I think I'll just stay single and try to get closer to Shelly as friends before choosing someone to work with. 'Cause I don't know her all too well, and I could just be having those new feelings like I had when I was starting to get involved with Krissy, which will fade eventually, and I don't want to ruin friendships to satisfy a temporary feeling. I want a girl to call mine though. =(

And also, I have another different question; if a girl likes you, and you take their virginity, will they become even more attached to you even if there is an understanding that you aren't together and probably won't be? I mean, she wouldn't see it as one nigth of fun, she'd see it as something more meaningful wouldn't she? Even if she knows we're not together and I may be with someone else? I know it's an odd question...

D, don't take someone's virginity unless it's serious between the two of you. It would be a bad move to do that to a girl. A one night stand is okay if you're both non-virgins, but, otherwise...not a good idea.

True lol, IM still a vigine, but Years of TV has told me not to do that haha. Also. Im wondring What do you do when you like a girl who has a boyfriend????? wait it out, or break em up. I dont wanna break em up thoguh lol.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]D, don't take someone's virginity unless it's serious between the two of you. It would be a bad move to do that to a girl. A one night stand is okay if you're both non-virgins, but, otherwise...not a good idea.[/QUOTE]
I didnt think it was a good idea, but this girl nearly begged me to, and I wouldn't mainly because she's a virgin. You don't know how that is for a guy... rofl.

We have done everything up to actually having sex though. She says she loves me, and wants me to be the person she doe sit with, but she's just another 16 y/o that has no clue what she's talking about. But what if we are drunk? I would feel guilty as hell and it's going to be impossible to avoid her, plus there's Kristen there pushing her on.

Bah, w/e. If it happens, it happens, but I'm not going to be the one to initiate it. I'll just wait to calm down with one girl. :/

[QUOTE=White]True lol, IM still a vigine, but Years of TV has told me not to do that haha. Also. Im wondring What do you do when you like a girl who has a boyfriend????? wait it out, or break em up. I dont wanna break em up thoguh lol.[/QUOTE]

Dont break them up. Just wait it out otherwise you will end up in a pickle.

Evening all...

ya. Thats why I said I don't wanna break em up because she is my friend and shes happy with him. So What I was really asking was should I try and hang out with her alot more and attempt to get her to like me or just keep my distance until they break up?

[QUOTE=pohl_56]I would probably keep my distance just becuase i wouldnt want the other person to hate me too much.[/QUOTE]

EDIT: Plus I am the guy that thinks everyone should have their chance to make someting with someone and shouldn ahve to worry about their significant other being tempted by someone else.

[QUOTE=White]ya. Thats why I said I don't wanna break em up because she is my friend and shes happy with him. So What I was really asking was should I try and hang out with her alot more and attempt to get her to like me or just keep my distance until they break up?[/QUOTE]

You pick option C: get over her.

I hate to tell you this but hanging around like a loyal puppy, hoping someday she'll eventually recognize you for the wonder you are does not work in real life.

So I really [I]really[/I] like this beautiful Hungarian girl in my school.

I don't know what to do. I'm kind of shy and not very good at approaching random people at all. Even though I guess she'd be easier to approach because she isn't one of the bitchy, arrogant slutty blondes. And that's what I like about her. Her english isn't perfect, she hangs out with the dorkier kids and isn't so stuck-up that I wouldn't feel 'cool' enough to go talk to her. She's been in the school for less than half a year and I don't think she has any good friends. (- I got that because she hangs out in the library/computer rooms a lot during break times and free lessons.)

I think if I had a couple of pints of beer in me I'd be able to go up and talk to her. But I've only met her at a party once (at the start of the year) and I remember talking to her for a few minutes in a small group. (I can’t remember what about. It was probably about alcohol or something lame)

Now, last week I had sports day, and the first thing was swimming. Now I was totally in awe when I saw her in her bathing suit/bikini kind of thing. I must have been staring at her for the whole hour or so haha. Then during hockey I felt like she was looking at me a couple times but that might just have been my imagination.

