[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Attention whore?

EDIT: TO SRVS.

It's all right, Jon. Sometimes it's hard, but I deal with it.[/QUOTE]


But do you think its right to deal with a lot in a relationship? but you have to deal with a bit. Or am i being stupid?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Why didn't she tell you the truth? That she already had a date?[/QUOTE]

Well, someone who is friends with her told me after school that she was going with him, and the girl that i like talked to me in the morning...so i don't know whether my freind and her sorted it out in between...i doubt it tho. She's a really nice person, and in any case it would be the last thing on her mind to hurt someone's feelings

My girlfriend, who I love and have been with for a year, just broke up with me yesterday. For no real reason. We were having some really minor relationship problems, but nothing we couldnt have fixed with a little time. But this is the weird thing guys and I want your comments and feed back. She still plans on getting back with me eventually, actually in about a month and a half. She wants us to just be "friends" right now for like a month. THen she wants to work out our minor problems before we get back together. BUt right now I can only talk to her everyother day or something and I cant care about her (like a boyfriend) or love her (like a boyfriend), well right now. Why does this all seem so weird to me? Oh and this just happened randomly. SHe just decided it out of the blue...with nothing to provoke or influence her.

[QUOTE=SRVS Greatest Fan]Hey Everyone

I have a great girlfriend, except she flirts with my buddy, except when im not there shes always on me.. Like... ON ME and when i leave i hear she flirst with my buddy like a hooker on a rich guy[/QUOTE]

Tell her off?

[QUOTE=TheCrimsonKing]My girlfriend, who I love and have been with for a year, just broke up with me yesterday. For no real reason. We were having some really minor relationship problems, but nothing we couldnt have fixed with a little time. But this is the weird thing guys and I want your comments and feed back. She still plans on getting back with me eventually, actually in about a month and a half. She wants us to just be "friends" right now for like a month. THen she wants to work out our minor problems before we get back together. BUt right now I can only talk to her everyother day or something and I cant care about her (like a boyfriend) or love her (like a boyfriend), well right now. Why does this all seem so weird to me? Oh and this just happened randomly. SHe just decided it out of the blue...with nothing to provoke or influence her.[/QUOTE]
I hate to tell you, but it's very possible that she's been having doubts about the relationship for a while but hasn't done or said anything about it until now.

[QUOTE=JohnnyT]But do you think its right to deal with a lot in a relationship? but you have to deal with a bit. Or am i being stupid?[/QUOTE]

Depends on how much patience you have. With him I've had a lot of patience, for some reason.

Other times I've nipped it in the bud in a hurry.

[quote=TheCrimsonKing] My girlfriend, who I love and have been with for a year, just broke up with me yesterday. For no real reason. We were having some really minor relationship problems, but nothing we couldnt have fixed with a little time. But this is the weird thing guys and I want your comments and feed back. She still plans on getting back with me eventually, actually in about a month and a half. She wants us to just be "friends" right now for like a month. THen she wants to work out our minor problems before we get back together. BUt right now I can only talk to her everyother day or something and I cant care about her (like a boyfriend) or love her (like a boyfriend), well right now. Why does this all seem so weird to me? Oh and this just happened randomly. SHe just decided it out of the blue...with nothing to provoke or influence her. [/quote]

Horse[size=2]s[/size]hit. She can't dicate "when" you'll get back together. She also needs to give you a decent reason for the break up.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Depends on how much patience you have. With him I've had a lot of patience, for some reason.

Other times I've nipped it in the bud in a hurry.



Horse[size=2]s[/size]hit. She can't dicate "when" you'll get back together. She also needs to give you a decent reason for the break up.[/QUOTE]


well she isnt necessarily saying "we'll get back together in exactly one month' but yeah she pretty much said that if everything works out that yeah in about a mont.....you know what thats exactly what shes saying.

Oh her reason for the brake up is that shes doing it in order to "not lose me" and also to fix our "minor problems". She believes that by braking up and making us "just friends" again that some how we will be able to work things out and get back together. WHat I hate is how call she said all of this crap. What I also hate is that shes really acting (or maybe its really how she feels) like she doesnt care what I do and that she doesnt love me. WHich isnt true..i'm sure. ANd supposedly I'm not supposed to say "i love you, call her "babe,baby, love, hunny, etc", and if/when i see her I can only give her a small hug and kiss on the cheek". Shes being pretty ****ed up right now. It bugs me because I love her so much

oh and she says its not me. I know its not me because i havent done anything wrong and I'm really sweet/nice/loving/caring to her.

