[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]This may not be the best advice or anything, but if it was me, I would back off the girl. Give the dude some respect, you wouldn't want another guy all over of her if she was your gal, would you? She's in a relationship, and unless she shows that she's more interested in you, don't try to get involved with her.[/QUOTE]

That is a good advice, and I know I should probably back off, but I won't.

Today I was going to ask her for coffee and I had the perfect opportunity, and I didn't take it. She then went home sick in last period meaning I couldn't ask her after school. I would ask her over MSN, but she never goes online.

Hey L&R, I've never really posted a relationship problem in here, but I guess there's a first time for everything.

This girl and I had been dating for eight months and for the past month and a half things have been kind of akward and weird for a number of reasons. Both our parents know we have sex and we're not allowed in our rooms any more at eachother's house. So this takes away all that privacy we once had and makes it less appealing to spend time at one another's houses as the only thing to really do together is watch a movie in an open room when anyone could come in. So recently we had to hang out with our friends because we don't really have a place to be truely alone.

For some reason she is really weird around me and friends and doesn't think we should be seen as "chancelor and her name" but just as "her name." this brought up issues of me being too controlling a little bit ago which is really just me wanting to spend time with her and not have all those friends around. So we've been "hanging out" like this for the past month and a half and when we're with friends she's really distant and doesn't show the slightest bit of interest towards me.

So yesterday she just got home from over a week in paris and I wanted to talk to her about all this friend stuff, but ironically enough, we hung out with friends the whole time and I didn't get to talk to her.

Today she broke up with me. She said she didn't want to drag things out and said I know why we're breaking up. Which I kind of due, but I don't think we should have broken up.

It is very strange in that while she was doing it, she was kissing my forehead and telling me she loved me. Then when I saw her at the end of the day we both mutually agreed it was weird and she hugged me and kissed my hand when she left. But we're broken up.

I know I need to talk to her about these things and see what's going to happen from there, but I guess it feels good to vent. Any advice or similar stories would be nice.

[QUOTE=sexymuffin]Hey L&R, I've never really posted a relationship problem in here, but I guess there's a first time for everything.

This girl and I had been dating for eight months and for the past month and a half things have been kind of akward and weird for a number of reasons. Both our parents know we have sex and we're not allowed in our rooms any more at eachother's house. So this takes away all that privacy we once had and makes it less appealing to spend time at one another's houses as the only thing to really do together is watch a movie in an open room when anyone could come in. So recently we had to hang out with our friends because we don't really have a place to be truely alone.

For some reason she is really weird around me and friends and doesn't think we should be seen as "chancelor and her name" but just as "her name." this brought up issues of me being too controlling a little bit ago which is really just me wanting to spend time with her and not have all those friends around. So we've been "hanging out" like this for the past month and a half and when we're with friends she's really distant and doesn't show the slightest bit of interest towards me.

So yesterday she just got home from over a week in paris and I wanted to talk to her about all this friend stuff, but ironically enough, we hung out with friends the whole time and I didn't get to talk to her.

Today she broke up with me. She said she didn't want to drag things out and said I know why we're breaking up. Which I kind of due, but I don't think we should have broken up.

It is very strange in that while she was doing it, she was kissing my forehead and telling me she loved me. Then when I saw her at the end of the day we both mutually agreed it was weird and she hugged me and kissed my hand when she left. But we're broken up.

I know I need to talk to her about these things and see what's going to happen from there, but I guess it feels good to vent. Any advice or similar stories would be nice.[/QUOTE]I'm thinking she maybe has mixed feelings about breaking up with you. Like she hates to, but she thinks that she has to. I think that she just realized that with things being akward like you said they were that you two couldn't just keep going on like that. She maybe gave it time, hoping it would clear itself up but it didn't, so she decided it would be best for you two to just break up, as much as she hated to do it.

[QUOTE=sexymuffin]Hey L&R, I've never really posted a relationship problem in here, but I guess there's a first time for everything.

