Rikardur
08.01.12 | You and her in the backroom closet. One time thing, you got it? |
Rikardur
08.01.12 | Other than that, which may risk your job any ways, you either got to wait for that window to open or
force it open yourself (wink wink, nudge nudge).
But even more seriously, you can't do much right now. Sorry. I know that feel (kind of...)... :( |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | girls with boyfriends should be easier to get cause you're only competing with one dude and not the rest of the world |
Maniac!
08.01.12 | Oh hey it's been a while since we've had one of these lists.
You just HAD to kill the streak, didn't you? |
ReturnOfTheDnor
08.01.12 | Just cause there's a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score. Just gotta be Pele bro. |
psite45
08.01.12 | Sorry Maniac! I didn't realize. I just need somewhere to vent. |
Calc
08.01.12 | so whens the wedding? |
Rikardur
08.01.12 | I better be best man. |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | dibs on drunk wedding singer |
Calc
08.01.12 | well i'll be the moocher...take my uninvited share of food, drink, and women |
psite45
08.01.12 | you can all come. you can all even bring a +one ;) |
KSK1
08.01.12 | Same thing happened to me man. I was really into a girl I worked with but she had a boyfriend for the first year or so that I knew her. When she finally broke up with him, I had already been friendzoned hard. We're still really good friends but it sucks cause I still sorta like her. So I guess my advice is don't get friendzoned lol. |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | yea it sucks. everytime you hit on someone in the friend zone they just laugh and act like you're trying to be cute. it's real annoying. |
someguest
08.01.12 | there's tons of women to fuck
everybody gets friendzoned just roll with it |
Calc
08.01.12 | ^thats when you stop being a pussy and tell them how you feel. It'll be either really awkward for a while or you have yourself a new gf. |
KSK1
08.01.12 | Yeah like they don't even take you seriously. |
barcafan21
08.01.12 | "Just cause there's a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score. Just gotta be Pele bro."
yes |
KSK1
08.01.12 | "there's tons of women to fuck
everybody gets friendzoned just roll with it"
Well yeah I haven't slowed my life down or gotten depressed over it. Just letting the list maker know I can relate to his current issue. |
ffs
08.01.12 | b ecome a eunuch and liberate yourself from the burden of lust |
someguest
08.01.12 | ffs
so beautiful |
Rikardur
08.01.12 | Yo, I can't be with the best girl I've ever known because of her position against age differences, and I cannot stand just being friends because it's like lying to yourself to remain that way. Chyll styll get dat dolla dolla byll fo ryll yeh |
TheFonz123
08.01.12 | persue her boyfriend and hook up with him. that way she'll get jealous and then persue you.
problem solved. |
Calc
08.01.12 | wow ffs that was some highbrow shyt you just did there like seriously |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | lol, i had to look up eunuch to see what it was. terrible idea |
TheFonz123
08.01.12 | omg ffs that's fucked up. listen to my advice all you have in this world is you're wee wee |
Calc
08.01.12 | ^im glad someone other than me gave him actual advice |
Rikardur
08.01.12 | Hey, I gave legitimate advice behind all my bullshit! |
Trebor.
08.01.12 | Times were so much better when men and women generally weren't friends cuz the friend zone didn't exist
Bitches would just straight up tell you they weren't interested and you would move on |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | hahah, i was being serious with this "girls with boyfriends should be easier to get cause you're only competing with one dude and not the rest of the world" only problem with that is you'll probably have trust issues since she's already left someone else for you |
Calc
08.01.12 | ^there never was a time like this.. |
YoYoMancuso
08.01.12 | Bitches would just straight up tell you they weren't interested and you would move on [2]
that's what's so annoying, they try to "let us down gently" and all that shit when they don't realize they should just say NO |
Rikardur
08.01.12 | What I learned is that you need to say your shit to the girl and get around that friend zone shit. If the answer is no, don't be friends if you can't handle that shit. Simple as that. You'll forget about her in due time...I know this from experience. I'm a fucking doctor. But also a lovelorn soul seeking love in this indifferent universe. |
Rikardur
08.01.12 | If you don't get a straight answer...it's not generally a good sign most of the time (for you). |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | i dunno dude, i've been turned down pretty ugly at bars and being told "NO" straight up before you even try anything is pretty discouraging. |
Calc
08.01.12 | lol you shouldn't assume the whole universe is indifferent that's just another way to bring yourself down |
omnipanzer
08.01.12 | "I've Fallen In Love With A Girl At Work"
Always thought it would be a guy huh? |
Rikardur
08.01.12 | Calc, take me seriously 80% of the time. |
YoYoMancuso
08.01.12 | being told "NO" straight up before you even try anything is pretty discouraging.