She wants to be pretty much left alone by you?

Then, do it, and see how she likes it.

Don't let her have that much control over you.

What are these minor problems you keep talking about?

[QUOTE=TheCrimsonKing]My girlfriend, who I love and have been with for a year, just broke up with me yesterday. For no real reason. We were having some really minor relationship problems, but nothing we couldnt have fixed with a little time. But this is the weird thing guys and I want your comments and feed back. She still plans on getting back with me eventually, actually in about a month and a half. She wants us to just be "friends" right now for like a month. THen she wants to work out our minor problems before we get back together. BUt right now I can only talk to her everyother day or something and I cant care about her (like a boyfriend) or love her (like a boyfriend), well right now. Why does this all seem so weird to me? Oh and this just happened randomly. SHe just decided it out of the blue...with nothing to provoke or influence her.[/QUOTE]

Hmmm... I have seen this stuff before with my friends and other people. From what I have seen, they think they can stop time for however THEY want until THEY think it is better and safe to try again. Have you told her how you felt? She probably just wants some space but that really isnt the way to do it... I dunno. Just watch out and hope she doesnt go with someone else.

Evening all!

Hay, Jay. What's happening?

So i was talking to sierra last night on the phone yea? As i said she is coming here for a week - woo! im excited yay

So last night at 5am i was wide awake and sent her an email about what i was feeling and how bummed she cant stay at the place she works till i come over. Apparently the email made her cry and then she wrote back all these things she loved about me, how i bring her down to earth sometimes.

So on that topic, i was talking to her this morning and she is coming from the 5th to the 11th - but only has a hostel booked till the night of the 9th, and nowhere to stay on the 10th.
Im like "eh wtf?" and she is like "no it will be ok, im gonna sleep somewhere on the street"
As i said before she dose not want to come to my house because of my mom and family
but i was like "you are not sleeping on the street, you have to sleep at my place that night" and she was all "no its ok really, i dont want to do that :S " and im like "No you have to, im not having you sleep to death, you will freeze, its right by the ocean, you will freeze" and she insisted on staying on a street somewhere or in an ally or something lol and i just coulndt believe it, she is crazy! - i told her if she constantly refuses that i will stay out with her, but my idea is to bring her to my house that night and sleep in my room. Kinda sketchy if she dosent want to meet my family cause she really thinks they hate her or something, although ive told her so many times that its nothing to do with them. So yea im gonna sneak her in - but i really dont think she will do it. But il make her.

Just something on my mind. Should be interesting. Ill tell you how it goes anyway..
:lol:

It's been a while since I've visited this thread, but I have a dilema... My girlfriend left town for a week last wednesday and at the time she left we were going strong in our relationship. This saturday will be our 10 month aniversary. But that aside, last friday I happend to kiss a girl while I was under the influence of three tabs of ecstacy. It was a two or three second kiss that only meant something at the time as we were both just having a great time raving. Anyway, my girlfriend gets back tomorrow and I've been told both to "tell her, it's a big deal", and to "don't tell her, telling her will make it look like a big deal".

I don't know what to do and now I'm turning to you L&R, tell me what to do!

Wow, Kev. But don't you think since your mom has such a problem with her that they SHOULD meet?

[QUOTE=risbo]It's been a while since I've visited this thread, but I have a dilema... My girlfriend left town for a week last wednesday and at the time she left we were going strong in our relationship. This saturday will be our 10 month aniversary. But that aside, last friday I happend to kiss a girl while I was under the influence of three tabs of ecstacy. It was a two or three second kiss that only meant something at the time as we were both just having a great time raving. Anyway, my girlfriend gets back tomorrow and I've been told both to "tell her, it's a big deal", and to "don't tell her, telling her will make it look like a big deal".

I don't know what to do and now I'm turning to you L&R, tell me what to do![/QUOTE]

You got yourself into a bad situation. I would tell her. It will be much easier on your conscience and show you care about her, so you told her right away. Hiding it can make things worse because people tell people and eventually she might find out. Tell her, get it off your chest. The way she takes it is unknown. She could be absolutely pissed off at you (I don't know how she acts normally), or she could say thanks for telling her, and just forget it ever happened.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Hay, Jay. What's happening?[/QUOTE]

Not much happening over here. Just waiting for this big storm to come in. My gf is kinda sick so that sux and her parnets are still, well, parents so yea. Spring Break in three days!!! Shall be good.