This girl and I had been dating for eight months and for the past month and a half things have been kind of akward and weird for a number of reasons. Both our parents know we have sex and we're not allowed in our rooms any more at eachother's house. So this takes away all that privacy we once had and makes it less appealing to spend time at one another's houses as the only thing to really do together is watch a movie in an open room when anyone could come in. So recently we had to hang out with our friends because we don't really have a place to be truely alone.

For some reason she is really weird around me and friends and doesn't think we should be seen as "chancelor and her name" but just as "her name." this brought up issues of me being too controlling a little bit ago which is really just me wanting to spend time with her and not have all those friends around. So we've been "hanging out" like this for the past month and a half and when we're with friends she's really distant and doesn't show the slightest bit of interest towards me.

So yesterday she just got home from over a week in paris and I wanted to talk to her about all this friend stuff, but ironically enough, we hung out with friends the whole time and I didn't get to talk to her.

Today she broke up with me. She said she didn't want to drag things out and said I know why we're breaking up. Which I kind of due, but I don't think we should have broken up.

It is very strange in that while she was doing it, she was kissing my forehead and telling me she loved me. Then when I saw her at the end of the day we both mutually agreed it was weird and she hugged me and kissed my hand when she left. But we're broken up.

I know I need to talk to her about these things and see what's going to happen from there, but I guess it feels good to vent. Any advice or similar stories would be nice.[/QUOTE]



Girls are confusing. I don't really do good with specific advice. but yeah, just talk to her.

[QUOTE=Lightning Strikes Twice]I'm thinking she maybe has mixed feelings about breaking up with you. Like she hates to, but she thinks that she has to. I think that she just realized that with things being akward like you said they were that you two couldn't just keep going on like that. She maybe gave it time, hoping it would clear itself up but it didn't, so she decided it would be best for you two to just break up, as much as she hated to do it.[/QUOTE]

I understand what you're saying, but the only reason we're akward like that is because she said she wants to just be seen as herself when we're around other people.

It's like she wants to be a couple, but not be a couple. And I'm not sure if i understand that.

[QUOTE=sexymuffin]It's like she wants to be a couple, but not be a couple. And I'm not sure if i understand that.[/QUOTE]
I sure the hell don't. What reason could she have to not want to be indentified with you? Just because she's "Chacelor's boyfriend" doesn't make her less of an individual or person. Could she be ashamed of something?

Sorry if my post doesn't make you feel any better, but that doesn't make much sense to me. The only thing you can do is talk to her. =\

[QUOTE=Damien Rhodes]I sure the hell don't. What reason could she have to not want to be indentified with you? Just because she's "Chacelor's boyfriend" doesn't make her less of an individual or person. Could she be ashamed of something?

Sorry if my post doesn't make you feel any better, but that doesn't make much sense to me. The only thing you can do is talk to her. =\[/QUOTE]

Exactly, I don't get it at all. I mean, I can understand her not wanting to be all over eachother around people, but whenever we're in public, it's just distant and I feel like we should at least have talked about it before she made such a big decision.

I've had several serious relationships and break ups, and this one doesn't feel right at all.

I cut the hell out of my nuckle today.


I punched a bag of ice, trying to break it up so I could have some in my drink, and the next thing I know, there is blood everywhere.

It seems that Ice can be sharp.


I need my paycheck, so I can fix my bass, and then Life will be perfect again.

Jeez, Chance. But maybe it's a good thing, even though it feels weird.

Gregg, life really is perfect with a fixed bass. What went wrong with yours?

I'm talking to this girl I've been interested in on MSN, and I was hoping to meet her this weekend, but she's going to be gone on a trip with her band. And by band, I mean the school band. [B]I got a crush on a band geek.[/B] :(

lol

Could be worse, D.

I mean really. Band geek = dedicated to music.

[QUOTE]I'm talking to this girl I've been interested in on MSN, and I was hoping to meet her this weekend, but she's going to be gone on a trip with her band. And by band, I mean the school band. I got a crush on a band geek.

lol[/QUOTE]



what does she play? if she plays something cool maybe we can forgive you.

