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Old 11-11-2013, 03:29 PM   #15001
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Hmm, quite natural I take it, much like Sanders girlie.
After that we just chatted and then hung out after work and then went on dates and here we are.
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Old 11-11-2013, 03:38 PM   #15002
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Well that sounds about as ideal as I'd like.

My problems are just social-ineptness at this point, and not really a problem so much as an irrational-fear, I've spent too long out of school, and most recently out of work, extracurriculars with friends are all I really have for social development, and meeting women doesn't seem to be the focus of our group ...I have to beat my heart into order,
I don't want the bar-fling, with the terrible morning after shambles.

It seems a matter of bringing myself where I ought to be in life and going from there.
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Old 11-11-2013, 03:40 PM   #15003
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find a new social circle to mix in, a sports club or something, that'll expose you to new people and prospective ladies, and shake the rust off your social skills
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Now i just need to sample the waters of Chuck....let me have it brother.
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Old 11-11-2013, 03:44 PM   #15005
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find a new social circle to mix in, a sports club or something, that'll expose you to new people and prospective ladies, and shake the rust off your social skills
hmm, alright, I'll fire back when I get home from school. I'd like to speak more on the subject. Thank you for the openness boyos.
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Old 11-11-2013, 03:46 PM   #15006
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find a new social circle to mix in, a sports club or something, that'll expose you to new people and prospective ladies, and shake the rust off your social skills
My sports club has no girls in it (or at least, no girls that aren't already in a happy relationship)

/sob
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I used to go to bars and flirt with bartenders. If nothing came of it at least I'd get quicker service and a free drink every now and again later on.
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Old 11-11-2013, 03:48 PM   #15008
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I used to go to bars and flirt with bartenders. If nothing came of it at least I'd get quicker service and a free drink every now and again later on.
That seems crazy difficult.

Don't they get hit on all the time?
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Old 11-11-2013, 03:51 PM   #15009
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hmm, alright, I'll fire back when I get home from school. I'd like to speak more on the subject. Thank you for the openness boyos.
No worries pal

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My sports club has no girls in it (or at least, no girls that aren't already in a happy relationship)

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find a better sports club
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Old 11-11-2013, 03:53 PM   #15010
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Key is to flirt but not hit on. Keep the interactions brief but always head in their direction when you need something, but don't bother them when they're busy.

Used to go to one pub near my old apartment where I got friendly with a girl and I also went there to watch football games when it was quieter and we'd also chat then. Nothing ever came of it cause I started dating my wife around the same time but when I came in I'd just sit down and have my favorite beer there from her right away. Made going out cheaper too.


Maybe thats why my wife doesn't like that place...
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Old 11-11-2013, 03:57 PM   #15011
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Good to know

The bar I go to at least once every week has a cute girl bartender and I know for a fact that she's single

so, thanks for the tips

Shoo Sanders, all my friends play there
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Old 11-11-2013, 03:59 PM   #15012
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just strike up conversation with her, rather than being like 99% of the letches she'll usually have to put up with

haha what kind of sports club is it?
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Old 11-11-2013, 04:01 PM   #15013
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If you don't know her name don't ask for it at the start of the night.

After a few trips after she hands you your drink quickly ask for her name and then thank her and walk off. Then give her a big tip at the end of the night and thank her again by name.

She'll remember you the next time and build off that.
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Old 11-11-2013, 04:02 PM   #15014
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just strike up conversation with her, rather than being like 99% of the letches she'll usually have to put up with

haha what kind of sports club is it?
It's mainly a tennis club but I play (don't laugh you bastard) table tennis there

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If you don't know her name don't ask for it at the start of the night.

After a few trips after she hands you your drink quickly ask for her name and then thank her and walk off. Then give her a big tip at the end of the night and thank her again by name.

She'll remember you the next time and build off that.
Good thing I got my paycheck
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Old 11-11-2013, 04:04 PM   #15015
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table tennis is amazing
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Old 11-11-2013, 04:05 PM   #15016
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It's mainly a tennis club but I play (don't laugh you bastard) table tennis there
no laughing here, tennis clubs'll have some hotties! You could always see if any of them have single friends, and get them along to a club social?
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If she calls you by name (having read it off your card, not from telling her) you're on your way.



Also just realized how very few times I've paid cash at a bar.
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no laughing here, tennis clubs'll have some hotties! You could always see if any of them have single friends, and get them along to a club social?
Well we've tried but they just aren't taking it

Most of them are 'upper-class' (sigh) and others look down on table tennis for some reason (double sigh)

After a few tries me and my friends have just given up on trying to talk to girls there, they ain't taking it

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If she calls you by name (having read it off your card, not from telling her) you're on your way.



Also just realized how very few times I've paid cash at a bar.
Smooth!
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Old 11-11-2013, 04:12 PM   #15019
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does this club have mixers?
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Old 11-11-2013, 04:15 PM   #15020
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And fuck it dude if you're having trouble meeting girls in the real world sign up for online dating.

I've got a few co-workers where its worked out for them.
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Well we've tried but they just aren't taking it

Most of them are 'upper-class' (sigh) and others look down on table tennis for some reason (double sigh)

After a few tries me and my friends have just given up on trying to talk to girls there, they ain't taking it
well there's your first problem, you can't just give up talking to them! Just be friendly, get to know them and see what happens

do girls not play table tennis?
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And fuck it dude if you're having trouble meeting girls in the real world sign up for online dating.

I've got a few co-workers where its worked out for them.
yeah I know a couple of guys who have done this, there's a lot less stigma around it these days
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well there's your first problem, you can't just give up talking to them! Just be friendly, get to know them and see what happens

do girls not play table tennis?
Women who think they're better than you because of their class are not worth talking to.
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also, women who look down on table tennis are not worth talking to.
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this is true, but then some girls can act that way unintentionally, and guys have never stood up to it before

all girls have the same vulnerabilities at heart
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but there are some right bitches out there, no doubt
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Old 11-11-2013, 04:24 PM   #15028
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but then some girls can act that way unintentionally, and guys have never stood up to it before

all girls have the same vulnerabilities at heart
Having lived on the "gold coast' for several years I can tell you none of this is true.
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It depends how ferociously you put them down is all!
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