but it's better than like a glimmer of hope |
Calc
08.01.12 | i take nothing seriously on the internet my good man i just play along very well lol |
Rikardur
08.01.12 | Hope kills. Believe me on that. |
Calc
08.01.12 | "but it's better than like a glimmer of hope"
i think the trick is not hoping but remaining cautiously aware of both outcomes. if its no you'll be less surprised since that's what happens most of the time. but if its yes its a pleasant surprise |
MO
08.01.12 | lol omni was thinking the same thing |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | yea, sure |
psite45
08.01.12 | wow. this is truly the place for not only music, but all life's problems. Thanks for the advise and the laughs. "Just because there is a goalie doesn't mean you can't score" is pure gold. |
Calc
08.01.12 | i think love can be gay...most of the time its not though |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | it's kind of a waste of time and money tho |
omnipanzer
08.01.12 | "Any advise?"
Tell her how you feel and let her know that you can't hang with her anymore for that reason. Just say your not the type to covet another dudes woman and you'd rather preserve the friendship you've had. This will help in a few ways. You can now let her know that if she is amenable in the future you may be around. It will stop you from spinning out of control and crashing and burning your friendship and making an ass out of yourself. It will force her to consider you as an option for relationship if she was ever going to. You can stop being the friend that wants to fuck her/her daily confidence booster (she probably knows already bro). Finally you can stop feeling like shit about yourself all the time and actually get your head into finding an available woman.
Wouldn't you rather step back clear your head and begin to enjoy your job again?
Just one alternative. |
psite45
08.01.12 | omni. you are wise. |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | yea, bout the best response to a non music problem i've heard on this site |
omnipanzer
08.01.12 | "omni. you are wise."
I'm old and I've been there, nothing more. ;^) |
Relinquished
08.01.12 | love expert omni to the rescue |
Calc
08.01.12 | lol reminds me of when i listened to Loveline back when adam carolla was on it |
omnipanzer
08.01.12 | ^ I listen to his podacts every day... of course they aren't sex/relationship oriented at all. |
MO
08.01.12 | "it's kind of a waste of time and money tho"
lol no |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | "it's kind of a waste of time and money tho"
lol no
i mean, unless you are adament about finding one single person to spend the rest of your life with, then yea it is. |
TheFonz123
08.01.12 | omnipanzer gave great advice the most important aspect of dealing with women is confidence. by just coming out and saying how you feel (if you word it properly) will leave a good impression and just open up doors for the future.
remember confidence=key, you could be super good looking but if you clearly have no sense of how to assert yourself then girls will think you are either not interested or a gigantic pussy (speaking from personal experience here) |
Calc
08.01.12 | "^ I listen to his podacts every day... of course they aren't sex/relationship oriented at all."
wait who? adam carolla, dr drew, or loveline? |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | does that mean you're super good looking? |
Trebor.
08.01.12 | loveline is awesome
|
Calc
08.01.12 | it still comes on trebor? who's hosting now? |
Trebor.
08.01.12 | dr. drew and psycho mike |
Calc
08.01.12 | ahhh... |
MO
08.01.12 | I remember listening to loveline in FL when I visited my grandma, awesome stuff |
Trebor.
