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Old 11-12-2013, 01:31 PM   #15061
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Well to be honest pal, if you've no idea what you're looking for, there's no point spending too much of your time looking, particularly if you're all busy with internships

you're what, 17? are you hoping to go to uni? because that's when proper relationships tend to develop. Anything before that tends to be temporary and not really worth the effort. There are exceptions of course, but I'm just speaking from experience and from what I've witnessed of people around me
I'm 22

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Old 11-12-2013, 01:34 PM   #15062
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I actually am using my classes to meet new people but yea we're all kinda busy with our internships and shit
leverage those.
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Old 11-12-2013, 01:35 PM   #15063
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Old 11-12-2013, 01:35 PM   #15064
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boom

(i meant with your fellow interns).


don't you have like group work and shit?
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Old 11-12-2013, 01:41 PM   #15065
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i'm going to be honest here and tell you to stop worrying so much, stop thinking at all, and just fucking put yourself out there

act like you are confident and then people will react to you favorably, therefore increasing your actual confidence. even you will believe yourself after awhile.

fake it till you make it. we all do it.
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Old 11-12-2013, 01:43 PM   #15066
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Women don't want to hang around old folks. They want to hang around puppies and kittens.
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Old 11-12-2013, 01:46 PM   #15067
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boom

(i meant with your fellow interns).


don't you have like group work and shit?
Yeah

In fact I am working with a girl who I think has a crush on me (people have been telling me cuz I dont see those subtle signals, women...) but I'm not sure if I'm interested

first world problems!
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Old 11-12-2013, 01:49 PM   #15068
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assume every woman wants your dick and act accordingly

if you combine that philosophy with a complete lack of fear of rejection you will only surprise yourself at the interest you receive


also - that sounds terrible and it doesn't imply acting like a douchebag, it just implies assuming the girl is interested in you and therefore being confident from the get-go in pursuing
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Old 11-12-2013, 01:51 PM   #15069
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of course chuck goes ahead and ruins it by saying that.
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Old 11-12-2013, 01:52 PM   #15070
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Idk I have a lot of friends who act like that and they have success with girls

Not the kind of girls I'd hang out with but the point still stands I guess
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Old 11-12-2013, 01:54 PM   #15071
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i'm not ruining anything i'm stating the obvious and giving our boy the best advice possible

should he choose to take it seriously and listen is up to him
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Old 11-12-2013, 01:55 PM   #15072
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Gonna be honest with you guys, they just discovered I have autism so this might be a bit hard for me, chucky boy
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Old 11-12-2013, 01:58 PM   #15073
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honestly chuck is right about assumed interest
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Old 11-12-2013, 02:05 PM   #15074
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bro, get the soap out and wipe off that big "desperate" written across your forehead.

you need to just be yourself with confidence, not just with the girls. its not something you just switch in and out of and if you do then women are pretty good at spotting it. so spend a little time getting comfortable in your own skin. be proud of who you are and the values you hold. these are the things girls notice. and make them laugh. maybe see if you can ask the girl out for a beer and make sure to sit beside her at the next work drink/get together. see where it goes.
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Old 11-12-2013, 02:27 PM   #15075
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hookers.

problem solved.
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Old 11-12-2013, 03:51 PM   #15076
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bro, get the soap out and wipe off that big "desperate" written across your forehead.

you need to just be yourself with confidence, not just with the girls. its not something you just switch in and out of and if you do then women are pretty good at spotting it. so spend a little time getting comfortable in your own skin. be proud of who you are and the values you hold. these are the things girls notice. and make them laugh. maybe see if you can ask the girl out for a beer and make sure to sit beside her at the next work drink/get together. see where it goes.
You are absolutely right. I am not comfortable in my own skin and I guess it shows. Thanks.
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Old 11-12-2013, 04:33 PM   #15077
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Old 11-12-2013, 06:53 PM   #15078
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So the chick I asked out to my birthday couldn't go because she had to work extra hours, and I believe she is being honest with me.

so today she shoots me a message on fb apologizing for not coming and that she owes me a birthday beer.


I respond saying it's all good and that she should let me know when she is free so we can grab a drink together. She responds "sounds good!"


So, I probably should have set like an actual date to meet up instead of putting the ball in her court to get back to me. meh
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Old 11-12-2013, 07:41 PM   #15079
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Ron I did the same thing. I just sent another message a few days later saying something like "turns out I unexpectedly have such-and-such day free now, how's that for you?". Seemed to work

Tonight's dinner went well, although I'm playing the long game. Played the gentleman and dropped her home after we watched a couple of films. Great night

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I'm 22

last year of my bachelor in social work

lol
well I had a brain fart, I do apologise! I get confused when people say college when we say uni
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Old 11-12-2013, 07:46 PM   #15080
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Yes you should have Ron so invite her out asap

Just act like it's no big d
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Old 11-12-2013, 07:54 PM   #15081
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yeah gonna do it soon


just don't want to look needy

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Old 11-12-2013, 08:03 PM   #15082
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feigning confidence goes against my belief. What are my alternatives?

Anyone pick up on subway eye signals? I don't know if I look particularly weird or am THAT good looking (ps, I hate to admit it but I'm pretty vain despite my low maintenance bum-style) ....I just don't know, but I get the locked-eye-contact dealie all too much and its wigging me out.
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Old 11-12-2013, 08:11 PM   #15083
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Oh, damn....I forgot.
People just love people-watching. Especially if they can't drone out on a smartphone
....but could it really be so?
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Old 11-12-2013, 09:08 PM   #15084
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Totally ignored the girl I like while flirting with another girl in front of her

That's the smart thing to do right?
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Old 11-12-2013, 09:39 PM   #15085
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Old 11-12-2013, 09:45 PM   #15086
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Don't make girls jealous on purpose but if it was relatively innocent and non-chalant then it's fine

The question is does the girl you like know that you like her
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Old 11-12-2013, 09:46 PM   #15087
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trust me though, it sometimes works.
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Old 11-12-2013, 09:51 PM   #15088
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Yeah but it's not worth the risk of looking like a super huge try hard usually

If you act yourself and confident around the girl you like and other girls and the other girls are naturally attracted to you then the target girl will pick up on it
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Old 11-12-2013, 09:54 PM   #15089
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nothing gets the 'gina tingles going like a man with options
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Are you saying that you're tingly right now ron
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