hey thanks alot wizard and JohnnT, those are actually definitions i can understand.

as for Eman, sorry i dont know anything, except be your self, but these other folks will know better then i, so listen to them more. :)

[QUOTE=E_man]OK peeps, I'm in a bit of a rut.

I've been going out with this girl for about a month or so now, and although I am really attracted to her, I feel nothing. So, obviously i want to end things but there are problems, we both have a similar set of friends and I dont want it to be awkward if we meet up or whatever and I know for a fact that she really REALLY likes me and from her friends telling me she has never been happy. How do I end it without tarnishing my reputation and not making my mates mad.

Cheers MX guys[/QUOTE]

If your friends are mature enough they'll understand and not judge you for breaking up with her.

It probably will be awkward for awhile around her, though.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Because a crush will pass; the real thing won't.[/QUOTE]

Speaking of crushes...i've had a huge crush on this girl for about 5 months (since the beginning of the school year almost), and i went on for those 5 months in a kind of daze, always thinking about her. I talked to her a little in that time, and asked her out once. She had a basketball game that night so she couldnt go. Last week I asked her to prom and she gave me an extremely nice no. One of her freinds told me that she's going with someone else. So in my mind, my chances are pretty much shot to hell. Correct me if you think otherwise, and ignore the next paragraph as pessimistic BS.

Does anyone have any advice about moving on? I mean, it seems pretty easy, but i've almost obsessed about her for 5 months and trying to move on has been a bi[COLOR="Silver"]tc[/COLOR]h for me, since it's really been hard to stop thinking about her. I've never liked anyone this much, and this is the first time that i've ever been turned down in any way, so i'm a total n00b.

You're right; the chances are pretty much shot to hell. At least for right now.

A new girl will get your mind off of her; so go meet some. :)

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]You're right; the chances are pretty much shot to hell. At least for right now.

A new girl will get your mind off of her; so go meet some. :)[/QUOTE]

I'm so reluctant to move onto someone else...i guess that's my only real choice, though.

Anyone else have advice?

[QUOTE=got tool?]I'm so reluctant to move onto someone else...i guess that's my only real choice, though.

Anyone else have advice?[/QUOTE]
If she is turning you down, she obivousley isnt interested. Come to terms with that first.
Dont persue it if you know yourself she probably dosent want to.

Im not telling to go looking for another girl straight away, just not that one.

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I cant understand how people can just fall for one girl, realise it will never happen and go for another girl straight after. Either they are all just really hot or he/she is really horny. My m8 dose it all the time and he says he cant find love. All he wants is sex.

But, Kev, that's really maybe all he wants.

And, yeah, I can relate to going from one to the other. My current psycho man is a direct result of that.

Well if thats all he wants and not what she wants. What can he do about it? Maybe if he tried. But trying might come off to her as trying hard/clingy/annoying.

Agreed.

[QUOTE=~grif~]If she is turning you down, she obivousley isnt interested. Come to terms with that first.
Dont persue it if you know yourself she probably dosent want to.

Im not telling to go looking for another girl straight away, just not that one.
[/QUOTE]

Yeah i see your point...but what's weird is (and i'm not using this as justification that i shouldn't move on...cuz i think i should) after she said no, she asked me if i was still going. And when i said "Probably not..." she looked kinda guilty and said "Oh ok". Whatever. Thanks for the advice, all.

And for the record (i dont know whether i am misinterpreting you, grif, so i'll apologize ahead of time if so), the farthest thing from my mind when i think of her was sex.

so got tool?
you have 2 decisions, either leave it be, or try with good or bad outcomes followed...

is it really bad if i like one girl, am going out with another girl, and ****ing another girl? becasue i think that might happen.

[QUOTE=POINTLESS5448]is it really bad if i like one girl, am going out with another girl, and ****ing another girl? becasue i think that might happen.[/QUOTE]
its your choice

to me, yea, thats bad
to others its cool
to you its great

why do you think it might happen?

if you are from a small area, expect a bad rep.

[QUOTE=POINTLESS5448]is it really bad if i like one girl, am going out with another girl, and ****ing another girl? becasue i think that might happen.[/QUOTE]

I would say that that is a bad thing. We usually call people like you man whores but yea.

If you wanna live for the moment and hurt some peoples's hearts, then go for it.

Evenin'!!

Ugh.

I just spent half the day in an emergency room talking to a psychiatrist.

What happened?

I totally blew a gasket, and somewhere in my rampage I gave my mother the idea that I was suicidal, even though I am not in the slightest. She was trying to get me committed to some program in the hospital where I would basically stay there for a little while and they'd watch me and get me on proper medication and things. It would be lame, but I don't have to go.

