[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Maybe. But you did tell her not right now because you had a girlfriend.[/QUOTE]


Ya. But even if my friend does tell my gf. Im just gonna say that he is jealous and that i never did. Is that okay to do? I know its not honest.

I don't think I'd lie.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I don't think I'd lie.[/QUOTE]


Well okay. But i did tell him not to tell my gf. And we shook on it and i told him that i would litterly kill him if he did. I saw fear in his eyes. And i told her girl to tell him not to tell because she wants me to stay with my gf and she is happy for me. I think im just gonna have to save myself by saying that i never said that even though it is not the right thing to do. I really appreciate the help Kimmie. A lot a lot.

:upset:

[QUOTE=TheCrimsonKing]My girlfriend, who I love and have been with for a year, just broke up with me yesterday. For no real reason. We were having some really minor relationship problems, but nothing we couldnt have fixed with a little time. But this is the weird thing guys and I want your comments and feed back. She still plans on getting back with me eventually, actually in about a month and a half. She wants us to just be "friends" right now for like a month. THen she wants to work out our minor problems before we get back together. BUt right now I can only talk to her everyother day or something and I cant care about her (like a boyfriend) or love her (like a boyfriend), well right now. Why does this all seem so weird to me? Oh and this just happened randomly. SHe just decided it out of the blue...with nothing to provoke or influence her.[/QUOTE]


Well I have more to add to this, sort of an "update". If you want to know everything I said I believe it is on pages 163-165 or so.

Well I talked to her last thursday and she changed her story up a bit. Now she says that its not to fix our relationship problems or anything like that. It is now that she decided that she didnt want a boyfriend at the moment and also that she has "not been feeling good lately" (she said that its not emotionally but just kinda mentally/physically?....and no she isnt pregnant or on her period).

Well I asked her if she plans on getting back with me when she wants a boyfriend again and she said "i dont know....we'll see". Well I get that it is a hard thing to say or decide but the way she puts it makes me feel as if she absolutely has no plans to get back with me. I asked her if I had to do anything with the breakup and she said that I didnt do anything wrong and that i've been great. I know I havent done anything wrong so its not really me. The thing is i'm just so used to her being honest and telling me everything and it seems like she doesnt feel like being with me or talking with me.

I know that we broke up and I still love her. I hope things get better....I bet they will get at least a bit better. I know I have to "get over" this but I will never stop loving her or thinking about her. eh....it all sucks and is confuzing. What I hate the most is just the way she talks to me and treats me. SHe treats/talks to me like i'm a friend she's barely known for a couple weeks even though out of all the friends she knows I have known her the second longest (5 years). She is nicer to her friends from school who she has known for 3 months. I know we arent together anymore but I feel its messed up of her to treat me that way.

OH well.

i dislike that girls at school flirt with me even though they all know that I just broke up with my girlfriend....i find it distasteful...( i dont think I spelled that right).

Well thanks for listening guys, technically reading.

Cool take care:thumb:

If for some reason our relationship gets better, or if we get back together (that would be nice) then I'll post again.:wave:

I need advice.

My boyfriend and I care more about Mario 64 than each other.

Is this natural?


Also, he ditches me to go biking with his male lifting-buddy. (all of our friends have dubbed the two "brokeback") We're supposed to hang out, and he ditches me (without calling or informing me) to go biking.

And this doesn't really bother me. It probably should, but I'm happy with the relationship now. I just don't want it to get to me later in our relationship.

is Mario 64 really that great, the game right? I mean I like it and all but damn. yeah thats not really natural.

hmmm well its not that nice for him to ditch you. Well at least if he is ditching you then he is just doing it to go biking not to go with other girls ha ha ha. Well tell him that if he makes changes in his plan he should inform you. He really likes biking huh?

[QUOTE=TheCrimsonKing]is Mario 64 really that great, the game right? I mean I like it and all but damn. yeah thats not really natural.

He really likes biking huh?[/QUOTE]

He has a $1500 bike, and spends his free time with his friends going to the local bike shop. The day they ditched me, they biked 43 miles.