Whats the dealio with you?

Yeah I'm not gonna call her or email her, etc. If she really loves me and wants to be with me she will apoligize for being a crazy bitch...or at least come to her senses in some sort of way. I love her and I still want to be with her. But she obviously needs some time or something whatever. I never really let her have control over me but I dont know what to say or do at the moment. Well I hate having to wait and see what happens but if I have to wait this out...then I will. She doesnt have any actual reason to leave me. I've been a really damn good boyfriend. BUt whatever. Shes got some issues. I worry about her but right now yeah I think she has to be the one to fix these issues...not me. I'll help out if I need to though

[QUOTE=~grif~]So i was talking to sierra last night on the phone yea? As i said she is coming here for a week - woo! im excited yay

So last night at 5am i was wide awake and sent her an email about what i was feeling and how bummed she cant stay at the place she works till i come over. Apparently the email made her cry and then she wrote back all these things she loved about me, how i bring her down to earth sometimes.

So on that topic, i was talking to her this morning and she is coming from the 5th to the 11th - but only has a hostel booked till the night of the 9th, and nowhere to stay on the 10th.
Im like "eh wtf?" and she is like "no it will be ok, im gonna sleep somewhere on the street"
As i said before she dose not want to come to my house because of my mom and family
but i was like "you are not sleeping on the street, you have to sleep at my place that night" and she was all "no its ok really, i dont want to do that :S " and im like "No you have to, im not having you sleep to death, you will freeze, its right by the ocean, you will freeze" and she insisted on staying on a street somewhere or in an ally or something lol and i just coulndt believe it, she is crazy! - i told her if she constantly refuses that i will stay out with her, but my idea is to bring her to my house that night and sleep in my room. Kinda sketchy if she dosent want to meet my family cause she really thinks they hate her or something, although ive told her so many times that its nothing to do with them. So yea im gonna sneak her in - but i really dont think she will do it. But il make her.

Just something on my mind. Should be interesting. Ill tell you how it goes anyway..
:lol:[/QUOTE]

I would say that you should really have her sit down with your parents and sort things out. She should not sleep on the street but you should not smuggle her into your house. Your parnets would really be mad at her then.

[QUOTE=pohl_56]Not much happening over here. Just waiting for this big storm to come in. My gf is kinda sick so that sux and her parnets are still, well, parents so yea. Spring Break in three days!!! Shall be good.

Whats the dealio with you?[/QUOTE]

It's been kinda stormy here too for the last couple of days. Interesting weather.

Nothing but the norm going on with me.

[QUOTE=TheCrimsonKing]Yeah I'm not gonna call her or email her, etc. If she really loves me and wants to be with me she will apoligize for being a crazy bitch...or at least come to her senses in some sort of way. I love her and I still want to be with her. But she obviously needs some time or something whatever. I never really let her have control over me but I dont know what to say or do at the moment. Well I hate having to wait and see what happens but if I have to wait this out...then I will. She doesnt have any actual reason to leave me. I've been a really damn good boyfriend. BUt whatever. Shes got some issues. I worry about her but right now yeah I think she has to be the one to fix these issues...not me. I'll help out if I need to though[/QUOTE]

Well, if you still like her, then tell her, and make sure she knows this is clear. If you want to wait, then wait, discuss with her and solve anything that might be troubling the relationship.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]What are these minor problems you keep talking about?[/QUOTE]

Well first off I want to say that I have already told her how I felt about this all. SHe says she wont go with someone else, I believe her although I know a couple of her friends like her (she wont admit it).

The minor problems were like she was getting into some trouble and stuff and I was getting worried and sometimes upset. ANd a guy was flirting with her, he lives like 5 min. away from her ...I live like 20min (although that doesnt really matter i guess). ANyways she was unintentionally leading him (giving him the idea she was into him) even though she wasnt. SHe made some promises that she wouldnt hang with him for a while or talk with him, because I dont want the guy to try anything (you know?). BUt the next day she goes out to hang with him at the mall....even though she promised she wouldnt. Shes not interested in him though and I just dont want him to flirt back than try to make a stupid move.

