strangly, that's not advice "the real El Capitano"

You just have to wait it out and hope things go well. Although, having issues doesn't mean you can cheat and get away with it. It was good that you told her though. I get where you're coming from though..

Good luck.

Wait... why is she hanging out with this Sid Vicious-wannabe?

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Wait... why is she hanging out with this Sid Vicious-wannabe?[/QUOTE]


Any Sid Vicious wannabe is bad news from the start.

[QUOTE=Fire Whispers]You just have to wait it out and hope things go well. Although, having issues doesn't mean you can cheat and get away with it. It was good that you told her though. I get where you're coming from though..

Good luck.[/QUOTE]

Oh i know. there's no excuse to cheat, but yeah, I'm not sure but I'm optimistic.

Ugh, confusion blows. Brit left me a long message, saying that she's still working on herself and "trying to become the perfect girl for me". I haven't really taken the time to think about her since I've been busy with a couple other girls. But now that she's in my mind, she's all I'm thinking about. I miss her, and I think I still love her. I don't have enough feelings for these other girls to pursue anything, and they really don't strike me as the type I would go together with. When I was with Brit, everything was perfect except for when we were far apart for long periods of time. I've never been happier than I was then.

Confusion! ><

Whoooooooooo best weekend of my life..

First gig on Friday, played the Pakistani National Anthem for International Night, and there was this Cultural Fashion Show and whatnot, but long story short, I know for a fact that the girl I want likes me..so WOO!

Saturday: My little sister finished reading the Qur'an a couple months ago, so there was this huge celebration thing with family members coming in from all over, friends and everyone. Big party, lots of drama, some little stuff pissed me off, but it didn't matter. My brother-in-law (cousin's husband) and some of my cousins, all of whom are like my brothers, slept over, except we didn't really sleep, and talked about life in general. I learned more stuff that will help me in life than I have in the last 2 weeks in 9 hours.

Sunday: well, didn't sleep last night, went down to IHOP in the morning, got some breakfast, coolest Chinese waitress there, she knew Russell Peters jokes, and told us the bill was 34.50... got home, talked for 4 more hours about life and the Day of Judgement, and what have WE done to get ready for it.. then I passed out for 10 hours, and woke up a couple hours ago..

good fun.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Ugh, confusion blows. Brit left me a long message, saying that she's still working on herself and "trying to become the perfect girl for me". I haven't really taken the time to think about her since I've been busy with a couple other girls. But now that she's in my mind, she's all I'm thinking about. I miss her, and I think I still love her. I don't have enough feelings for these other girls to pursue anything, and they really don't strike me as the type I would go together with. When I was with Brit, everything was perfect except for when we were far apart for long periods of time. I've never been happier than I was then.

Confusion! ><[/QUOTE]
dude, dont 4get the pain brit put u through. She was a bitch to you, she was horrible. Dont be so hasty to welcome her back as if nothing happened. You felt like crap when she acted the way she did @ times, take that into consideration. I know at times like this you feel like you really need her, but earlier you said you'd be strong when she came running back, and not let her back in after the way she acted. Also you are having fun with these girls, something you and brit havn't had for a long time.

Sorry for being brutal, but you gotta see it from both sides

So I meet some guy on another forum, and talk to him for about 10 minutes, think wow, this guy seems cool, and then 6 hours later, I'm like wow, this guy [I]is[/I] cool, then I look at the clock, and go "HOLY SH[I]I[/I]T, ITS 4 AM!!!?!"

EDIT: That was about a month ago, and we talk about every day for hours. I dont know what to think about this situation.

He lives a few thousand miles away, so there is no way I am going to seem him in person anytime soon. This is the first time I have felt anything for someone over teh interwebs that i didnt know in person before.

I've not had a relationship in a year or so, and I'm out of school yadda yadda, still living at home with not much of a social life. I'm kind of nervous about going about and meeting women in places where I have no pre determined knowledge of their current state.