And as far as mario goes, it was an exaggeration, but in essence, it's how our relationship works. We both respect each other and let one another do whatever. I make fun of him like crazy, and we both point out each other's insecurities and harp on them. (for example: my left eye doesn't go up, so he'll stand on his tiptoes and patronizingly smile at me knowing that it makes me comfortable. I'll retalliate by saying how cute his eyes are and how they look like shark eyes or tickle-attack his hips.)

I think we've both established that our relationship is abnormal - but we both seem to really enjoy it.

Here's what I think happened with you and your boyfriend: You've now become so comfortable with each other that whatever each of your other interests are sometimes take precedence.

Not a big deal.

Luster, you're a girl...can I ask you something?

So Kimmie my friend promised not to tell.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Luster, you're a girl...can I ask you something?[/QUOTE]

sure

Hello,

Just got wind of this place and it's probably a good thing... My g/f just broke up with me today. We were going really well for almost a month, and nothing bad happened. For dates we weren't able to do much though, I had rugby 5 out of the 7 days of the week, and the other two I devoted to her for the most part. Then she just ups and dumps me for no reason. Not only that, she had her friend do it for her, she didn't dump me face to face... What should I do? I still sorta have feelings for her, but I'm upset that she doesn't have a reason, and I'm angry that she wouldn't do it face to face. Can you guys give me advice?

[QUOTE=Luster]sure[/QUOTE]

Situation:

Girlfriend 1 that I was pretty close to a few months ago.

Girlfriend 2 that I am pretty close to (or thought I was).

1 & 2 have a radio show together.

1 does some things that hurt me, but she can't see it, and won't ever see it.

2 takes what I said out of context and tells 1 about it; I never expected that.

1 screams at me on Yahoo tonight about staying out of her life.

I delete 1 and don't want to talk to 2 anymore, since I feel this is a betrayal of my confidence to her.

WTF? I don't know what to do. Am I wrong for ditching them both? I just want to add that I much prefer men as friends, because they don't pull that schit.

[QUOTE=Scars]Hello,

Just got wind of this place and it's probably a good thing... My g/f just broke up with me today. We were going really well for almost a month, and nothing bad happened. For dates we weren't able to do much though, I had rugby 5 out of the 7 days of the week, and the other two I devoted to her for the most part. Then she just ups and dumps me for no reason. Not only that, she had her friend do it for her, she didn't dump me face to face... What should I do? I still sorta have feelings for her, but I'm upset that she doesn't have a reason, and I'm angry that she wouldn't do it face to face. Can you guys give me advice?[/QUOTE]

Jom's gonna probably punch me for this double post, but the dumping by third party is not classy at all. Go on to the next one.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]1 does some things that hurt me, but she can't see it, and won't ever see it. 1 screams at me on Yahoo tonight about staying out of her life.[/QUOTE] Is there something in particular that you've done or butted in about that would make her so upset? if not, she sounds like a pretty tough person to get along with. It sounds like stepping back might be the right thing to do. It's not worth your energy to establish a close friendship if she hurts you and doesn't appreciate you

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]2 takes what I said out of context and tells 1 about it; I never expected that.[/QUOTE]
Have you talked to her about this? or mentioned that you don't appreciate it? you don't need to chide her, but letting her know that it bothers you might make her aware of what she's doing.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I delete 1 and don't want to talk to 2 anymore, since I feel this is a betrayal of my confidence to her.

WTF? I don't know what to do. Am I wrong for ditching them both? I just want to add that I much prefer men as friends, because they don't pull that schit.[/QUOTE]

agreed on the men thing. as for the two friends, I'd consider not ditching friend two. If you value what you have with her (not counting the talking to friend one) it might be worth pursuing. Again, have you talked to her about how what she's doing is bothering you?

