Not really a relationships issue, but something I need to get off my chest.

This weekend is the annual Spring festival on campus. I was getting ready all month to come out of my shell once and for all. I've been rehearsing a magic routine, had some good stories to tell, and was getting myself primed to just be able to start a conversation with anybody at any time.

Last night, it's pouring rain. Today, it's cold, damp, miserable, and the clouds still haven't passed. The shuttle off-campus was already cancelled months in advance for this event, but the weather has led to all but two of the events of the day being cancelled. No one's going out. Everyone's just sitting in with their roommates and getting drunk.

So I'm basically all dressed up with nowhere to go. I feel cheated.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Not really a relationships issue, but something I need to get off my chest.

This weekend is the annual Spring festival on campus. I was getting ready all month to come out of my shell once and for all. I've been rehearsing a magic routine, had some good stories to tell, and was getting myself primed to just be able to start a conversation with anybody at any time.

Last night, it's pouring rain. Today, it's cold, damp, miserable, and the clouds still haven't passed. The shuttle off-campus was already cancelled months in advance for this event, but the weather has led to all but two of the events of the day being cancelled. No one's going out. Everyone's just sitting in with their roommates and getting drunk.

So I'm basically all dressed up with nowhere to go. I feel cheated.[/QUOTE]

Sorry to hear that man. Do you have a roommate? And if so what is he up to? Maybe you could hang out with some people that way? Just a thought.

Dang, that sucks. Are they going to postpone the cancelled events?

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Not really a relationships issue, but something I need to get off my chest.

This weekend is the annual Spring festival on campus. I was getting ready all month to come out of my shell once and for all. I've been rehearsing a magic routine, had some good stories to tell, and was getting myself primed to just be able to start a conversation with anybody at any time.

Last night, it's pouring rain. Today, it's cold, damp, miserable, and the clouds still haven't passed. The shuttle off-campus was already cancelled months in advance for this event, but the weather has led to all but two of the events of the day being cancelled. No one's going out. Everyone's just sitting in with their roommates and getting drunk.

So I'm basically all dressed up with nowhere to go. I feel cheated.[/QUOTE]
Perform for your roommate? :)

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Dang, that sucks. Are they going to postpone the cancelled events?[/QUOTE]

Cancel. The possibility of another thunderstorm isn't expected to move on until Monday.

[QUOTE=c0ld_3mphasis05]Perform for your roommate? :)[/QUOTE]

My friends have been my guinea pigs and critics for the last 4 months.

Hi All. Just wanted to drop by to complain since its been a while again...

My gf and me are going really well and its been 2 months almost. Something is different with her and we can actaully talk on deeper issues and say what we need fixed. Heck, we are even in a band outside of school together, and I finally have someone to have read my lyrics, listen to music, etc..

Anywho... Her mom and her have a lot of problems and I guess always have. She is just really protective and I understand this but I have been trying to get her not appreciate me more and its not working. I was gonna get a ride with her to go to my gfs soccer game and they pass right by my house but her mom says she isnt ready for her daughter to go out in public with boys... She is 15, and in my opinion that is old enough. Especially since her mom could have her eye on me the whole time anyway if it was the soccer game.

So far we have never gone anywhere and the only chance we can see eachother outside of school is at either jazz band (not the band i was talking about earlier) or at dances. There is another one in a couple weeks that I am gonna ask her to and am gonna hope that her mom lets her go.

The thing that really pisses me off is that I am a straight A kid, band officer in high school band, have honors in like, everything, in track, and have nothing negative to my name, and she continues to think I am bad.

I dunno why I took the time to type this. I guess just because I needed to vent. As a regular in here I never really drop by either so yea.

People like your girlfriend's mom bother me a bit. They do a perfectly fine job raising their kids up until a certain point, at which they don't want to let go. I know a bunch of parents like that.