08.01.12 | I think there's a chick on there now too but I haven't listened in a while |
Calc
08.01.12 | yeah adam and dr drew were the dream team... |
Funeralopolis
08.01.12 | ^this |
Calc
08.01.12 | i dunno flutter if you care enough you'll try and not shy away from the pain. I'm not one for just letting things go, but you have to be able to move on afterwards which for me is pretty easy. For some people they dote on shyt for way too long so if you're a doter than take flutters advice |
Funeralopolis
08.01.12 | option 2: use boyfriend destroyers. Psychological trick in which you work her boyfriend up to be such an amazing guy that he can never live up to the expectations and likes him less as a result. What you do is tell her 'oh I am sure he is great for you I bet he does (insert here) for you." making her realize all of his imperfections. Called the Strawman Theory. |
johnnyblaze
08.01.12 | omni's post ftw. |
Calc
08.01.12 | what andcas said though, if she says no just leave it at that lol don't ask why or anything. just say ok and move on. |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | i dunno, if someone were to move in and break someone up, i'd imagine you'd be doing the person on the other side of the break up a huge favor. |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | "everybody gets friendzoned just roll with it"
Not me, never. Then again, I always take the cowardly way out to prevent anything from disrupting (both good or bad) my life as I know it. |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | "what andcas said though, if she says no just leave it at that lol don't ask why or anything. just say ok and move on."
lol no, if you truly care you don't give up. I've seen quite a couple associates of mine get the girl because they persevered |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | "people that try to move in on others happiness should be beat to near death."
Not if you believe she'd be happier with you. Most of the time the answer is no, but still you have to ask yourself that question. If you think no, then leave her be, because you want her to be happy right?
|
Calc
08.01.12 | "lol no, if you truly care you don't give up. I've seen quite a couple associates of mine get the girl because they persevered"
this is fine if the girl is single but if she's with someone and your pushing, you should be alone |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | "this is fine if the girl is single but if she's with someone and your pushing, you should be alone"
My third comment answers my thoughts about that. |
Calc
08.01.12 | i see that, and that overtly selfish attitude means you should be alone. You can't try to assume what's best for someone else unless your their parent or caregiver. The golden rule applies heavily in this situation |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | "i see that, and that overtly selfish attitude means you should be alone. You can't try to assume what's best for someone else unless your their parent or caregiver. The golden rule applies heavily in this situation"
Maybe you can't. I have backed off quite a couple of times, even when there was a girl who said she loved me when she was already in a relationship with someone else. I told her I'd be the bad choice for her. So don't fucking tell me about morality! |
psite45
08.01.12 | Everyones different advise is making my head want to explode. i want to tell her but i don't want to fuck up my job. also the guy she's with is a nice guy. don't want to fuck him over either. so in the end i think i should leave it for a while. it just sucks. it's not often i feel strong feelings physically, emotionally, and intellectually for a girl.
|
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | "oh cool, so any piece of shit can just fixate on a girl in a relationship and decide he'll do all in his power to try to break shit up. I'm really thrilled there's people out there like this man."
Maybe you didn't read well enough??? I'm the sort of guy who'd you have to worry about the least if left behind with your girlfriend.
Ffs, |
Calc
08.01.12 | @psite45 good, but if your feelings do get stronger just do not listen to what bakker is saying. Thinking you know better than another adult as to what's good for them is egotistical and just wrong. |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | "Thinking you know better than another adult as to what's good for them is egotistical and just wrong."
Lol, exactly how old are you anyway? Reading isn't one of your skills as well. |
Rikardur
08.01.12 | Sorry to butt into this convo with my own problem, but I want to see what others would say based on
what y'all are saying: So if this girl turns me away because of our 5 years difference (despite
everything else going for me and talking to me every day since meeting) and says that she has
reconnected with someone she knew for 4 years and who is older than her, was it wrong of me to force
myself away and stop talking to her thus probably ending a friendship? |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D0EysM1iNMk |
Devastator
08.01.12 | Just woke up, alright playas gimme a recap where we at? |
kingsoby1
08.01.12 | ignore her, she'll want you more |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | So to sum up what I basically meant: if the guy she's dating is a douche (and not just because you think so) and you could make her happier: go for it.
If she's happy don't get involved in a triangle, because you love her and wants what's best for her. |
Trebor.
