[QUOTE=moghes69]if you really loved your girlfriend you wouldn't even think about dumping her for the other girl. and if you really liked the other girl, you wouldn't care about killing your social reputation.[/QUOTE]


yeah, he's right. But, to be fair, i know i would put my friends before a girl, but my general social standing, no.

[QUOTE=camelfarmer]This is my view on it :

If you really like her tell her. That's what I did, even though the girl lives in a different country to me and we only see each other during holidays. However I'm going to live in the same country and like an hour and a half away in september so it's not hopeless. Also she is coming here (within 10 min's of my house) in August. She's leaving today after spending 3 weeks with me.

This is the thing, even though it's tough we make it work. It's just patience. The thing is I couldn't live without her so I had no choice. I had to tell her.

Just do it.[/QUOTE]

was that to me or pazz?

[QUOTE=Junooni]was that to me or pazz?[/QUOTE]
I'm pretty sure it was meant to you. matches your situation better than his.

Quick, someone give me something witty to say to a girl on MSN, haha. I can't get a conversation started, as usual.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I'm pretty sure it was meant to you. matches your situation better than his.

Quick, someone give me something witty to say to a girl on MSN, haha. I can't get a conversation started, as usual.[/QUOTE]
"I've got a rumbly in my tumbly, what shall I have to eat?"

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]"I've got a rumbly in my tumbly, what shall I have to eat?"[/QUOTE]
Haha... that's just creepy.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I'm pretty sure it was meant to you. matches your situation better than his.

Quick, someone give me something witty to say to a girl on MSN, haha. I can't get a conversation started, as usual.[/QUOTE]

How are you?

Not witty whatsoever, but always works for me.

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]Haha... that's just creepy.[/QUOTE]
Ok *taps head thoughtfully*

Umm....

"sup"

:D :D :D :D

Hey guys, you might not care because I haven't been as active in this thread as I once was, but my girlfriend told me she loves me and you have no idea how great I feel. But before anyone starts in with the whole "you don't know love" thing I'd like to say that neither of us are the type of people to throw that word around. So when she said I knew she meant it.

Chaindrive I'm sooo happy! Thanks for all your advice when I first got here.

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]:D

Hey guys, you might not care because I haven't been as active in this thread as I once was, but my girlfriend told me she loves me and you have no idea how great I feel. But before anyone starts in with the whole "you don't know love" thing I'd like to say that neither of us are the type of people to throw that word around. So when she said I knew she meant it.

Chaindrive I'm sooo happy! Thanks for all your advice when I first got here.[/QUOTE]


sweet, good for you man, glad to hear it :)

I hate when people throw the word around.

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]:D :D :D

Hey guys, you might not care because I haven't been as active in this thread as I once was, but my girlfriend told me she loves me and you have no idea how great I feel. But before anyone starts in with the whole "you don't know love" thing I'd like to say that neither of us are the type of people to throw that word around. So when she said I knew she meant it.

Chaindrive I'm sooo happy! Thanks for all your advice when I first got here.[/QUOTE]

I'm happy you're happy. And you're welcome. :)

I really dig this one chick at school and we've been friends since 7th grade (we're sophomores in high school now) and she says she likes me too but says she doesn't want a bf right now so: question 1: is she saying that because she doesn't want to make me feel like a loser or does she mean it?and question 2: If she really does like me should I try to convince her to be my gf or just wait until she changes her mind?

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I'm pretty sure it was meant to you. matches your situation better than his.

Quick, someone give me something witty to say to a girl on MSN, haha. I can't get a conversation started, as usual.[/QUOTE]


Yeah, I was just a wee bit confused because Pazz responded.

[QUOTE=timi_hendrix]I really dig this one chick at school and we've been friends since 7th grade (we're sophomores in high school now) and she says she likes me too but says she doesn't want a bf right now so: question 1: is she saying that because she doesn't want to make me feel like a loser or does she mean it?and question 2: If she really does like me should I try to convince her to be my gf or just wait until she changes her mind?[/QUOTE]

1. If she says she likes you but doesn't want a boyfriend, you should respect that. Maybe she feels that she's not ready for a commitment, so she doesn't want to half-as[font=verdana]s[/font] a relationship with you since that wouldn't be fair to you. That's certainly possible.

2. See 1. You should respect her decision and continue to be a great friend. When she feels ready to commit, you'll be there in the wings. But don't force anything, because it could ruin the dynamic of your friendship.

Well, I haven't been on in a long time, and when I was here, I didn't stay long, but I need some help, and I couldn't think of anywhere else to go so....

