOTE=Eleventeen]Meh. I guess it's worth a shot.

Maybe I could write her lyrics?[/QUOTE]

Absolutely.

That will really tell her how you feel. Write them from the heart. Or gut, in my case.

Yeah, she probably would like that.

thanks.

[QUOTE=Eleventeen]Yeah, she probably would like that.

thanks.[/QUOTE]
Anytime. I hope you see where I'm going here.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Or a way to not feel uncomfortable. I mean really, most all of us on here relate to music, and we're all comfortable about it. Or pretty comfortable, at least.

As old as I am, I sometimes find that singing/quoting lyrics is the best way to get my message across to a guy. So I do that.

I don't have an awesome voice, just an average one, but slinging something like that for the other party to relate to works.

Strongbad: Hush up.

Eleventeen: If she thinks that's lame, replace her with someone who doesn't.[/QUOTE]
Plus singing is fun :)

/is a singer (kind of)

Eleventeen: Writing lyrics is always cute, even if you aren't the best lyricist.

[QUOTE=Theo B]Plus singing is fun :)

/is a singer (kind of)

Eleventeen: Writing lyrics is always cute, even if you aren't the best lyricist.[/QUOTE]

I'm a singer, kinda too. I sound like Courtney Love, only without her range. But I don't care; it gets the point across.

I wrote killer lyrics to a former drummer because I couldn't tell him to his face how I felt.