[QUOTE=halfdeadhippo]People like your girlfriend's mom bother me a bit. They do a perfectly fine job raising their kids up until a certain point, at which they don't want to let go. I know a bunch of parents like that.[/QUOTE]

It sucks. Everything is so great until that one age comes around and then they refuse to move on. We ahve talked about some of the hell she has beent through lately and its taking its toll. I guess all i can say is oh well, make the best of it.

you guys want to hear something funny. I swear, this came right out of the movies. This girl likes me. I don't like her, but like her best friend. hahahahaha. I told her, because she asked what was bothering me. She got real quiet and emo and depressed. I explained that I wasn't going to go off and date her best friend and ditch her or anything. She still types out sentences with "......." at the end and has away messages like "Sometimes I just wish I could take a break from life" or "Not again..." because apparently every guy she likes falls for her best friend. So yeah, school Monday = awkward as balls.

[QUOTE=pohl_56]Hi All. Just wanted to drop by to complain since its been a while again...

My gf and me are going really well and its been 2 months almost. Something is different with her and we can actaully talk on deeper issues and say what we need fixed. Heck, we are even in a band outside of school together, and I finally have someone to have read my lyrics, listen to music, etc..

Anywho... Her mom and her have a lot of problems and I guess always have. She is just really protective and I understand this but I have been trying to get her not appreciate me more and its not working. I was gonna get a ride with her to go to my gfs soccer game and they pass right by my house but her mom says she isnt ready for her daughter to go out in public with boys... She is 15, and in my opinion that is old enough. Especially since her mom could have her eye on me the whole time anyway if it was the soccer game.

So far we have never gone anywhere and the only chance we can see eachother outside of school is at either jazz band (not the band i was talking about earlier) or at dances. There is another one in a couple weeks that I am gonna ask her to and am gonna hope that her mom lets her go.

The thing that really pisses me off is that I am a straight A kid, band officer in high school band, have honors in like, everything, in track, and have nothing negative to my name, and she continues to think I am bad.

I dunno why I took the time to type this. I guess just because I needed to vent. As a regular in here I never really drop by either so yea.[/QUOTE]
Dude, you're pretty much telling my story, minus the honors stuff.
My ex is 14. Her mom said she was too young to be having "physical relationships".

And, while I don't have all that stuff to my name that you do (:p ), I'm still a generally good guy.
Well, even though we broke up, I talked to her parents(while we were still going out). I told them how much I liked her, and that I could respect their wishes, but I still wanted to be able to date her, even if it was under their supervision a lot of the time.

Basically, what I'm saying is, don't give up with her parents. Convince them that you're a good guy, and good enough for their daughter. Even if they are still skeptical at first, which I take it they have been, don't give up. Keep talking to them. That shows them that you're not just some guy, but you're a guy whose not gonna give her up without first doing everything you can.

Hope this helped.

[QUOTE=Tillius]Dude, you're pretty much telling my story, minus the honors stuff.
My ex is 14. Her mom said she was too young to be having "physical relationships".

And, while I don't have all that stuff to my name that you do (:p ), I'm still a generally good guy.
Well, even though we broke up, I talked to her parents(while we were still going out). I told them how much I liked her, and that I could respect their wishes, but I still wanted to be able to date her, even if it was under their supervision a lot of the time.

Basically, what I'm saying is, don't give up with her parents. Convince them that you're a good guy, and good enough for their daughter. Even if they are still skeptical at first, which I take it they have been, don't give up. Keep talking to them. That shows them that you're not just some guy, but you're a guy whose not gonna give her up without first doing everything you can.

Hope this helped.[/QUOTE]

I am basically trying to inch my way up more and more on their approval ratings whenever I can so thats a plus. Plus my band teacher who has had my gf as a student for like, 7 years knows her mom very well and is putting in some good words. We get along great and he is actaully the one that told her mom about us. But yea.

We shall see. As long as things dont get effed over by anything else.

So how is the recovery from your car accident back like, a month ago?