[QUOTE=The Real El Capitano]what does she play? if she plays something cool maybe we can forgive you.[/QUOTE]

Doesn't matter what she plays...it's all good. :)

[QUOTE=The Real El Capitano]what does she play? if she plays something cool maybe we can forgive you.[/QUOTE]
Flute. She could play the tuba, and I wouldn't care.

I'm uberly happy for no reason, lol.

Ok so I'd like some opinions on whether I did the right thing...

My girlfriend is in Italy on spring break right now with her best friend for a week and a half. So I get a text message from her today saying "I messed up. I was holding hands with this guy and I didn't pull my hand away, etc etc., I'll understand if you want to break up"...that sort of thing.

So I sent one back saying it wasn't a big deal, after all, all she did was hold hands with a guy.

She called me a few mins later and was saying how she wanted to explain things more. So I told her to go ahead and she explains that they met these guys who worked at a resturant in Rome and they were flirting with them and whatever last night, but tonight when whatever happened happened, these guys basically took them by the hand and forcibly walked them down a few blocks. By the sounds of it she was sincerely sorry for whatever she thought happened happened. But I kept telling her that it was no big deal, because I really don't think it was.

I trust her 110% and I know she would never do anything behind my back to hurt me. That's why I'm seeing this as harmless. Should I be pissed or concerned?

She got with somebody else.
Somebody else.
Somebody who was supposedly my [B]FRIEND!!![/B]

Why?

Well, her friends say that she still wants to be with me more than I know, but she thinks that by getting with somebody else, it'll make me not want to be with her anymore, and things will be [I]easier[/I].

[QUOTE=Tillius]She got with somebody else.
Somebody else.
Somebody who was supposedly my [B]FRIEND!!![/B]

Why?

Well, her friends say that she still wants to be with me more than I know, but she thinks that by getting with somebody else, it'll make me not want to be with her anymore, and things will be [I]easier[/I].[/QUOTE]are you ****ing kidding?

Mitch that's pretty odd.

Explain to her that you want to be with her still. And that doing what she did isn't helping anyhting at all, and is making things worse.

That is, if those things are true.

So basically just tell her how you feel.

Geez what do you do when the girl you love is already in a relationship? And dont say 'forget about it', because I just cant give up on something I love.

Man it just eats me alive knowing some other chump is out having a good time with the girl I love, when I know it should be me.

Do you guys think its inappropriate to still ask out a girl as friends whose already in a relationship, with the sercet hope that she'll end up falling for you?

Or should I just keep on playing the good friend, waiting and hoping her relationship will fall apart like a Japanese motorcycle?

I feel like such a loser for even thinking these things...all I know is that I cant do nothing :upset:

[QUOTE=EizingerIsGod]Ok so I'd like some opinions on whether I did the right thing...

My girlfriend is in Italy on spring break right now with her best friend for a week and a half. So I get a text message from her today saying "I messed up. I was holding hands with this guy and I didn't pull my hand away, etc etc., I'll understand if you want to break up"...that sort of thing.

So I sent one back saying it wasn't a big deal, after all, all she did was hold hands with a guy.

She called me a few mins later and was saying how she wanted to explain things more. So I told her to go ahead and she explains that they met these guys who worked at a resturant in Rome and they were flirting with them and whatever last night, but tonight when whatever happened happened, these guys basically took them by the hand and forcibly walked them down a few blocks. By the sounds of it she was sincerely sorry for whatever she thought happened happened. But I kept telling her that it was no big deal, because I really don't think it was.

I trust her 110% and I know she would never do anything behind my back to hurt me. That's why I'm seeing this as harmless. Should I be pissed or concerned?[/QUOTE]
Definately concerned bro. On my end, I dont think any of you remember me talking about Tessa seeing as how I post here once every year it seems, but Im finally over her and with a new girl name named Christie, Its 4am and I have no one to talk to either..

[QUOTE=EizingerIsGod]Ok so I'd like some opinions on whether I did the right thing...