Basically what is going on is, I was talking to my girlfriend (we have been friends for quite a few years, and a few months ago we decided on the 'couple' thing) and she told me that she didn't know how much longer she can be in this relationship, and that she is looking for a real relationship, and that she isn't getting that while being with me...

I can understand where she is coming from, I don't really treat her much like my girlfriend, I don't know why, but when I'm around her, I can't seem to do anything right...

One of my problems is I'm not good with the 'public affection' thing... and we are around each other all the time, but it is always some kind of function.

Anyway, we both really like each other, and don't want to breakup... and we both agreed to work on it... I just need some advice on what I should be doing as a boyfriend...

I know I probably sound like a 12 year old kid, but I am new to the whole relationship thing and I could use a little help, I don't want to screw this up, I have never cared about anyone as much as I care about her...

So, if you guys have any advice for me it would be much appreciated...

Thanks in advance....

Why are you not good at PDAs? Does it make you uncomfortable?

Yeah, kinda... I know I shouldn't let it make me uncomfortable... but I can't really help it....

And today I asked her to go do something just the two of us, but we are both really busy, so I don't know when that is going to happen... The last time we went out was about two months ago....

So, I guess getting used to the public display of affection is my only choice... And I know it's stupid, but really have a hard time with that....

It's not stupid at all...some people have a hard time with it.

[QUOTE=Junooni]Yeah, I was just a wee bit confused because Pazz responded.[/QUOTE]

I'm good at confusing people...:p

No worries, mate. I like making people feel guilty. We all have that one thing we can do to mess with peoples' heads.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]It's not stupid at all...some people have a hard time with it.[/QUOTE]

Thanks, that makes me feel a little better, but I know that if I keep letting it get to me, that I'm going to lose her... and I really don't want that to happen... especially over something as small as me being uncomfortable with being affectionate to her in public....

Sometimes it's a really big deal to people. No one says you have to do something you're uncomfortable with. Have you explained it to her?

Yeah, I have, and she has told me that she understands, but she wants more out of our relationship, and neither of us really have allot of time for just us... But she is willing to work at it and so am I.... so hopefully everything will turn out alright... I just kinda panicked a little when she told me that she didn't know how much longer things were going to last....

That was probably just a dig. Probably not anything to worry about.

But if you're really uncomfortable with PDAs don't do it. It's not worth it.

Allright, thanks for the advice.

I'm not so worried/upset anymore... Thanks much.

You're welcome. :)

Yea, what kimmie said.


If you're not cool with doing something, don't do it. Explain it to your partner.

This should cross over to everything. No ifs ands or buts.

Exactly what Jake said. Sometimes this has to be non-negotiable.

Just wait till you get in more, intimate waters.

I can't handle PDAs at all. I find them irritating from a personal standpoint. I just don't see the use out of them, and in a girl, it shows signs of being ultra-clingy and that's no fun to feel like you're getting suffocated in public for all to see.

Sure, some girl can be like YEAH THAT'S MY BOYFRIEND WHAT YOU LOOKIN' AT SUCKA and some guy can be like YOU SEE THIS GIRL WITH MY TOUNGE DOWN HER THROAT I'M TAPPIN' THAT AS[font=verdana]S[/font] but I'm not like that.

Yea, I am usually pretty uncomfortable-to a point.

I think a kiss in public is ok. But to see folks suckin face in public-meh. Get a damn room. Christ.

I like PDAs. I don't see how people would have a problem with it. =\

I'm not real comfortable with PDAs either. Like Jake said, a quick kiss in public is alright, but if someone grabs my [size=2]a[/size]ss, I'm gonna deck him.

Meh, I always associated PDAs with sucking each others' faces off, not kisses.

There's a difference between sucking each others' faces off and kisses.

Uh, yes, hence me grouping one without the other.

I'd be pretty uncomfortable like making out in front of people anyways. No problem with a quick kiss though.

I can see how making out and things would be uncomfortable. But simple stuff like kissing, hugging, or whatever, I don't see how that could be a problem.

Strange story...for those who know what happened with me and Julia.

While I was walking through the hallway to go to my first class, she handed me a picture of me and her from the last dance. I was thinking WTF. I'm not upset or anything, just puzzled.

I hate PDA. Im' in high school so I see it every day. Maybe the reason I hate it so much is because they BLOCK the halls and BLOCK the door to my classrooms and make me late?

[QUOTE=real_low_mind]I hate PDA. Im' in high school so I see it every day. Maybe the reason I hate it so much is because they BLOCK the halls and BLOCK the door to my classrooms and make me late?[/QUOTE]
PDA isn't allowed at my school :)