I can't think of anything else.

[QUOTE=Simple Man]I can't think of anything else.[/QUOTE]
Then you're not thinking hard enough.

[QUOTE=Simple Man]I can't think of anything else.[/QUOTE]

Neither can I...all I know is that for me at this point having the name Ripper blows. It was a dumb metaphor and I don't like it. I wish I was good at picking these name things out...

SM: Didja see my request?

I'm just wondering.

Yeah.

Slow night tonight :-\

Yeah, it is.

Did I mention that I partially resolved the crisis I was in earlier today?

[QUOTE=Disconnection Notice]Yeah, it is.

Did I mention that I partially resolved the crisis I was in earlier today?[/QUOTE]

Which crisis was that? You did mention it, but I didn't know what you were talking about. Sorry for sounding insensitive.

All right, well, I've gotten myself into a bit of a sticky situation.

Recently, I've been IMing a friend from high school. She's a year younger than I was and was my first girlfriend before we broke things off and just decided to be friends (and we turned into very good friends).

She has some social disorders. You couldn't really tell by meeting her unless she told you. She also has a fear of getting into close relationships because she is afraid of being left and hurt. So clearly, now that I am in college, I can't help but feel like I "deserted" her, even though she hasn't shown signs of anything.

I told my current gf about this and she's upset that I feel this strongly about it because she thinks I still have romanic feelings for the first girl, even though I don't.

^^^ from the L&R thread

It's mostly resolved now.

[QUOTE=Disconnection Notice]All right, well, I've gotten myself into a bit of a sticky situation.

[long story]

It's mostly resolved now.[/QUOTE]

I don't get it. Are you saying that you're relieved that the situation is over?

EDIT: Never mind, I didn't see post #25 on the previous page.

[QUOTE=Disconnection Notice]All right, well, I've gotten myself into a bit of a sticky situation.

Recently, I've been IMing a friend from high school. She's a year younger than I was and was my first girlfriend before we broke things off and just decided to be friends (and we turned into very good friends).

She has some social disorders. You couldn't really tell by meeting her unless she told you. She also has a fear of getting into close relationships because she is afraid of being left and hurt. So clearly, now that I am in college, I can't help but feel like I "deserted" her, even though she hasn't shown signs of anything.

I told my current gf about this and she's upset that I feel this strongly about it because she thinks I still have romanic feelings for the first girl, even though I don't.

^^^ from the L&R thread

It's mostly resolved now.[/QUOTE]

That's good. I got into a similar situation very recently. I was becoming frustrated at a tendency my gf had to get really upset and angry whenever I had to leave to go anywhere, even if it was to do homework. This type of clinginess started pissing me off. Not only that, but there was another girl who was very attractive to me, and she was like really attracted to me, and that added a whole new set of pressures. I was feeling like because it was too hard that things weren't working out. But that was bull****: I still liked my gf, and wanted to be with her. Being attracted to this other girl was a problem though, so I talked to my gf about it. She was upset at first, naturally, but she understood what I was going through mentally to rectify the situation, and now she's much better and so am I. And I've managed to be friends with the other girl too, which is good since I've gotten into some pretty deep talks with her and she's become quite close to me. It's something of a complicated mental arrangement--to an outsider it looks like I'm having two girlfriends at once, essentially--but that's not it at all: everything's cool with everyone and I love my gf, and knowing that for certain is good.

Glad you worked it out too. :thumb: Relationship difficulties are always a pain. But a question: did you resolve with your gf, this person from home, or both?

[QUOTE=AntiHero3314]I don't get it. Are you saying that you're relieved that the situation is over?

EDIT: Never mind, I didn't see post #25 on the previous page.[/QUOTE]

I explained to my current gf how after the relationship with Girl A ended, we became close friends and I almost became like a brother figure (Girl A has two brothers, but doesn't like them very much) and then asked her how she feels when she doesn't get to see her brother very often, and then she understood.

[QUOTE=Disconnection Notice]I explained to my current gf how after the relationship with Girl A ended, we became close friends and I almost became like a brother figure (Girl A has two brothers, but doesn't like them very much) and then asked her how she feels when she doesn't get to see her brother very often, and then she understood.[/QUOTE]

Question answered. Nev. mind.

Man, I don't want to sound inconsiderate or anything, but I enjoy reading these stories. I'm glad you guys were able to get stuff straight.