08.01.12 | Solve this problem the hood way
Fuck her without a jimmy hat and then make her boyfriend pay the child support |
Calc
08.01.12 | "Not if you believe she'd be happier with you."
Unless your typing nonsense this statement means you think you know what she needs better than she does. There's no other way this can be taken and your ego is so huge that you can't see it. |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | "Unless your typing nonsense this statement means you think you know what she needs better than she does. There's no other way this can be taken and your ego is so huge that you can't see it."
You already were a 'wall' from the beginning of this discussion. Not gonna bother explaining it to you anymore, it's not like I didn't try. |
Devastator
08.01.12 | You can't just tell her how you feel because she could use those feelings against you trust me I've had that happen to me. Your best bet is to survey the situation from a distance and you know develop a closer friendship. Invite her to hang with you and OTHER people. If the two of you are meant to be then she will develop feelings for you too. If you just tell her she might get scared off right away and that's immediate friendzone. |
mangasm
08.01.12 | If there is grass on the field, play ball. |
Devastator
08.01.12 | Andcas preaching the truth. |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | @andcas: Yeah, of course that doesn't apply to people you just met.
And like I said before, I have yet backed off a number of times, even in cases where it was me who was hit upon. Just because I knew the guy was a good match for her, but there were some sides of each other they hadn't actually seen. Now they communicate better and all is well. |
Calc
08.01.12 | when someone determines that your a douche bakker and breaks up you and your gf/bf cuz they think he/she will be happier with them, you'll change your tone lol
andcas and I are in agreement here methinks |
Maniac!
08.01.12 | holy shit this is over 100 comments already.
why am I even surprised? |
Satellite
08.01.12 | don't fish from the company pier.
- my policy on banging co-workers. |
ReturnOfTheDnor
08.01.12 | he's trying to fuck a fish? sorry, I took a nap, and this list got over 100 comments... |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | Anyway psite: since your infatuation with this woman peaks at the place where you work I wouldn't in any case try something out of the ordinary/ your comfort zone. It's your work we're talking about, plus she has a boyfriend so your chances are very slim either way.
What you could do is try to find out how serious her relationship is, if there's any chance the relationship will come to an end soon you could stay available in the future and see how things develop between the two of you. Otherwise you should try to avoid her a bit (if that's possible), seeing each other every day isn't very helpful for letting go of someone. It needs time. |
mangasm
08.01.12 | Why are you assholes giving him real advice. |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | You're a doctor, you tell me. |
omnipanzer
08.01.12 | "wait who? adam carolla, dr drew, or loveline?"
http://www.adamcarolla.com/ |
mangasm
08.01.12 | Alright dude here is what you do:
Find out through casual conversation if she likes to party and if she does invite her to a party and get her drunk and fingerblast the shit out of her and then she is all yours. |
Calc
08.01.12 | ^oh well of course, he like cars and carpentry and shyt. |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | hey mangasm, they got a new indian playmate. i am psyched. |
omnipanzer
08.01.12 | "yeah this kind of thing is happening to me right now, and it sucks FUCKING COCK. at 1st i was friends with her. i new she had a boyfriend, i didnt care. cause at that time i didnt "love" her. but when i got too know her more it just so happens her boyfriend moves. so i was like oh shit maybe i got a chance and stuff, but nope they are still to fucking together and i spilled my heart out to her well i didnt tell her that i love her, like LOVE LOVE. not like friendly love bullshit just sit down and think this threw psite45 dont fuck yourself"
This is kind of what I'm suggesting you avoid... he's driving himself nuts. |
ReturnOfTheDnor
08.01.12 | If she's not an Olympian, she's not worth it.
That's how I live my life. |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | @andcas, i've never had anyone call me a sociopath before. i have some humanistic values. in fact, i'd say my statement shows that i care about the two people enough to end their continued waste of time. but this is all talk, breaking up people takes work that i'm not willing to put in |
Calc
08.01.12 | he's a doter!! |
omnipanzer
08.01.12 | "Sorry to butt into this convo with my own problem, but I want to see what others would say based on what y'all are saying: So if this girl turns me away because of our 5 years difference (despite everything else going for me and talking to me every day since meeting) and says that she has reconnected with someone she knew for 4 years and who is older than her, was it wrong of me to force myself away and stop talking to her thus probably ending a friendship?"
