Samshine: Never A Good Idea

Samshine 03.19.13	Can someone please nail this through my friends head because it seems pretty obvious to me.
KILL 03.19.13	suick my diltch
Funeralopolis 03.19.13	listen to 20/20 experience let your dick fall in love with justin
Eclecticist 03.19.13	On the bright side you are not some kid dying on chronic malnutrition in a third world nation so get off of your ass and do something with your life that'll distract you from thinking of people that don't matter like your ex.
KjSwantko 03.19.13	""bitch still wants my dick so i'll give it to her" but we all know that secretly you go home at night and cry a little." Not really
Samshine 03.19.13	havent heard new jt yet
wabbit 03.19.13	this totally describes my life right now omg
Spec 03.19.13	Yeah i've recently been learning all of this.
omnipanzer 03.19.13	Hello Smashine
Acanthus 03.19.13	1,3,4, and 5 are all things YOU have control over. Not doing these things is as simple as NOT DOING THEM and having some respect for yourself and the person you've become, regardless of how the relationship ended. 2 however is not in your complete control, but there's ways to fix that. Your friend will grow from this experience, or remain a somewhat befuddled relationship retard.
wabbit 03.19.13	man someone messed up my joke
Kimm 03.19.13	I've wondered a lot lately how much of our sadness we manufacture.
Acanthus 03.19.13	Pretty much all of it, since sadness is an emotional state and not some global constant.
omnipanzer 03.19.13	All of it technically
Kimm 03.19.13	Right, but emotions are still part of human nature. I mean, there's nothing wrong with being sad, right? But how long do you get to be sad about something before it just equates to self pity? What about things like depression? Can we just tell people to pick up and move on, or is there something to be said for chemical imbalances etc? Wish I knew all these things.
mangasm 03.19.13	Ex sex rules
mangasm 03.19.13	I never pull out whenever I fuck an ex I cum everywhere inside that bitch
Acanthus 03.19.13	That's not something anyone but yourself would be able to define, since sadness is unique from person to person. Depression is another matter, but imo some forms of it can be solved with a strong will and the right motivation. It's a really annoying field of study to watch/learn about, because we know so little while it affects so many (even ignoring the blanket statements made by those who claim to be depressed but are really just sad, the term is almost lost its meaning by now).
omnipanzer 03.19.13	"Right, but emotions are still part of human nature. I mean, there's nothing wrong with being sad, right? But how long do you get to be sad about something before it just equates to self pity?" True but the answer to your more general question was "all". Of course there is nothing wrong with being sad, it's therapeutic and perfectly healthy. How long is too long, only you can decide that and the greater the tragedy I'd say the more leeway you get and should give yourself. My father passed away 8-9 years ago and I still stumble upon albums or tv shows that will instantly bring a tear to my eye. "What about things like depression? Can we just tell people to pick up and move on, or is there something to be said for chemical imbalances etc? Wish I knew all these things." This is an entirely different bowl of wax. Chemical imbalance is something you don't even want to start assuming you have because it is generally a life long issue that needs to be treated chemically or through therapy (or both) forever or until it is felt you have the skills to cope on your own. You typically can't tell someone with a medically diagnosed chemical imbalance to pick up and carry on. Someone who is diagnosed as clinically depressed can fix it on their own, may need a little chemical help for a month or two or could deal with it forever it's a deep deep hole to have to get into. It's a more general question than you may know you are asking.
Acanthus 03.19.13	omni is a wordsmith!
omnipanzer 03.19.13	Thank you Acanthus. If you feel you are depressed you should definitely consult your doctor. There is no shame in needing a little help from time to time. You should definitely consider the fact that you are completely healthy... it just depends on your coping skills imho.
Kimm 03.19.13	Yes, Omni is a wordsmith. I don't know...I feel like depression is a very real thing, but I feel like it's also exploited. It seems like anyone can walk into a doctor's office, say "I feel sad" and walk out with a prescription for some sort of antidepressant, and I just don't think it's quite as common as that.
Acanthus 03.19.13	Depression meds can be ridiculous influences on your personality and other aspects of your life; ex was a different person with them.
Kimm 03.19.13	"I should probably take medicine for my depression but it makes me feel mentally weak that I need it to cope so my pride tries to make me strong enough without it." Amen. Got 'diagnosed' with depression and social anxiety a few months ago, and I have not taken any medication for it, because it just seems like...I don't know, I've dealt with it for years, why should it be any different just because a doctor puts some sort of medical label on it?
omnipanzer 03.19.13	That is a thin line that only you can navigate however the very fact that you feel that way probably means you aren't one of those people. This is a point you can make to your doctor and they can help you decide if it is an need or a want "for you". They will also make additional points I wouldn't even think of as they deal with it daily.