[QUOTE=The Buttloaves]you guys want to hear something funny. I swear, this came right out of the movies. This girl likes me. I don't like her, but like her best friend. hahahahaha. I told her, because she asked what was bothering me. She got real quiet and emo and depressed. I explained that I wasn't going to go off and date her best friend and ditch her or anything. She still types out sentences with "......." at the end and has away messages like "Sometimes I just wish I could take a break from life" or "Not again..." because apparently every guy she likes falls for her best friend. So yeah, school Monday = awkward as balls.[/QUOTE]
That is funny

I used to know a chick like that, except not the whole "best friend thing". We were goin out and things were fine then we didnt talk for about a week, so she e-mailed me, dumping me. I was like "WTF ok". Neway about a month later she sends me all these e-mails saying "take me bak" and what not. Next i (plus other ppl) get e-mails about her complaining saying "how could i ever let him go" and "why doesn't he love me the way i love him" and "I cut my self becoz of the way he treats me". So now i'm like [U][B]WTF[/B][/U]. So yeah the other day i saw her, feeling very awkward @ bball. She came up to me hugged me tried talking to me, i made up an excuse, and backed away. True story.

[QUOTE=pohl_56]I am basically trying to inch my way up more and more on their approval ratings whenever I can so thats a plus. Plus my band teacher who has had my gf as a student for like, 7 years knows her mom very well and is putting in some good words. We get along great and he is actaully the one that told her mom about us. But yea.

We shall see. As long as things dont get effed over by anything else.

So how is the recovery from your car accident back like, a month ago?[/QUOTE]
Actually, it was about 2 1/2 months ago, and I'm doing pretty good.

My liver is still healing, so I can't do the do for another few weeks, but other than that.....:thumb:
Thanks for asking.

My best friend is like that, 'cause she has a crush on me and I won't date her. It's very annoying.

[EDIT: To the posts above Mitch's.]

[QUOTE=Tillius]Actually, it was about 2 1/2 months ago, and I'm doing pretty good.

My liver is still healing, so I can't do the do for another few weeks, but other than that.....:thumb:
Thanks for asking.[/QUOTE]

Shows how much time has been flying lately for me. Well, good that you are healing. I'm out for the night and thanks for the chat.

To buttloaves or whatever... Dont ya just love it when things come outta the movies? I dont know if I gave you guys the story about the breakup last year with a voicemail.. Well yea. quite amusing. Maybe ill bring it up tomorow.

Well I'm out. G'night thread

Hey, I've been around here for awhile just reading what people say, but pohl's situation sounds kind of like mine...only mine seems even more difficult to solve in terms of parents that won't listen. Anyway, I'll try to make this as short as possible ;).

Well, I am 18 and my boyfriend is 21. He's my second boyfriend and I'm his first girlfriend (no, all of you who are 15 and don't have a bf/gf are not losers ;p). Anyway, after we had been going out for about a month or so, my boyfriend tells his mother about me. She seems to be fine with it and asks questions about me like any mother would, which made me happy as he seemed worried about telling her.

A couple weeks later she comes here to visit him for christmas (he's from Turkey and goes to the same university as me as an international student), and a few days later they come to my city for about four days and visit me. Everything, as before, seems to be going ok. His mother is a bit stressful because when she gets her mind set on something she has to have it, as well on top of that she speaks a very limited amount of english :confused:. Anyway, I take them all over my city and they meet my family and all goes well. I try to talk to her as best that I can, I try to do everything she wants, I keep my hands very far away from her son when we're in front of her. They leave for Montreal, and I think everything is fine.

Apparently, it wasn't. I got an email from my boyfriend about three days later that told me his mother freaked out at him and told him to never introduce me to her as his girlfriend again. He tries to argue with her, but then she comes up with BS and somewhat hurtful reasons he shouldn't go out with me such as the fact that my parents are divorced (she's catholic...and I remember something about catholics thinking divorce is really bad..but still, how does this reflect on me? :/), that I act like a "cold european" (hem..she made me drive her around all day and 1. I was very tired and 2. I'm kind of shy and don't always talk a ton :S) and some other stupid things about me. She then went on about him being too young (what the hell..the guy's 21..:mad:) and other things like that about him. (This part is more of an angry rant from me than anything else hehe).