Self preservation bro, walk the fuck away. It's is beyond stupid to make yourself nuts over a chick you can't have. Again - speaking from experience not judgement. |
mangasm
08.01.12 | "hey mangasm, they got a new indian playmate. i am psyched."
Ooooooooooo |
omnipanzer
08.01.12 | "Why are you assholes giving him real advice."
I lead with a joke, fuck off. |
Trebor.
08.01.12 | At least you didn't fall in love with a stripper like T Pain |
ReturnOfTheDnor
08.01.12 | I'm not going to lie when I first saw this thread, I came in expecting it to say "I fell in love with a guy" and Progmaster was going to be the author of the list.
I was shocked by the actual content of the list (Kind of wishing my expectations had come true though.) |
YoYoMancuso
08.01.12 | I was hoping this would be similar to the "Girl Help!" thread from a few months back. |
omnipanzer
08.01.12 | Show us more pics of your girls Dnor. |
ReturnOfTheDnor
08.01.12 | Her and I broke up. I had ambitions to further my life outside of this town. She had ambitions of sucking another dudes cock. You know, we both had our differences. |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | @andcas, it's mostly talk. even if i considered it, i would feel too bad before i made any kind of attempt. i usually show respect to everyone, which would include those in a relationship. hell, i can't even do anything with anyone my friends have been with cause it just feels weird. however, i still think that one would be doing a couple a favor if they broke them up, cause obviously the relationship couldn't hold with some interference. dunno if that's insensitive, but seems more productive to me |
mangasm
08.01.12 | "I lead with a joke, fuck off."
:((( |
mangasm
08.01.12 | Flutter bro give him some advice through the perspective of a brony. |
Rikardur
08.01.12 | "Self preservation bro, walk the fuck away. It's is beyond stupid to make yourself nuts over a chick
you can't have. Again - speaking from experience not judgement."
Yeah, I get that. I just, for reasons I think I explained before (being the only girl in my world with
her qualities), I'm kind of kicking myself for a loss at this opportunity...even if the ball wasn't
directly in my court. I mean, it's kind of doubtful that others with her traits are out there. That's
the worst part. Similar situations have happened before, but the girls themselves (in hindsight) were
not worth it so all was good. |
ZedO
08.01.12 | firstly, you must punch her boyfriend right in the face... it's good for your self-confidence!! |
Calc
08.01.12 | being single must suck.. |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | how so? it's pretty great |
mangasm
08.01.12 | "how so? it's pretty great"
Hell yeah, being single and having friends with benefits is the best. |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | mangasmftw |
Calc
08.01.12 | look at all these problems you can go through when you don't wanna be single anymore lol. if your adamant on staying single forever than that is prolly cool |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | indeed i am. although i figure i'll have a change of heart in my 40's when my physique starts to deteriorate |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | also, i feel that the list of problems for couples would be longer than those trying to not be single |
Calc
08.01.12 | if your physique STARTS to deteriorate at 40 than your a super hero and need to act accordingly. like right now my fuking neighbor keeps stealing my parking spot. Come here and punch a hole in his face for me |
Dunpeal
08.01.12 | OP sounds like a fag
answer is ez. never fall for unavailable chicks. will end badly. just ask Team Edward |
ConcubinaryCode
08.01.12 | Fuck her mom |
jdennis31
08.01.12 | lol calc that made me laugh pretty hard for some reason. i meant deteriorating to the point where i am no longer physically attractive and therefore can no longer get any ladies |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | "half the people in this list act like there isn't an endless supply of girls to find everyday in the world."