[QUOTE=dazmo]dude, dont 4get the pain brit put u through. She was a bitch to you, she was horrible. Dont be so hasty to welcome her back as if nothing happened. You felt like crap when she acted the way she did @ times, take that into consideration. I know at times like this you feel like you really need her, but earlier you said you'd be strong when she came running back, and not let her back in after the way she acted. Also you are having fun with these girls, something you and brit havn't had for a long time.

Sorry for being brutal, but you gotta see it from both sides[/QUOTE]
Yeah, those last few months or whatever were harsh and very dramatic, but the times we were actually together were the happiest moments I've ever had. Nothing like I have with Krissy and Shel. I thought I was over Brit before tonight, and now all the memories of her are popping up in my head.

I don't think I should take her back. And even if I did, it's only been like two weeks or something. I probably need longer than that to get over a girl I was with for over a year.

[QUOTE=telemore]I've not had a relationship in a year or so, and I'm out of school yadda yadda, still living at home with not much of a social life. I'm kind of nervous about going about and meeting women in places where I have no pre determined knowledge of their current state.[/QUOTE]

That's common. You need to understand that not many women are going to react hostily to your attempts at conversation.

ARGH everything i just wrote dissappeared :angry:

So i need major advice here ive got a big decision on my mind (for me anyways)

February last year, my friend introduces me to a girl whom i vaguely knew of before..but had never met/spoken to...just kind of knew her. Anyway he introduces me to her (over msn) we started to talk...ALOT, and 1 year and a few months later she has become by far my best and most trusted friend. She helps me out with all my problems...and i do the same for her, we've never had a fight or even so much as a disagreement over anything because we have pretty much the same oppinions on just about everything and each of us is the nicest person the other knows...we both love each other alot as friends, but ive never felt anything more than that for her.

Untilllllllll recently....im afraid that im starting to fall in love with her. She is absolutely perfect to me in every way, and there is noone i would rather be with, BUT....i dont think i want to risk the friendship we already have. She has had problems with just about every guy she has been with before, one of which was previously her best friend...this ended in him becoming a jerk and it ripped them apart leaving her feeling very upset and not willing to get back out there. I have met her like 4 or 5 times in person, and although its really tough not being able to see her very often because of distance, its probably made our friendship stronger as we know each other much better than appearance would tell. Im pretty sure she feels the same about me as i usually do her (new feelings aside). Example, today i sign onto msn and havent said anything yet because i was talking to my mum for ages, and she says "JOSH WAT THE F[SIZE="2"]UCK[/SIZE] R U DOING!" jokingly coz i wasnt talking. She said later that she was upset coz she thought i didnt wanna speak to her :p

I basically dont want to put her...or me..into the situation where shes going to get upset thinking that the same thing is going to happen again...and damage our friendship. She knows that im a much better guy than the ones shes been with before, but i know the thought will be there. I want her to be happy no matter the cost to me.

So pleaaaaaaaase...someone tell me what you think i should do, this is tearing at me.

Thanks :wave:

are you willing to risk a really good friendship over something more?

I really dont know..:confused: she means the world to me just as a friend and for that to end i would be devastated. Im not sure whether anything more is what i really want in the first place. Its not so much me worrying about the friendship ending that is eating at me...more like i just dont want her to be upset or put in an awkward situation by it. This is really confusing to me so i can imagine what its like for you guys :rolleyes:

Hmm yeah i get what you mean. Were not exactly "all but screwing" but yeah, she means alot to me. I dont think theres an interest for a relationship on her part, and ive got absolutely no idea if there is on my part either. I guess im just worried about what i could do with these feelings. Hmm...ill see how it goes, dunno what ill do i guess just act normally and see what happens. Thanks for the advice anyways.

something Chaindrive said the other day...or yesterday...


"If its a crush, it will pass"

[QUOTE=Ibasslikethis!]So I meet some guy on another forum, and talk to him for about 10 minutes, think wow, this guy seems cool, and then 6 hours later, I'm like wow, this guy [I]is[/I] cool, then I look at the clock, and go "HOLY SH[I]I[/I]T, ITS 4 AM!!!?!"