So, he tells her we'll just be friends without fighting too much because she has the power and money to make him go back to Turkey and go to school. Meanwhile, in reality we're still going out and almost everyone he knows other than her knows about it. She lives in Turkey so it's not that difficult to get away with. It's now been about four months since then and I love him very much. Saying that, I know we can't keep this a secret forever if we ever want this relationship to have a chance of amounting to anything significant. The only hope of getting help that we can think of is my boyfriend's father, who is not at all controlling like his mother. The problem is he might have to convince him to fight her with him as his father tends to just agree with what his mother says.

My boyfriend is the only son of an extremely possessive mother and I don't know what to do to safely convince her to change her mind without her freaking out again. If anyone can think of[SIZE=5] ANYTHING [SIZE=2]I would be extremely appreciative :).[/SIZE][/SIZE]

Wow, she sounds like a serious wacko.

I know...I think she might be :(

I thought your name said Cocaine bunny and it reminded me of that one animation with the bunny that's like "I'M EXTREEEEEEEEEME".

The one Jom had as an avatar once.

Haha I loved that bunny.

I saw a bunny tonight outside. It was cute.

My relationship problems stem from a lack of being unable to meet new people. And therefore have no relevance to this thread really. I don't even know why I post here half the time. I just like the poeple here I guess.

Seeing as how she's miles away from you and him, she can't control him like a puppet. And I sincerely doubt that she would jeopardize her only son's happiness by restricting you. She may be a nutjob, but she wouldn't do that.

You could possibly talk to his father, but why push the issue? It's going to be up to your boyfriend - not you - to say that you guys are together. If he's so insecure that he can't stand up to his mother in regards to a relationship he's been in, that doesn't say much about him, now, does it.

Anyways, as I was saying, it's up to him to 'break it' to his mother. It seems like his mother is genuinely interested in his happiness, so she wouldn't disrupt that. She may not like you, but she'll come around. She shouldn't have judged you on a one-time incident.

He swears she would have said the same type of stuff even if I had been a heaven-sent angel. He asked her why she didn't tell him when he told her we were going out the first time on the phone. She said the only reason was because she didn't want to make him sad when she wasn't there :/. I think she judges anyone that could possibly "take away" her son in a negative way. Oh, I forgot to mention that she insists he should marry a girl that is either Armenian or Turkish.UGH.

Anyway, I hope you're right and she will turn around. Most of my friends say she will too. I guess I'll have to just hope it works out :/.

[QUOTE=cokecanbunny]Oh, I forgot to mention that she insists he should marry a girl that is either Armenian or Turkish.UGH.[/QUOTE]

That's no surprise... Korean and Middle Eastern women aren't fond of mixing of bloodlines.

[QUOTE=halfdeadhippo]People like your girlfriend's mom bother me a bit. They do a perfectly fine job raising their kids up until a certain point, at which they don't want to let go. I know a bunch of parents like that.[/QUOTE]

People like that bother me too, I have an uncle who wont allow his 15 year old child to go to public school or even watch television or listen to the radio, and can only watch a small handfull of movies selected by him.

Wow... it's good to be back. I haven't posted in like... forever


Anyways...

Me and this girl have been like BEST friends for a few years now. we're so close that our friendship played a big role in ending a previous relationship for each of us. i.e. both my ex and her ex thought we had something going on
...

But now, we're both single and we spend almost every free minute we have together. people around us including our parents think we are going out, but we're not. We go to movies, hang out with our friends together, and all of the stuff i'd normally do with any friend, at my house she'd take the love seat, and i'd lay on the couch and we'll watch movies or just talk, or whatever... but lately things have been changing.