So basically I'd really like to talk to her or something. I've seen her play tennis at the local club a couple of times so that's cool (I play tennis too. \m/). What I was thinking of myself was to look up on the internet how to say a little sentence or something in Hungarian, try to impress her :p. For example I could say something like "I am a little fairy", and then act all "oh! I thought it ment "hey, how are ya?"!. I dunno if that'd make her laugh at all though.

Anyway, if anyone could help me out here. How/where should I approach this girl? As I said I find it hard to just start a random conversation with a random person as I'm quite shy. Please feel free to ask for any other info. Thanks!

I wouldn't try to say anything in Hungarian to impress her...but that's just me. That would be kinda awkward. You should just talk about tennis or something else that you guys have in common. I'm not really a person to give advice, since i was totally freaked out at the prospect of even making eye contact with this one girl for about a month, but the best thing to do is just to be like "Hey," and just be yourself and let it flow.

And a question for me to L&R:

Ok so i asked this girl to junior prom and she gave me a extremely nice no, and it turns out that she's going with someone else (who i happen to be pretty good friends with). Now i don't know how close they are, but would you guys say that my chances of making any progress with her are pretty much shot to hell?

Your chances are not necessarily shot to hell, but do not try to hang around her or get to know her better until the prom is over. You have to play the waiting game, unfortunately. When the prom is over, you can check out your options. In the meantime, see if there are some other girls that you might like to date, and see where that takes you. :)

[QUOTE=Drone]Your chances are not necessarily shot to hell, but do not try to hang around her or get to know her better until the prom is over. You have to play the waiting game, unfortunately. When the prom is over, you can check out your options. In the meantime, see if there are some other girls that you might like to date, and see where that takes you. :)[/QUOTE]

Yeah i guess...too bad prom isnt until the 28th. Oh well.

[QUOTE=Sep]So basically I'd really like to talk to her or something. I've seen her play tennis at the local club a couple of times so that's cool (I play tennis too. \m/). What I was thinking of myself was to look up on the internet how to say a little sentence or something in Hungarian, try to impress her :p. For example I could say something like "I am a little fairy", and then act all "oh! I thought it ment "hey, how are ya?"!. I dunno if that'd make her laugh at all though.

Anyway, if anyone could help me out here. How/where should I approach this girl? As I said I find it hard to just start a random conversation with a random person as I'm quite shy. Please feel free to ask for any other info. Thanks![/QUOTE]

Do [i]not[/i] attempt to impress her with your ability to use Babelfish. There's no faster way to have the word "loser" branded to your forehead.

Just ask her to practice with tennis with you. Flirt with her a bit, tease her, be funny. But for god's sake don't act as if her decision will make or break you. You have to be secure, ready to move on instantly should she decide she doesn't like you. Don't act needy or clingy around her. Hell, try to tease her to make it look like she's trying to pick you up.

Do not act like the fact that she's beautiful makes her a superior being. Because she's beautiful, she gets guys hitting on her all the time. You have to be different.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Do [i]not[/i] attempt to impress her with your ability to use Babelfish. There's no faster way to have the word "loser" branded to your forehead.

Just ask her to practice with tennis with you. Flirt with her a bit, tease her, be funny. But for god's sake don't act as if her decision will make or break you. You have to be secure, ready to move on instantly should she decide she doesn't like you. Don't act needy or clingy around her. Hell, try to tease her to make it look like she's trying to pick you up.

Do not act like the fact that she's beautiful makes her a superior being. Because she's beautiful, she gets guys hitting on her all the time. You have to be different.[/QUOTE]
This is very very good advice. Well done.
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[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]This is very very good advice. Well done.
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Straight from the horse's mouth. All the relatives you have telling you that you have to worship the ground a woman walks on right from the start are more than likely trying to compensate for what they percieve as the guilty pleasure in all the things they found attractive in their husbands. And I know everyone has relatives like this.