[QUOTE=Pazz]Well, if you still like her, then tell her, and make sure she knows this is clear. If you want to wait, then wait, discuss with her and solve anything that might be troubling the relationship.[/QUOTE]


she KNOWS that I LOVE HER. I've already told her since we've broken up...and she knows this well. She says she also loves me and wants to be with me. But she doesnt want to be "with me with me" at the moment.....she thinks that giving us time will make things better. I think its stupid. and I"ve told her this and more.

[QUOTE=TheCrimsonKing]she KNOWS that I LOVE HER. I've already told her since we've broken up...and she knows this well. She says she also loves me and wants to be with me. But she doesnt want to be "with me with me" at the moment.....she thinks that giving us time will make things better. I think its stupid. and I"ve told her this and more.[/QUOTE]

How old are you guys?

[QUOTE=TheCrimsonKing]she KNOWS that I LOVE HER. I've already told her since we've broken up...and she knows this well. She says she also loves me and wants to be with me. But she doesnt want to be "with me with me" at the moment.....she thinks that giving us time will make things better. I think its stupid. and I"ve told her this and more.[/QUOTE]

Well hopefully you get back together, but usually when you take the 'break', it doesn't end. In some cases it does though.

Wow. I'm kinda in the same place as this dude who went to the mall with her. I don't know which side to take, but Jesus love is a weird thing.

[QUOTE=TheCrimsonKing]she KNOWS that I LOVE HER. I've already told her since we've broken up...and she knows this well. She says she also loves me and wants to be with me. But she doesnt want to be "with me with me" at the moment.....she thinks that giving us time will make things better. I think its stupid. and I"ve told her this and more.[/QUOTE]

Its good that you talked to her and told her how you feel. I dunno. Just watch her and see what she does. Hopefully it all works out but dont be too dependent for her. Let us know what happens.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]How old are you guys?[/QUOTE]


I'm 17 and she is 16 but its actually less than a couple months difference in age. Oh and if your asking to say "we cant be in love" than I dont want to hear that. But if your talking about her language...when she tries to explain things and sound mature...she loses her linguistic skills.

[QUOTE=pohl_56]Its good that you talked to her and told her how you feel. I dunno. Just watch her and see what she does. Hopefully it all works out but dont be too dependent for her. Let us know what happens.[/QUOTE]

I will keep an eye of sorts on her...but we dont go to the same school so actually taking care of her and watching her is out of the question. But we are still talking to each other and also I can figure out sort of watch she is doing. I'll let you know.

[QUOTE=TheCrimsonKing]I'm 17 and she is 16 but its actually less than a couple months difference in age. Oh and if your asking to say "we cant be in love" than I dont want to hear that. But if your talking about her language...when she tries to explain things and sound mature...she loses her linguistic skills.[/QUOTE]

Nah, I'm not gonna pull the "mommy" crap and say you can't be in love.

I'm thinking she has some issues to work out. But, I also don't think you should just wait around for her either.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Wow. I'm kinda in the same place as this dude who went to the mall with her. I don't know which side to take, but Jesus love is a weird thing.[/QUOTE]


I kind of hate the dude that went to the mall with her. See he is flirting with her and very much knows she has a boyfriend, me. My girlfriend doesnt like him at all like that but is kinda giving him a slightly different idea. Love is a weird thing. The thing is I wouldnt mind all this if I didnt know that the guy is a complete *** and a womanizer

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Nah, I'm not gonna pull the "mommy" crap and say you can't be in love.

I'm thinking she has some issues to work out. But, I also don't think you should just wait around for her either.[/QUOTE]

well i'm not gonna wait around that long. I"m gonna see where this goes...and I'll give her the month she wants for time. and if things dont work out than damn thats really sad. The thing that seems so weird to me is we've had no problems in the year we've been going out and then we have some really minor ones recently (and she admitted that they werent that bad and it would be stupid to break up over them) and now she brakes up with me for no real reason thinking it will solve our problems. And also she just wants me as her "friend" and thats really hard and weird to go back to in a day.

oh and what i hate is that i've just broken up with her, and everyone knows I love her, and suddenly 4 different girls have started hitting on me thinking i'm gonna hook up with them. I think they're stupid and uncaring to be doing that. I still love my girlfriend and am hoping to get back together. But my girlfriend is unstable mentally right now and i'm worried that if people are fliriting with her she might do something. You might say "well you guys broke up" but still damn. Not right after and also not after she said she still loves me and wants to get back with me (a bit later)

And, you don't need to go back to the friends thing if you can't handle it.