Mainly within the last week and i guess a bit in the last month, we are always sitting next to each other, either holding hands or i'll have my arm(s) around her. we've never spoken about changing the dynamics of our relationship... I've never kissed her face. i've kissed her hand once, and the top of her head. that's only signifigant because i'm terrified of what might happen to us if i kiss her on the mouth. If we start a relationship we jeopardize everything we have. and She means more than the world to me. i'd gladly die i her place, and I just can't handle the thought of losing her as a friend. i'm at a point now that i realize that either i'll end up marrying her eventually (i'm 18, she's 17... it'll be a while...), or i'll settle for a whole lot less, or I'll be single for the rest of my life.

I guess I'm just terrified of screwing things up for us, I don't know how to ask her if she's done with being "just friends"... but I know i need to ask her or i'll go crazy. so now i'll ask all of you what you would do if you were me. thanks...

[QUOTE=Jerk_217]Wow... it's good to be back. I haven't posted in like... forever


Anyways...

Me and this girl have been like BEST friends for a few years now. we're so close that our friendship played a big role in ending a previous relationship for each of us. i.e. both my ex and her ex thought we had something going on
...

But now, we're both single and we spend almost every free minute we have together. people around us including our parents think we are going out, but we're not. We go to movies, hang out with our friends together, and all of the stuff i'd normally do with any friend, at my house she'd take the love seat, and i'd lay on the couch and we'll watch movies or just talk, or whatever... but lately things have been changing.

Mainly within the last week and i guess a bit in the last month, we are always sitting next to each other, either holding hands or i'll have my arm(s) around her. we've never spoken about changing the dynamics of our relationship... I've never kissed her face. i've kissed her hand once, and the top of her head. that's only signifigant because i'm terrified of what might happen to us if i kiss her on the mouth. If we start a relationship we jeopardize everything we have. and She means more than the world to me. i'd gladly die i her place, and I just can't handle the thought of losing her as a friend. i'm at a point now that i realize that either i'll end up marrying her eventually (i'm 18, she's 17... it'll be a while...), or i'll settle for a whole lot less, or I'll be single for the rest of my life.

I guess I'm just terrified of screwing things up for us, I don't know how to ask her if she's done with being "just friends"... but I know i need to ask her or i'll go crazy. so now i'll ask all of you what you would do if you were me. thanks...[/QUOTE]

You need to tell her how you feel, thats the only thing thats going to do it. Just because you get in a relationship with her doesn't mean that you won't still be freinds if somehow it doesn't work. Being freinds for so long you can probably count on that she's always going to love you even if it is as a freind, so I dont think having a relationship will screw up anything between you guys, so no "jepardizing" will occur naturally. You talked about getting married to her... well... personally I've always beleived that its very important to be freinds with your spouse as well. Your going to be spending the rest of your life together, so you cant be lovers every second of the day, you have to have fun with eachother sometime! Obviously there is a strong bond, and that is a major plus. If things have been changing the way you said they are (holding hands and all that jazz) that she has feelings for you too.

So in short:

Get over being afraid. Nothing bad will happen. She loves you back.

So good luck stud:cool:

being friends with your lover/girlfriend/whatever is absolutly key.

Its common myth that dating your friends is bad because it will ruin the relationship after you break up....while that may be true, the best relationships are the ones with friends.

And if you guys are friends, then it shouldn't be a problem when you two break up.

So go right ahead.

[QUOTE=Seafroggys]being friends with your lover/girlfriend/whatever is absolutly key.

Its common myth that dating your friends is bad because it will ruin the relationship after you break up....while that may be true, the best relationships are the ones with friends.

And if you guys are friends, then it shouldn't be a problem when you two break up.

So go right ahead.[/QUOTE]

How is it a myth if it is true? :eek:

[QUOTE=Jerk_217]Wow... it's good to be back. I haven't posted in like... forever


Anyways...

Me and this girl have been like BEST friends for a few years now. we're so close that our friendship played a big role in ending a previous relationship for each of us. i.e. both my ex and her ex thought we had something going on
...