[QUOTE=pohl_56]Dont break them up. Just wait it out otherwise you will end up in a pickle.

Evening all...[/QUOTE]


Its morning here.

Whats up?

Me and this girl are "friends with benefits". I think it's going to be fun, but I don't really know what to do. She's not my girlfriend so I don't know if I'm supposed to kiss her everytime I see her or what. Should I? Oh, and I'm not going to have sex with her, but we are going to do everything that comes before it.

[QUOTE=KurtCobain2902]Me and this girl are "friends with benefits". I think it's going to be fun, but I don't really know what to do. She's not my girlfriend so I don't know if I'm supposed to kiss her everytime I see her or what. Should I? Oh, and I'm not going to have sex with her, but we are going to do everything that comes before it.[/QUOTE]
Well, that is the whole point of friends with benefits. You can do a bunch of stuff that you'd do in a normal relationship without it actually being a relationship.

[QUOTE=KurtCobain2902]Me and this girl are "friends with benefits". I think it's going to be fun, but I don't really know what to do. She's not my girlfriend so I don't know if I'm supposed to kiss her everytime I see her or what. Should I? Oh, and I'm not going to have sex with her, but we are going to do everything that comes before it.[/QUOTE]
Nah you just tend to act normal when you're not doing stuff. My mate has a 'friend with benefits' and they just act like normal mates when they're not at it. It's fine as long as you both agree you won't get emotionally attached and you're safe (although that doesn't really apply if you guys aren't having sex).

cool thanks.

Yeah I just don't want to end up like one of those teenage kids that screwed up their life by having a kid when they're 16.

[QUOTE=KurtCobain2902]cool thanks.

Yeah I just don't want to end up like one of those teenage kids that screwed up their life by having a kid when they're 16.[/QUOTE]
Yeah just be careful. Buy some condoms just in case you guys get caught up in the heat of the moment.

quick question, its not that important i dont think. but ive been really distant from everyone lately, like freinds that i would always talk to is just like akward silence or if there is alot of people im really quiet unless something comes up that i have strong feelings on like music and stuff like that.i dont know if my friends hate me or not, they say they dont but it seems like they do. because i think they hate me, most of the time i try not to talk to them cause i dont want to be that kid who everyone hates but no one is willing to the tell em. yet when i do avoid them they get mad at me, so ill try to talk to them but again they dont say anything to me, and i feel like they dont want me there.
i can be passive-aggresive (i think its called), i can get really defensive, and and i can be a huge jerk. ill make fun of people i like, even when i know it'll piss them off. or ill make fun of them about something that they see as really important. its really annoying and i end up regretting it but i wont really say anything cause they wont talk to me for a day then it goes back to normal. This may be why they hate me so much.

I've never had a close relation with my family and im fine with that.
im 15 so is this just like a teenage thing that just suksass.im also really paranoid about people so is it just that. its been like this now for like last october.

o one more thing,i dont want to ask them if they hate me cause it'll be strage and if they dont itll be worse.also i dont like confrentation so i try not to bring it up.

[SIZE="1"](if theres any grammer/spelling errors srry, tell me and ill fix it. also srry if its really confusing any questions just ask)[/SIZE]

edit: learn how to write

yea like i said sorry abot the crappy posting, when im trying to write/say something thats in my head its all comes out really messed up, and incoherent. so srry. also with spelling ive never been good it at.