[QUOTE=Scars]Hello,

Just got wind of this place and it's probably a good thing... My g/f just broke up with me today. We were going really well for almost a month, and nothing bad happened. For dates we weren't able to do much though, I had rugby 5 out of the 7 days of the week, and the other two I devoted to her for the most part. Then she just ups and dumps me for no reason. Not only that, she had her friend do it for her, she didn't dump me face to face... What should I do? I still sorta have feelings for her, but I'm upset that she doesn't have a reason, and I'm angry that she wouldn't do it face to face. Can you guys give me advice?[/QUOTE]

Just forget about it and move on the best you can. Dumping by the not her is definitely not worth your time.

[QUOTE=Luster]I need advice.

My boyfriend and I care more about Mario 64 than each other.

Is this natural?


Also, he ditches me to go biking with his male lifting-buddy. (all of our friends have dubbed the two "brokeback") We're supposed to hang out, and he ditches me (without calling or informing me) to go biking.

And this doesn't really bother me. It probably should, but I'm happy with the relationship now. I just don't want it to get to me later in our relationship.[/QUOTE]

I'd just tell him not to make a habit out of this sort of thing.

[QUOTE=Scars]Hello,

Just got wind of this place and it's probably a good thing... My g/f just broke up with me today. We were going really well for almost a month, and nothing bad happened. For dates we weren't able to do much though, I had rugby 5 out of the 7 days of the week, and the other two I devoted to her for the most part. Then she just ups and dumps me for no reason. Not only that, she had her friend do it for her, she didn't dump me face to face... What should I do? I still sorta have feelings for her, but I'm upset that she doesn't have a reason, and I'm angry that she wouldn't do it face to face. Can you guys give me advice?[/QUOTE]

Buy a case of your favorite brew. Invite your male friends over. Rent a couple Tarantino movies. Order a couple pizzas. Spend an entire night being unabashedly male.

Trust me, you'll feel much better.

thats idea, then around 11 go to a bar or club , allready a bit tipsy and have a good time with other women. doesnt have to be anything serious of course

[QUOTE=Matas]thats idea, then around 11 go to a bar or club , allready a bit tipsy and have a good time with other women. doesnt have to be anything serious of course[/QUOTE]


No, no women. that kills it. lol.

But yeah, thats happened to me. IF it was just a month, as it seems, you should recover quickly. but having a night of unhaltered(?) maledom is the best.

I used to post avid advice in this type of thread.
But now I feel like I shouldn't give people advice on Love & Relationships because I haven't felt much of the former or had many successful ones of the latter ...

An open question:

Do you ever look back and think about this one ex-bf / ex-gf who you back then dumped [or were dumped by] for a reason you cannot understand in hindsight and every time you think about it and how you would be together now pierces your heart?

My ex-girlfriend and I are still very good friends and we went on a date a week or so ago. We had a good time and she told me friday that she likes me again. She thinks she likes but doesn't think he's good for this other guy. I know her pretty well and I can safely say things won't work out with him/they will even date. He smokes which she hates, he's going to graduate in a few months, he went to rehab etc. I was talking to her last night and asked her to go out again and she said "sure" not in like a "if i have to way" either. Anyway for some stupid reason i told her she could think about it and she said she will. I wish I wouldn't have done that. Do you guys have any advice?

[QUOTE=Rashka]Do you ever look back and think about this one ex-bf / ex-gf who you back then dumped [or were dumped by] for a reason you cannot understand in hindsight and every time you think about it and how you would be together now pierces your heart?[/QUOTE]

Do I look back? Sure.

Does it pierce my heart? Nahhhhhhhhh.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Buy a case of your favorite brew. Invite your male friends over. Rent a couple Tarantino movies. Order a couple pizzas. Spend an entire night being unabashedly male.

Trust me, you'll feel much better.[/QUOTE]

Sounds like a good idea. I might just do that, thanks guys. It's strange, because now she doesn't want me to be upset about it. Nothing I can really do there, but thanks to all who offered me advice.