But now, we're both single and we spend almost every free minute we have together. people around us including our parents think we are going out, but we're not. We go to movies, hang out with our friends together, and all of the stuff i'd normally do with any friend, at my house she'd take the love seat, and i'd lay on the couch and we'll watch movies or just talk, or whatever... but lately things have been changing.

Mainly within the last week and i guess a bit in the last month, we are always sitting next to each other, either holding hands or i'll have my arm(s) around her. we've never spoken about changing the dynamics of our relationship... I've never kissed her face. i've kissed her hand once, and the top of her head. that's only signifigant because i'm terrified of what might happen to us if i kiss her on the mouth. If we start a relationship we jeopardize everything we have. and She means more than the world to me. i'd gladly die i her place, and I just can't handle the thought of losing her as a friend. i'm at a point now that i realize that either i'll end up marrying her eventually (i'm 18, she's 17... it'll be a while...), or i'll settle for a whole lot less, or I'll be single for the rest of my life.

I guess I'm just terrified of screwing things up for us, I don't know how to ask her if she's done with being "just friends"... but I know i need to ask her or i'll go crazy. so now i'll ask all of you what you would do if you were me. thanks...[/QUOTE]
Wow, we are in pretty much the same position except that my friend and i are 3 yrs younger. I love hanging out with her, and i could tell her anything. she's so fun and crazy, and she's quite unique. We hang out @ each others houses cos she lives down the road. At one of our school socials we were hanging out having a mad time, and that was the first time i liked liked her. anyway she told me she wanted to make out with someone and i was to shy to make a move so i just kept hanging out. neway while i was getting a drink she ran up to me all excited, and she said " I just kissed Joe." Joe being my bestfriend. I was pretty cut but i didnt let either of them no it, and 4 the next week joe was an arse to her so she got really upset (it was also her first kiss). So one day I was talking to her and i told her that i really wanted to kiss her @ the social, and she was like :o oh i wish you told me, i really wish i kissed you instead of him. I haven't said anything more about the subject but i felt so stupid afterwoods. I hung out @ her place last night and just talked and watched moviesand we had a mad time. I love being her friend, and i wanna see what happens for about two weeks until i confront her about how i feel.


long story short, tell her:D

Ok, so its my turn to share a problem.

Basically I really like this girl and Ive only known her for about a month but we are very close and she knows I like her and I think she likes me too. She's amazingly friendly and sweet. Basically yesterday we were going to town but for certain reasons we couldnt. On MSN I told her I was going to ask her out today and I couldnt wait another day and asked her. I told her obviously she didnt have to answer me there and then and I said that I do hope I wasnt rushing things.

She said she thought I liked her and basically said that I would have to wait for my answer. Basically my theory is that if she liked me that much she would have said yes surely, not 'I need to think about things'?

sup guys....long time....

well lately i ran into a little scenario here..