[QUOTE=mullets suk]quick question, its not that important i dont think. but ive been really distant from everyone lately, like freinds that i would always talk to is just like akward silence or if there is alot of people im really quiet unless something comes up that i have strong feelings on like music and stuff like that.i dont know if my friends hate me or not, they say they dont but it seems like they do. because i think they hate me, most of the time i try not to talk to them cause i dont want to be that kid who everyone hates but no one is willing to the tell em. yet when i do avoid them they get mad at me, so ill try to talk to them but again they dont say anything to me, and i feel like they dont want me there.
i can be passive-aggresive (i think its called), i can get really defensive, and and i can be a huge jerk. ill make fun of people i like, even when i know it'll piss them off. or ill make fun of them about something that they see as really important. its really annoying and i end up regretting it but i wont really say anything cause they wont talk to me for a day then it goes back to normal. This may be why they hate me so much.

I've never had a close relation with my family and im fine with that.
im 15 so is this just like a teenage thing that just suksass.im also really paranoid about people so is it just that. its been like this now for like last october.

o one more thing,i dont want to ask them if they hate me cause it'll be strage and if they dont itll be worse.also i dont like confrentation so i try not to bring it up.

[SIZE="1"](if theres any grammer/spelling errors srry, tell me and ill fix it. also srry if its really confusing any questions just ask)[/SIZE][/QUOTE]
I'm not really sure what you're asking, but rephrase me a question and I'll try to help. :)

yea again sorry about the post. i guess wot im askin is, is this normal? ive been secound guessing weather my freinds are actully freinds or they were just there saying they were my freind. and i cant ask them and so im askin you guys if this is just part of getting older?, the whole Distancing from freinds part.

I think he has the same problem as me. He's just antisocial and doesn't know how to act in coversation, unless the subject is sometign he's passionate or knowledgeable about, like music. He makes fun of people and is passive-aggressive, which puts people off, and he's not meaning it to harm anyone, he's just trying to have fun. If he's like me, he's probabl extremely sacastic too. he's paranoid about other people's intents and actions, and isn't able to really get close to people like he would like, and he's growing apart from his previous friends.

That's what I gathered, and that sounds exactly like me, and I'm doing alright. Don't worry about it mullets. I don't know how to solve the problem, but you get used to it eventually. I literally have no friends, other than some girls, and I've found out they're only my friends because they hae crushes on me. :/

The only thing you can do is try to be less insulting and aggressive, and try to stay positive and friendly. Force yourself to say something in conversations even when you don't know what to say, and don't worry if they don't want you there. if people don't like you, you'll find out and find some new people to hang out with. usually try to find people who have similar interests, such as music tastes or video games or something.

[QUOTE=mullets suk]yea again sorry about the post. i guess wot im askin is, is this normal? ive been secound guessing weather my freinds are actully freinds or they were just there saying they were my freind. and i cant ask them and so im askin you guys if this is just part of getting older?, the whole Distancing from freinds part.[/QUOTE]
Yes, it's part of getting older. If they didn't want to be your friend, they wouldn't boher with, so don't worry about it. Just go hangout and make as many friends as you can, even with people you don't currently know.

Having friends makes life much easier and less depressing.

Don't worry about it.

Yeah, I'd say it's pretty normal. What you need to realize, though, is that they don't really matter to you. They don't like you? So what. You don't need them to get by. You can do perfectly fine with just yourself to deal with. :)


Edit: Whoa contrasting advice

[QUOTE]I think he has the same problem as me. He's just antisocial and doesn't know how to act in coversation, unless the subject is sometign he's passionate or knowledgeable about, like music. He makes fun of people and is passive-aggressive, which puts people off, and he's not meaning it to harm anyone, he's just trying to have fun. If he's like me, he's probabl extremely sacastic too. he's paranoid about other people's intents and actions, and isn't able to really get close to people like he would like, and he's growing apart from his previous friends.[/QUOTE]congrats for interpreting what he said

That actually sounds quite like me - I'm constantly afraid that I come across as either miserable and taciturn or, when I do speak, just dull and irritating.

dunno how the internets is really going to help

Not contrasting. I just put more words and stuff in mine. We both told him not to worry about it, just i told him how he can make himself some new friends to replace the old, if they do turnout not to like him or something, which I highly doubt.