My girlfriend is in Italy on spring break right now with her best friend for a week and a half. So I get a text message from her today saying "I messed up. I was holding hands with this guy and I didn't pull my hand away, etc etc., I'll understand if you want to break up"...that sort of thing.

So I sent one back saying it wasn't a big deal, after all, all she did was hold hands with a guy.

She called me a few mins later and was saying how she wanted to explain things more. So I told her to go ahead and she explains that they met these guys who worked at a resturant in Rome and they were flirting with them and whatever last night, but tonight when whatever happened happened, these guys basically took them by the hand and forcibly walked them down a few blocks. By the sounds of it she was sincerely sorry for whatever she thought happened happened. But I kept telling her that it was no big deal, because I really don't think it was.

I trust her 110% and I know she would never do anything behind my back to hurt me. That's why I'm seeing this as harmless. Should I be pissed or concerned?[/QUOTE]

It isn't cheating if it's in a different area code. :p

In all seriousness though, just let her punish herself. If she really was just holding hands with the guy, I wouldn't be too worried about it. The fact that she told you right away about it is a good thing.

[QUOTE=_ThisSecretNinja_]Geez what do you do when the girl you love is already in a relationship? And dont say 'forget about it', because I just cant give up on something I love.

Man it just eats me alive knowing some other chump is out having a good time with the girl I love, when I know it should be me.

Do you guys think its inappropriate to still ask out a girl as friends whose already in a relationship, with the sercet hope that she'll end up falling for you?

Or should I just keep on playing the good friend, waiting and hoping her relationship will fall apart like a Japanese motorcycle?

I feel like such a loser for even thinking these things...all I know is that I cant do nothing :upset:[/QUOTE]

Why should it be you with her? surely this other guy feels pretty much the same...
You need to think reasonably, with her in mind... how is she gonna be happiest? cos it'll be hard for her to break up with someone for you... (by the way, not saying you don't deserve her, just trying to explain both sides of the arguement...) You could maybe tell her how you feel? although i know 9 times out of 10 thats near impossible... but if she knew, maybe she could work things out for herself? But then, obviously its killing you to know she's with someone else... thats understandable. But sometimes, lifes a bitch... ya know? And don't think i don't know... i've got kind of a similar thing going, but i just can't bring myself to talk to her about how i feel... so you know.

[QUOTE=Iscariot]In all seriousness though, just let her punish herself. If she really was just holding hands with the guy, I wouldn't be too worried about it. The fact that she told you right away about it is a good thing.[/QUOTE]

That's what I was thinking. It was good that she told me right away, and she seemed really upset about the whole thing, so I see no reason to really be angry with her.

[QUOTE=EizingerIsGod]That's what I was thinking. It was good that she told me right away, and she seemed really upset about the whole thing, so I see no reason to really be angry with her.[/QUOTE]
I wouldn't be worried about it.

Women are flirtatious by nature.

Personally, I would feel betrayed, but I would get over it.

Hey guys, I've been dating my g/f for a year and a half now. As is expected, I've started to wonder what other alternative lie just outside the walls (me being only a high school junior and all), I love my girlfriend dearly, but she and I do fight more often. Also things have gotten a little boring. On the plus side, aside from our deep love, she gives awesome massages nd is an amazing cook. It's just, she's been more critical and slightly annoying lately, but there are still good times.
However, my parent's arent too fond of her and my friends think she's too weird. She's making her own prom dress and once told me she couldn't do it and that I should take her ticket and take someone else. She has no self-esteem which turns me off completely. But shes sweet and caring and amzing when shes not in a bad mood. The sides are weighed pretty evenly. MXer's help me see sides of this I can't see so I can decide because dammit i'm confused

At your age relationships are just stepping stones to the next relationship. Maybe it would be a good idea to talk to her about how you feel.

Try and keep with it, you don't wana regret your decision later.
You could try talking to her about how you feel but I would give it a bit loger and see if you still feel the same.

(Im english and don't understand how old you are, so if your like 9 just give her a doll or something and call it a day)

So yesterday, Im at a Denny's.

There is this semi attractive blonde waitress that is very forthcoming, she's hitting on me and flirting pretty openly.