It all happened when 2 months ago, this really hot girl (hotest in our grade) started taking the bus service, and so she started taking my bus.. Well i didnt really know her and at the beginning of the year i was considering getting to know her better...but i realised my very good friend beat me to it and soon they liked each other... and well i always say friendship first... and i didnt wana mess around there too much and i lost interest... but when she came into the bus...i was this joky, humorous, sunshine of the day with everyone on that bus, and a flirty guy with her.. there was another guy like me but i beat him in the competition... and well as days went by... a lot of tickling...a lot of flirting... touching.... wrestling (haha) and all that happened between me and her.... now at this point i knew she had a boyfriend and well, i wasnt trying to get her with me or anythng, its just the way i am.... 2 weeks after she joined my bus....we knew each other better i guess....afterschool on the bus i took my guitar and i was playing here and there and she came to sit next to me and she was wearing this really pretty red top.. (there had been some flirting on the school before) and well i put my guitar down and i find myself talking with her.... all of a sudden, she puts her head on my shoulder...i thoguht it was normal since she has done it before.... so i kept talking and then.. she takes my hands which were sitting on my lap.. and im like oooookkkkk.....and well i realised what was kinda happening and played along... i put my head over her head... she kissed my hands a couple of times and all that...later on...her bus stop was coming... then i said to myself, if you have a chance with this girl, the chance is now, so i asked her, hey, i thoguht you had a bf? shes like no, we broke up 10 days ago.. so i asked her if i could kiss her and shes said yea, you dont have to ask sweety and i kissed her... then she left and i started thinking, and i came to the conclusion that i wouldnt wrap myself around this becasue if she didnt like me, i wouldnt like to get disapointed, she sent me an email saying that she had just broken up, and has been hurt many times, and she needs some space and time, and that she wont be so clingy towards me as before for a while, so im like ok no problem, take your time... weeks passed and i broke my promess, i was falling for this girl she wasnt only hot, but i loved the way she was, and the way she smiled, so bad, like ive never fallen to a girl before, my day good, or bad, would depend if we talked in school, if we hugged or dint hug, if we flirted or didnt.... i had good days and i had very bad days, and holidays came and i didnt talk to her at all... and i tried doing some really sweet things to her, like i had a concert and i sang a song, and i was gona call her onstage and dedicat e the song to her on the phone but i called before in the intermission to make sure she pick up her phone and well she didnt answer, (when i told her what i was gona do...back at school, she teared and went red and said sorry and all that, you should have seen her face) when the holidays finished first day of scvhool.... things changed.... i didnt know why...but we werent talking as much and things got all weirerder.. to make the long story short....yesterday i realised i changed my personality after that day in the bus, i wasnt the sunshine of the day....i always ran out of jokes and humor.... and i came to realised if we kissed, then she liked me for the way i was before, and ive changed a lot, sometimes im pissed on the bus and althogh i know pissed off is a turn off... i cant really control it... sometimes i wished i never kissed her...and we would still be flirting... and joking... and all that i really missed.... ive never been in this position before and im 16, ive always been those kinda one night guys, and when this came up, i dont wana leave it.... i hate feeling like this... im ot one of those emo sentimental guys, dont get me wrong... but today im feeling like this...

thats my story,

i came to ask.... what if by tommorrow i turn myself to the way i was with her? would it be a good idea?

do you guys/girls think i still have a chance?


thanks cheers

ok you definently have a chance:p she wanted you to kiss her, and so we can conclude that she did like you. start playing your guitar artound her again, joke more, just be happy and more relaxed, it sounds like atm you are trying to hasrd, and she is probably really confused. I dont think its so much "turning yourself into the way you were with her" but more " act more like the guy who is himself, and isn't basing his life around impressing someone." Be happy, make jokes, and if you find yourself @ a loss, thenplay guitar, sing, talk, tell her your problems, be there for her, just be a good friend. because even though you may date in the future the best thing you can do atm is be her friend.

[QUOTE=Seafroggys]Its common myth that dating your friends is bad because it will ruin the relationship after you break up....while that may be true, the best relationships are the ones with friends.

And if you guys are friends, then it shouldn't be a problem when you two break up.

So go right ahead.[/QUOTE]

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooo.

Well, I disagree, anyway. I don't know a single person in my life who dated one of his/her friends, broke up with them, yet had no problems after they broke up and just went right back to being friends as if nothing ever happened.

[QUOTE=Jerk_217]I guess I'm just terrified of screwing things up for us, I don't know how to ask her if she's done with being "just friends"... but I know i need to ask her or i'll go crazy. so now i'll ask all of you what you would do if you were me. thanks...[/QUOTE]

I don't think its a bad thing to date a girl you're good friends with. I had been friends with my current girlfriend for about a year through mutual friends (her best friends were two of the girlfriend's of kids in my band). So we would always be hanging out in group situations and this past winter started to talk more on AIM and such. I didn't think anything of it until her friend suggested that I pursue things further. I figured I'd give it a shot even though I considered her to be out of my league, but surprisingly enough she was interested and the rest is history so to speak.