Well, I have some very high standards, so no. |
Sowing
08.01.12 | If you like her it is best to just tell her immediately. Get it out there so you can move on one way or the other. |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | Like it's so easy to tell. Telling someone you love her is like tearing your ribcase open for your
heart to show so she can get a good aim at it. |
Calc
08.01.12 | @sowing thank you!!!! |
Spec
08.01.12 | Go get drunk with her and see what happens. |
Sowing
08.01.12 | I'm not just telling bakker, I've been through this. I danced the dance for years and finally told her how I felt, and nothing happened because she had a boyfriend. I forgot all about it until this year when she came clean and told me she always returned the feeling, broke up with her bf, and started going out with me.
I was heartbroken when she first denied me, but it was worth it in the end. Even if nothing ever came of it, at least I was able to move on. |
Sowing
08.01.12 | Also girls always want what they can't have. If she senses that you're waiting around for her she'll keep you waiting around.
You have to make your intentions known, and man up to face whatever pain will probably ensue. |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | Well, I'm a coward for that matter. I'm never the one to say the words first. Saw two potential soulmates slip away because of that. |
Sowing
08.01.12 | I was always the same way but eventually I just accepted the fact that if you don't make the first move, you will always be alone.
Girls don't court guys, that's not how it works. They want someone who has the sack to speak up and risk getting rejected. |
bakkermaarten007
08.01.12 | That's the sad truth I have already accepted really? I'm happy as a single person, thoug always longing for that potential completion to my soul. But I'm not one to kill my frustrations having one night stands an all, no.
"Girls don't court guys, that's not how it works."
I learned that eventually, so far for emancipation right? =D |
omnipanzer
08.02.12 | ^^ what SS is saying
"I think I explained before (being the only girl in my world with her qualities), I'm kind of kicking myself for a loss at this opportunity...even if the ball wasn't directly in my court. I mean, it's kind of doubtful that others with her traits are out there. That's the worst part. Similar situations have happened before, but the girls themselves (in hindsight) were not worth it so all was good."
This is exactly what I'm suggesting not do or get away from doing. Others with her traits are out there I promise. |
klap
08.02.12 | andcas is killing this thread; "spoken like a true sociopath" i loled |
SeaAnemone
08.02.12 | and klappy has a hot girlfriend... he's who you should be looking to for advice! |
Satellite
08.02.12 | honestly rudy is one of the few users i'd trust itt. anyone dumb enough to take dating advice from a fellow sputniker deserves the crippling loneliness that will inevitably ensue. |
klap
08.02.12 | speaking of, my current girlfriend initially friendzoned me, you know how i fixed that problem? i hooked up with one of her friends and she became jealous. now we've been dating for almost two years |
Apollo
08.02.12 | fall in love with one of the children instead
|
SeaAnemone
08.02.12 | dude with satellite's persona and klappy's advice and my agreement with such this thread just got 100% better, just close it here ya got a done deal |
stranger
08.02.12 | just set up a plenty of fish account and fuck a bunch of fat girls with no self esteem /list |
Apollo
08.02.12 | "speaking of, my current girlfriend initially friendzoned me, you know how i fixed that problem? i hooked up with one of her friends and she became jealous. now we've been dating for almost two years"
Brilliant. A man who understands how women work. That's basically how I ended up with my wife. |
klap
08.02.12 | eric has the body of a greek god and has never known rejection his opinion is sort of void here |
Apollo
08.02.12 | Too good for my compliment Rudy? hmph |
klap
08.02.12 | haha never apollo i'm not trying to preach to the converted here |
Apollo
08.02.12 | lol ;-) just kidding dude |
Calc
08.02.12 | who has the longest relationship here? |
Apollo
08.02.12 | I'm at 6 years now |
Calc
08.02.12 | vedy nice...same here actually |
Scoot
08.02.12 | "there's tons of women to fuck
everybody gets friendzoned just roll with it"
lol you can't even get to that point |
omnipanzer
08.02.12 | I'm wrapping up year 7, I bet Jethro would win this. |
mangasm
08.02.12 | "eric has the body of a greek god and has never known rejection his opinion is sort of void here"
Hahahaha |
ReturnOfTheDnor
08.02.12 | Relationships LOL |
klap
08.02.12 | compliment andcas geez |
mangasm
08.02.12 | turntable.fm/play_everything_all_are_welcome |