I would tell my stories, but I... can't. Part of it is because I'm still trying to figure things out, if that makes sense... like, I don't want to just tell a part of the story and not the whole thing. Forget it. Give me some time to actually think about what I meant :-\

[QUOTE=Disconnection Notice]I explained to my current gf how after the relationship with Girl A ended, we became close friends and I almost became like a brother figure (Girl A has two brothers, but doesn't like them very much) and then asked her how she feels when she doesn't get to see her brother very often, and then she understood.[/QUOTE]

Smooth explanation, it was straight and to the point :cool:

[QUOTE=AntiHero3314]Man, I don't want to sound inconsiderate or anything, but I enjoy reading these stories. I'm glad you guys were able to get stuff straight.

I would tell my stories, but I... can't. Part of it is because I'm still trying to figure things out, if that makes sense... like, I don't want to just tell a part of the story and not the whole thing. Forget it. Give me some time to actually think about what I meant :-\[/QUOTE]

That's not inconsiderate at all. Why would it be?

And I understood what it meant, mostly. :) You having difficulties of your own? (Details not required if you're not comfortable with giving them.)

[QUOTE=Ripper22]That's good. I got into a similar situation very recently. I was becoming frustrated at a tendency my gf had to get really upset and angry whenever I had to leave to go anywhere, even if it was to do homework. This type of clinginess started pissing me off. Not only that, but there was another girl who was very attractive to me, and she was like really attracted to me, and that added a whole new set of pressures. I was feeling like because it was too hard that things weren't working out. But that was bull****: I still liked my gf, and wanted to be with her. Being attracted to this other girl was a problem though, so I talked to my gf about it. She was upset at first, naturally, but she understood what I was going through mentally to rectify the situation, and now she's much better and so am I. And I've managed to be friends with the other girl too, which is good since I've gotten into some pretty deep talks with her and she's become quite close to me. It's something of a complicated mental arrangement--to an outsider it looks like I'm having two girlfriends at once, essentially--but that's not it at all: everything's cool with everyone and I love my gf, and knowing that for certain is good.

Glad you worked it out too. :thumb: Relationship difficulties are always a pain. But a question: did you resolve with your gf, this person from home, or both?[/QUOTE]

The problem wasn't with my girlfriend being too clingy, or the other girl being too clingy, so it's not a very similar situation.

Also, I'll be home for the tail end of spring break, so I'll see Girl A again.

[QUOTE=AntiHero3314]Smooth explanation, it was straight and to the point :cool:[/QUOTE]

I'm a straight shooter when I want to be.

[QUOTE=AH]Man, I don't want to sound inconsiderate or anything, but I enjoy reading these stories. I'm glad you guys were able to get stuff straight.

I would tell my stories, but I... can't. Part of it is because I'm still trying to figure things out, if that makes sense... like, I don't want to just tell a part of the story and not the whole thing. Forget it. Give me some time to actually think about what I meant :-\[/QUOTE]

I don't see how it's inconsiderate. And do please tell.

[QUOTE=Disconnection Notice]The problem wasn't with my girlfriend being too clingy, or the other girl being too clingy, so it's not a very similar situation.

Also, I'll be home for the tail end of spring break, so I'll see Girl A again.[/QUOTE]

No no, I meant it had to do with my gf feeling that I liked another who I was also at one point attracted to. That's how I saw that they were similar. The clinginess thing is different, true: that was just what was making me pissed off.

Hope that clears things up. :) Maybe I'm just interjecting situations where they don't belong. Sorry.

[QUOTE=Ripper22]No no, I meant it had to do with my gf feeling that I liked another girl who was demanding my attention, who I was also at one point attracted to. That's how I saw that they were similar. The clinginess thing is different, true: that was just what was making me pissed off.

Hope that clears things up. :)[/QUOTE]

Ohhh, okay.

Okay, I think I know what I meant to say now: in order for me to feel that I told a complete story, I need to feel absolutely certain with my feelings regarding these situations. Like, I don't want to second guess my storytelling since I repeatedly second guess how I'm handling these things. Hopefully that was more clarified :-\

I don't think it relates to your situations, per se (I'm asexual, remember :p)... but it does have to deal with... well, in a nutshell, bothering to maintain friendships?

I'm not good at explaining things like this.

Anyways, I guess I felt that I was being inconsiderate because you'd be surprised how much I learn from other people, be it online, or watching and listening to what my friends or other people go through, and so on.

/rambling

[QUOTE=Disconnection Notice]Ohhh, okay.[/QUOTE]

I hope that makes it clearer. Perhaps I'm just not good at comparing these things: this gf I'm with is actually my first so I don't have much experience with that whole thing.

[QUOTE=AntiHero3314]
Anyways, I guess I felt that I was being inconsiderate because you'd be surprised how much I learn from other people, be it online, or watching and listening to what my friends or other people go through, and so on.

/rambling[/QUOTE]

I like to sit back and observe other people too.

Evening all. it's 20 to five and I can't sleep

[QUOTE=AntiHero3314]Okay, I think I know what I meant to say now: in order for me to feel that I told a complete story, I need to feel absolutely certain with my feelings regarding these situations. Like, I don't want to second guess my storytelling since I repeatedly second guess how I'm handling these things. Hopefully that was more clarified :-\

I don't think it relates to your situations, per se (I'm asexual, remember :p)... but it does have to deal with... well, in a nutshell, bothering to maintain friendships?

I'm not good at explaining things like this.

Anyways, I guess I felt that I was being inconsiderate because you'd be surprised how much I learn from other people, be it online, or watching and listening to what my friends or other people go through, and so on.

/rambling[/QUOTE]

That's ok. I never thought you were being inconsiderate. It sounded like you were doing exactly what you said: learning about these things by reading the stories. And by the way, telling stories is often what helps me to organize my feelings about it: second-guessing usually comes with the territory, and it's good to do that. With matters as complex as friendships, I never want to put myself in a position where I think I've figured everything out for sure: the best thing for me is to understand things from as many perspectives as possible and come to a private contentment about the issue.

So basically, I would love to hear what you've got to say, if you feel like sharing.

[QUOTE=GurS]Evening all. it's 20 to five and I can't sleep[/QUOTE]

20 to five? Where do you live?

[QUOTE=GurS]Evening all. it's 20 to five and I can't sleep[/QUOTE]

Wank.

/me doesn't help matters

Off-topic: I can try to explain a story, if you'd like, but it might take me awhile to formulate any thoughts :-\

EDIT: never mind, I'll try after reading Ripper's reply.

Yes, do please share, AH.

[QUOTE=AntiHero3314]Wank.

/me doesn't help matters

Off-topic: I can try to explain a story, if you'd like, but it might take me awhile to formulate any thoughts :-\[/QUOTE]

:) Tell away.

[QUOTE=AntiHero3314]Wank.[/QUOTE]

Just did. Geez, gimmie five minutes, who do you think I am, Jesus?

And I'm a UKian

Ripper, you a Jew?

[QUOTE=GurS]Just did. Geez, gimmie five minutes, who do you think I am, Jesus?

And I'm a UKian[/QUOTE]

Ah.

[QUOTE=GurS]Ripper, you a Jew?[/QUOTE]

No. If you're inferring from my avatar, I don't think it means anything in particular. I've just become fascinated with the way sigils look, and although this particular one has something like Hebrew and a few God-related symbols on it, ****ed if I know for sure what it means.

God, I hate having to explain my avatars' significances. Mostly because I never know what they are. I literally pick them out because they look interesting or intricate to me in some way. But then when people ask me (and in some cases tell me) what they mean, I always feel like somebody that wore a cross necklace to appear fashionable. :(

Your avatar? All I get from your av is a slight head ache. It's the user title

lawl. owned.

[QUOTE=GurS]Your avatar? All I get from your av is a slight head ache. It's the user title[/QUOTE]

Ouch. That bit hurt, but as far as the user title is concerned, it's a Michael Hedges song.

I'll be changing my avatar now. :upset:

[QUOTE=Disconnection Notice]Didn't know you dug Pharrell THAT much.



I think both sides [those who only like 50 Cent and such and those who judge rap based on the former] are at fault here.

And KOHD: Definately stick with Simple Man.[/QUOTE]
I'm a fanboy.

/late++

[QUOTE=Ripper22]Ouch. That bit hurt, but as far as the user title is concerned, it's a Michael Hedges song.

I'll be changing my avatar now. :upset:[/QUOTE]

My apologies, it's late. Want some good music to compensate? By good much, I mean Israeli hip hop/funk.

[QUOTE=Ripper22]No. If you're inferring from my avatar, I don't think it means anything in particular. I've just become fascinated with the way sigils look, and although this particular one has something like Hebrew and a few God-related symbols on it, ****ed if I know for sure what it means.

God, I hate having to explain my avatars' significances. Mostly because I never know what they are. I literally pick them out because they look interesting or intricate to me in some way. But then when people ask me (and in some cases tell me) what they mean, I always feel like somebody that wore a cross necklace to appear fashionable. :([/QUOTE]
Just say it looks cool.

[QUOTE=GurS]My apologies, it's late. Want some good music to compensate? By good much, I mean Israeli hip hop/funk.[/QUOTE]

No problem, I can't find another one I think looks cool enough right now anyway. Musical compensation is unneccesary. :)