Basically I think you should go for it if you have these feelings for her. At least tell her how you feel.

[QUOTE=Yppolitia]Ok, so its my turn to share a problem.

Basically I really like this girl and Ive only known her for about a month but we are very close and she knows I like her and I think she likes me too. She's amazingly friendly and sweet. Basically yesterday we were going to town but for certain reasons we couldnt. On MSN I told her I was going to ask her out today and I couldnt wait another day and asked her. I told her obviously she didnt have to answer me there and then and I said that I do hope I wasnt rushing things.

She said she thought I liked her and basically said that I would have to wait for my answer. Basically my theory is that if she liked me that much she would have said yes surely, not 'I need to think about things'?[/QUOTE]
Did she say she'll have to think about things, or did she just say you'll have to wait for your answer?

I like a girl who likes me.


She has a boyfriend at the moment.

Hows that work ?

[QUOTE=rocknrollstar]I like a girl who likes me.


She has a boyfriend at the moment.

Hows that work ?[/QUOTE]


Eventually you get her to leave him...with Liz I didnt know she was with someone until a week later...she has to choose.

[QUOTE=Tillius]Did she say she'll have to think about things, or did she just say you'll have to wait for your answer?[/QUOTE]
Both. She said she will have to think about things first then 10-15 mins later she said I will have to wait for my answer.

[QUOTE=Yppolitia]Both. She said she will have to think about things first then 10-15 mins later she said I will have to wait for my answer.[/QUOTE]


Obviously this is a terrible sign and is not good at all for you.

That kind of thing is something someone doesnt sit around and debate, if its mutual at all its a pretty quick yes or no.

[QUOTE=Tiger]Obviously this is a terrible sign and is not good at all for you.

That kind of thing is something someone doesnt sit around and debate, if its mutual at all its a pretty quick yes or no.[/QUOTE]
Yeah I thought so.

Okay, here's my tale...it's rather complex.

I live in Las Vegas, I go to boarding school in New Hampshire. When I went back home last November for a vacation I came home to the funeral of one of my better friends, which was really devastating. Another really good friend of mine, who was the pallbearer at the funeral, brought his girlfriend along for support (he needed it...). He had been ranting and raving to me for weeks about how amazing she was, and for a while I thought he was just whipped out of his mind.

He introduced us both, and we quickly became great friends. We share common passions and common problems. We talked about everything, and, as it turns out, her and my friend's relationship was really rocky. They broke up a few months ago.

However, since they broke up I've just been totally lost to her - I haven't felt this emotionally attached to someone since my last big-time relationship, which ended painfully to say the least. I'm pretty sure I've let her in on how I feel about her, but I'm completely puzzled as to how she feels toward me. We talk alot and screw around when I'm home, flirt a little bit but nothing really serious. I'd happily spend the rest of my life just talking with her, even though there would always be that part of me longing for something more.

Now here's where things get complicated. I was accepted into a liberal arts school I applied to in California (I hate New Hampshire passionately, this place is not for me), and was also accepted into a magnet school back home in Las Vegas (in between a public high school and a private school). Seeing as how totally in love I am with this girl, I decided I was going to go to the school in Las Vegas, despite my parents wanting me to attend the art school in California. They agreed to let me stay, but then something popped up.

My best friend (I've known him for 13 years) was just accepted into that same school in California, and he plans on going. I haven't told him any of what I just said here, yet, but I plan on giving him the lowdown on what's going on in my life when I get out of school at the end of May. Now I have to choose between giving up the life I long to go back to in Las Vegas, and be with the girl of my dreams (as friends or more), or stick with my best friend. I know my friend will want me to go with him to school, and I know my parents are just going to use the fact that he is going there as a reason to send me with him. I know if I fight them hard enough, they'll let me stay home, but do I really want to make it seem like I'm that determined not to be there for my best friend?

Please...help. I'm confused.