[QUOTE=AC/DC Rocker]

see page 166 for my original full post.
[/QUOTE]

So the plot thickens...some. Well over the weekend we had a little get together at her house with our two other friends. There was lots of alcohol and some weed... the ingredients for a great night and a horrible morning. Well I got into the beer and she got into the pot and before ya know it we were decently wasted...we could fuction and know what we were doing but all barriers were gone which was a decent thing I guess. I've mentioned before that she is very distant and avoids physicall contact with guys, well she ended up on my lap and gave me a small peck on the lips, she pulled away and I pulled her in close and gave her a quick but passionate bigger kiss and we sat there with her laying back against me with her head on my shoulder for a while. We talked a bit and I told her that she means the world to me and that I care about her more deeply than she new, I avoided using the phrase "I love you" for fear of scaring her off. She just smiled and hugged me tighter and our friends came back into the room and we moved away without them realizing what went on. We went through the night at increasing states of wastedness with a typical amount of sexual tension we have between me and her (theres always quite a bit) and eventually fell asleep in our respective spots on the floor, chairs ,beds, what not. The next morning me and her woke up at about the same time, I started cleaning up the mess and she started to wash the dishes. I finished up and came up close behind her at the sink and started massaging her shoulders and I asked her if she remembered what happened during the night she gave a short laugh and said yes. I told her I was glad and kissed her on the cheek. Everyone else started to rise from the dead and the morning went on as normal. So heres the problem now, things are getting strange. The problem is everything is normal. We talked about the night at school with friends but the parts spent between me and her get left out. She acts like nothing happened. Even alone with me she doesnt talk about it or mention what was said. I don't know whether she regrets it or is happy or surprised or whatever else she could be. What I need to know is how to bring it up and what I should do about it.

Sorry for such a long and detailed post, i just couldnt summerize and keep the facts.

[QUOTE]Buy a case of your favorite brew. Invite your male friends over. Rent a couple Tarantino movies. Order a couple pizzas. Spend an entire night being unabashedly male.

Trust me, you'll feel much better.[/QUOTE] QFT.

I jsut wanted to pop in and just say that everything is going well with me and the loved one :)

Its been about 5 and a half months now, and its awesome. We are basically best friends and I love it. I dont think things can get any better right now (between me and him that is).

[QUOTE=purplefeet]I jsut wanted to pop in and just say that everything is going well with me and the loved one :)

Its been about 5 and a half months now, and its awesome. We are basically best friends and I love it. I dont think things can get any better right now (between me and him that is).[/QUOTE]


Well thats awsome to hear. :)

Me and mine are doing quite well too.

[QUOTE=Scars]Sounds like a good idea. I might just do that, thanks guys. It's strange, because now she doesn't want me to be upset about it. Nothing I can really do there, but thanks to all who offered me advice.[/QUOTE]

I'm sure you'll get through it, man! :wave:

[quote=AC/DC Rocker][See page 166 for full post.][/quote]

Heh, that doesn't help me any, seeing as how I'm on page 89.

[quote]So heres the problem now, things are getting strange. The problem is everything is normal.[/quote]

[b][size=300]AHHHHHHHHH![/b][/size]

Heh, just kiddin' with you.

Alright, there's this girl at work. I don't really see her that much, usually only on the weekends. We work in different departments too so we don't really talk much. We've said a few things here and there. Anyway, I think she's been flirting with me. For the past few weeks I've really been noticing her looking at me when I'm not looking. I'll always look back and we make eye contact. Just the other day me and my friend are sitting across from one another in the break room and she walks into the room. She's standing on the other side of the table closest to my friend, and there's a perfectly good chair there, yet she makes it a point to walk around to the other side, take the chair i'm resting my arm on, wipe a bunch of nasty crumbs out of the seat and sit down beside me. And she seems like maybe she's nervous. I don't know. She kind of sighed and then started talking about how she had a bad day the day before. Then she went to clock in, but it was too early so she came back, at which point I had to go. Later that day she passes by my aisle and we lock eyes. She had a smile on her face. It wasn't like a super cheesy smile, but it was a smile none the less. So what do you think?

I think you need to try to get to know her. This sounds good.

Yeah, I think I'm going to ask her out if she's at work this weekend. I just need to get her alone. My Russian friend seems to think that he's attached to my hip.

My ex has a boyfriend.

I'm feeling a little sick. :(