I talked to that dude for hours. He doesn't think I'm suicidal, but he's going to send me to a regular psycologist and put me on some medicine or something, and give me some methods of relieving stress.

I don't even know what I have to be so stressed about, my life is pretty good.

Sometimes there are things happening below the surface, D, that you don't know are there.

Yeah, I have suppressed depression or some bullpoopy. Doctor pretty much told me I'm an attention whore, depressed, bi-polar, have dependancy issues, have strong anxiety, and I'm schizofrenic, well, he said I had signs of some of those, which is why he's sending me to another doctor. He's going to put me on medication for most of that, but I hate medicine. I actually feel worse now that I've talked to the doctor. I didn't even feel bad before until I exploded, but apparently I always just force myself to be happy. I'm going to go spend time with my mom for the next few days down in Nashville. See ya guys later.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Yeah, I have suppressed depression or some bullpoopy. Doctor pretty much told me I'm an attention whore, depressed, bi-polar, have dependancy issues, have strong anxiety, and I'm schizofrenic, well, he said I had signs of some of those, which is why he's sending me to another doctor. He's going to put me on medication for most of that, but I hate medicine. I actually feel worse now that I've talked to the doctor. I didn't even feel bad before until I exploded, but apparently I always just force myself to be happy. I'm going to go spend time with my mom for the next few days down in Nashville. See ya guys later.[/QUOTE]

Seeing a therapist will help. Both my parents had undiagnosed clinical depression for years and it was pretty miserable at times. Eventually they were both diagnosed and things got better.

at what point does it become minor depression and not just teenage-angst/ being pissed off with the world?
...i don't say this as a piss take or anything, really i wanna know.

[QUOTE=oogaboogabooga]at what point does it become minor depression and not just teenage-angst/ being pissed off with the world?
...i don't say this as a piss take or anything, really i wanna know.[/QUOTE]

There really is no specific criterion or criteria one can use to evaluate him or herself - that's why it's to be left to the clinics, the psychologists, psychiatrists, doctors, and so on. Depression is a biological illness. People that go on severe guilt trips, have a loss of energy, enthusiasm, pleasure, and so on, and have periods of irregular diet and sleep patterns oftentimes have depression.

People who say they have "situational depression" are full of crap if they think that their "illness" is chronic. It isn't. I'm not contesting that situational depression doesn't exist, I'm just saying that people who have chronic depression are not situationally depressed.

Basically, if you have the symptoms, then statistics clearly have shown that you have the disease. It's a biological illness, while possibly bolstered by a situation, but a biological illness in and of itself. People who become chronically depressed over a psycho-stressor will have the biological seeds planted, even if it's unbeknownst to them.

When people get stressed out, people without depression recover - not through medicine or psychotherapy - but by just getting support from friends, family, or even a place like MX. People with depression have to go through medicine, therapy, and the like. But just because someone is upset because of a stressor does not make him or her depressed.

Hey everybody. I am having huge problems with jealousy. I get so jealous when my friend even talks to my gf. Just when he even talks to her. Ahhh i need help.

Is this the ex?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Is this the ex?[/QUOTE]


yes but we got back together. We gonna try it again.

[QUOTE=JohnnyT]yes but we got back together. We gonna try it again.[/QUOTE]

Good luck with that. About the jealously thing, all you can do is try to keep it under control.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Good luck with that. About the jealously thing, all you can do is try to keep it under control.[/QUOTE]


K thanks. I also have another problem.

Well like 1 year ago i almost went out with this girl. We still have been friends. Then about 1 week ago i told my friend Patrick that i wanted to bone her. he told her then she texted me and said that she would have sex with me. I was like "okay" but i got a gf right now. Then she accidently forwarded the wrong text message to one of my friends that talks to my gf on myspace. I told him not to tell and that i wouldnt do it in the first place because i love my gf. But if he does tell her, i have just planned to play stupid and tell her that i never did and that my friend is jealous of us(which he is)

Does that sound like a good plan?

Sounds like you needn't make excuses, because weren't you broken up with your girlfriend a week ago?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Sounds like you needn't make excuses, because weren't you broken up with your girlfriend a week ago?[/QUOTE]


Well to be exact it was 3 days ago and we got back together like 7 days ago. Me and my stupid mistakes. :upset:



Am i f[COLOR="Red"]uc[/COLOR]ked?

Maybe. But you did tell her not right now because you had a girlfriend.