EDIT: That was about a month ago, and we talk about every day for hours. I dont know what to think about this situation.

He lives a few thousand miles away, so there is no way I am going to seem him in person anytime soon. This is the first time I have felt anything for someone over teh interwebs that i didnt know in person before.[/QUOTE]
Oh this sounds like the exact same thing that happened to me. Please please please think seriously about this before you build anything on this. Distance is very very hard, it creates some mega trust issues along with other crap. Internet relationships are hard and speaking from personal experience, they can totally tear you up. Please think before getting too deep because it's hard to get out of once you're in.

Don't get in a long-distance relationship. You will regret every moment of it later on.

Trust me.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Yeah, those last few months or whatever were harsh and very dramatic, but the times we were actually together were the happiest moments I've ever had. Nothing like I have with Krissy and Shel. I thought I was over Brit before tonight, and now all the memories of her are popping up in my head.

I don't think I should take her back. And even if I did, it's only been like two weeks or something. I probably need longer than that to get over a girl I was with for over a year.[/QUOTE]
I call this the 'What if?' stage. Pretty self explanitory, but it's when the memories of all the good stuff that happened come back and you think 'maybe if I'd *blank* then things might have turned out differently'. I reckon you need longer to get over Brit, the memories will keep coming back, but you need to remind yourself of why you broke up. You may have had the happiest moments of your life with her, but do they outweigh the pain she caused you?

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]Oh this sounds like the exact same thing that happened to me. Please please please think seriously about this before you build anything on this. Distance is very very hard, it creates some mega trust issues along with other crap. Internet relationships are hard and speaking from personal experience, they can totally tear you up. Please think before getting too deep because it's hard to get out of once you're in.[/QUOTE]

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[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]I call this the 'What if?' stage. Pretty self explanitory, but it's when the memories of all the good stuff that happened come back and you think 'maybe if I'd *blank* then things might have turned out differently'. I reckon you need longer to get over Brit, the memories will keep coming back, but you need to remind yourself of why you broke up.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, makes sense to me. I don't think I'm going to get involved with her again. I'll just miss her for awhile. It's only been a couple of weeks since we broke up.

[QUOTE] You may have had the happiest moments of your life with her, but do they outweigh the pain she caused you?[/QUOTE]
Well, yes. :/

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Yeah, makes sense to me. I don't think I'm going to get involved with her again. I'll just miss her for awhile. It's only been a couple of weeks since we broke up.


Well, yes. :/[/QUOTE]
Yeah of course you're gonna miss her. It'll be alright in the end :)

[QUOTE=~grif~]something Chaindrive said the other day...or yesterday...


"If its a crush, it will pass"[/QUOTE]
Well if you have that in the back of your mind than how can you ever expect it to be more than crush?

Because a crush will pass; the real thing won't.

What exactly is passive-aggressive. i hear it alot and i get called it alot, yet i dont know what it fully means.(i think i do but i most likely dont). thaks

its all in the name. She is passivly agressive against you. You dont see it but it is inside of her.


Definition: Of, relating to, or having a personality disorder characterized by habitual passive resistance to demands for adequate performance in occupational or social situations, as by procrastination, stubbornness, sullenness, and inefficiency

It's pretty much where you have an underlying aggressive personality, but not so much that it shows until they get to know you better. It's like, you're aggressive but you don't notice it or mean to be.

OK peeps, I'm in a bit of a rut.

I've been going out with this girl for about a month or so now, and although I am really attracted to her, I feel nothing. So, obviously i want to end things but there are problems, we both have a similar set of friends and I dont want it to be awkward if we meet up or whatever and I know for a fact that she really REALLY likes me and from her friends telling me she has never been happy. How do I end it without tarnishing my reputation and not making my mates mad.

Cheers MX guys