Acanthus 03.19.13	"They will also make additional points I wouldn't even think of as they deal with it daily." Which really must be quite something, I can't fathom doing that. @andcas - glad you were self aware enough to see that and can function without them (or so I assume, online you seem pretty chipper).
omnipanzer 03.19.13	"Amen. Got 'diagnosed' with depression and social anxiety a few months ago, and I have not taken any medication for it, because it just seems like...I don't know, I've dealt with it for years, why should it be any different just because a doctor puts some sort of medical label on it?" "I should probably take medicine for my depression but it makes me feel mentally weak that I need it to cope so my pride tries to make me strong enough without it." Honestly I felt that way for a very long time and I've dug myself out of a few depressions but it depends on the person. I have a very addictive personality so I will always choose the non-drug rout because I know I have to. My wife on the other hand has taken medications for a month or two to help her out of a rut or a bout of anxiety or two and she has no problem putting them down after a very reasonable period of time. For some reason if I am handed a drugs I will always choose to take a mental vacation but my wife doesn't have that issue at all. Drugs can be very helpful you just have to decide if they will be helpful for you.
Uranium 03.19.13	exsex is always a good idea until she tells you she's pregnant and traps you back in the relationship
Kimm 03.19.13	"I have a negative view of paying a person to listen to your problems when they wouldn't really care otherwise. " I used to think like this as well, but I think a little bit differently now. These people may not have any direct emotional connections to you, but they're still in that field because they have a deep sense of compassion for people. The way I see it, the trick to being in this field is finding a healthy balance between caring and distancing yourself.
omnipanzer 03.19.13	^ if they are any good you are correct, there are a lot of shit doctors though.
intotheshit 03.19.13	I'm honestly trying to move on from my last relationship, but the ex sex is too hard to pass up.
omnipanzer 03.19.13	I thought she was in a different state Nick, or is this since the D?
wabbit 03.19.13	guys other than physical pain all pain is caused from you being shitty at thinking it's why I haven't not been happy in a year and why you are unhappy cause I'm better than you!
intotheshit 03.19.13	Since the "d". I just got out of an 8 month relationship a month ago and she won't stop calling me to come over.
Uranium 03.19.13	if you are so good at thinking then fix your damn speech impediment
omnipanzer 03.19.13	"I just got out of an 8 month relationship a month ago and she won't stop calling me to come over." Why in the world would you do that to yourself? The ex sex is only a bad thing if the breakup was really bad imho. If it ended amicably then no harm no foul.
omnipanzer 03.19.13	^ imho
intotheshit 03.19.13	Oh it ended badly, trust me. She was already expecting a ring after 8 mo.ths, and I wasn't willing to jump yet. So when she started throwing a bitch fit, I told her it was over. She just can't get enough of that D, and I'm much obliged to feed it to her.
omnipanzer 03.19.13	Haha
intotheshit 03.19.13	Speak of the devil. Guess who just texted me.
Uranium 03.19.13	shit, have her send tit pics and share
intotheshit 03.19.13	I already have plenty pics of her ass and vagina.
Emyay 03.19.13	after this sort of thing happens to you a few times you start to harden and realize how to deal with it. doesn't mean its all of the sudden easy, but at least you can avoid these common pitfalls. ex sex has always been bad (but at the same time veryyy good) in my experience. even if you're the one who did the breaking up. it usually just hurts the other person all over again bc they're too dumb to get through their head that you're never ever ever getting back together
toxin. 03.19.13	this list is classic sputnik in a nutshell: half-half list of serious discussion and stupid/pointless posts, with andcas hating on taylor swift for no apparent reason on the side
TomArnoldsArmpit 03.19.13	but he's starting to stop
FromDaHood 03.19.13	I think andcas might be on the same life arc as Buddy Nielsen.
Samshine 03.20.13	Wow, this list turned into a therapy session fast. Also, i'm actually suprised at the amount of users i'm actually aware of that posted here. Haven't kept up with sputnik at all these past months and now everyone is strangers to me again. Also, rec me some shit guys cause i'm out of the loop.
Samshine 03.20.13	[insert band here] = streetlight, against me, animals as leaders, citycop, departures?? is that vast enough?
Tyrael 03.20.13	Operation Ivy - Energy The Mighty Mighty Bosstones - Question The Answers Mad Caddies - Duck & Cover Less Than Jake - Hello Rockview Reel Big Fish - Turn The Radio Off Mustard Plug - Evildoers Beware! Five Iron Frenzy - Our Newest Album Ever Catch 22 - Keasbey Nights Suicide Machines - Destruction By Definition Rancid - ...And Out Come the Wolves Kortatu - Kortatu Choking Victim - No Gods, No Managers Bomb The Music Industry - Album Minus Band Rx Bandits - The Resignation just some ska punk in the vein of Streetlight, hope you feel better soon Sam!
Trebor. 03.20.13	If I ever have an ex I will heed your advice
Tyrael 03.20.13	Who'd want to break up with you robert cmon you're the perfect husband