I go to pay my bill, and she starts talking to me, and really starts laying it on this. She says my name like she wants to **** me right then and there, she asks me if I 'party' and complains about how much of a jerk her boyfriend is, all this stupid obvious stuff. Im dying inside because Im with someone right now, and this kind of thing never happens. So I humor her.

I go to leave after quite a long time, and she says she is going on break and to wait for her. So she's walking me to the car and I ask her where shes going, apparently to the Starbucks right across the street. Now Ive been courting danger this whole time, but my sense of humor asks if she wants me to drive her over. Of course she hops in the car immediately (Im a stranger and she just jumps in : / )

So I take the whore through the drive through, she's doing her best act, flirting too much, laughing at whatever I say, all the stupid stuff. I drop her back off at the Denny's, she takes a business card of mine (the box was right there open in my car, no I did not give one to her) and gets out. I dont ask for her number.

Anyway, at first I died laughing for several minutes, and then I call my girl to tell her about what had happened. Im not like, halfway through telling her before it stops being funny and I start feeling really guilty and bad about it...she swears its not a big deal and that shes not mad but I still feel pretty miserable over it, mainly because I asked myself if I'd be okay with her doing the same thing and the answer is NO! So I dont want to be a hypocrite, that bothers me, I try to be a man of principle.

Would you feel really bad about it or is it not a big deal like she is saying?

Your girls prob just saying that to avoid an argument, she knows you know what you did was wrong but she prob is not too happy about it.
Just reasure your girlfriend you feel abit crap and your sorry, forget about it and dont do it again.

Oops on Tiger.

It's probably not that big of a deal, but if you wouldn't want her doing it then it's just a double standard. You'll be fine.

Hey so if anyone cares for an update on my relationship we broke up and I've never been this upset before :(

Why does love and relationships have to always hurt so much when they decide to stop working for me?

[QUOTE=EizingerIsGod]It's probably not that big of a deal, but if you wouldn't want her doing it then it's just a double standard. You'll be fine.[/QUOTE]


Its not that I want a double standard, I dont, I just didnt stop to think about that part until I was on the phone with her and I suddenly felt really small and stupid.

[QUOTE=sexymuffin]Hey so if anyone cares for an update on my relationship we broke up and I've never been this upset before :(

Why does love and relationships have to always hurt so much when they decide to stop working for me?[/QUOTE]

What happened?

EDIT: I just went back and read your post.

Have you talked to her since she broke up with you?

[QUOTE]Why does love and relationships have to always hurt so much when they decide to stop working for me?[/QUOTE]

its because your young and you proberbly feel like its the end of the world and it definatly isnt

id be pretty devastated if me and my girlfriend split so its no different for everyone else we all get hurt

Hey, there's this I talk to on MSN almost ever day, out of boredom, and I've hung out with her occasionally at shows and stuff, but I'm not interested in her at all. I think she's starting to have a crush on me, but I have no real proof, other than the way she talks to me and stuff. Is there some way I can get her to back off, without making it obvious that I think she has more-than-friendly intentions with me?

[QUOTE]Hey, there's this I talk to on MSN almost ever day, out of boredom, and I've hung out with her occasionally at shows and stuff, but I'm not interested in her at all. I think she's starting to have a crush on me, but I have no real proof, other than the way she talks to me and stuff. Is there some way I can get her to back off, without making it obvious that I think she has more-than-friendly intentions with me?[/QUOTE]

.. dont talk to her every day?

distance your self from her dont respond to her signals

Don't say anything until she becomes blatant about it. Just ignore her until then.

By the way, your "Meet the Mxicans" thread needs an update.

Yeah, I'm doing like 20 things right now. I started updating it last week, and stopped. I'll get on it tonight, because I'll have nothing better to do.

And the girl messages me constantly, and I don't want to just ignore her or something. She'sa good friend, I just don't want her to think there's hope for anything more. I'm supposedly a really flirty person, so this sort of situation happens often, and always ends in an uncomfortable conversation.

Whoooooo got a hot date tonight. :cool: